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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

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Men's items

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In the hadith of Umm Zara’

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The lover's husband

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There is no time without a woman suffering from her husband

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There is no suffering for the man from his wife

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The nature of this life is that it is not devoid of hardship

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But suffering differs from suffering

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There is temporary suffering

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There is constant suffering

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The most difficult and longest

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Suffering related to the character of a man or a woman

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The difficulty stems from a person's unwillingness to change his character

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And adapting to those around him

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Otherwise

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Every reprehensible creation is subject to change

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Whoever changes himself, God changes his conditions

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Some people may deny the possibility of changing morals

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Under the pretext that he was born with that

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And they say

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Imprinting prevails over imprinting

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He responds to this invitation

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Imam Al-Ghazali, may God have mercy on him

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And he says

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If morals do not accept change

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Commandments, sermons, and chastisements would have become invalid

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Al-Ghazali protests this statement with something else, saying:

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How can this be denied against humans?

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Changing the character of the animal is possible

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It transfers the goshawk from the Istihaash to the Anas

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The dog is a voracious eater

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To be polite, abstain, and let go

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And the horse is from the reins

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To smoothness and obedience

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All of this is a change in morals

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If this applies to animals

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In the human being whom God has honored with reason, first of all

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It is not valid to excuse the statement of the man or the woman

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This is my nature

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The good nature remains with him

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And bad temper changes

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What happened to us was the suffering of the first and second wives

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It's all due to bad temperaments in the man that he did not change

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This is the third suffering

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Narrated by the third woman

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So she says

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The lover's husband

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If I speak, I will release

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If I remain silent, I will comment

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Suffering indicates that a woman is not safe, neither in silence nor in conversation

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So what do you do?

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Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said

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The long embrace

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Al-Asmai said

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She says

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He doesn't have more than his length without use

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If I mention his faults, he will divorce me

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If he was silent, he would leave me hanging

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Neither any nor the same as Baal

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This woman describes her husband as tall

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Is she praising him or disparaging him?

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The context of the speech indicates slander

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What do you mean by this word?

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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said

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Al-Asmai said

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She wanted him not to have more than his height without benefit

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And someone else said

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It is a must-have length

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And it was said

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I described him at length

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Because length is mostly a guide to stupidity

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He also said, may God have mercy on him

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Abu Saeed Al-Dareer said

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The correct one

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That love

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The long and noble one

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He who owns his own affairs

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Women do not control it

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Rather, he rules over them as he wishes

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His wife is afraid to speak in his presence

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She is reluctantly silent

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Al-Zamakhshari said

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It is a serious complaint

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It's over

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This is supported by what happened in the narration of Yaqoub bin Al-Sakit

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From the increase at the end

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It is as disgusting as the tooth

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By opening the dictionary and tightening the lam

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That is, the abstract with its weight and meaning

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She indicates that she is wary of him

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It is possible that she wanted this

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He is reckless and cannot settle

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Like sharp teeth

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As for describing him as a fool, it is foolish

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This is clearly reprehensible

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The Arabs say that he has a view without an informant

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He sees boys as palm trees

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And you don't know what income is

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As for describing it as not being controlled by women

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This is one of the meanings of manhood

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It is not considered reprehensible

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And the context of her speech

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It indicates that she disparages him by describing him as being long

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The correct meaning

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That these kind of men have looks

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They have no informant

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Unfortunately

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Today, there are many young people who take care of their appearance

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To go out among the people in an elegant way

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If he speaks and speaks

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He showed you his little mind

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And until the man gets rid of this scourge

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He should have knowledge and culture that develop his mind

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Not just to develop his muscles

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And the biggest disaster

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If the husband and wife are busy

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What is called triviality today

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Marital life will collapse quickly

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And who looked at the lives of celebrities closely

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He found the misery and destruction that these people lived through

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Who deceive people with flashy appearances

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They sleep on the thorns of problems and differences

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Because his minds are preoccupied with trivial matters

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Most of his concern was the false portrayal of Al-Baraqa

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And publish it on social media

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To gain followers and gain fame

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This is not the only suffering

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Which she lived this time

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But there is other suffering

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She expressed it by saying:

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If I speak, I will release

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If I remain silent, I will comment

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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said

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Which also appears to me

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She wanted to describe her bad condition to him

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She pointed out his bad character

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The potential promise of her words

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If she complains to him about her condition

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And she knew that when she mentioned it to him

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Nothing like that

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He took the initiative to divorce her

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It does not affect his divorce

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For her love in him

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Then I crossed the second sentence

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An indication that it is

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If she remains patient in this situation

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It was like a spoon to him

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Which does not have a husband or any

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She does not live with him in peace

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Rather, she lives in constant anxiety

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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said

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It fulfills everything I described

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Bad manners and bad behavior

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And she is not safe from harm or harm

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Moreover, it is reprehensible for women and people

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And she is wary of his company

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Not confident in myself

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And there is no stability for him

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Expecting his harm or separation

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She is with him as if he were on the same page

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Of fear and caution

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Lack of reassurance and stability

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The Arabs say who it is

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Cautious and unstable

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It's like the point of a spear

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Like the edge of a sword

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Like the horn of a gazelle

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An important issue for women

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In her married life

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To feel safe and stable with her husband

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This woman does not know security

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Nor stability

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Because the husband does not accept her words

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He threatens her with divorce if she speaks

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If she remained silent, she would live with him in suspense

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And God Almighty

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He forbade men from harming women

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By suspending it in married life

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She is neither a wife nor divorced

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And he said

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And you will not be able to treat women justly, even if you strive.

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So do not incline completely, lest you leave it hanging

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Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said

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If the wife leaves her husband

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What she should

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She became like a hanging woman who has no husband

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She rests and prepares for marriage

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She does not have a husband who can fulfill her rights

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The woman's comment is very supportive of her

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Because marital life is based on the legal relationship between the spouses

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If the husband fails to keep the woman chaste

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It exposes her to temptation

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Especially in a time like this

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In which women interact with men in many jobs

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The words of the third woman indicate

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However, she loves her husband and does not want anyone else

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Because if she hates it

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I would have spoken and pointed out his faults so he would divorce her

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But she preferred to remain silent rather than speak

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Although silence is also permitted

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Because it will remain suspended

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She does not get from married life what other women get

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Except rarely

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However, she chose to stay with him because of her love for him

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Can a man appreciate this love that a woman has for him?

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With the severity of his abuse of her

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Will he reconsider his lifestyle with his wife?

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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing

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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds