WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:11.210 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:16.920 --> 00:00:20.920 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 00:00:20.920 --> 00:00:27.320 The answer to this question may be shocking to men 00:00:27.320 --> 00:00:31.320 But it is known to women in general 00:00:31.320 --> 00:00:34.320 Even if we hide it from men 00:00:34.320 --> 00:00:36.420 It is the nature of women 00:00:36.420 --> 00:00:39.420 Hiding some of her characteristics from men 00:00:39.420 --> 00:00:43.420 Even if this trait is innate to her 00:00:43.420 --> 00:00:45.579 And hope, honorable man 00:00:45.579 --> 00:00:48.579 Saying Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:00:48.579 --> 00:00:50.579 In the hadith of Anas bin Malik 00:00:50.579 --> 00:00:52.609 When he said 00:00:52.609 --> 00:00:56.609 Umm Salim came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:00:56.609 --> 00:00:58.609 She said to him 00:00:58.609 --> 00:01:00.609 And Aisha is with him 00:01:00.609 --> 00:01:02.609 O Messenger of God 00:01:02.609 --> 00:01:05.609 A woman sees what a man sees in a dream 00:01:05.609 --> 00:01:09.609 She sees from herself what a man sees from himself 00:01:09.609 --> 00:01:11.609 Aisha said 00:01:11.609 --> 00:01:13.609 O mother of Salim 00:01:13.609 --> 00:01:16.640 Women exposed your right hand 00:01:16.640 --> 00:01:18.640 He said to Aisha 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:20.640 Rather, you raised your right hand 00:01:20.640 --> 00:01:22.640 Yes 00:01:22.640 --> 00:01:24.640 Take a bath for Umm Salim 00:01:24.640 --> 00:01:26.640 If she saw that 00:01:26.640 --> 00:01:28.700 Narrated by Muslim 00:01:28.700 --> 00:01:31.700 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:31.700 --> 00:01:33.700 Aisha’s statement to Umm Salim 00:01:33.700 --> 00:01:35.700 Women were exposed 00:01:35.700 --> 00:01:37.700 That is, some of their secrets were revealed 00:01:37.700 --> 00:01:40.700 And what he hides from his need for men 00:01:40.700 --> 00:01:42.700 And seeing a wet dream 00:01:42.700 --> 00:01:45.799 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:45.799 --> 00:01:50.799 This indicates that it is their habit to conceal such things 00:01:50.799 --> 00:01:54.049 Mother of believers 00:01:54.049 --> 00:01:58.049 I hate for men to know that women desire men 00:01:58.049 --> 00:02:02.049 And it happens to a man in sleep 00:02:02.049 --> 00:02:07.049 Because this is something women are usually ashamed of 00:02:07.049 --> 00:02:11.110 Therefore, it is not appropriate for a man to demand from his wife 00:02:11.110 --> 00:02:13.110 Declaring her desire for it 00:02:13.110 --> 00:02:16.110 As he declares his desire for her 00:02:16.110 --> 00:02:21.110 Because this request is against a woman’s nature and modesty 00:02:21.110 --> 00:02:24.110 Insinuation and temptation are enough for her 00:02:24.110 --> 00:02:27.110 And quick response to her husband 00:02:27.110 --> 00:02:29.240 The question again 00:02:30.240 --> 00:02:34.240 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 00:02:34.240 --> 00:02:37.240 Before answering this question 00:02:37.240 --> 00:02:43.500 We need to know the nature of a woman’s view of her husband 00:02:43.500 --> 00:02:46.500 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 00:02:46.500 --> 00:02:50.500 Women greatly admire men's heroism 00:02:50.500 --> 00:02:54.500 Because her ability is less than what men are capable of 00:02:54.500 --> 00:02:58.500 Because it sees the heroism of the husband and kinship 00:02:58.500 --> 00:03:02.500 What reassures her mind about the evil of attacks and raids 00:03:02.500 --> 00:03:08.319 This is what a woman loves in her husband in the past 00:03:08.319 --> 00:03:13.319 Has there been any change in this nature over time? 00:03:13.319 --> 00:03:17.349 Yes, this instinct has changed for some women 00:03:17.349 --> 00:03:22.349 Due to the change in the culture of society and the culture of women 00:03:22.349 --> 00:03:25.349 And her view of men changed 00:03:25.349 --> 00:03:29.349 That is, whether this man was a son or a brother 00:03:29.349 --> 00:03:32.509 Or a husband or guardian 00:03:32.509 --> 00:03:35.509 What ideas are instilled in women today? 00:03:35.509 --> 00:03:40.509 Like she must be financially independent from the man 00:03:40.509 --> 00:03:44.509 And to work in any job to collect money 00:03:44.509 --> 00:03:47.509 And the concept of freedom requires that it be rejected 00:03:47.509 --> 00:03:51.509 The man controls her in any way 00:03:51.509 --> 00:03:55.509 She has complete freedom in all her actions 00:03:55.509 --> 00:03:58.509 Without referring to the man 00:03:58.509 --> 00:04:02.509 And she must rebel against the guardianship of men 00:04:02.509 --> 00:04:04.509 To become a guardian herself 00:04:04.509 --> 00:04:09.509 All of this and other ideas are spread among women 00:04:09.509 --> 00:04:13.509 It changed women's perception of men 00:04:13.509 --> 00:04:16.670 I wonder after this culture 00:04:16.670 --> 00:04:19.670 What does a woman like in a man? 00:04:19.670 --> 00:04:22.670 And what you will be proud of among women 00:04:22.670 --> 00:04:26.089 It gave us birth to Internet culture 00:04:26.089 --> 00:04:29.089 And social media 00:04:29.089 --> 00:04:32.089 A new style that women love in a husband 00:04:32.089 --> 00:04:35.089 It is a style of fame 00:04:35.089 --> 00:04:38.089 And the celebrities who appear in these media 00:04:38.089 --> 00:04:40.089 Ideally 00:04:40.089 --> 00:04:42.089 Contrary to truth and reality 00:04:42.089 --> 00:04:45.180 It is worn on women 00:04:45.180 --> 00:04:49.180 If a woman marries such celebrities 00:04:49.180 --> 00:04:52.279 I discovered the bitter truth 00:04:52.279 --> 00:04:55.279 Here the question will come again 00:04:55.279 --> 00:04:59.279 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:02.410 Evidence of hadith or sowing 00:05:02.410 --> 00:05:05.410 But women don't believe us 00:05:05.410 --> 00:05:08.410 When we talk about their husbands 00:05:08.410 --> 00:05:11.410 Therefore, we pledged and contracted 00:05:11.410 --> 00:05:14.410 That they should not conceal anything from their husbands 00:05:14.410 --> 00:05:17.410 For their complete knowledge 00:05:17.410 --> 00:05:20.410 A woman does not believe in talking about her husband 00:05:20.410 --> 00:05:23.410 And you try to show it 00:05:23.410 --> 00:05:26.410 In his best image in front of women 00:05:26.410 --> 00:05:29.410 To be proud of them 00:05:29.410 --> 00:05:32.410 Although she may live with him in extreme injustice and cruelty 00:05:32.410 --> 00:05:35.410 But it is in front of women 00:05:35.410 --> 00:05:38.540 Show otherwise 00:05:38.540 --> 00:05:41.540 Especially if the woman has a co-wife 00:05:41.540 --> 00:05:44.540 She may become satisfied with her husband 00:05:44.540 --> 00:05:47.759 To spite her 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:50.759 On the authority of Asmaa, may God be pleased with her 00:05:50.759 --> 00:05:53.759 A woman said, O Messenger of God 00:05:53.759 --> 00:05:56.759 I have a wife 00:05:56.759 --> 00:05:59.759 Is it wrong for me if I get satisfied with my husband? 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:02.759 Other than the one who gives me 00:06:02.759 --> 00:06:05.759 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:06:05.759 --> 00:06:08.759 Satisfied with what is not given 00:06:08.759 --> 00:06:11.819 My clothes are false 00:06:12.819 --> 00:06:15.889 The satiated is the one who shows satiety 00:06:15.889 --> 00:06:19.019 And not full 00:06:19.019 --> 00:06:22.019 What it means here is that it appears 00:06:22.019 --> 00:06:25.019 He got her virtue 00:06:25.019 --> 00:06:28.019 And it doesn't happen 00:06:28.019 --> 00:06:31.019 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, counted doing it 00:06:31.019 --> 00:06:34.180 Of forbidden false speech 00:06:34.180 --> 00:06:37.180 But he hates that for women 00:06:37.180 --> 00:06:40.180 Because it comes between the other woman 00:06:40.180 --> 00:06:43.180 Like magic that separates a person 00:06:43.180 --> 00:06:46.500 And his wife 00:06:46.500 --> 00:06:49.500 But even this is true 00:06:49.500 --> 00:06:52.500 The culture of society influenced it 00:06:52.500 --> 00:06:55.500 Women today are not praised 00:06:55.500 --> 00:06:58.500 With the strength and courage of a man 00:06:58.500 --> 00:07:01.500 And his strength in wars 00:07:01.500 --> 00:07:04.500 Rather, she brags about the extent of her control 00:07:04.500 --> 00:07:07.500 On men and other things 00:07:07.500 --> 00:07:10.500 May God have mercy on the righteous women 00:07:10.500 --> 00:07:13.850 There are other influences 00:07:13.850 --> 00:07:16.850 In a woman's description of her husband 00:07:16.850 --> 00:07:19.850 Like the environment you are in 00:07:19.850 --> 00:07:22.850 If it is a good environment 00:07:22.850 --> 00:07:25.850 She showed her husband to be a righteous ascetic 00:07:25.850 --> 00:07:28.850 Even if it was in a luxurious environment 00:07:28.850 --> 00:07:31.850 She showed her husband that he was generous 00:07:31.850 --> 00:07:34.850 Who does not respond to her request 00:07:34.850 --> 00:07:37.850 Its women tend to control its men 00:07:37.850 --> 00:07:40.850 She showed how strong she was 00:07:40.850 --> 00:07:43.939 In control of it 00:07:43.939 --> 00:07:46.939 The same applies to contentment and anger 00:07:46.939 --> 00:07:49.939 If she was satisfied, she would raise him to heaven 00:07:49.939 --> 00:07:52.939 Even if she was angry, she made him 00:07:52.939 --> 00:07:56.100 At the bottom of two bastards 00:07:56.100 --> 00:07:59.100 And do not escape this scourge 00:07:59.100 --> 00:08:02.100 Except the righteous and faithful woman 00:08:02.100 --> 00:08:05.100 And I made her worse at that 00:08:05.100 --> 00:08:08.100 Mother of the Believers Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:08:08.100 --> 00:08:11.329 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:08:11.329 --> 00:08:14.329 She said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, told me 00:08:14.329 --> 00:08:17.329 I know 00:08:17.329 --> 00:08:20.329 If you are satisfied with me 00:08:20.329 --> 00:08:23.329 And if you are angry with me 00:08:23.329 --> 00:08:26.329 She said so I said how do you know that? 00:08:26.329 --> 00:08:29.329 He said, “If you are.” 00:08:29.329 --> 00:08:32.330 If you are satisfied with me 00:08:32.330 --> 00:08:35.330 You say, “No, by the Lord of Muhammad.” 00:08:35.330 --> 00:08:38.330 And if you are angry with me 00:08:38.330 --> 00:08:41.330 I said, “No, by the Lord of Abraham.” 00:08:41.330 --> 00:08:44.389 She said I said 00:08:44.389 --> 00:08:47.389 Yes, by God, O Messenger of God 00:08:47.389 --> 00:08:50.490 I only leave your name behind 00:08:50.490 --> 00:08:53.740 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:08:53.740 --> 00:08:56.740 The woman of faith 00:08:56.740 --> 00:08:59.740 It comes in the hadith of Alsi bin Malik 00:08:59.740 --> 00:09:02.740 On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, that 00:09:02.740 --> 00:09:05.740 He said three fatalities 00:09:05.740 --> 00:09:08.740 Scarcity is obedient 00:09:08.740 --> 00:09:11.740 And his passion is followed 00:09:11.740 --> 00:09:14.740 And one's admiration for oneself is good 00:09:14.740 --> 00:09:17.740 And three salvations 00:09:17.740 --> 00:09:20.740 Justice in contentment and anger 00:09:20.740 --> 00:09:23.740 The intention is in wealth and poverty 00:09:24.740 --> 00:09:27.779 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat 00:09:27.779 --> 00:09:30.940 She is committed to justice 00:09:30.940 --> 00:09:33.940 Speaking of her husband 00:09:33.940 --> 00:09:36.940 And don't underestimate it, really 00:09:36.940 --> 00:09:39.940 Nor does it elevate him above his status 00:09:39.940 --> 00:09:42.940 And do not claim that he has any honor 00:09:42.940 --> 00:09:45.940 What he doesn't have 00:09:45.940 --> 00:09:49.289 And do not make any defects in it 00:09:49.289 --> 00:09:52.289 In case of discontent, what is not in it 00:09:52.289 --> 00:09:55.289 What do you like about your husband? 00:09:55.289 --> 00:09:59.789 And what do you like about it? 00:09:59.789 --> 00:10:02.789 We will continue in the next meeting, God willing 00:10:02.789 --> 00:10:05.789 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds