In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Men's items
In the hadith of Umm Zara’
Why did the mother of Zara divorce?
After all the beautiful description that Umm Zara mentioned
About the bliss she lived with her husband, Abu Zara
she said
Abu Zara went out and the bricks were churning
He found a woman with two sons who looked like two leopards
They are playing with two pomegranates under her waist
So he divorced me and married her
That's how I put it in brief
The evidence is how quickly he divorced her
And marrying someone else
Can you imagine that such a man?
Who showed her all this kindness
He gives it up so quickly to someone else
For no apparent reason
Perhaps we should consider the event from several angles
The picture becomes clearer to us
Firstly
What do we benefit from mentioning it at the time of his departure?
she said
Abu Zara went out and the bricks were churning
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
It is possible that she wanted to leave her house early
And they set him up for that
Because it is the time for servants and slaves
for their jobs and professions
And it collapsed during that
The abundance of the best of his home and the abundance of his bricks
And they have something to drink pure and pure
It is preferable to their needs
Until they put him through the stakes
It is extracted from butter and ghee
And you probably want to
He came out to welcome the time, its goodness and its spring
At a time when people are travailing
And his departure is either for travel or for something else
It was at this time
The benefit is in the first possibility
Defining it by leaving her early in the day
In the second possibility
Informing her of the time of his departure from her in the seasons
In the first possibility
He goes out at the beginning of the day
If we imagine it with what she said about herself
And I lie down and it becomes morning
That is, she sleeps first thing in the morning
Do not wake up except in the morning
We can tell
By the time he left early, she was asleep
The man whose nature is to be early in his deeds from the beginning of the day
He likes his wife to be like him
Or at least be awake with him
If he leaves his house, she falls asleep
As for the one whose habit is to sleep until noon
It is not suitable for a husband who likes to go early in his life
She does not serve him before he leaves
He does not enjoy it when he faces his day
It is no surprise that he came out after that
He finds an active woman awake at dawn
He is fascinated by her
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
As if the reason for mentioning that
A prelude to the motivation to see Abu Zara’
For the woman in the state he saw her in
That is, it is from churning milk
She was tired, so she lay down to rest
Abu Zar’ saw that
The presence of servants in the home does not mean a woman is lazy
She is the housewife and guide to the servants
They work under her supervision
Rather, they are a factor that helps women in some of their work
Which is not related to the husband
Not raising children
The presence of a woman in the life of her husband and offspring
It's very important
For family stability and happiness
Was this a mistake or an implant?
Which you did not mention to us
Secondly
What is the beautiful thing that attracted Abu Zara?
In this woman
When she described the woman whom Abu Zar’ saw
she said
He found a woman with two sons who looked like two leopards
They are playing with two pomegranates under her waist
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
It is more likely that what is meant by it is two breasts
And his saying is
They play from under her waist or chest
That is, this is the place of the two boys
No place for pomegranates
And her two sons were in her arms
Or barefoot beside her
He likened the breasts to pomegranates
It indicates their breasts and ankles
This is because she is young and young
And it is yet to be enacted
And sag and sag
Her breasts would break and hang down
In that case, they are not like pomegranates
This is what is expected from the description of a mother implanted in a woman
Because we noticed that her description of her entire family
Focused on physical beauty
Here she also describes women as having a kind of physical beauty
Which men love
It is like the heels of the chest
Indicative of a woman's young age
It is one of the bliss of heaven
God Almighty said
And Ka'ab Ataraba
Ibn al-Qayyim, may God have mercy on him, said
Ka'ab is the plural of Ka'ab
She is Al-Nahed
This was said by Qatada, Mujahid, and the commentators
Al-Kalbi said
They are the arks
Those whose breasts are heaving and falling apart
The origin of the word is roundness
And what is meant
Their breasts are as bright as pomegranates
Not hanging down
They are called Nawahid and Ka'ab
Here we have a question
This is the aesthetic description that fascinated Abu Zara
Is it present in or planted?
Apparently it doesn't exist there
Either creation
Or because of her old age
Or she neglected to take care of herself
Although it is blessed and sufficient for work
Her body is not exhausted
And the truth
Every woman has beauty characteristics
Different from others
This is from the greatness of the Creator
Not all beautiful specifications will be available
Combined with a woman
Except in heaven
If a man directs his gaze to women
He will find someone more beautiful than his wife
It is necessary
Therefore, God Almighty forbade it
Men should look at non-mahram women
Whoever looses his sight gets tired
And his heart was corrupted
He was not satisfied with the blessing he had in his wife
And he will enter into the scourge of comparison
Between what he sees and his wife
And then
His married life will not be straight
He will not get everything he sees
Whoever lowers his gaze is included in Paradise
On the authority of Ubadah bin Al-Samit, may God be pleased with him
That the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He said
Guarantee me six of yourselves
I guarantee you heaven
Believe me if you tell me
And fulfill your promise
And perform if you are entrusted with it
And protect your private parts
And lower your gaze
And hold your hands
Narrated by Ahmed
Then Aba planted
One pavement
Related to her body
Other things were hidden from him
It's about living with her and her morals
It could ruin his life
A man should not
That his concern is the woman’s body
Without looking at her character and religion
Fourth
Is there anything else?
He liked this woman
Dell or implant description of the scene
That Abu Zara looked at something else
He liked this woman
He is the survivor of offspring
Umm Zara said in the description
He found a woman with two sons who looked like two leopards
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
And the benefit of describing it to them
Alert on the reasons for my father marrying her to her
Because they wanted their children to be from women who gave birth
That's why Abu Zar'a was keen on her when he saw her
Was she a sow mother with few children?
This is what is apparent
She only mentioned two
With the long period of her stay with her husband
Childbirth is a gift from God
God Almighty said about it
He gives females to whomever He wishes, and He gives males to whomever He wishes
Or he will marry them to two males and two females
He makes whomever He wills sterile
He is All-Knowing and All-Powerful
The mother of Zara was provided with every comfort
So why didn't she give birth to more than two?
And the answer
Either this is what is meant for her
Or she is the type who hates having children
She did not care about it
This was a reason for her husband to marry her
Can we say?
Zara's mother caused her divorce
Or to push her husband to look at others
And marry her
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds