1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:11,210 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,920 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 4 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:27,320 The answer to this question may be shocking to men 5 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:31,320 But it is known to women in general 6 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:34,320 Even if we hide it from men 7 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:36,420 It is the nature of women 8 00:00:36,420 --> 00:00:39,420 Hiding some of her characteristics from men 9 00:00:39,420 --> 00:00:43,420 Even if this trait is innate to her 10 00:00:43,420 --> 00:00:45,579 And hope, honorable man 11 00:00:45,579 --> 00:00:48,579 Saying Aisha, may God be pleased with her 12 00:00:48,579 --> 00:00:50,579 In the hadith of Anas bin Malik 13 00:00:50,579 --> 00:00:52,609 When he said 14 00:00:52,609 --> 00:00:56,609 Umm Salim came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 15 00:00:56,609 --> 00:00:58,609 She said to him 16 00:00:58,609 --> 00:01:00,609 And Aisha is with him 17 00:01:00,609 --> 00:01:02,609 O Messenger of God 18 00:01:02,609 --> 00:01:05,609 A woman sees what a man sees in a dream 19 00:01:05,609 --> 00:01:09,609 She sees from herself what a man sees from himself 20 00:01:09,609 --> 00:01:11,609 Aisha said 21 00:01:11,609 --> 00:01:13,609 O mother of Salim 22 00:01:13,609 --> 00:01:16,640 Women exposed your right hand 23 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:18,640 He said to Aisha 24 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:20,640 Rather, you raised your right hand 25 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:22,640 Yes 26 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,640 Take a bath for Umm Salim 27 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:26,640 If she saw that 28 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,700 Narrated by Muslim 29 00:01:28,700 --> 00:01:31,700 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 30 00:01:31,700 --> 00:01:33,700 Aisha’s statement to Umm Salim 31 00:01:33,700 --> 00:01:35,700 Women were exposed 32 00:01:35,700 --> 00:01:37,700 That is, some of their secrets were revealed 33 00:01:37,700 --> 00:01:40,700 And what he hides from his need for men 34 00:01:40,700 --> 00:01:42,700 And seeing a wet dream 35 00:01:42,700 --> 00:01:45,799 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 36 00:01:45,799 --> 00:01:50,799 This indicates that it is their habit to conceal such things 37 00:01:50,799 --> 00:01:54,049 Mother of believers 38 00:01:54,049 --> 00:01:58,049 I hate for men to know that women desire men 39 00:01:58,049 --> 00:02:02,049 And it happens to a man in sleep 40 00:02:02,049 --> 00:02:07,049 Because this is something women are usually ashamed of 41 00:02:07,049 --> 00:02:11,110 Therefore, it is not appropriate for a man to demand from his wife 42 00:02:11,110 --> 00:02:13,110 Declaring her desire for it 43 00:02:13,110 --> 00:02:16,110 As he declares his desire for her 44 00:02:16,110 --> 00:02:21,110 Because this request is against a woman’s nature and modesty 45 00:02:21,110 --> 00:02:24,110 Insinuation and temptation are enough for her 46 00:02:24,110 --> 00:02:27,110 And quick response to her husband 47 00:02:27,110 --> 00:02:29,240 The question again 48 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:34,240 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 49 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,240 Before answering this question 50 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:43,500 We need to know the nature of a woman’s view of her husband 51 00:02:43,500 --> 00:02:46,500 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 52 00:02:46,500 --> 00:02:50,500 Women greatly admire men's heroism 53 00:02:50,500 --> 00:02:54,500 Because her ability is less than what men are capable of 54 00:02:54,500 --> 00:02:58,500 Because it sees the heroism of the husband and kinship 55 00:02:58,500 --> 00:03:02,500 What reassures her mind about the evil of attacks and raids 56 00:03:02,500 --> 00:03:08,319 This is what a woman loves in her husband in the past 57 00:03:08,319 --> 00:03:13,319 Has there been any change in this nature over time? 58 00:03:13,319 --> 00:03:17,349 Yes, this instinct has changed for some women 59 00:03:17,349 --> 00:03:22,349 Due to the change in the culture of society and the culture of women 60 00:03:22,349 --> 00:03:25,349 And her view of men changed 61 00:03:25,349 --> 00:03:29,349 That is, whether this man was a son or a brother 62 00:03:29,349 --> 00:03:32,509 Or a husband or guardian 63 00:03:32,509 --> 00:03:35,509 What ideas are instilled in women today? 64 00:03:35,509 --> 00:03:40,509 Like she must be financially independent from the man 65 00:03:40,509 --> 00:03:44,509 And to work in any job to collect money 66 00:03:44,509 --> 00:03:47,509 And the concept of freedom requires that it be rejected 67 00:03:47,509 --> 00:03:51,509 The man controls her in any way 68 00:03:51,509 --> 00:03:55,509 She has complete freedom in all her actions 69 00:03:55,509 --> 00:03:58,509 Without referring to the man 70 00:03:58,509 --> 00:04:02,509 And she must rebel against the guardianship of men 71 00:04:02,509 --> 00:04:04,509 To become a guardian herself 72 00:04:04,509 --> 00:04:09,509 All of this and other ideas are spread among women 73 00:04:09,509 --> 00:04:13,509 It changed women's perception of men 74 00:04:13,509 --> 00:04:16,670 I wonder after this culture 75 00:04:16,670 --> 00:04:19,670 What does a woman like in a man? 76 00:04:19,670 --> 00:04:22,670 And what you will be proud of among women 77 00:04:22,670 --> 00:04:26,089 It gave us birth to Internet culture 78 00:04:26,089 --> 00:04:29,089 And social media 79 00:04:29,089 --> 00:04:32,089 A new style that women love in a husband 80 00:04:32,089 --> 00:04:35,089 It is a style of fame 81 00:04:35,089 --> 00:04:38,089 And the celebrities who appear in these media 82 00:04:38,089 --> 00:04:40,089 Ideally 83 00:04:40,089 --> 00:04:42,089 Contrary to truth and reality 84 00:04:42,089 --> 00:04:45,180 It is worn on women 85 00:04:45,180 --> 00:04:49,180 If a woman marries such celebrities 86 00:04:49,180 --> 00:04:52,279 I discovered the bitter truth 87 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:55,279 Here the question will come again 88 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:59,279 Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband? 89 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:02,410 Evidence of hadith or sowing 90 00:05:02,410 --> 00:05:05,410 But women don't believe us 91 00:05:05,410 --> 00:05:08,410 When we talk about their husbands 92 00:05:08,410 --> 00:05:11,410 Therefore, we pledged and contracted 93 00:05:11,410 --> 00:05:14,410 That they should not conceal anything from their husbands 94 00:05:14,410 --> 00:05:17,410 For their complete knowledge 95 00:05:17,410 --> 00:05:20,410 A woman does not believe in talking about her husband 96 00:05:20,410 --> 00:05:23,410 And you try to show it 97 00:05:23,410 --> 00:05:26,410 In his best image in front of women 98 00:05:26,410 --> 00:05:29,410 To be proud of them 99 00:05:29,410 --> 00:05:32,410 Although she may live with him in extreme injustice and cruelty 100 00:05:32,410 --> 00:05:35,410 But it is in front of women 101 00:05:35,410 --> 00:05:38,540 Show otherwise 102 00:05:38,540 --> 00:05:41,540 Especially if the woman has a co-wife 103 00:05:41,540 --> 00:05:44,540 She may become satisfied with her husband 104 00:05:44,540 --> 00:05:47,759 To spite her 105 00:05:47,759 --> 00:05:50,759 On the authority of Asmaa, may God be pleased with her 106 00:05:50,759 --> 00:05:53,759 A woman said, O Messenger of God 107 00:05:53,759 --> 00:05:56,759 I have a wife 108 00:05:56,759 --> 00:05:59,759 Is it wrong for me if I get satisfied with my husband? 109 00:05:59,759 --> 00:06:02,759 Other than the one who gives me 110 00:06:02,759 --> 00:06:05,759 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 111 00:06:05,759 --> 00:06:08,759 Satisfied with what is not given 112 00:06:08,759 --> 00:06:11,819 My clothes are false 113 00:06:12,819 --> 00:06:15,889 The satiated is the one who shows satiety 114 00:06:15,889 --> 00:06:19,019 And not full 115 00:06:19,019 --> 00:06:22,019 What it means here is that it appears 116 00:06:22,019 --> 00:06:25,019 He got her virtue 117 00:06:25,019 --> 00:06:28,019 And it doesn't happen 118 00:06:28,019 --> 00:06:31,019 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, counted doing it 119 00:06:31,019 --> 00:06:34,180 Of forbidden false speech 120 00:06:34,180 --> 00:06:37,180 But he hates that for women 121 00:06:37,180 --> 00:06:40,180 Because it comes between the other woman 122 00:06:40,180 --> 00:06:43,180 Like magic that separates a person 123 00:06:43,180 --> 00:06:46,500 And his wife 124 00:06:46,500 --> 00:06:49,500 But even this is true 125 00:06:49,500 --> 00:06:52,500 The culture of society influenced it 126 00:06:52,500 --> 00:06:55,500 Women today are not praised 127 00:06:55,500 --> 00:06:58,500 With the strength and courage of a man 128 00:06:58,500 --> 00:07:01,500 And his strength in wars 129 00:07:01,500 --> 00:07:04,500 Rather, she brags about the extent of her control 130 00:07:04,500 --> 00:07:07,500 On men and other things 131 00:07:07,500 --> 00:07:10,500 May God have mercy on the righteous women 132 00:07:10,500 --> 00:07:13,850 There are other influences 133 00:07:13,850 --> 00:07:16,850 In a woman's description of her husband 134 00:07:16,850 --> 00:07:19,850 Like the environment you are in 135 00:07:19,850 --> 00:07:22,850 If it is a good environment 136 00:07:22,850 --> 00:07:25,850 She showed her husband to be a righteous ascetic 137 00:07:25,850 --> 00:07:28,850 Even if it was in a luxurious environment 138 00:07:28,850 --> 00:07:31,850 She showed her husband that he was generous 139 00:07:31,850 --> 00:07:34,850 Who does not respond to her request 140 00:07:34,850 --> 00:07:37,850 Its women tend to control its men 141 00:07:37,850 --> 00:07:40,850 She showed how strong she was 142 00:07:40,850 --> 00:07:43,939 In control of it 143 00:07:43,939 --> 00:07:46,939 The same applies to contentment and anger 144 00:07:46,939 --> 00:07:49,939 If she was satisfied, she would raise him to heaven 145 00:07:49,939 --> 00:07:52,939 Even if she was angry, she made him 146 00:07:52,939 --> 00:07:56,100 At the bottom of two bastards 147 00:07:56,100 --> 00:07:59,100 And do not escape this scourge 148 00:07:59,100 --> 00:08:02,100 Except the righteous and faithful woman 149 00:08:02,100 --> 00:08:05,100 And I made her worse at that 150 00:08:05,100 --> 00:08:08,100 Mother of the Believers Aisha, may God be pleased with her 151 00:08:08,100 --> 00:08:11,329 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 152 00:08:11,329 --> 00:08:14,329 She said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, told me 153 00:08:14,329 --> 00:08:17,329 I know 154 00:08:17,329 --> 00:08:20,329 If you are satisfied with me 155 00:08:20,329 --> 00:08:23,329 And if you are angry with me 156 00:08:23,329 --> 00:08:26,329 She said so I said how do you know that? 157 00:08:26,329 --> 00:08:29,329 He said, “If you are.” 158 00:08:29,329 --> 00:08:32,330 If you are satisfied with me 159 00:08:32,330 --> 00:08:35,330 You say, “No, by the Lord of Muhammad.” 160 00:08:35,330 --> 00:08:38,330 And if you are angry with me 161 00:08:38,330 --> 00:08:41,330 I said, “No, by the Lord of Abraham.” 162 00:08:41,330 --> 00:08:44,389 She said I said 163 00:08:44,389 --> 00:08:47,389 Yes, by God, O Messenger of God 164 00:08:47,389 --> 00:08:50,490 I only leave your name behind 165 00:08:50,490 --> 00:08:53,740 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 166 00:08:53,740 --> 00:08:56,740 The woman of faith 167 00:08:56,740 --> 00:08:59,740 It comes in the hadith of Alsi bin Malik 168 00:08:59,740 --> 00:09:02,740 On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, that 169 00:09:02,740 --> 00:09:05,740 He said three fatalities 170 00:09:05,740 --> 00:09:08,740 Scarcity is obedient 171 00:09:08,740 --> 00:09:11,740 And his passion is followed 172 00:09:11,740 --> 00:09:14,740 And one's admiration for oneself is good 173 00:09:14,740 --> 00:09:17,740 And three salvations 174 00:09:17,740 --> 00:09:20,740 Justice in contentment and anger 175 00:09:20,740 --> 00:09:23,740 The intention is in wealth and poverty 176 00:09:24,740 --> 00:09:27,779 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat 177 00:09:27,779 --> 00:09:30,940 She is committed to justice 178 00:09:30,940 --> 00:09:33,940 Speaking of her husband 179 00:09:33,940 --> 00:09:36,940 And don't underestimate it, really 180 00:09:36,940 --> 00:09:39,940 Nor does it elevate him above his status 181 00:09:39,940 --> 00:09:42,940 And do not claim that he has any honor 182 00:09:42,940 --> 00:09:45,940 What he doesn't have 183 00:09:45,940 --> 00:09:49,289 And do not make any defects in it 184 00:09:49,289 --> 00:09:52,289 In case of discontent, what is not in it 185 00:09:52,289 --> 00:09:55,289 What do you like about your husband? 186 00:09:55,289 --> 00:09:59,789 And what do you like about it? 187 00:09:59,789 --> 00:10:02,789 We will continue in the next meeting, God willing 188 00:10:02,789 --> 00:10:05,789 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds