WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.600 The story of the Queen of Sheba 00:00:02.600 --> 00:00:12.339 The hoopoe was absent from the military parade 00:00:12.339 --> 00:00:20.239 The story of the Queen of Sheba begins with the Prophet Solomon, peace be upon him, inspecting his bird soldiers 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:25.039 Pay attention to the disappearance of the hoopoe among the birds from the army 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:30.160 The Prophet of God, Solomon, peace be upon him, became angry at the hoopoe’s absence 00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:36.399 He threatened to punish him severely if he had no excuse for his absence 00:00:36.399 --> 00:00:38.750 God Almighty said 00:00:38.750 --> 00:00:50.109 He inspected the bird and said, “What is the matter with me that I do not see the hoopoe or was it one of those absent?” 00:00:50.109 --> 00:01:05.790 I will punish him with a severe torment, or I will slaughter him, or he will bring me clear authority 00:01:05.790 --> 00:01:11.629 Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said: This indicates the perfection of his determination and firmness 00:01:11.629 --> 00:01:18.349 He organized his soldiers well and managed matters personally, both small and large 00:01:18.510 --> 00:01:28.590 He did not even neglect this matter of inspecting the birds and seeing if they were all there or if anything was missing 00:01:28.590 --> 00:01:38.609 This is the case with a man who is firm with his subjects, so do not be distressed by my honorable sister if she is blessed with a firm husband 00:01:38.609 --> 00:01:45.969 He checks on you and your offspring, because if he does not do that, the family will be lost 00:01:46.459 --> 00:01:52.459 This is what is obligatory for him, because the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:01:52.459 --> 00:01:57.540 You are all a shepherd and you are all responsible for your flock 00:01:57.540 --> 00:02:01.299 The imam is a shepherd and responsible for his flock 00:02:01.299 --> 00:02:06.340 A man is a shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock 00:02:06.340 --> 00:02:12.740 The woman is a shepherd in her husband’s house and responsible for her flock 00:02:12.740 --> 00:02:14.990 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:02:14.990 --> 00:02:18.189 And in another narration by Al-Bukhari 00:02:18.189 --> 00:02:25.150 The woman is the caretaker of her husband’s house and his children, and she is responsible for them 00:02:25.150 --> 00:02:31.069 The flock loses a praiseworthy quality that indicates the shepherd’s interest in the flock 00:02:31.069 --> 00:02:37.389 Follow up on their conditions, take care of their affairs, and solve their problems 00:02:37.389 --> 00:02:40.590 Al-Tahir bin Asoun, may God have mercy on him, said 00:02:40.669 --> 00:02:44.990 The soldiers inspected the emblem of the king and princes 00:02:44.990 --> 00:02:48.909 It is one of the purposes of gathering and marching soldiers 00:02:48.909 --> 00:02:54.030 The meaning is that you lose the bird as a whole 00:02:54.030 --> 00:02:59.870 He said to those who were concerned about the birds, “Why do I not see the hoopoe?” 00:02:59.870 --> 00:03:04.430 One of the duties of governors is to inspect the conditions of his subjects 00:03:04.430 --> 00:03:07.629 He inspected the workers and others himself 00:03:07.629 --> 00:03:13.229 What did Omar do when he left for the Levant in the year seventeen AH? 00:03:13.229 --> 00:03:15.870 Or to whomever is entrusted with that 00:03:15.870 --> 00:03:23.340 Omar made Muhammad bin Maslamah Al-Ansariyya inspect the workers 00:03:23.340 --> 00:03:27.659 And the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, in the previous hadith 00:03:27.659 --> 00:03:31.900 He distributed the responsibility of the family to the husband and wife 00:03:31.900 --> 00:03:37.259 He described each of them as a shepherd and having flocks 00:03:37.259 --> 00:03:41.969 It is not appropriate for a shepherd to neglect checking on his flock 00:03:41.969 --> 00:03:45.250 The entire family is the man’s subject 00:03:45.250 --> 00:03:49.409 It is his responsibility to check on his wife's condition 00:03:49.409 --> 00:03:54.530 Who do you associate with, who do you hang out with, and where do you go? 00:03:54.530 --> 00:03:58.289 What does she keep busy during her day and night? 00:03:58.289 --> 00:04:00.930 He checks her health conditions 00:04:00.930 --> 00:04:04.849 What medication or treatment you need 00:04:04.849 --> 00:04:07.090 And he checks her psychology 00:04:07.090 --> 00:04:11.810 What annoys her about his behavior and what does she like? 00:04:11.810 --> 00:04:14.930 So that he can make her happy 00:04:14.930 --> 00:04:18.579 And on himself in the marital home 00:04:18.579 --> 00:04:23.779 The husband needs to be firm in his decisions to take care of the house 00:04:23.779 --> 00:04:28.819 This is what the wife needs and looks for from her husband 00:04:28.819 --> 00:04:31.779 In fact, it makes her happy 00:04:31.779 --> 00:04:37.459 A sensible woman becomes upset if her husband is not decisive in matters of the home and family 00:04:37.459 --> 00:04:40.339 He did not follow up on her condition 00:04:40.339 --> 00:04:42.660 Firmness does not mean severity 00:04:42.660 --> 00:04:48.660 Rather, it means not being lenient and retreating from positions if they are correct 00:04:48.660 --> 00:04:52.420 The most beautiful packages were in Lynn 00:04:52.420 --> 00:04:57.459 You have a good example in the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:57.459 --> 00:05:01.250 And among his women, the mothers of the believers, are role models 00:05:01.329 --> 00:05:06.050 May God bless him and grant him peace, he used to check on the conditions of his wives 00:05:06.050 --> 00:05:09.170 And they don't get bored about it 00:05:09.170 --> 00:05:13.970 On the authority of Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, she said 00:05:13.970 --> 00:05:20.290 I stayed at the time of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, one night after dinner 00:05:20.290 --> 00:05:23.970 Then I came and he said where were you? 00:05:23.970 --> 00:05:28.529 I said I was listening to the reading of one of your companions 00:05:28.529 --> 00:05:32.769 I have never heard his reading and voice from anyone 00:05:32.769 --> 00:05:38.129 She said, so he got up and I stayed with him so I could listen to him 00:05:38.129 --> 00:05:40.850 Then he turned to me and said 00:05:40.850 --> 00:05:44.779 This is Salem, the client of Abu Hudhayfah 00:05:44.779 --> 00:05:49.699 Praise be to God who made my nation like this 00:05:49.699 --> 00:05:52.209 Narrated by Ibn Majah 00:05:52.209 --> 00:05:56.129 So what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to Aisha 00:05:56.209 --> 00:05:57.730 Where were you? 00:05:57.730 --> 00:06:02.689 It is a kind of holding the wife accountable for her late return home 00:06:02.689 --> 00:06:04.930 The reason for this delay 00:06:04.930 --> 00:06:06.610 That means 00:06:06.610 --> 00:06:12.930 The husband has the right to ask such questions when checking on his wife’s condition 00:06:12.930 --> 00:06:17.540 Especially if he is suspicious of one of her actions 00:06:17.540 --> 00:06:24.660 Then look at the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, standing with her to hear this man’s reading 00:06:24.740 --> 00:06:28.579 And his knowledge and interaction with what I mentioned 00:06:28.579 --> 00:06:32.500 It is not a denial or doubt about what she said 00:06:32.500 --> 00:06:38.500 There is nothing in her words or actions that would cause suspicion or doubt about her 00:06:38.500 --> 00:06:42.480 Far be it from that, may God be pleased with her 00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:49.040 But a man may doubt his wife’s words or one of her actions 00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:52.639 He wants to verify the veracity of what she said 00:06:52.639 --> 00:06:57.379 This is his right if it has a legal justification 00:06:57.379 --> 00:07:01.060 On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with them both, he said: 00:07:01.060 --> 00:07:04.740 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:07:04.740 --> 00:07:10.180 If I were to stone someone without proof, I would stone so-and-so 00:07:10.180 --> 00:07:16.660 There was suspicion about its logic, its appearance, and who would enter it 00:07:16.660 --> 00:07:18.829 Narrated by Ibn Majah 00:07:18.829 --> 00:07:24.269 This woman is evident from her words, her dress, and her appearance 00:07:24.269 --> 00:07:29.790 Any man who enters upon her will suspect that she is an adulteress 00:07:29.790 --> 00:07:36.670 But there is no proof that God has prescribed to prove this from the four witnesses 00:07:36.670 --> 00:07:42.379 Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not impose punishment on her 00:07:42.379 --> 00:07:45.329 Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:45.329 --> 00:07:51.649 That is, if you were transgressing God’s right to it, to what was established to indicate it 00:07:51.649 --> 00:07:57.019 This woman would have been stoned to show evidence of her immorality 00:07:57.019 --> 00:08:02.459 Likewise, if a wife cares for her husband, she loses his condition 00:08:02.459 --> 00:08:06.220 The husband may change from one situation to another 00:08:06.220 --> 00:08:12.620 The wife sees some signs indicating his change in any matter 00:08:12.699 --> 00:08:18.540 Either in his relationship with her, his relationship with his Lord, or otherwise 00:08:18.540 --> 00:08:26.699 It is necessary to know this change, its cause, and quickly treat it before it gets worse 00:08:26.699 --> 00:08:34.460 This is Aisha, may God be pleased with her, who notices the change in the supplication of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:34.460 --> 00:08:40.940 And he repeated a certain supplication, so she inquired from him to find out the reason 00:08:41.019 --> 00:08:43.899 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 00:08:43.899 --> 00:08:51.330 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, often sought refuge from debtors and sinners 00:08:51.330 --> 00:08:56.960 I said, O Messenger of God, how often do you seek refuge from falling in love? 00:08:56.960 --> 00:09:03.759 He said that if someone is in debt, he tells lies and makes a promise and breaks it 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:06.139 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:09:06.220 --> 00:09:12.860 This auspicious woman notices a change in the face of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:09:12.860 --> 00:09:18.059 She asks him and makes him feel that she has noticed a change in his condition 00:09:18.059 --> 00:09:22.529 This is from the acumen of Maimuna, may God be pleased with her 00:09:22.529 --> 00:09:27.009 On the authority of Abdullah bin Abbas, may God be pleased with them both, he said 00:09:27.009 --> 00:09:30.370 Maimuna, may God be pleased with her, told me 00:09:30.370 --> 00:09:36.049 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, became one day 00:09:36.049 --> 00:09:43.309 Maimuna said, O Messenger of God, I have disapproved of your appearance since today 00:09:43.309 --> 00:09:46.990 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:09:46.990 --> 00:09:52.909 Gabriel promised to meet me tonight, but he did not meet me 00:09:52.909 --> 00:09:56.129 By God, I will not leave behind 00:09:56.129 --> 00:10:03.409 He said, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued that day 00:10:03.490 --> 00:10:08.210 Then he found himself being dragged by a dog under our tent 00:10:08.210 --> 00:10:10.610 So he ordered him to come out 00:10:10.610 --> 00:10:14.610 Then he took water in his hand and sprinkled his place 00:10:14.610 --> 00:10:18.210 When evening came, Gabriel met him 00:10:18.210 --> 00:10:23.409 He said to him: You promised me that you would meet me yesterday 00:10:23.409 --> 00:10:25.409 He said yes 00:10:25.409 --> 00:10:30.740 But we should not enter a house in which there is a dog or a picture 00:10:30.740 --> 00:10:35.139 So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, rose on that day 00:10:35.139 --> 00:10:37.539 So he ordered the dogs to be killed 00:10:37.539 --> 00:10:41.940 He even orders the little wall dog to be killed 00:10:41.940 --> 00:10:45.169 And he leaves the big wall dog 00:10:45.169 --> 00:10:47.299 Narrated by Muslim 00:10:47.299 --> 00:10:53.950 So check on your husband before he changes on you and you don't realize it 00:10:53.950 --> 00:10:57.950 Losing children is the responsibility of both spouses 00:10:57.950 --> 00:11:01.950 Even if the mother is closer to her children than the father 00:11:01.950 --> 00:11:04.350 This is normal 00:11:04.350 --> 00:11:07.950 Especially if she is a resident of her home 00:11:07.950 --> 00:11:11.149 Dedicated to taking care of her family 00:11:11.149 --> 00:11:16.350 Therefore, she was explicitly assigned responsibility for the children 00:11:16.350 --> 00:11:19.149 As in Al-Bukhari’s narration 00:11:19.149 --> 00:11:23.149 The woman is a shepherd over her husband’s house and his children 00:11:23.149 --> 00:11:26.019 She is responsible for them 00:11:26.019 --> 00:11:28.419 You are responsible for your children 00:11:28.419 --> 00:11:32.419 And about checking their conditions and knowing who they are with 00:11:32.419 --> 00:11:34.419 And where do they go? 00:11:34.419 --> 00:11:37.220 And if they are late in returning home 00:11:37.220 --> 00:11:41.009 I asked about them and why they were late 00:11:41.009 --> 00:11:45.409 If the mother feels some imbalance in her children’s lives 00:11:45.409 --> 00:11:49.009 Our advice is for her to make her husband feel that way 00:11:49.009 --> 00:11:54.610 She should avoid dealing with the matter alone without consulting her husband 00:11:54.610 --> 00:11:56.610 This action is one of them 00:11:56.610 --> 00:12:01.870 He might say that the matter will get worse and get out of her control 00:12:01.870 --> 00:12:05.070 The father's intervention in treating the problem was delayed 00:12:05.070 --> 00:12:09.470 It may create a new problem between the father and his children 00:12:09.470 --> 00:12:12.669 You are the reason for it 00:12:12.669 --> 00:12:16.500 You are also responsible for your home 00:12:16.500 --> 00:12:22.100 Checking on the conditions of the home is an important issue in your married life 00:12:22.100 --> 00:12:24.100 This inspection 00:12:24.100 --> 00:12:27.299 It helps you know the shortcomings in the home 00:12:27.299 --> 00:12:30.500 What needs to be repaired or cleaned? 00:12:30.500 --> 00:12:32.899 Or add beauty to it 00:12:32.899 --> 00:12:36.350 Which makes your husband and children happy 00:12:36.350 --> 00:12:38.350 Think about it, my dear sister 00:12:38.350 --> 00:12:42.750 This great lesson from the Prophet of God Solomon, peace be upon him 00:12:42.750 --> 00:12:45.149 In inspecting the bird 00:12:45.149 --> 00:12:48.750 And benefit from it in performing your responsibilities 00:12:48.750 --> 00:12:52.299 And those who are under your hand 00:12:52.299 --> 00:12:59.500 But what did God’s Prophet Solomon, peace be upon him, do with the hoopoe after that? 00:12:59.500 --> 00:13:06.740 How did the Prophet of God, Solomon, peace be upon him, control his king and his soldiers? 00:13:06.740 --> 00:13:10.740 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:13:10.740 --> 00:13:14.740 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 00:13:14.740 --> 00:13:18.179 The story of the Queen of Sheba 00:13:18.179 --> 00:13:22.179 With the Prophet of God Solomon, peace be upon him