1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:16,920 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,920 My husband is Kalil Tihama 4 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:26,739 If the previous three types of men were bad 5 00:00:26,739 --> 00:00:30,739 This is a good type of man 6 00:00:30,739 --> 00:00:34,740 This is how life has good and bad 7 00:00:34,740 --> 00:00:38,740 It is not correct to generalize one category to all people 8 00:00:38,740 --> 00:00:41,740 Neither on men nor on women 9 00:00:41,740 --> 00:00:45,780 Rather, generalizing in judging people is a kind of injustice 10 00:00:45,780 --> 00:00:50,780 Whether it is generalized to the people of a country, a tribe, or others 11 00:00:50,780 --> 00:00:55,780 It is not correct to say that all men are equal 12 00:00:55,780 --> 00:00:59,780 It is not said that all women are equal 13 00:00:59,780 --> 00:01:02,780 But in all good things 14 00:01:02,780 --> 00:01:07,840 This is a good type of man, different from those before him 15 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,840 As the fourth woman describes him by saying: 16 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,840 My husband is Kalil Tihama 17 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:18,840 No heat, no bitterness, no fear, no poison 18 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:22,129 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 19 00:01:22,129 --> 00:01:26,129 She says he has no permission or harm 20 00:01:26,129 --> 00:01:28,129 But this is like 21 00:01:28,129 --> 00:01:33,129 Because both heat and cold have an ear when it becomes severe 22 00:01:33,129 --> 00:01:35,189 No fear 23 00:01:35,189 --> 00:01:40,189 She says there is no danger to him and no evil to fear 24 00:01:40,189 --> 00:01:42,189 Nor boredom 25 00:01:42,189 --> 00:01:46,189 She says he doesn't get bored with my company 26 00:01:46,189 --> 00:01:49,290 Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said 27 00:01:49,290 --> 00:01:52,290 Tihama nights are remembered for goodness 28 00:01:52,290 --> 00:01:55,290 That is, he has no permission and no objection 29 00:01:55,290 --> 00:01:58,349 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 30 00:01:58,349 --> 00:02:04,349 That is, it means that her husband is neither burdensome nor corrupt 31 00:02:04,349 --> 00:02:06,349 Rather, it is sweet and sweet 32 00:02:06,349 --> 00:02:08,349 Easy on the companion 33 00:02:08,349 --> 00:02:10,349 Mastlan side 34 00:02:10,349 --> 00:02:13,580 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 35 00:02:13,580 --> 00:02:16,580 She described her husband as beautiful 36 00:02:16,580 --> 00:02:20,580 Moderation of the situation and inner safety 37 00:02:20,580 --> 00:02:22,580 It's like she said it 38 00:02:22,580 --> 00:02:25,580 There is no harm or harm to him 39 00:02:25,580 --> 00:02:27,580 I am safe from him 40 00:02:27,580 --> 00:02:29,580 I am not afraid of his evil 41 00:02:29,580 --> 00:02:33,580 He never gets bored and gets tired of my company 42 00:02:33,580 --> 00:02:35,580 Or not bad manners 43 00:02:35,580 --> 00:02:37,580 I am tired of being with him 44 00:02:37,580 --> 00:02:40,580 I am happy to live with him 45 00:02:40,580 --> 00:02:44,580 The people of Tihama enjoy their mild night 46 00:02:44,580 --> 00:02:50,139 This woman described her husband eloquently 47 00:02:50,139 --> 00:02:53,139 His good qualities were evident in him 48 00:02:53,139 --> 00:02:57,139 What every woman desires in her husband 49 00:02:57,139 --> 00:03:02,139 Every woman is happy to feel secure with her husband 50 00:03:02,139 --> 00:03:06,139 This feeling comes because of the husband's actions 51 00:03:06,139 --> 00:03:08,139 And check it out as well 52 00:03:08,139 --> 00:03:11,210 Because of the husband's actions 53 00:03:11,210 --> 00:03:15,210 A man threatening his wife with divorce is the most ridiculous reason 54 00:03:15,210 --> 00:03:18,210 Or he frequently mentions divorce in front of her 55 00:03:18,210 --> 00:03:20,210 He loses her psychological security 56 00:03:20,210 --> 00:03:23,210 He lives it in constant fear 57 00:03:23,210 --> 00:03:26,210 Because she is not safe from this aspect 58 00:03:26,210 --> 00:03:30,270 It is not appropriate for a sane man to threaten his wife with divorce 59 00:03:30,270 --> 00:03:34,270 At the slightest problem that occurs between them 60 00:03:34,270 --> 00:03:38,270 Rather, a rational man does not mention divorce in front of his wife 61 00:03:38,270 --> 00:03:42,270 It can only be released after all means have been exhausted 62 00:03:42,270 --> 00:03:44,270 To solve his problem with her 63 00:03:44,270 --> 00:03:49,460 After istikharah, consultation and deliberation 64 00:03:49,460 --> 00:03:52,460 A woman feels safe with her husband 65 00:03:52,460 --> 00:03:56,460 It is one of the most important factors for her happiness 66 00:03:56,460 --> 00:04:00,460 It is a reason for her abundant giving and sacrifice for you 67 00:04:00,460 --> 00:04:02,460 Dear man 68 00:04:02,460 --> 00:04:04,460 So keep it and you will be happy 69 00:04:04,460 --> 00:04:06,659 This feeling of security 70 00:04:06,659 --> 00:04:09,659 This fourth woman described it 71 00:04:09,659 --> 00:04:13,659 Three important descriptions in marital life 72 00:04:13,659 --> 00:04:15,659 The first one 73 00:04:15,659 --> 00:04:19,660 Men in dealing with the wife in marital life 74 00:04:19,660 --> 00:04:22,660 The woman likened it to the night of Tihama 75 00:04:22,660 --> 00:04:24,660 There is neither heat nor comfort 76 00:04:24,660 --> 00:04:27,660 It means pretty moderate 77 00:04:27,660 --> 00:04:31,660 This is how a man should be in his married life 78 00:04:31,660 --> 00:04:35,660 He does not harm his wife in any way 79 00:04:35,660 --> 00:04:39,660 Because she is his companion in this worldly life 80 00:04:39,660 --> 00:04:41,660 Which he chose with his consent 81 00:04:41,660 --> 00:04:45,660 And he fought to get her approval 82 00:04:45,660 --> 00:04:49,660 He offered her money, gold, and gifts for her to accept 83 00:04:49,660 --> 00:04:52,660 This hurt her further 84 00:04:52,660 --> 00:04:56,750 He quickly needs it and can't do without it 85 00:04:56,750 --> 00:05:01,819 Why should he upset her mind and disturb her soul? 86 00:05:01,819 --> 00:05:04,819 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade the man 87 00:05:04,819 --> 00:05:07,819 About harming women early in the day 88 00:05:07,819 --> 00:05:10,819 Then have sex with her at the end 89 00:05:10,819 --> 00:05:13,819 On the authority of Abdullah bin Zamaa, may God be pleased with him 90 00:05:13,819 --> 00:05:17,819 On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said 91 00:05:17,819 --> 00:05:21,819 None of you should flog his wife like a slave 92 00:05:21,819 --> 00:05:24,819 Then he has intercourse with her at the end of the day 93 00:05:24,819 --> 00:05:26,819 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 94 00:05:26,819 --> 00:05:31,069 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 95 00:05:31,069 --> 00:05:34,069 This is a denial of the one who flogs his wife 96 00:05:34,069 --> 00:05:39,069 And more than that until he treats her like a nation 97 00:05:39,069 --> 00:05:42,069 Then it is easy after that 98 00:05:42,069 --> 00:05:44,069 He goes back to fucking her 99 00:05:44,069 --> 00:05:47,069 And to satisfy his desire for her 100 00:05:47,069 --> 00:05:50,069 Do not obey him or be kind to him 101 00:05:50,069 --> 00:05:52,069 You may hate him 102 00:05:52,069 --> 00:05:54,069 Maybe he loves her 103 00:05:54,069 --> 00:05:58,069 His condition deteriorates and their situation worsens 104 00:05:58,069 --> 00:06:03,069 The mercy and affection that God Almighty established between spouses will disappear 105 00:06:03,069 --> 00:06:06,069 And the opposite happens 106 00:06:06,069 --> 00:06:08,069 With it, may God bless him and grant him peace 107 00:06:08,069 --> 00:06:10,069 With this brief word 108 00:06:10,069 --> 00:06:14,170 As for the evils that arise from that 109 00:06:14,170 --> 00:06:17,170 Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani, may God have mercy on him, said 110 00:06:17,170 --> 00:06:20,170 And intercourse or intercourse 111 00:06:20,170 --> 00:06:25,170 Rather, it is preferable to treat oneself and the desire to be treated with kindness 112 00:06:25,170 --> 00:06:28,170 The flogged person often repels the one who was flogged 113 00:06:28,170 --> 00:06:33,670 It was pointed out that this was condemned 114 00:06:33,670 --> 00:06:36,670 He respected the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 115 00:06:36,670 --> 00:06:41,670 The woman was psychologically surprised to feel safe and reassured with her husband 116 00:06:41,670 --> 00:06:45,670 He alerted the husband to the etiquette of dealing with women 117 00:06:45,670 --> 00:06:48,670 And he does not treat women well 118 00:06:48,670 --> 00:06:52,769 It is a body without a soul or feelings 119 00:06:52,769 --> 00:06:57,769 A healthy woman only offers her body to those she loves 120 00:06:57,769 --> 00:07:01,769 And in a state of complete psychological reassurance 121 00:07:01,769 --> 00:07:03,990 The second one 122 00:07:03,990 --> 00:07:05,990 Internal safety 123 00:07:05,990 --> 00:07:10,990 Do not expect any form of treachery from him in marital life 124 00:07:10,990 --> 00:07:12,990 And don't be afraid of that 125 00:07:12,990 --> 00:07:16,990 This is the pinnacle of psychological safety in a woman’s life 126 00:07:16,990 --> 00:07:19,990 To feel confident in her husband 127 00:07:19,990 --> 00:07:25,149 Its interior, like its exterior, is clean and there is no treachery in it 128 00:07:25,149 --> 00:07:27,149 The third one 129 00:07:27,149 --> 00:07:31,149 Good company and good company never tire of them 130 00:07:31,149 --> 00:07:35,149 This suggests to the woman that her husband loves her 131 00:07:35,149 --> 00:07:41,149 Good company and good company only come from someone with good morals 132 00:07:41,149 --> 00:07:46,149 Sitting with the wife for a long time is evidence of his love for her 133 00:07:46,149 --> 00:07:50,149 This requires listening well 134 00:07:50,149 --> 00:07:52,149 Because if he sat with her 135 00:07:52,149 --> 00:07:56,149 I felt comfortable talking to him and felt comfortable with him 136 00:07:56,149 --> 00:08:00,149 This is what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did 137 00:08:00,149 --> 00:08:02,149 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 138 00:08:02,149 --> 00:08:04,149 He sat with Aisha 139 00:08:04,149 --> 00:08:06,149 And chat with her 140 00:08:06,149 --> 00:08:09,149 And listen to her carefully 141 00:08:09,149 --> 00:08:15,149 Women have a role in eliminating boredom from married life with good treatment 142 00:08:15,149 --> 00:08:17,149 Choose the topic of conversation 143 00:08:17,149 --> 00:08:22,149 And renewal in her life, her clothing, and her home 144 00:08:22,149 --> 00:08:26,149 Therefore, Omar bin Al-Aas said his beautiful words 145 00:08:26,149 --> 00:08:30,149 I don't get tired of my animal as long as my feet carry it 146 00:08:30,149 --> 00:08:33,149 Nor did my wife treat me well 147 00:08:33,149 --> 00:08:37,149 Nor did my friend keep my secret 148 00:08:37,149 --> 00:08:40,149 Boredom is one of the false morals 149 00:08:40,149 --> 00:08:44,500 How are you, honorable man, with your wife? 150 00:08:44,500 --> 00:08:47,500 Do you feel safe with you? 151 00:08:47,500 --> 00:08:50,500 Do you long to sit with her? 152 00:08:50,500 --> 00:08:54,500 Do you have the ability to listen to her without interrupting? 153 00:08:54,500 --> 00:08:56,500 Even if she talked for a long time 154 00:08:56,500 --> 00:09:00,879 We will continue in the future, God willing 155 00:09:00,879 --> 00:09:03,879 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds