WEBVTT 00:00:00.020 --> 00:00:03.419 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.419 --> 00:00:16.769 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zurrah 00:00:16.769 --> 00:00:21.570 Take your time, so-and-so, don't break the bottle. 00:00:21.570 --> 00:00:29.640 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, likened the woman to a glass bottle 00:00:29.640 --> 00:00:34.039 The nature of glass is that it breaks quickly 00:00:34.039 --> 00:00:37.439 He ordered the men to be considerate and gentle 00:00:37.539 --> 00:00:42.340 It was mentioned in the hadith of Anas bin Malik, may God be pleased with him, that he said: 00:00:42.340 --> 00:00:48.140 The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, had a sharp tongue called Anjshah 00:00:48.140 --> 00:00:50.539 He had a good voice 00:00:50.539 --> 00:00:54.240 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to him 00:00:54.240 --> 00:00:59.039 Be careful, Anjesha, don't break the bottle. 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:00.939 Qatada said 00:01:00.939 --> 00:01:03.640 It means the weakness of women 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:06.189 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:01:06.290 --> 00:01:08.989 Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:08.989 --> 00:01:12.390 Because when the camels move with their horseshoes 00:01:12.390 --> 00:01:14.390 And increase her walking with it 00:01:14.390 --> 00:01:16.790 They are afraid of falling 00:01:16.790 --> 00:01:21.189 This will cause them to break, which happens to bottles 00:01:22.689 --> 00:01:28.189 Rather, it is just the rapid movement of the camels and the frequent shaking while they are on top of it 00:01:28.189 --> 00:01:33.180 It makes her tired and hurts her body even without falling 00:01:33.180 --> 00:01:36.579 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:36.579 --> 00:01:39.280 It means the weakness of women 00:01:39.280 --> 00:01:41.579 He likened them to bottles 00:01:41.579 --> 00:01:43.579 Because they are quickly affected 00:01:43.579 --> 00:01:45.579 And because they don't flog 00:01:45.579 --> 00:01:50.780 There was a fear that some of them would fall due to the intensity and speed of the traffic 00:01:50.780 --> 00:01:54.579 Or they suffer from excessive movement and disturbance 00:01:54.579 --> 00:01:58.079 Which is about speed and urgency 00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:03.920 There is another meaning referred to by Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him 00:02:03.920 --> 00:02:05.120 And he said 00:02:05.120 --> 00:02:08.120 He likened them to her because of their weak resolve 00:02:08.120 --> 00:02:11.120 Bottles break quickly 00:02:11.120 --> 00:02:14.120 Angsha was chasing them 00:02:14.120 --> 00:02:18.120 He recites from the qarid and rajaz something that contains Shabib 00:02:18.120 --> 00:02:20.620 He was not sure that he would tempt them 00:02:20.620 --> 00:02:23.120 Or their hearts will fall 00:02:23.120 --> 00:02:26.120 So he ordered him to stop doing that 00:02:26.120 --> 00:02:30.830 A woman is as tender-hearted as a bottle 00:02:30.830 --> 00:02:33.830 The bitter word breaks it 00:02:33.830 --> 00:02:39.830 If a woman cannot tolerate a hurtful word because of the tenderness of her heart 00:02:39.830 --> 00:02:43.830 How can she tolerate someone hitting her body and face? 00:02:43.830 --> 00:02:45.830 He twists her arm 00:02:45.830 --> 00:02:49.050 As if in a wrestling ring 00:02:49.050 --> 00:02:53.050 And whoever wants to follow the example of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:53.050 --> 00:02:55.050 In his treatment of his wife 00:02:55.050 --> 00:02:58.240 Consider this hadith 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:01.240 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 00:03:01.240 --> 00:03:04.240 What the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, struck 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:06.240 Nothing in his hand 00:03:06.240 --> 00:03:09.240 No woman or servant 00:03:09.240 --> 00:03:12.240 Unless he strives for the sake of God 00:03:12.240 --> 00:03:17.340 He never did anything to him and he took revenge on its owner 00:03:17.340 --> 00:03:21.340 Unless something of God’s prohibitions is violated 00:03:21.340 --> 00:03:24.340 So he avenges God Almighty 00:03:24.340 --> 00:03:26.500 Narrated by Muslim 00:03:26.500 --> 00:03:28.500 Consider the honorable brother-in-law 00:03:28.500 --> 00:03:32.599 What is in this biography of the morals of prophecy? 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:35.599 He never hit with his hand 00:03:35.599 --> 00:03:37.659 He did not avenge himself 00:03:37.659 --> 00:03:41.819 This is the prophetic wisdom in dealing 00:03:41.819 --> 00:03:45.819 A man's haste in dealing with his wife by beating him 00:03:45.819 --> 00:03:49.819 Glory be to the lack of wisdom and reason 00:03:49.819 --> 00:03:51.819 Even if you think about it a little 00:03:51.819 --> 00:03:54.819 He would have found that there were solutions before multiplication 00:03:54.819 --> 00:03:58.819 He dealt with the matter in a better and more effective way 00:03:58.819 --> 00:04:03.819 But it is haste combined with anger and self-defense 00:04:03.819 --> 00:04:08.169 Given the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:08.169 --> 00:04:10.169 In his advice to his friends 00:04:10.169 --> 00:04:13.169 In the way they deal with their wives 00:04:13.169 --> 00:04:17.170 We find that it guides them to kindness and good relations 00:04:17.170 --> 00:04:19.170 Shows that multiplication 00:04:19.170 --> 00:04:23.170 Although it is permitted in certain cases with controls 00:04:23.170 --> 00:04:26.170 It is neither the first nor the best solution 00:04:26.170 --> 00:04:29.170 Which the rational man begins with 00:04:29.170 --> 00:04:33.269 Here, my dear husband, are some hadiths 00:04:33.269 --> 00:04:37.490 On the authority of Muawiyah Al-Qushayri, may God be pleased with him, he said: 00:04:37.490 --> 00:04:39.490 I said, O Messenger of God 00:04:39.490 --> 00:04:43.490 Our wives are what we take from them and what we leave behind 00:04:43.490 --> 00:04:47.490 He said: Bring your tillage if you grow up 00:04:47.490 --> 00:04:49.490 And feed her if she is fed 00:04:49.490 --> 00:04:52.490 Pussy her if she is clothed 00:04:52.490 --> 00:04:55.490 Do not make an ugly face or hit 00:04:55.490 --> 00:04:58.519 Narrated by Abu Dawood 00:04:58.519 --> 00:05:01.519 He forbade him from hitting and from speaking 00:05:01.519 --> 00:05:03.519 May God make your face ugly 00:05:03.519 --> 00:05:06.649 It is worth contemplating this prohibition 00:05:06.649 --> 00:05:09.649 The man approaches the woman 00:05:09.649 --> 00:05:12.649 After looking at her face and admiring it 00:05:12.649 --> 00:05:17.649 How can we find an ugly face that we choose by ourselves and desire? 00:05:17.649 --> 00:05:20.649 He spent money in order to marry him 00:05:20.649 --> 00:05:25.879 The prohibition of ugliness indicates the prohibition of insult and humiliation 00:05:25.879 --> 00:05:28.879 And that generous one 00:05:28.879 --> 00:05:31.879 It may be more severe than beating 00:05:31.879 --> 00:05:35.879 Because it penetrates the heart and its effects remain 00:05:35.879 --> 00:05:39.970 This is the perfection of his guidance, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:05:39.970 --> 00:05:41.970 In the house calendar 00:05:41.970 --> 00:05:44.970 On the basis of dignity and good relations 00:05:44.970 --> 00:05:48.389 No to insult and contempt 00:05:48.389 --> 00:05:52.389 In the long hadith of Laqit bin Sabra, he said: 00:05:52.389 --> 00:05:54.389 I said, O Messenger of God 00:05:54.389 --> 00:05:58.389 There is a woman and there is something on her tongue 00:05:58.389 --> 00:06:00.389 It means obscenity 00:06:00.389 --> 00:06:03.389 He then divorced her 00:06:03.389 --> 00:06:06.389 He said: I said, O Messenger of God 00:06:06.389 --> 00:06:09.389 She has a companion, and she has a son 00:06:09.389 --> 00:06:12.389 He said, "Give her a pass." 00:06:12.389 --> 00:06:14.389 He says preach to her 00:06:14.389 --> 00:06:17.389 If good is enough for her, she will do it 00:06:17.389 --> 00:06:21.389 And do not hit your weak one the way you hit your illiterate one 00:06:21.389 --> 00:06:24.639 Narrated by Abu Dawood 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:26.639 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:26.639 --> 00:06:28.639 And say 00:06:28.639 --> 00:06:31.639 Do not hit your weak woman the way you hit your illiterate one 00:06:31.639 --> 00:06:34.639 The weak woman is the woman 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:36.639 She was named Daeina 00:06:36.639 --> 00:06:38.639 Because they give birth with the husband 00:06:38.639 --> 00:06:40.639 And it is transmitted by his transmission 00:06:40.639 --> 00:06:43.639 There is nothing in this that prevents them from being beaten 00:06:43.639 --> 00:06:47.639 Or it is forbidden to husbands when they need it 00:06:47.639 --> 00:06:51.639 God Almighty has permitted this in His saying 00:06:51.639 --> 00:06:56.639 So admonish them, leave them in their beds, and beat them 00:06:56.639 --> 00:06:59.639 Rather, it is forbidden to excuse beating 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:01.639 He also attacks the Mamluks 00:07:01.639 --> 00:07:04.639 In the customs of those who are permitted to be beaten 00:07:04.639 --> 00:07:07.639 He uses bad qualities in them 00:07:07.639 --> 00:07:10.639 He was represented by beating the Mamluks 00:07:10.639 --> 00:07:12.639 It is not permissible to beat them 00:07:12.639 --> 00:07:17.639 Rather, this was mentioned in the form of censure for their actions 00:07:17.639 --> 00:07:20.639 And he forbade him from imitating it 00:07:20.639 --> 00:07:26.480 On the authority of Iyas bin Abdullah bin Abi Dhubab, may God be pleased with him, he said 00:07:26.480 --> 00:07:30.480 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:07:30.480 --> 00:07:33.509 Do not hit God's servants 00:07:33.509 --> 00:07:38.509 Then Omar came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said 00:07:38.509 --> 00:07:41.509 The women raged against their husbands 00:07:41.509 --> 00:07:43.509 So he took the liberty of hitting them 00:07:43.509 --> 00:07:49.509 So many women went around the family of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:07:49.509 --> 00:07:51.509 They complain about their husbands 00:07:51.509 --> 00:07:54.509 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:07:54.509 --> 00:07:58.509 Many women visited the family of Muhammad 00:07:58.509 --> 00:08:00.509 They complain about their husbands 00:08:00.509 --> 00:08:03.509 These are not your choices 00:08:03.509 --> 00:08:05.509 Narrated by Abu Dawood 00:08:05.509 --> 00:08:08.569 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:08:08.569 --> 00:08:10.569 He said: They are afraid 00:08:10.569 --> 00:08:14.569 It means bad behavior and daring towards husbands 00:08:14.569 --> 00:08:16.569 Its meaning is this 00:08:16.569 --> 00:08:19.569 They were seduced by their husbands 00:08:19.569 --> 00:08:22.569 They underestimated their rights 00:08:22.569 --> 00:08:24.829 And in the hadith of jurisprudence 00:08:24.829 --> 00:08:28.829 Beating women to prevent marriage rights is permissible 00:08:28.829 --> 00:08:31.829 However, the beating was not severe 00:08:31.829 --> 00:08:35.889 It explains that it is necessary to be patient with their bad morals 00:08:35.889 --> 00:08:39.889 Avoiding what is best among them 00:08:39.889 --> 00:08:42.990 Al-Tibi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:08:42.990 --> 00:08:44.990 He denied them charity 00:08:44.990 --> 00:08:48.990 They were not patient and could not bear to hurt her 00:08:48.990 --> 00:08:53.080 Do you want my dear husband brother? 00:08:53.080 --> 00:08:55.080 To be deprived of charity 00:08:55.080 --> 00:08:58.080 Because of your lack of patience with a woman of your choice 00:08:58.080 --> 00:09:00.080 I lived with her for years 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:03.080 She gave birth to sons and daughters 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:06.330 On the authority of Suleiman bin Omar bin Al-Ahwas 00:09:06.330 --> 00:09:11.330 He said: My father told me that he witnessed the Farewell Pilgrimage 00:09:11.330 --> 00:09:14.330 With the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:09:14.330 --> 00:09:17.330 He thanked and praised God 00:09:17.330 --> 00:09:19.330 He mentioned and bit 00:09:19.330 --> 00:09:21.330 He mentioned a story in the hadith 00:09:21.330 --> 00:09:26.330 He said, “Be careful with women.” 00:09:26.330 --> 00:09:29.330 They are your helpers 00:09:29.330 --> 00:09:33.330 You have nothing else from them 00:09:33.330 --> 00:09:37.330 Unless they commit a clear indecency 00:09:37.330 --> 00:09:40.330 If they do so, leave them alone in their beds 00:09:40.330 --> 00:09:44.330 And beat them not badly 00:09:44.330 --> 00:09:49.330 If they obey you, do not seek a way against them 00:09:49.330 --> 00:09:51.460 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 00:09:51.460 --> 00:09:54.460 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:09:54.460 --> 00:09:57.460 They are your helpers 00:09:57.460 --> 00:10:00.460 Plural of Aaniyah while she is a captive 00:10:00.460 --> 00:10:02.460 And the captive sufferer 00:10:02.460 --> 00:10:06.460 This is because she is imprisoned for her husband’s right 00:10:06.460 --> 00:10:11.610 A woman is like a captive to her husband 00:10:11.610 --> 00:10:14.610 You cannot leave without his command 00:10:14.610 --> 00:10:18.610 She cannot marry because she is under his obligation 00:10:18.610 --> 00:10:22.610 It is his private property that he does not share with anyone else 00:10:22.610 --> 00:10:26.610 The great prophetic commandment is: 00:10:26.610 --> 00:10:29.610 Beware of women 00:10:30.610 --> 00:10:32.610 Are you the honorable brother-in-law? 00:10:32.610 --> 00:10:35.610 One who treats his wife well 00:10:35.610 --> 00:10:38.610 I ask God that it be so 00:10:38.610 --> 00:10:40.610 I seek refuge in God that it does not happen 00:10:40.610 --> 00:10:43.610 Of whom she said the seventh 00:10:43.610 --> 00:10:45.610 Every alternative has a disease 00:10:45.610 --> 00:10:47.610 Shajak or Falak 00:10:47.610 --> 00:10:52.240 Or collect all yours 00:10:52.240 --> 00:10:55.240 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:10:55.240 --> 00:10:58.240 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds