1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:08,269 Men's types 3 00:00:08,269 --> 00:00:12,589 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 4 00:00:12,589 --> 00:00:20,949 A woman loves talking to her husband 5 00:00:20,949 --> 00:00:25,129 This is a long talk 6 00:00:25,129 --> 00:00:27,129 Hadith or planting? 7 00:00:27,129 --> 00:00:30,129 Narrated by the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, may God be pleased with her 8 00:00:30,129 --> 00:00:34,130 On the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 9 00:00:34,130 --> 00:00:36,130 He listens to her 10 00:00:36,130 --> 00:00:39,189 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 11 00:00:39,189 --> 00:00:41,189 This is correct in this hadith 12 00:00:41,189 --> 00:00:45,189 It is all from the words of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 13 00:00:45,189 --> 00:00:49,189 Except what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 14 00:00:49,189 --> 00:00:53,189 I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother 15 00:00:53,189 --> 00:00:57,189 This is what is agreed upon by the scholars of correction 16 00:00:57,189 --> 00:01:02,890 So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened to Aisha 17 00:01:02,890 --> 00:01:05,890 She talks this long 18 00:01:05,890 --> 00:01:10,890 From his good treatment of his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace 19 00:01:10,890 --> 00:01:14,890 This incident is not the only one of the incidents 20 00:01:14,890 --> 00:01:18,890 Evidence of his good character, may God bless him and grant him peace 21 00:01:18,890 --> 00:01:21,890 He listens well to his wives 22 00:01:21,890 --> 00:01:25,890 Rather, the Sunnah is full of examples of this 23 00:01:25,890 --> 00:01:29,950 Including his story with Safiya while listening to her 24 00:01:29,950 --> 00:01:32,950 He is in seclusion in the mosque 25 00:01:32,950 --> 00:01:37,239 On the authority of Safiyya, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 26 00:01:37,239 --> 00:01:41,239 She came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 27 00:01:41,239 --> 00:01:44,239 She visits him during his seclusion in the mosque 28 00:01:44,239 --> 00:01:47,239 In the last ten days of Ramadan 29 00:01:47,239 --> 00:01:50,239 So I talked to him for an hour 30 00:01:50,239 --> 00:01:52,239 Then she turned over 31 00:01:52,239 --> 00:01:56,239 So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood with her and turned her over 32 00:01:56,239 --> 00:01:59,239 Even when you reach the door of the mosque 33 00:01:59,239 --> 00:02:01,239 At Umm Salamah's door 34 00:02:01,239 --> 00:02:04,239 Two Ansar men passed by 35 00:02:04,239 --> 00:02:08,240 He greeted the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 36 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:12,240 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to them 37 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:14,240 On your messengers 38 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,240 She is Safiyya bint Huyay 39 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:21,240 He said, Glory be to God, O Messenger of God 40 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,240 And he grew up with them 41 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:27,240 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 42 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:31,240 Satan reaches the level of blood from a person 43 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:36,240 And I feared that he might throw something into your hearts 44 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:39,500 Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim 45 00:02:39,500 --> 00:02:42,500 Ibn Khuzaymah, may God have mercy on him, said 46 00:02:42,500 --> 00:02:45,500 As for the news of Safiyya Thabet, it is true 47 00:02:45,500 --> 00:02:49,500 In both of them, it indicates that the wife’s conversation is with her husband 48 00:02:49,500 --> 00:02:52,500 It is permissible for him to seclude himself at night 49 00:02:52,500 --> 00:02:56,620 He is the brown one himself 50 00:02:56,620 --> 00:03:00,620 This incident occurred during the last ten days of Ramadan 51 00:03:00,620 --> 00:03:03,620 He is in seclusion to his Lord in the mosque 52 00:03:03,620 --> 00:03:10,620 However, itikaf did not prevent him from sitting with his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace 53 00:03:10,620 --> 00:03:12,620 And he listens to them 54 00:03:12,620 --> 00:03:16,620 He talks to them every night of his seclusion 55 00:03:16,620 --> 00:03:21,780 When the Mother of the Believers, Safiyya, asked to speak to him alone 56 00:03:21,780 --> 00:03:23,780 He didn't stop her 57 00:03:23,780 --> 00:03:27,780 Rather, he listened to her for a full hour while she spoke 58 00:03:27,780 --> 00:03:30,780 And he wasn't bored with it 59 00:03:30,780 --> 00:03:34,780 It was not impossible for her that this was the month of worship 60 00:03:34,780 --> 00:03:38,780 He is in seclusion and needs to devote himself to worship 61 00:03:38,780 --> 00:03:45,780 He did not hurt her with a word that would make her hide what was in herself and live with her pain 62 00:03:45,780 --> 00:03:47,780 As some of them say 63 00:03:47,780 --> 00:03:51,780 Be brief and do not waste your time of worship 64 00:03:51,780 --> 00:03:56,780 He says leave this topic until after Ramadan 65 00:03:56,780 --> 00:03:57,780 Never 66 00:03:57,780 --> 00:04:03,780 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened carefully to his wives 67 00:04:03,780 --> 00:04:05,780 Even if we kept talking 68 00:04:05,780 --> 00:04:11,780 As in the hadith of Umm Zar’a and the story of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her 69 00:04:11,780 --> 00:04:17,189 If a woman forgets to talk to her husband, it does not end 70 00:04:17,189 --> 00:04:21,189 The hadith of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her, continued 71 00:04:21,189 --> 00:04:25,189 Even after she got up from her seat and wanted to leave 72 00:04:25,189 --> 00:04:31,189 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued to talk to her and listen to her 73 00:04:31,189 --> 00:04:35,189 He was standing on his feet at the door of the mosque 74 00:04:35,189 --> 00:04:40,189 He was not bored, and that was a blessing to herself 75 00:04:40,189 --> 00:04:44,379 It is a woman's nature to love talking to her husband 76 00:04:45,379 --> 00:04:51,379 The happy man is the one who invests this love in making himself and his wife happy 77 00:04:51,379 --> 00:04:55,540 There are different types of conversations between a woman and her husband 78 00:04:55,540 --> 00:04:58,540 One of them relates to children's problems 79 00:04:58,540 --> 00:05:01,540 Some of them relate to household matters 80 00:05:01,540 --> 00:05:07,540 Some of them relate to the conditions of the women around her and their relationships with their husbands 81 00:05:07,540 --> 00:05:11,670 Hadith or implantation is of the last type 82 00:05:11,670 --> 00:05:14,670 And when a woman talks to her husband 83 00:05:14,670 --> 00:05:17,670 She wants him to listen to her talk 84 00:05:17,670 --> 00:05:23,670 They interacted with her by looking into her eyes and face as she spoke 85 00:05:23,670 --> 00:05:28,829 This purpose is spoiled if the husband is busy playing with his phone 86 00:05:28,829 --> 00:05:33,060 Or focus on looking at the channels and flipping them 87 00:05:33,060 --> 00:05:36,060 When a woman raises the problem 88 00:05:36,060 --> 00:05:38,060 Or tell the long story 89 00:05:38,060 --> 00:05:42,060 A short comment from the husband on the topic is sufficient for her 90 00:05:42,060 --> 00:05:46,060 He makes her happy and makes her feel interested in what she proposed 91 00:05:46,060 --> 00:05:49,060 As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did 92 00:05:49,060 --> 00:05:52,060 When he told her after she finished 93 00:05:52,060 --> 00:05:56,060 I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother 94 00:05:56,060 --> 00:05:59,310 Women must choose time well 95 00:05:59,310 --> 00:06:02,310 When she tries to talk to her husband 96 00:06:02,310 --> 00:06:07,310 She also improved in choosing the appropriate topic for the time she chose 97 00:06:07,310 --> 00:06:11,310 It is not appropriate to receive the husband when he is coming from work 98 00:06:11,310 --> 00:06:15,310 Or from travel or when sitting down to eat 99 00:06:15,310 --> 00:06:20,310 Or before going to sleep, he mentions the children’s problems or requests at home 100 00:06:20,310 --> 00:06:24,410 These are times that do not suit men 101 00:06:24,410 --> 00:06:28,410 The man must guide the woman to a better time 102 00:06:28,410 --> 00:06:32,410 If she made a mistake in choosing the right time 103 00:06:32,410 --> 00:06:37,540 A man must also make time to listen to his family 104 00:06:37,540 --> 00:06:40,540 And he doesn't get bored about it 105 00:06:40,540 --> 00:06:43,540 Someone better than him listened to them 106 00:06:43,540 --> 00:06:46,629 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 107 00:06:46,629 --> 00:06:49,629 These are examples of what scholars say 108 00:06:49,629 --> 00:06:52,629 Commenting on the hadith of Umm Zara’ 109 00:06:52,629 --> 00:06:55,790 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 110 00:06:55,790 --> 00:06:58,790 It includes knowledge of good relations with one’s family 111 00:06:58,790 --> 00:07:02,790 It is desirable to talk to them about something that does not involve sin 112 00:07:02,790 --> 00:07:05,860 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 113 00:07:05,860 --> 00:07:08,860 A man's good treatment with his family 114 00:07:08,860 --> 00:07:13,860 And make them feel comfortable and like to talk to them about something that is not sinful 115 00:07:13,860 --> 00:07:17,860 As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did here 116 00:07:17,860 --> 00:07:21,860 In his conversation with Aisha and those of his wives who were with her 117 00:07:21,860 --> 00:07:24,860 Tell the news about these women 118 00:07:24,860 --> 00:07:27,920 And so Al-Bukhari translated it 119 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,920 Chapter on good relations with the family 120 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,920 The correct authenticated narrations have been reported 121 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:37,920 With his good treatment, may God bless him and grant him peace to his family 122 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:39,920 And he spread it to them 123 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:42,920 And also on the authority of the righteous predecessors 124 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:46,110 Malik, may God have mercy on him, used to say: 125 00:07:46,110 --> 00:07:49,110 In that are pleasing to your Lord 126 00:07:49,110 --> 00:07:51,110 And love for your family 127 00:07:51,110 --> 00:07:53,110 And things about Malik 128 00:07:53,110 --> 00:07:56,110 And a woman for your sake 129 00:07:56,110 --> 00:07:58,110 He said 130 00:07:58,110 --> 00:08:03,110 This was reported to me on the authority of some of the companions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 131 00:08:03,110 --> 00:08:06,209 He was Malik, may God have mercy on him 132 00:08:06,209 --> 00:08:10,209 He is one of the people who has the best behavior with his family and children 133 00:08:10,209 --> 00:08:12,209 And he was saying 134 00:08:12,209 --> 00:08:16,209 A person must love his people 135 00:08:16,209 --> 00:08:21,870 So that he is the most beloved to the people 136 00:08:21,870 --> 00:08:25,870 How good was the humiliation of Omar bin Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him 137 00:08:25,870 --> 00:08:28,870 When Thumama bin Hazn denounced him 138 00:08:28,870 --> 00:08:30,870 Listening to a woman 139 00:08:30,870 --> 00:08:33,870 Even though she made it difficult to say that 140 00:08:33,870 --> 00:08:35,870 By God listening to a woman 141 00:08:35,870 --> 00:08:38,870 She complained to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 142 00:08:38,870 --> 00:08:42,059 How could he not listen to her? 143 00:08:42,059 --> 00:08:44,059 Thumama bin Hazn said 144 00:08:44,059 --> 00:08:48,059 While Omar bin Al-Khattab was walking on a donkey 145 00:08:48,059 --> 00:08:50,059 I found him a woman 146 00:08:50,059 --> 00:08:51,059 And she said 147 00:08:51,059 --> 00:08:52,059 Stop, Omar 148 00:08:52,059 --> 00:08:54,059 So he stood up 149 00:08:55,059 --> 00:08:57,059 A man said 150 00:08:57,059 --> 00:08:59,059 O Commander of the Faithful! 151 00:08:59,059 --> 00:09:03,059 I did not see you today as a woman as harsh as a man 152 00:09:03,059 --> 00:09:06,059 A man does not listen to a woman 153 00:09:06,059 --> 00:09:07,059 He said 154 00:09:07,059 --> 00:09:08,059 Woe to you! 155 00:09:08,059 --> 00:09:11,059 What prevents me from listening to it? 156 00:09:11,059 --> 00:09:13,059 She is the one whom God listened to 157 00:09:13,059 --> 00:09:16,059 What was revealed in it 158 00:09:16,059 --> 00:09:21,100 God has heard the words of the woman who argues with you about her husband 159 00:09:21,100 --> 00:09:26,100 I have no right to listen to someone whom God listened to 160 00:09:26,100 --> 00:09:31,539 This is the action of the men we emulate 161 00:09:31,539 --> 00:09:34,629 So are you, honorable man? 162 00:09:34,629 --> 00:09:39,629 Who do you listen to your wife and listen to her when she speaks? 163 00:09:39,629 --> 00:09:45,230 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 164 00:09:45,230 --> 00:09:48,230 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds