WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:16.469 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:16.469 --> 00:00:21.469 Was Zara’s mother grateful to her husband? 00:00:21.469 --> 00:00:27.660 One of the most dangerous bad behaviors for a woman in her married life 00:00:27.660 --> 00:00:30.660 Ingratitude and lack of gratitude 00:00:30.660 --> 00:00:34.850 And disapproval of their living conditions 00:00:34.850 --> 00:00:39.850 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, warned against this morality 00:00:39.850 --> 00:00:44.850 And what our Lord pleases is for the wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:00:44.850 --> 00:00:46.850 God Almighty said 00:00:46.850 --> 00:00:54.850 O Prophet, tell your wives if you desire the life of this world and its adornments 00:00:54.850 --> 00:01:00.850 Come, I will entertain you and give you a pleasant release 00:01:00.850 --> 00:01:03.939 Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:03.939 --> 00:01:08.939 This is a command from God to His Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him 00:01:08.939 --> 00:01:11.939 To give his wives the choice between separating from them 00:01:11.939 --> 00:01:17.939 So they go to someone else who gives them the life of this world and its adornments 00:01:17.939 --> 00:01:21.939 He showed patience in his difficult situation 00:01:21.939 --> 00:01:25.939 They will have a great reward from God for that 00:01:25.939 --> 00:01:29.939 So they chose, may God be pleased with them and please them 00:01:29.939 --> 00:01:32.939 God, His Messenger, and the Hereafter 00:01:32.939 --> 00:01:38.939 Then God combined for them the good of this world and the happiness of the afterlife 00:01:38.939 --> 00:01:45.060 The Lord of God Almighty is the wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:45.060 --> 00:01:49.060 Thankful for the blessing they are in 00:01:49.060 --> 00:01:52.060 And prevent them from complaining about the hardship of living 00:01:52.060 --> 00:01:56.290 Let him be a role model for the women of the world 00:01:56.290 --> 00:02:00.290 Ibrahim Al-Khalil, peace and blessings be upon him, was not satisfied 00:02:00.290 --> 00:02:06.290 That his son Ismail’s wife is not grateful for the blessing she has 00:02:06.290 --> 00:02:09.580 So he ordered his son to divorce her 00:02:09.580 --> 00:02:14.580 It was mentioned in Bukhari’s long hadith about the story of Abraham and Ishmael 00:02:14.580 --> 00:02:18.580 On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said 00:02:18.580 --> 00:02:24.580 After Ibrahim married Ismail, he came to look at his estate 00:02:24.580 --> 00:02:26.580 He did not find Ismail 00:02:26.580 --> 00:02:28.580 So ask his wife about him 00:02:28.580 --> 00:02:30.580 And she said 00:02:30.580 --> 00:02:32.580 He came out looking for us 00:02:32.580 --> 00:02:34.580 Then he asked her about their livelihood and appearance 00:02:34.580 --> 00:02:36.580 And she said 00:02:36.580 --> 00:02:38.580 We are humans 00:02:38.580 --> 00:02:40.580 We are in distress and distress 00:02:40.580 --> 00:02:42.580 So I complained to him 00:02:42.580 --> 00:02:43.580 He said 00:02:43.580 --> 00:02:45.580 If your husband comes 00:02:45.580 --> 00:02:47.580 So he, peace be upon him, read 00:02:47.580 --> 00:02:49.580 And tell him 00:02:49.580 --> 00:02:51.639 He changes his doorstep 00:02:51.639 --> 00:02:53.639 When Ismail came 00:02:53.639 --> 00:02:55.639 As if he had forgotten something 00:02:55.639 --> 00:02:57.639 And he said 00:02:57.639 --> 00:02:59.639 It came to you from someone 00:02:59.639 --> 00:03:01.639 She said yes 00:03:01.639 --> 00:03:03.639 Such-and-such sheikh came to us 00:03:03.639 --> 00:03:05.639 So ask us about you 00:03:05.639 --> 00:03:07.639 So I told him 00:03:07.639 --> 00:03:09.639 He asked me how we lived 00:03:09.639 --> 00:03:13.639 I told him that we were in great difficulty 00:03:13.639 --> 00:03:14.639 He said 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:16.639 Did he advise you to do anything? 00:03:16.639 --> 00:03:18.639 She said yes 00:03:18.639 --> 00:03:20.639 He ordered me to read peace be upon you 00:03:20.639 --> 00:03:22.639 And he says 00:03:22.639 --> 00:03:24.639 Change your doorstep 00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:25.639 He said 00:03:25.639 --> 00:03:26.639 That's my father 00:03:26.639 --> 00:03:29.639 He ordered me to separate from you 00:03:29.639 --> 00:03:31.639 Follow your family 00:03:31.639 --> 00:03:33.639 So he divorced her 00:03:33.639 --> 00:03:35.639 He married another of them 00:03:35.639 --> 00:03:37.639 So Abraham remained with them 00:03:37.639 --> 00:03:39.639 God willing 00:03:39.639 --> 00:03:41.639 Then he came to them afterward 00:03:41.639 --> 00:03:42.639 He did not find it 00:03:42.639 --> 00:03:44.639 So he entered on behalf of his wife 00:03:44.639 --> 00:03:45.639 So he asked her about him 00:03:45.639 --> 00:03:46.639 And she said 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:48.639 He came out looking for us 00:03:48.639 --> 00:03:50.639 He said 00:03:50.639 --> 00:03:51.639 How are you? 00:03:51.639 --> 00:03:53.639 He asked her about their livelihood 00:03:53.639 --> 00:03:54.639 And their form 00:03:54.639 --> 00:03:55.639 And she said 00:03:55.639 --> 00:03:57.639 We are fine 00:03:57.639 --> 00:03:59.639 She praised God 00:03:59.639 --> 00:04:01.639 And he said 00:04:01.639 --> 00:04:03.639 What's your food? 00:04:03.639 --> 00:04:04.639 she said 00:04:04.639 --> 00:04:05.639 Meat 00:04:05.639 --> 00:04:06.639 He said 00:04:06.639 --> 00:04:08.639 What do you drink? 00:04:08.639 --> 00:04:09.639 she said 00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:10.639 Water 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:11.639 He said 00:04:11.639 --> 00:04:13.639 May God bless them 00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:15.639 In meat and water 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:18.699 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:04:18.699 --> 00:04:21.699 They had no love at that time 00:04:21.699 --> 00:04:23.699 Even if it was theirs 00:04:23.699 --> 00:04:25.699 He called them in 00:04:25.699 --> 00:04:26.740 He said 00:04:26.740 --> 00:04:28.740 They are not without them 00:04:28.740 --> 00:04:30.740 Someone other than Mecca 00:04:30.740 --> 00:04:32.740 Except they didn't agree with him 00:04:32.740 --> 00:04:33.800 He said 00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:35.800 If your husband comes 00:04:35.800 --> 00:04:37.800 So he, peace be upon him, read 00:04:37.800 --> 00:04:39.800 And his Lord is steadfast 00:04:39.800 --> 00:04:41.860 A lintel 00:04:41.860 --> 00:04:43.860 When Ismail came 00:04:43.860 --> 00:04:44.860 He said 00:04:44.860 --> 00:04:46.860 Did it come to you from anyone? 00:04:46.860 --> 00:04:47.860 she said 00:04:47.860 --> 00:04:48.860 Yes 00:04:48.860 --> 00:04:50.860 A good-looking sheikh came to us 00:04:50.860 --> 00:04:52.860 She praised him 00:04:52.860 --> 00:04:54.860 He asked me about you 00:04:54.860 --> 00:04:55.860 So I told him 00:04:55.860 --> 00:04:58.860 He asked me how we lived 00:04:58.860 --> 00:05:00.860 I told him we were fine 00:05:00.860 --> 00:05:01.860 He said 00:05:01.860 --> 00:05:03.860 So he advised you to do something 00:05:03.860 --> 00:05:04.860 she said 00:05:04.860 --> 00:05:05.860 Yes 00:05:05.860 --> 00:05:07.860 He reads peace be upon you 00:05:07.860 --> 00:05:11.860 He orders you to fix your doorstep 00:05:11.860 --> 00:05:12.860 He said 00:05:12.860 --> 00:05:13.860 That's my father 00:05:13.860 --> 00:05:15.860 And you are the threshold 00:05:15.860 --> 00:05:20.620 He ordered me to hold you 00:05:20.620 --> 00:05:23.620 Ismail's first wife was not grateful 00:05:23.620 --> 00:05:26.620 So Ibrahim ordered him to divorce her 00:05:26.620 --> 00:05:29.660 And not being grateful for the husband’s blessing 00:05:29.660 --> 00:05:32.660 One of the reasons why women enter Hell 00:05:32.660 --> 00:05:35.819 On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with them both 00:05:35.819 --> 00:05:36.819 He said 00:05:36.819 --> 00:05:39.819 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:05:39.819 --> 00:05:41.819 I showed the fire 00:05:41.819 --> 00:05:44.819 So most of its people are women 00:05:44.819 --> 00:05:45.819 They disbelieve 00:05:45.819 --> 00:05:46.819 It was said 00:05:46.819 --> 00:05:48.819 Do they disbelieve in God? 00:05:48.819 --> 00:05:49.819 He said 00:05:49.819 --> 00:05:51.819 They deny the partner 00:05:51.819 --> 00:05:53.819 And they deny charity 00:05:53.819 --> 00:05:56.819 If you were good to one of them forever 00:05:56.819 --> 00:05:59.819 Then she saw something from you 00:05:59.819 --> 00:06:00.819 she said 00:06:00.819 --> 00:06:04.139 I have never seen anything good from you 00:06:04.139 --> 00:06:06.199 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:06:06.199 --> 00:06:09.199 Ibn Baltal, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:09.199 --> 00:06:11.199 Disbelief here 00:06:11.199 --> 00:06:13.199 It is blasphemy 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:15.199 And the infidelity of the partner’s blessing 00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:16.199 He is the husband 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:18.199 And he gets upset 00:06:18.199 --> 00:06:21.199 God commanded His Messenger to be thankful for blessings 00:06:21.199 --> 00:06:23.199 It came in the hadith 00:06:23.199 --> 00:06:26.199 He who does not thank people does not thank God 00:06:26.199 --> 00:06:28.199 He thanked the husband for his blessing 00:06:28.199 --> 00:06:31.199 It is out of gratitude for God's grace 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:35.199 Because every blessing the tithe gives to his family 00:06:35.199 --> 00:06:37.199 It is from God's grace 00:06:37.199 --> 00:06:39.199 I did it on my hand 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:44.540 On the authority of Abdullah bin Omar, may God be pleased with him 00:06:44.540 --> 00:06:47.540 On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:06:47.540 --> 00:06:48.540 He said 00:06:48.540 --> 00:06:51.540 God Almighty does not look 00:06:51.540 --> 00:06:54.540 To a woman who does not thank her husband 00:06:54.540 --> 00:06:57.579 She cannot do without him 00:06:57.579 --> 00:06:59.579 Narrated by Al-Bazzar 00:06:59.579 --> 00:07:02.800 This is a quality in married life 00:07:02.800 --> 00:07:04.800 The man hates her very much 00:07:04.800 --> 00:07:07.800 A man's love for his wife may change 00:07:07.800 --> 00:07:10.800 Because she didn't thank him 00:07:10.800 --> 00:07:13.800 Or remove it from his living situation 00:07:13.800 --> 00:07:16.089 Was it a transplant? 00:07:16.089 --> 00:07:18.089 A little thanks to her husband 00:07:18.089 --> 00:07:21.279 Considering what Umm Zaraa said 00:07:21.279 --> 00:07:23.279 About her second husband 00:07:23.279 --> 00:07:25.279 We can figure it out 00:07:25.279 --> 00:07:28.279 Is she grateful to her husband or not? 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:30.540 Umm Zara said 00:07:30.540 --> 00:07:33.540 Then she married a secret man 00:07:33.540 --> 00:07:35.540 Shreya rode 00:07:35.540 --> 00:07:37.540 And he took it in writing 00:07:37.540 --> 00:07:40.540 He bestowed upon me abundant blessings 00:07:40.540 --> 00:07:43.540 And he gave me a pair of every scent 00:07:43.540 --> 00:07:45.540 And he said 00:07:45.540 --> 00:07:47.540 Whole or transplant 00:07:47.540 --> 00:07:49.600 And see your family 00:07:49.600 --> 00:07:50.600 she said 00:07:50.600 --> 00:07:53.600 If I collect everything, he will give me 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:56.600 What amounted to the smallest pot of my father’s plants 00:07:56.600 --> 00:07:59.819 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:59.819 --> 00:08:02.819 She wanted to say this 00:08:02.819 --> 00:08:06.819 He gave her a lot of everything he went to her house 00:08:06.819 --> 00:08:09.819 Of camels, cows and sheep 00:08:09.819 --> 00:08:11.819 And slaves and animals 00:08:11.819 --> 00:08:14.819 And he gave her various types of that 00:08:14.819 --> 00:08:17.819 This was not limited to the individual 00:08:17.819 --> 00:08:20.819 Even his weakness and weakness 00:08:20.819 --> 00:08:23.819 Be kind to her and honor her 00:08:23.819 --> 00:08:26.819 He is a fishing and hunting owner 00:08:26.819 --> 00:08:29.819 It goes two by two 00:08:29.819 --> 00:08:32.820 He adds it to what has gained our time 00:08:32.820 --> 00:08:35.980 Then he said, may God have mercy on him 00:08:35.980 --> 00:08:38.980 She described this man she married 00:08:38.980 --> 00:08:40.980 As bad as it is in itself 00:08:40.980 --> 00:08:42.980 And I sought in his hand 00:08:42.980 --> 00:08:45.980 And he is the owner of war and riding 00:08:45.980 --> 00:08:48.980 As if he had a war and a ride 00:08:48.980 --> 00:08:51.139 And with kindness to her 00:08:51.139 --> 00:08:54.139 And be kind to her family 00:08:54.139 --> 00:08:57.139 Then I told him that with all this 00:08:57.139 --> 00:09:00.139 Abu Zara’s location was not located there 00:09:00.139 --> 00:09:03.240 And a lot of it, not a little, is planted 00:09:03.240 --> 00:09:06.240 How much? 00:09:06.240 --> 00:09:09.240 And the condition of this other person is flawed 00:09:09.240 --> 00:09:12.240 If you add it to the condition of my father, he planted it 00:09:12.240 --> 00:09:15.240 With my father's abuse he finally planted her 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:17.240 But her love for him 00:09:17.240 --> 00:09:20.240 People hated her after him 00:09:20.240 --> 00:09:23.870 A woman's love for her husband 00:09:23.870 --> 00:09:26.870 Doesn't mean she's thankful for him 00:09:26.870 --> 00:09:28.870 The woman becomes attached to the man 00:09:28.870 --> 00:09:30.870 It has many reasons 00:09:30.870 --> 00:09:32.870 And with her attachment to him 00:09:32.870 --> 00:09:35.870 You don't have to be good-natured with him 00:09:35.870 --> 00:09:39.870 Especially in the issue of ingratitude 00:09:39.870 --> 00:09:42.899 And good morals in humans 00:09:42.899 --> 00:09:45.899 It appears in everyone's dealings 00:09:45.899 --> 00:09:47.899 Also bad manners 00:09:47.899 --> 00:09:50.899 It appears in everyone's dealings 00:09:50.899 --> 00:09:54.059 Umm Zar’ did not thank her second husband 00:09:54.059 --> 00:09:57.059 With the good things he gave her 00:09:57.059 --> 00:09:59.059 Rather, she insisted 00:09:59.059 --> 00:10:01.059 Can we imagine it? 00:10:01.059 --> 00:10:04.059 She was thankful for her first husband 00:10:04.059 --> 00:10:07.220 Blessings only last with gratitude 00:10:07.220 --> 00:10:10.220 She was not grateful for the blessing of the first husband 00:10:10.220 --> 00:10:12.220 So it went away from her 00:10:12.220 --> 00:10:15.220 If she had been grateful, it would have lasted for her 00:10:15.220 --> 00:10:17.220 God Almighty said 00:10:17.220 --> 00:10:19.220 And when your Lord permits 00:10:19.220 --> 00:10:22.220 If you are grateful, I will give you more 00:10:22.220 --> 00:10:26.220 And if you disbelieve, my punishment is severe 00:10:26.220 --> 00:10:28.220 And God Almighty said 00:10:28.220 --> 00:10:30.220 What will God do with your torment? 00:10:30.220 --> 00:10:33.220 If you are grateful and believe 00:10:33.220 --> 00:10:37.509 And God was thankful, All-Knowing 00:10:37.509 --> 00:10:39.509 And the wise man 00:10:39.509 --> 00:10:42.509 If he has the same characteristics as Abu Zar’ah 00:10:42.509 --> 00:10:45.509 Pictures of him manipulating divorce 00:10:45.509 --> 00:10:48.509 Especially with a woman he lived with 00:10:48.509 --> 00:10:50.830 And he gave birth to her 00:10:50.830 --> 00:10:52.830 If a sane man divorces 00:10:52.830 --> 00:10:54.830 Like my father planted 00:10:54.830 --> 00:10:57.830 It is expected that he was divorced for a major matter 00:10:57.830 --> 00:11:00.929 In himself, he did not reveal it 00:11:00.929 --> 00:11:02.929 This is the nature of men 00:11:02.929 --> 00:11:05.929 Lack of complaints about wives’ problems 00:11:05.929 --> 00:11:07.929 Unlike women 00:11:07.929 --> 00:11:09.929 She quickly complains to her husband 00:11:09.929 --> 00:11:11.929 With the first disagreement 00:11:12.929 --> 00:11:17.590 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:11:17.590 --> 00:11:20.590 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds