WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.399 Da sunan Allah, Mai rahama, Mai jin kai 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:08.210 Kayan maza 00:00:08.210 --> 00:00:13.199 A cikin hadisin Ummu Zara’ 00:00:13.199 --> 00:00:21.460 Mijin masoyi 00:00:21.460 --> 00:00:25.859 Babu lokacin da mace ke fama da mijinta 00:00:25.859 --> 00:00:29.460 Babu wahala ga namiji daga matarsa 00:00:29.460 --> 00:00:34.060 Halin rayuwar nan ita ce ba ta da wahala 00:00:34.060 --> 00:00:38.259 Amma wahala ya bambanta da wahala 00:00:38.259 --> 00:00:40.759 Akwai wahala na ɗan lokaci 00:00:40.759 --> 00:00:43.759 Akwai wahala akai-akai 00:00:43.759 --> 00:00:45.960 Mafi wuya kuma mafi tsawo 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:50.460 Wahalar da ke da alaka da halin namiji ko mace 00:00:50.460 --> 00:00:55.560 Wahalar ta samo asali ne daga rashin son mutum ya canza halinsa 00:00:55.560 --> 00:00:58.289 Da kuma daidaitawa da na kusa da shi 00:00:58.289 --> 00:00:59.390 In ba haka ba 00:00:59.390 --> 00:01:02.990 Kowace halitta abin zargi tana canzawa 00:01:03.090 --> 00:01:07.609 Wanda ya canza kansa, Allah ya canza yanayinsa 00:01:07.609 --> 00:01:11.810 Wasu mutane na iya musun yiwuwar canza ɗabi'a 00:01:11.810 --> 00:01:14.810 Karkashin cewa an haife shi da cewa 00:01:14.810 --> 00:01:16.310 Kuma suka ce 00:01:16.310 --> 00:01:19.140 Bugawa ya yi nasara akan bugawa 00:01:19.140 --> 00:01:21.340 Ya amsa gayyata 00:01:21.340 --> 00:01:24.140 Imam Al-Ghazali, Allah ya yi masa rahama 00:01:24.140 --> 00:01:25.540 Kuma yana cewa 00:01:25.540 --> 00:01:28.739 Idan ɗabi'a ba su yarda da canji ba 00:01:28.739 --> 00:01:33.069 Umarni, wa'azi, da azabtuwa sun zama marasa inganci 00:01:33.069 --> 00:01:38.269 Al-Ghazali ya yi adawa da wannan magana da wani abu daban, yana mai cewa: 00:01:38.269 --> 00:01:41.569 Ta yaya za a hana wannan a kan mutane? 00:01:41.569 --> 00:01:44.769 Canza halin dabba yana yiwuwa 00:01:44.769 --> 00:01:48.870 Yana canja wurin goshawk daga Istihaash zuwa Anas 00:01:48.870 --> 00:01:51.170 Kare mai yawan cin abinci ne 00:01:51.170 --> 00:01:54.569 Don zama mai ladabi, kaurace, kuma a sake 00:01:54.569 --> 00:01:56.469 Kuma doki yana daga raga 00:01:56.469 --> 00:01:59.069 Don santsi da biyayya 00:01:59.069 --> 00:02:02.269 Duk wannan canji ne a cikin ɗabi'a 00:02:04.099 --> 00:02:06.599 Idan wannan ya shafi dabbobi 00:02:06.599 --> 00:02:11.759 A cikin dan Adam da Allah ya girmama shi da hankali, na farko 00:02:11.759 --> 00:02:15.360 Bai inganta ba a yi uzuri da maganar namiji ko mace 00:02:15.360 --> 00:02:16.960 Wannan dabi'ata ce 00:02:16.960 --> 00:02:19.759 Kyakkyawar dabi'a ta kasance tare da shi 00:02:19.759 --> 00:02:22.919 Kuma mummunan fushi yana canzawa 00:02:22.919 --> 00:02:27.419 Abin da ya same mu shi ne wahalar da matan farko da na biyu suka sha 00:02:27.419 --> 00:02:32.780 Wannan duk ya faru ne saboda mummunan hali na mutum wanda bai canza ba 00:02:32.879 --> 00:02:35.580 Wannan shine wahala ta uku 00:02:35.580 --> 00:02:37.879 Mace ta uku ce ta ruwaito 00:02:37.879 --> 00:02:39.379 Don haka ta ce 00:02:39.379 --> 00:02:41.479 Mijin masoyi 00:02:41.479 --> 00:02:43.680 Idan nayi magana zan saketa 00:02:43.680 --> 00:02:46.599 Idan na yi shiru zan yi sharhi 00:02:46.599 --> 00:02:52.199 Wahala na nuni da cewa mace ba ta da lafiya, ba a shiru ko a zance ba 00:02:52.199 --> 00:02:54.659 To me kuke yi? 00:02:54.659 --> 00:02:57.960 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce 00:02:57.960 --> 00:03:00.560 Dogon runguma 00:03:00.560 --> 00:03:02.689 Al-Asmai ta ce 00:03:02.689 --> 00:03:03.889 Tace 00:03:03.889 --> 00:03:07.490 Ba shi da fiye da tsayinsa ba tare da amfani ba 00:03:07.490 --> 00:03:11.090 Idan na ambaci laifinsa zai sake ni 00:03:11.090 --> 00:03:13.990 Idan ya yi shiru sai ya bar ni a rataye 00:03:13.990 --> 00:03:18.770 Ba wani ko ɗaya da Ba'al 00:03:18.770 --> 00:03:22.870 Wannan mata ta kwatanta mijinta da tsayi 00:03:22.870 --> 00:03:26.069 Yabonsa take yi ko kuwa bata masa rai? 00:03:26.069 --> 00:03:29.069 Yanayin maganar yana nuna batanci 00:03:29.069 --> 00:03:32.259 Me kuke nufi da wannan kalmar? 00:03:32.259 --> 00:03:34.759 Ibn Hajar Allah ya yi masa rahama yana cewa 00:03:34.759 --> 00:03:36.460 Al-Asmai ta ce 00:03:36.460 --> 00:03:41.460 Ta so kada ya wuce tsayinsa ba tare da amfani ba 00:03:41.460 --> 00:03:42.960 Sai wani yace 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:45.360 Tsawon dole ne ya kasance 00:03:45.360 --> 00:03:46.460 Kuma aka ce 00:03:46.460 --> 00:03:48.259 Na kwatanta shi da tsayi 00:03:48.259 --> 00:03:52.050 Domin tsayi galibi jagora ne ga wauta 00:03:52.050 --> 00:03:54.550 Ya kuma ce, Allah Ya yi masa rahama 00:03:54.550 --> 00:03:56.849 Abu Saeed Al-Dareer yace 00:03:56.849 --> 00:03:58.050 Wanda ya dace 00:03:58.050 --> 00:03:59.550 Wannan soyayya 00:03:59.550 --> 00:04:01.550 Mai tsawo da daraja 00:04:01.550 --> 00:04:03.550 Wanda ya mallaki al'amuransa 00:04:03.550 --> 00:04:06.250 Mata ba sa sarrafa shi 00:04:06.250 --> 00:04:09.150 Maimakon haka, yana sarauta bisa su yadda yake so 00:04:09.150 --> 00:04:13.050 Matarsa tana tsoron magana a gabansa 00:04:13.050 --> 00:04:15.620 Tayi shiru 00:04:15.620 --> 00:04:17.420 Al-Zamakhshari ya ce 00:04:17.420 --> 00:04:20.220 Babban korafi ne 00:04:20.220 --> 00:04:21.750 Ya kare 00:04:21.750 --> 00:04:25.449 Wannan abin da ya faru a cikin ruwayar Yaqub bin Al-Sakit ya inganta 00:04:25.449 --> 00:04:27.949 Daga karuwa a karshen 00:04:27.949 --> 00:04:31.350 Yana da banƙyama kamar haƙori 00:04:31.350 --> 00:04:34.449 Ta hanyar buɗe ƙamus da ƙarfafa lam 00:04:34.449 --> 00:04:37.649 Wato abstract tare da nauyinsa da ma'anarsa 00:04:37.649 --> 00:04:41.149 Ta nuna tana hattara dashi 00:04:41.149 --> 00:04:44.149 Mai yiyuwa ne hakan ta so 00:04:44.149 --> 00:04:47.449 Ba shi da hankali kuma ba zai iya daidaitawa ba 00:04:47.449 --> 00:04:51.850 Kamar kaifi hakora 00:04:51.850 --> 00:04:55.050 Dangane da siffanta shi a matsayin wawa, wauta ce 00:04:55.050 --> 00:04:57.550 Wannan abin zargi ne a fili 00:04:57.550 --> 00:05:01.850 Larabawa sun ce yana da ra'ayi ba tare da mai ba da labari ba 00:05:01.850 --> 00:05:03.850 Yana ganin yara maza a matsayin dabino 00:05:03.850 --> 00:05:06.610 Kuma ba ku san menene kudin shiga ba 00:05:06.610 --> 00:05:10.810 Dangane da bayyana shi da cewa ba mata ne ke sarrafa su ba 00:05:10.810 --> 00:05:13.209 Wannan yana daya daga cikin ma'anonin namiji 00:05:13.209 --> 00:05:15.410 Ba a yi la'akari da abin zargi ba 00:05:15.410 --> 00:05:17.410 Da kuma yanayin maganarta 00:05:17.410 --> 00:05:21.839 Yana nuni da cewa ta wulakanta shi ta hanyar kwatanta shi da tsayi 00:05:21.839 --> 00:05:23.439 Ma'anar daidai 00:05:23.439 --> 00:05:26.639 Cewa irin waɗannan maza suna da kamanni 00:05:26.639 --> 00:05:28.939 Ba su da mai ba da labari 00:05:28.939 --> 00:05:30.339 Abin takaici 00:05:30.339 --> 00:05:34.139 A yau, akwai matasa da yawa masu kula da kamannin su 00:05:34.139 --> 00:05:37.339 Don fita cikin mutane ta hanya mai kyau 00:05:37.339 --> 00:05:39.639 Idan yayi magana yayi magana 00:05:39.639 --> 00:05:42.639 Ya nuna maka dan hankalinsa 00:05:42.639 --> 00:05:46.040 Kuma har sai mutumin ya rabu da wannan annoba 00:05:46.040 --> 00:05:50.240 Ya kamata ya kasance yana da ilimi da al'adun da suke haɓaka tunaninsa 00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:53.939 Ba wai don haɓaka tsokar sa ba 00:05:53.939 --> 00:05:55.839 Kuma babban bala'i 00:05:55.839 --> 00:05:57.839 Idan mata da miji sun shagaltu 00:05:57.839 --> 00:06:00.439 Abin da ake kira triviality a yau 00:06:00.439 --> 00:06:04.730 Rayuwar aure za ta ruguje da sauri 00:06:04.730 --> 00:06:08.029 Kuma wanda ya kalli rayuwar mashahuran mutane sosai 00:06:08.029 --> 00:06:12.329 Ya sami zullumi da halaka da waɗannan mutane suka rayu a ciki 00:06:12.329 --> 00:06:16.129 Waɗanda suke yaudarar mutane da kamanceceniya 00:06:16.129 --> 00:06:20.129 Suna kwana a kan ƙaya na matsaloli da bambance-bambance 00:06:20.129 --> 00:06:23.930 Domin hankalinsa ya shagaltu da wasu abubuwa marasa muhimmanci 00:06:23.930 --> 00:06:28.129 Mafi yawan abin da ya dame shi shi ne yadda ake siffanta Al-Baraka na karya 00:06:28.129 --> 00:06:30.930 Kuma a buga a social media 00:06:30.930 --> 00:06:34.819 Domin samun mabiya da samun suna 00:06:34.819 --> 00:06:37.620 Wannan ba shine kawai wahala ba 00:06:37.620 --> 00:06:40.620 Wanda ta rayu a wannan lokaci 00:06:40.620 --> 00:06:42.920 Amma akwai sauran wahala 00:06:42.920 --> 00:06:45.420 Ta bayyana hakan da cewa: 00:06:45.420 --> 00:06:47.620 Idan nayi magana zan saketa 00:06:47.620 --> 00:06:50.209 Idan na yi shiru zan yi sharhi 00:06:50.209 --> 00:06:52.910 Ibn Hajar Allah ya yi masa rahama yana cewa 00:06:52.910 --> 00:06:55.110 Wanda kuma ya bayyana a gareni 00:06:55.110 --> 00:06:58.910 Ta so ta kwatanta masa mummunan yanayinta 00:06:58.910 --> 00:07:01.310 Ta nuna mugun halinsa 00:07:01.310 --> 00:07:03.709 Alkawari mai yuwuwar maganarta 00:07:03.709 --> 00:07:06.110 Idan ta yi masa korafin halin da take ciki 00:07:06.110 --> 00:07:08.910 Kuma ta san lokacin da ta ambace shi 00:07:08.910 --> 00:07:10.509 Babu wani abu makamancin haka 00:07:10.509 --> 00:07:12.910 Ya dau matakin ya sake ta 00:07:12.910 --> 00:07:14.910 Bai shafi sakinsa ba 00:07:14.910 --> 00:07:17.240 Don sonta a cikinsa 00:07:17.240 --> 00:07:19.839 Sai na haye jimla ta biyu 00:07:19.839 --> 00:07:21.639 Alamar cewa haka ne 00:07:21.639 --> 00:07:24.839 Idan ta yi hakuri a cikin wannan hali 00:07:24.839 --> 00:07:27.339 Ya zama kamar cokali a gare shi 00:07:27.339 --> 00:07:32.500 Wanda bashi da miji ko wani 00:07:32.500 --> 00:07:35.300 Ba ta zaune da shi lafiya 00:07:35.300 --> 00:07:38.720 Maimakon haka, tana rayuwa cikin damuwa na dindindin 00:07:38.720 --> 00:07:41.819 Alkali Iyad, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce 00:07:41.819 --> 00:07:44.720 Ya cika duk abin da na kwatanta 00:07:44.720 --> 00:07:47.120 Mummunan halaye da munanan halaye 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:50.420 Kuma ba ta tsira daga cutarwa ko cutarwa 00:07:50.420 --> 00:07:54.720 Bugu da ƙari, abin zargi ne ga mata da mutane 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:57.519 Kuma ta yi hattara da kamfaninsa 00:07:57.519 --> 00:07:59.720 Ban amince da kaina ba 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:02.519 Kuma babu kwanciyar hankali gare shi 00:08:02.519 --> 00:08:05.920 Tsammanin cutarwarsa ko rabuwarsa 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:09.319 Tana tare da shi kamar yana gefe guda 00:08:09.319 --> 00:08:11.620 Na tsoro da taka tsantsan 00:08:11.620 --> 00:08:14.920 Rashin kwanciyar hankali da kwanciyar hankali 00:08:14.920 --> 00:08:16.920 Larabawa suka ce wane ne 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:19.720 Mai hankali da rashin kwanciyar hankali 00:08:19.720 --> 00:08:22.519 Kamar mashin mashi ne 00:08:22.519 --> 00:08:24.519 Kamar gefen takobi 00:08:24.519 --> 00:08:28.420 Kamar ƙahon barewa 00:08:28.420 --> 00:08:30.420 Wani lamari mai mahimmanci ga mata 00:08:30.420 --> 00:08:32.419 A rayuwar aurenta 00:08:32.419 --> 00:08:36.620 Don jin kwanciyar hankali da kwanciyar hankali tare da mijinta 00:08:36.620 --> 00:08:39.019 Wannan matar bata san tsaro ba 00:08:39.019 --> 00:08:40.720 Kuma ba kwanciyar hankali 00:08:40.720 --> 00:08:43.620 Domin mijin baya karbar maganarta 00:08:43.620 --> 00:08:47.019 Yayi mata barazanar saki idan tayi magana 00:08:47.019 --> 00:08:51.240 Idan ta yi shiru za ta zauna da shi cikin shakku 00:08:51.240 --> 00:08:52.740 Kuma Allah Ta'ala 00:08:52.740 --> 00:08:54.740 Ya hana maza cutar da mata 00:08:54.840 --> 00:08:57.840 Ta hanyar dakatar da shi a rayuwar aure 00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:00.840 Ita ba matar aure ba ce kuma ba ta rabu ba 00:09:00.840 --> 00:09:02.840 Sai ya ce 00:09:02.840 --> 00:09:08.840 Kuma ba za ku iya yi wa mata adalci ba, ko da kun yi ƙoƙari. 00:09:08.840 --> 00:09:15.159 Don haka kada ku karkata gaba daya, har ku bar shi a rataye 00:09:15.159 --> 00:09:17.159 Al-Saadi Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce 00:09:17.159 --> 00:09:20.159 Idan matar ta bar mijinta 00:09:20.159 --> 00:09:22.159 Abin da ta kamata 00:09:22.259 --> 00:09:25.259 Ta zama kamar wadda aka rataye ba ta da miji 00:09:25.259 --> 00:09:28.259 Ta huta ta shirya aure 00:09:28.259 --> 00:09:32.259 Ba ta da mijin da zai iya biyan mata hakkinta 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:37.159 Maganar matar tana matukar goyan bayanta 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:43.159 Domin rayuwar aure ta ginu ne a kan alakar shari'a tsakanin ma'aurata 00:09:43.159 --> 00:09:47.159 Idan mijin ya kasa kiyaye macen 00:09:47.159 --> 00:09:49.159 Yana nuna mata jaraba 00:09:49.159 --> 00:09:52.159 Musamman a irin wannan lokaci 00:09:52.259 --> 00:09:57.259 A cikin abin da mata suke hulɗa da maza a cikin ayyuka da yawa 00:09:57.259 --> 00:10:00.450 Maganar mace ta uku ta nuna 00:10:00.450 --> 00:10:04.450 Duk da haka, tana son mijinta kuma ba ta son wani 00:10:04.450 --> 00:10:06.450 Domin idan ta kyamace ta 00:10:06.450 --> 00:10:10.450 Da na yi magana na nuna laifinsa don ya sake ta 00:10:10.450 --> 00:10:14.450 Amma ta gwammace ta yi shiru ba ta yi magana ba 00:10:14.450 --> 00:10:17.450 Ko da yake shi ma ya halatta 00:10:17.450 --> 00:10:19.450 Domin zai kasance a dakatar 00:10:19.549 --> 00:10:25.549 Ba ta samun daga rayuwar aure abin da wasu mata suke samu 00:10:25.549 --> 00:10:27.549 Sai dai da wuya 00:10:27.549 --> 00:10:32.809 Sai dai ta zabi zama da shi saboda son da take masa 00:10:32.809 --> 00:10:36.809 Shin namiji zai iya yaba wannan soyayyar da mace take masa? 00:10:36.809 --> 00:10:39.809 Da tsananin cin mutuncin da yayi mata 00:10:39.809 --> 00:10:43.809 Shin zai sake duba salon rayuwarsa da matarsa? 00:10:43.809 --> 00:10:49.500 Zamu cigaba a taro mai zuwa insha Allah 00:10:49.500 --> 00:10:52.600 Godiya ta tabbata ga Allah Ubangijin talikai