WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:08.269 Men's types 00:00:08.269 --> 00:00:12.589 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:12.589 --> 00:00:20.949 A woman loves talking to her husband 00:00:20.949 --> 00:00:25.129 This is a long talk 00:00:25.129 --> 00:00:27.129 Hadith or planting? 00:00:27.129 --> 00:00:30.129 Narrated by the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:00:30.129 --> 00:00:34.130 On the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:00:34.130 --> 00:00:36.130 He listens to her 00:00:36.130 --> 00:00:39.189 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:00:39.189 --> 00:00:41.189 This is correct in this hadith 00:00:41.189 --> 00:00:45.189 It is all from the words of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:00:45.189 --> 00:00:49.189 Except what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 00:00:49.189 --> 00:00:53.189 I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother 00:00:53.189 --> 00:00:57.189 This is what is agreed upon by the scholars of correction 00:00:57.189 --> 00:01:02.890 So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened to Aisha 00:01:02.890 --> 00:01:05.890 She talks this long 00:01:05.890 --> 00:01:10.890 From his good treatment of his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:10.890 --> 00:01:14.890 This incident is not the only one of the incidents 00:01:14.890 --> 00:01:18.890 Evidence of his good character, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:18.890 --> 00:01:21.890 He listens well to his wives 00:01:21.890 --> 00:01:25.890 Rather, the Sunnah is full of examples of this 00:01:25.890 --> 00:01:29.950 Including his story with Safiya while listening to her 00:01:29.950 --> 00:01:32.950 He is in seclusion in the mosque 00:01:32.950 --> 00:01:37.239 On the authority of Safiyya, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:37.239 --> 00:01:41.239 She came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:41.239 --> 00:01:44.239 She visits him during his seclusion in the mosque 00:01:44.239 --> 00:01:47.239 In the last ten days of Ramadan 00:01:47.239 --> 00:01:50.239 So I talked to him for an hour 00:01:50.239 --> 00:01:52.239 Then she turned over 00:01:52.239 --> 00:01:56.239 So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood with her and turned her over 00:01:56.239 --> 00:01:59.239 Even when you reach the door of the mosque 00:01:59.239 --> 00:02:01.239 At Umm Salamah's door 00:02:01.239 --> 00:02:04.239 Two Ansar men passed by 00:02:04.239 --> 00:02:08.240 He greeted the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:08.240 --> 00:02:12.240 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to them 00:02:12.240 --> 00:02:14.240 On your messengers 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:17.240 She is Safiyya bint Huyay 00:02:17.240 --> 00:02:21.240 He said, Glory be to God, O Messenger of God 00:02:21.240 --> 00:02:23.240 And he grew up with them 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:27.240 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:02:27.240 --> 00:02:31.240 Satan reaches the level of blood from a person 00:02:31.240 --> 00:02:36.240 And I feared that he might throw something into your hearts 00:02:36.240 --> 00:02:39.500 Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim 00:02:39.500 --> 00:02:42.500 Ibn Khuzaymah, may God have mercy on him, said 00:02:42.500 --> 00:02:45.500 As for the news of Safiyya Thabet, it is true 00:02:45.500 --> 00:02:49.500 In both of them, it indicates that the wife’s conversation is with her husband 00:02:49.500 --> 00:02:52.500 It is permissible for him to seclude himself at night 00:02:52.500 --> 00:02:56.620 He is the brown one himself 00:02:56.620 --> 00:03:00.620 This incident occurred during the last ten days of Ramadan 00:03:00.620 --> 00:03:03.620 He is in seclusion to his Lord in the mosque 00:03:03.620 --> 00:03:10.620 However, itikaf did not prevent him from sitting with his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:10.620 --> 00:03:12.620 And he listens to them 00:03:12.620 --> 00:03:16.620 He talks to them every night of his seclusion 00:03:16.620 --> 00:03:21.780 When the Mother of the Believers, Safiyya, asked to speak to him alone 00:03:21.780 --> 00:03:23.780 He didn't stop her 00:03:23.780 --> 00:03:27.780 Rather, he listened to her for a full hour while she spoke 00:03:27.780 --> 00:03:30.780 And he wasn't bored with it 00:03:30.780 --> 00:03:34.780 It was not impossible for her that this was the month of worship 00:03:34.780 --> 00:03:38.780 He is in seclusion and needs to devote himself to worship 00:03:38.780 --> 00:03:45.780 He did not hurt her with a word that would make her hide what was in herself and live with her pain 00:03:45.780 --> 00:03:47.780 As some of them say 00:03:47.780 --> 00:03:51.780 Be brief and do not waste your time of worship 00:03:51.780 --> 00:03:56.780 He says leave this topic until after Ramadan 00:03:56.780 --> 00:03:57.780 Never 00:03:57.780 --> 00:04:03.780 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened carefully to his wives 00:04:03.780 --> 00:04:05.780 Even if we kept talking 00:04:05.780 --> 00:04:11.780 As in the hadith of Umm Zar’a and the story of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her 00:04:11.780 --> 00:04:17.189 If a woman forgets to talk to her husband, it does not end 00:04:17.189 --> 00:04:21.189 The hadith of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her, continued 00:04:21.189 --> 00:04:25.189 Even after she got up from her seat and wanted to leave 00:04:25.189 --> 00:04:31.189 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued to talk to her and listen to her 00:04:31.189 --> 00:04:35.189 He was standing on his feet at the door of the mosque 00:04:35.189 --> 00:04:40.189 He was not bored, and that was a blessing to herself 00:04:40.189 --> 00:04:44.379 It is a woman's nature to love talking to her husband 00:04:45.379 --> 00:04:51.379 The happy man is the one who invests this love in making himself and his wife happy 00:04:51.379 --> 00:04:55.540 There are different types of conversations between a woman and her husband 00:04:55.540 --> 00:04:58.540 One of them relates to children's problems 00:04:58.540 --> 00:05:01.540 Some of them relate to household matters 00:05:01.540 --> 00:05:07.540 Some of them relate to the conditions of the women around her and their relationships with their husbands 00:05:07.540 --> 00:05:11.670 Hadith or implantation is of the last type 00:05:11.670 --> 00:05:14.670 And when a woman talks to her husband 00:05:14.670 --> 00:05:17.670 She wants him to listen to her talk 00:05:17.670 --> 00:05:23.670 They interacted with her by looking into her eyes and face as she spoke 00:05:23.670 --> 00:05:28.829 This purpose is spoiled if the husband is busy playing with his phone 00:05:28.829 --> 00:05:33.060 Or focus on looking at the channels and flipping them 00:05:33.060 --> 00:05:36.060 When a woman raises the problem 00:05:36.060 --> 00:05:38.060 Or tell the long story 00:05:38.060 --> 00:05:42.060 A short comment from the husband on the topic is sufficient for her 00:05:42.060 --> 00:05:46.060 He makes her happy and makes her feel interested in what she proposed 00:05:46.060 --> 00:05:49.060 As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did 00:05:49.060 --> 00:05:52.060 When he told her after she finished 00:05:52.060 --> 00:05:56.060 I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother 00:05:56.060 --> 00:05:59.310 Women must choose time well 00:05:59.310 --> 00:06:02.310 When she tries to talk to her husband 00:06:02.310 --> 00:06:07.310 She also improved in choosing the appropriate topic for the time she chose 00:06:07.310 --> 00:06:11.310 It is not appropriate to receive the husband when he is coming from work 00:06:11.310 --> 00:06:15.310 Or from travel or when sitting down to eat 00:06:15.310 --> 00:06:20.310 Or before going to sleep, he mentions the children’s problems or requests at home 00:06:20.310 --> 00:06:24.410 These are times that do not suit men 00:06:24.410 --> 00:06:28.410 The man must guide the woman to a better time 00:06:28.410 --> 00:06:32.410 If she made a mistake in choosing the right time 00:06:32.410 --> 00:06:37.540 A man must also make time to listen to his family 00:06:37.540 --> 00:06:40.540 And he doesn't get bored about it 00:06:40.540 --> 00:06:43.540 Someone better than him listened to them 00:06:43.540 --> 00:06:46.629 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:06:46.629 --> 00:06:49.629 These are examples of what scholars say 00:06:49.629 --> 00:06:52.629 Commenting on the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:06:52.629 --> 00:06:55.790 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:55.790 --> 00:06:58.790 It includes knowledge of good relations with one’s family 00:06:58.790 --> 00:07:02.790 It is desirable to talk to them about something that does not involve sin 00:07:02.790 --> 00:07:05.860 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:05.860 --> 00:07:08.860 A man's good treatment with his family 00:07:08.860 --> 00:07:13.860 And make them feel comfortable and like to talk to them about something that is not sinful 00:07:13.860 --> 00:07:17.860 As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did here 00:07:17.860 --> 00:07:21.860 In his conversation with Aisha and those of his wives who were with her 00:07:21.860 --> 00:07:24.860 Tell the news about these women 00:07:24.860 --> 00:07:27.920 And so Al-Bukhari translated it 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.920 Chapter on good relations with the family 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:33.920 The correct authenticated narrations have been reported 00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:37.920 With his good treatment, may God bless him and grant him peace to his family 00:07:37.920 --> 00:07:39.920 And he spread it to them 00:07:39.920 --> 00:07:42.920 And also on the authority of the righteous predecessors 00:07:42.920 --> 00:07:46.110 Malik, may God have mercy on him, used to say: 00:07:46.110 --> 00:07:49.110 In that are pleasing to your Lord 00:07:49.110 --> 00:07:51.110 And love for your family 00:07:51.110 --> 00:07:53.110 And things about Malik 00:07:53.110 --> 00:07:56.110 And a woman for your sake 00:07:56.110 --> 00:07:58.110 He said 00:07:58.110 --> 00:08:03.110 This was reported to me on the authority of some of the companions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:03.110 --> 00:08:06.209 He was Malik, may God have mercy on him 00:08:06.209 --> 00:08:10.209 He is one of the people who has the best behavior with his family and children 00:08:10.209 --> 00:08:12.209 And he was saying 00:08:12.209 --> 00:08:16.209 A person must love his people 00:08:16.209 --> 00:08:21.870 So that he is the most beloved to the people 00:08:21.870 --> 00:08:25.870 How good was the humiliation of Omar bin Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him 00:08:25.870 --> 00:08:28.870 When Thumama bin Hazn denounced him 00:08:28.870 --> 00:08:30.870 Listening to a woman 00:08:30.870 --> 00:08:33.870 Even though she made it difficult to say that 00:08:33.870 --> 00:08:35.870 By God listening to a woman 00:08:35.870 --> 00:08:38.870 She complained to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:38.870 --> 00:08:42.059 How could he not listen to her? 00:08:42.059 --> 00:08:44.059 Thumama bin Hazn said 00:08:44.059 --> 00:08:48.059 While Omar bin Al-Khattab was walking on a donkey 00:08:48.059 --> 00:08:50.059 I found him a woman 00:08:50.059 --> 00:08:51.059 And she said 00:08:51.059 --> 00:08:52.059 Stop, Omar 00:08:52.059 --> 00:08:54.059 So he stood up 00:08:55.059 --> 00:08:57.059 A man said 00:08:57.059 --> 00:08:59.059 O Commander of the Faithful! 00:08:59.059 --> 00:09:03.059 I did not see you today as a woman as harsh as a man 00:09:03.059 --> 00:09:06.059 A man does not listen to a woman 00:09:06.059 --> 00:09:07.059 He said 00:09:07.059 --> 00:09:08.059 Woe to you! 00:09:08.059 --> 00:09:11.059 What prevents me from listening to it? 00:09:11.059 --> 00:09:13.059 She is the one whom God listened to 00:09:13.059 --> 00:09:16.059 What was revealed in it 00:09:16.059 --> 00:09:21.100 God has heard the words of the woman who argues with you about her husband 00:09:21.100 --> 00:09:26.100 I have no right to listen to someone whom God listened to 00:09:26.100 --> 00:09:31.539 This is the action of the men we emulate 00:09:31.539 --> 00:09:34.629 So are you, honorable man? 00:09:34.629 --> 00:09:39.629 Who do you listen to your wife and listen to her when she speaks? 00:09:39.629 --> 00:09:45.230 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:09:45.230 --> 00:09:48.230 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds