WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.610 Da sunan Allah, Mai rahama, Mai jin kai 00:00:05.610 --> 00:00:13.160 Nau'in maza a cikin hadisin Ummu Zara' 00:00:13.160 --> 00:00:23.539 Mijina idan na tuna shi sai na tuna makomarsa 00:00:23.539 --> 00:00:28.140 Bayan mace ta farko ta gama bayanin mijinta 00:00:28.140 --> 00:00:30.339 Juyin na biyu ne 00:00:30.339 --> 00:00:31.839 Sai ta ce 00:00:31.839 --> 00:00:34.539 Mijina, ba na raba labarinsa 00:00:34.539 --> 00:00:37.539 Ina tsoron kar in bar shi ya tafi 00:00:37.539 --> 00:00:41.829 Idan na tuna shi sai in tuna da ladarsa da ladarsa 00:00:41.829 --> 00:00:46.329 Kungiyar ta yi alkawarin ambaton duk sharuddan mijinta 00:00:46.329 --> 00:00:49.829 Amma ta rude tsakanin abubuwa biyu 00:00:49.829 --> 00:00:51.329 Na farko 00:00:51.329 --> 00:00:57.329 Ta yi alkawarin ba za ta boye wa mijinta komai ba 00:00:57.329 --> 00:00:58.829 Na biyu 00:00:58.829 --> 00:01:03.329 Ta tsani kiyayyar mijinta da zancensa 00:01:03.329 --> 00:01:05.359 Dalilin wannan rudani 00:01:05.859 --> 00:01:09.859 Tsoron abinda zai fad'a mishi ne ta fad'a mishi 00:01:09.859 --> 00:01:11.859 Abu biyu take tsoro 00:01:11.859 --> 00:01:13.359 Na farko 00:01:13.359 --> 00:01:15.359 Don yin magana game da shi na dogon lokaci 00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:19.420 Ku tuna da dukkan laifofinsa na bayyane da na ɓoye 00:01:19.420 --> 00:01:21.920 Al-Asbahani Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce 00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:24.920 Sai ta ce, "Ba na watsa labarinsa." 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:26.920 Wato ba na buga labarai game da shi 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:29.920 Ina tsoron kar in bar shi ya tafi 00:01:29.920 --> 00:01:33.420 Wato ban bar komai nasa a baya ba 00:01:33.420 --> 00:01:38.049 Wahalhalu da mummuna lahani ne 00:01:38.049 --> 00:01:41.049 Alkali Iyad, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce 00:01:41.049 --> 00:01:44.049 Ta ce, "Ba na watsa labarinsa." 00:01:44.049 --> 00:01:46.049 Ina jin tsoro ba zan bar shi ba 00:01:46.049 --> 00:01:48.049 Wato a bar maganarsa 00:01:48.049 --> 00:01:51.549 Kuma ya koma ga labari 00:01:51.549 --> 00:01:54.549 Wato saboda tsayinsa da yawansa 00:01:54.549 --> 00:01:58.049 Idan na fara shi, ba zan iya gamawa ba 00:01:58.049 --> 00:02:04.489 Wannan yana nufin cewa rashin amfanin wannan mutum yana da yawa sosai 00:02:04.489 --> 00:02:06.989 Wasu sun fi wasu muni 00:02:06.989 --> 00:02:10.250 Alkali Iyad, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce 00:02:10.250 --> 00:02:15.250 Wato idan aka gaya min wani kuskurensa da gazawarsa 00:02:15.250 --> 00:02:19.250 Ya kai ga ambaton wani abu dabam har ma da muni 00:02:19.250 --> 00:02:25.250 Sahabbanta sun yi alkawarin ba za su boye musu ko daya daga cikin halayensa ba 00:02:25.250 --> 00:02:29.250 Ta tsani abinda ta kulla da su 00:02:29.250 --> 00:02:33.250 Ta je ta rufawa mijinta asiri domin suna da yawa 00:02:33.750 --> 00:02:36.750 Ba ka so ka ambaci wasu ba tare da wasu ba 00:02:36.750 --> 00:02:41.750 Idan kuma ta fadi wani abu sai ya sa a ambaci wani 00:02:41.750 --> 00:02:44.750 Ta fara ganin ciki 00:02:44.750 --> 00:02:50.550 Haka nan maganarta ta nuna zuciyarta cike da shi 00:02:50.550 --> 00:02:57.550 Ba ta yi magana da kowa ba a gaban wannan majalisa game da damuwarta da mijinta 00:02:57.550 --> 00:03:00.050 Wannan yana daya daga cikin kurakuran mata 00:03:00.050 --> 00:03:03.050 Suna ɗaukar damuwar su kaɗai 00:03:03.050 --> 00:03:06.050 Idan matsalar ta yi girma, gudu 00:03:06.050 --> 00:03:09.050 Ya zama da wahala a magance matsalar 00:03:09.050 --> 00:03:13.240 Nasiha ga masu wannan hali 00:03:13.240 --> 00:03:17.240 Don komawa ga wanda ya ba ta shawarar magance matsalolinta 00:03:17.240 --> 00:03:20.240 Waɗanda ka amince da su mutanen kirki ne masu adalci 00:03:20.240 --> 00:03:24.240 Daga malamai, masu wa'azi, ko masu kawo gyara 00:03:24.240 --> 00:03:29.240 Bai isa ta watsa mata damuwarta ba 00:03:29.240 --> 00:03:31.240 Basu da wata shawara gareta 00:03:31.240 --> 00:03:36.370 Maimakon haka, yana da haɗari wajen yada yanayin rayuwar aure tsakanin mata 00:03:36.370 --> 00:03:42.370 Wadanda ba a san su da iliminsu, adalci, ko iya magance matsaloli ba 00:03:42.370 --> 00:03:44.370 Domin yada wadannan al'amura garesu 00:03:44.370 --> 00:03:47.370 Yana iya haɗa matsalar 00:03:47.370 --> 00:03:50.370 Kuma zuciyarki taji dadin mijinki 00:03:50.370 --> 00:03:52.370 Domin tana iya wahala kamar ku 00:03:52.370 --> 00:03:55.370 Yana ƙara damuwa akan damuwar su 00:03:55.370 --> 00:03:58.370 Wataƙila kuna magana ne game da dukan maza 00:03:58.370 --> 00:04:00.370 Ta siffanta su da azzalumai 00:04:00.370 --> 00:04:03.370 Don haka ka ba da zuciyarka ga su duka 00:04:03.370 --> 00:04:07.659 Abu na biyu da wannan matar ke tsoro 00:04:07.659 --> 00:04:09.719 saki ne 00:04:09.719 --> 00:04:12.719 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:17.720 Ma’ana idan ta bayyana halin da mijinta yake ciki, sai ta fadi aibunsa 00:04:17.720 --> 00:04:19.720 Kuma idan kun yi haka 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:21.720 Tana tsoron barinsa 00:04:21.720 --> 00:04:26.720 Ta tsani ya rabu da alakar dake tsakaninsu 00:04:26.720 --> 00:04:29.970 Tsoron saki 00:04:29.970 --> 00:04:31.970 Yana da ma'anoni da dama 00:04:31.970 --> 00:04:35.970 Abu mafi mahimmanci shine tana son shi kuma ta ƙi barin shi 00:04:35.970 --> 00:04:38.970 Wannan shi ne abin da Al-Qurtubi ya ce 00:04:38.970 --> 00:04:41.970 Alakar da ke tsakaninsu ita ce alakar soyayya 00:04:41.970 --> 00:04:44.970 Tare da duk halayen da ake zargi 00:04:44.970 --> 00:04:46.970 Sai dai tana sonsa 00:04:46.970 --> 00:04:52.100 Wasu ƙila ba za su iya fahimtar wannan ma'auni mai wahala ba 00:04:52.100 --> 00:04:55.100 Soyayya da munanan halaye 00:04:55.100 --> 00:04:58.100 Domin ba mu fahimci mata da yanayinsu ba 00:04:58.100 --> 00:05:00.100 Da kuma yadda take tunani 00:05:00.100 --> 00:05:06.290 Wasu mazan ba za su gane tsananin son da matan su ke yi musu ba 00:05:06.290 --> 00:05:08.290 Babban abin da aka makala gare su 00:05:08.290 --> 00:05:12.290 Ko dai saboda sun shagaltu da rayuwarsu 00:05:12.290 --> 00:05:15.290 Ko kuma a rayuwa ta zahiri da samun abin rayuwa 00:05:15.290 --> 00:05:19.290 Ko ta hanyar rashin tunani game da batun kwata-kwata 00:05:19.290 --> 00:05:22.540 Na asali, maza masu daraja 00:05:22.540 --> 00:05:26.540 Cewa mata ba sa son saki ko son saki 00:05:26.540 --> 00:05:29.540 Ko da kun tambaye shi a lokacin matsaloli 00:05:29.540 --> 00:05:33.540 Yanayin fushi yana sa komai ya yiwu 00:05:33.540 --> 00:05:37.540 Domin mai fushi bai san me zai ce ba 00:05:37.540 --> 00:05:40.540 Wannan ba yana nufin ya kai mutum ba 00:05:40.540 --> 00:05:42.540 Domin amfanuwa da soyayyar mace gareka 00:05:42.540 --> 00:05:48.540 Don haka ku ci gaba da cutar da ita da halayen da ba ta so a cikin ku 00:05:48.540 --> 00:05:50.540 A'a, mafi hikimar mutane 00:05:50.540 --> 00:05:54.540 Wanda ya saka hannun jari a kan gaskiyar na kusa da shi wajen sukar sa 00:05:54.540 --> 00:05:57.800 Ta hanyar canza munanan halayensa 00:05:57.800 --> 00:06:02.800 Matar tana tsoron abin da mijinta zai ce mata 00:06:02.800 --> 00:06:04.800 Wani fa'ida mai mahimmanci 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:09.800 Yana tunanin sakamakon abubuwa kafin aiwatar da su 00:06:09.800 --> 00:06:15.829 Wannan yana nuna cewa wannan mace ta biyu tana da hankali sosai 00:06:15.829 --> 00:06:18.829 Tana tunanin sakamakon abubuwa 00:06:18.829 --> 00:06:22.829 Kuka mai nisa daga gaugawar zargi 00:06:22.829 --> 00:06:25.829 Wanda zai iya lalata mata rayuwa a gaba 00:06:25.829 --> 00:06:27.829 Zuciyarta cike da nadama 00:06:27.829 --> 00:06:30.829 Tayi nadama a baya 00:06:30.829 --> 00:06:36.120 Haka kuma halin wannan mata yana nuna haquri da mijinta 00:06:36.120 --> 00:06:38.120 Ta kyautata masa 00:06:38.120 --> 00:06:43.120 Ba zato ba tsammani mutum ya kasance yana da irin wannan munanan ɗabi'u 00:06:43.120 --> 00:06:45.120 Ya hadu da wata mace mai halinsa 00:06:45.120 --> 00:06:48.120 Sannan baya sake ta 00:06:48.120 --> 00:06:50.220 Kamar yadda kalaman wannan mata suka nuna 00:06:50.220 --> 00:06:54.220 Dole ne ta kame harshenta yayin magana game da mijinta 00:06:54.220 --> 00:06:59.250 Kame harshe yana daga cikin manya-manyan dabi'u masu tseratar da mutum daga wuta 00:06:59.250 --> 00:07:03.250 Yana nuna babban matakin dalili da tunani 00:07:03.250 --> 00:07:07.250 Kafin ba da jawabi da magana 00:07:07.250 --> 00:07:12.250 Wanda ke da daidaito da kamun kai kawai za su iya tunanin hakan 00:07:12.250 --> 00:07:16.250 Musamman idan ta yi 00:07:16.250 --> 00:07:19.310 Wannan mace ce mai hakuri, mai hankali 00:07:19.310 --> 00:07:22.310 Ka yi tunanin sakamakon abubuwa 00:07:22.310 --> 00:07:25.310 Tana da iya sarrafa harshenta 00:07:25.310 --> 00:07:28.310 Mai kiyaye sirrin mijinta 00:07:28.310 --> 00:07:30.310 Kuma aibunsa a boye yake 00:07:30.310 --> 00:07:34.379 Amma wani miji da ya boye ya same ta 00:07:34.379 --> 00:07:36.379 Kyakkyawan mu'amala da mutane 00:07:36.379 --> 00:07:39.379 Ba a kula da shi sosai a cikin gidan 00:07:39.379 --> 00:07:42.379 Lalacewarsa suna da yawa 00:07:42.379 --> 00:07:45.379 Cutarwarsa tana ga iyalansa ne kawai 00:07:46.730 --> 00:07:49.730 Alkali Ayyab, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce 00:07:49.730 --> 00:07:51.730 Kuma ina gani, kuma Allah ne mafi sani 00:07:51.730 --> 00:07:54.730 Da alama an boye 00:07:54.730 --> 00:07:56.730 Amsa Albat 00:07:56.730 --> 00:07:58.730 Bata son yaga murfinsa 00:07:58.730 --> 00:08:00.730 Idan kuma tayi magana 00:08:00.730 --> 00:08:03.730 Abin da sahabbanta suka yi ittifaqi a kai 00:08:03.730 --> 00:08:06.730 Ya bayyana munin sa na boye 00:08:06.730 --> 00:08:08.730 Ta kasance cikin mummunan hali 00:08:08.730 --> 00:08:11.730 Babban damuwarta gareshi shine abinda bai bayyana a baya ba 00:08:11.730 --> 00:08:15.730 Amma ko ta daga hannu ba ta ayyana shi ba 00:08:15.730 --> 00:08:17.730 Kun yi bayani da kyau sosai 00:08:17.730 --> 00:08:19.730 An watsa shi 00:08:19.730 --> 00:08:21.730 Idan kuma ta ce bana watsawa 00:08:21.730 --> 00:08:27.300 Dole ne tushen ya fitar da numfashi 00:08:27.300 --> 00:08:30.300 Wa ya albarkaci mace mai hankali? 00:08:30.300 --> 00:08:35.299 Bai dace ya ci gaba da kuskurensa wajen mu'amala da ita ba 00:08:35.299 --> 00:08:39.299 Ni'ima ce daga Allah Ta'ala a gare shi 00:08:39.299 --> 00:08:41.299 Kuna buƙatar godiya 00:08:41.299 --> 00:08:44.299 Yin godiya ga alheri yana farawa da canza rai 00:08:44.299 --> 00:08:46.299 Da kuma sadaukar da kai ga gaskiya 00:08:46.299 --> 00:08:49.580 Kuma ku samar da kyawawan halaye 00:08:49.580 --> 00:08:52.580 Ina shawartar maza da su yi aiki da wannan hadisin 00:08:52.580 --> 00:08:56.580 Yin koyi da Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi 00:08:56.580 --> 00:09:00.580 Ya bi misalinsa a sha’aninsa da iyalinsa 00:09:00.580 --> 00:09:03.679 An kar~o daga Aisha – Allah Ya yarda da ita ta ce 00:09:03.679 --> 00:09:07.679 Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi ya ce 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:10.679 Mafificinku shine mafi alheri ga iyalansa 00:09:10.679 --> 00:09:13.679 Ni ne mafi alherin ku ga iyalina 00:09:13.679 --> 00:09:15.679 Tirmizi ne ya ruwaito shi 00:09:15.679 --> 00:09:19.000 Ibn Battar Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce 00:09:19.000 --> 00:09:24.000 Wannan yana nuna a fili cewa abin da yake mafi alheri ga mutum kuma mai kyau a gare shi 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:28.000 Ka yi hakuri da cutarwar iyalansa, ka rufe musu ido 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:33.000 Da kuma gafarar cutarwar da yake fama da su a kansa 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:36.000 Ba tare da abin da ke cikin zatin Allah ba 00:09:36.000 --> 00:09:40.000 Wannan kuwa saboda abin da Umar Allah Ya yarda da shi ya ambata 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:43.000 An ruwaito daga Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:51.000 Na haquri da sharrin da ya same shi daga Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi 00:09:51.000 --> 00:09:54.000 Kuma ya ba shi, ya bar masa su 00:09:54.000 --> 00:10:00.159 Kuma ba a maganar cewa Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi ya azabtar da su a kan haka 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:08.190 A’a, ya ce Umar shi ne ya yi musu nasiha a kan haka, maimakon Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi. 00:10:08.190 --> 00:10:14.190 Kuma kamar yadda Umar ya ambata, halittar Manzon Allah tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi 00:10:14.190 --> 00:10:16.190 Labari ya ci gaba a kansa 00:10:16.190 --> 00:10:21.190 Shin akwai wani kamarsa wanda ya yi makokin al'ummarsa, tsira da amincin Allah su tabbata a gare shi? 00:10:21.190 --> 00:10:24.509 Ibn Usaimin Allah ya yi masa rahama yana cewa 00:10:24.509 --> 00:10:26.509 Wannan shine mafi kyawun mutane 00:10:26.509 --> 00:10:28.509 Shi ne mafi alheri ga iyalinsa 00:10:28.509 --> 00:10:30.509 Idan akwai alheri a cikin ku 00:10:30.509 --> 00:10:33.509 Don haka kiyaye shi tare da mutanen da ke kusa da ku 00:10:33.509 --> 00:10:37.509 Bari shi ne farkon wanda zai amfana da wannan alheri 00:10:37.509 --> 00:10:40.509 Wannan shi ne akasin abin da wasu suke yi a yau 00:10:40.509 --> 00:10:43.509 Sai ka ga yana da mugun hali ga iyalinsa 00:10:43.509 --> 00:10:45.509 Kyakkyawan ɗabi'a tare da wasu 00:10:45.509 --> 00:10:48.509 Wannan kuskure ne babba 00:10:48.509 --> 00:10:51.509 Iyalin ku sun fi cancanta da kyawawan halaye 00:10:51.509 --> 00:10:53.539 Ka kasance da kyawawan halaye da su 00:10:53.539 --> 00:10:57.539 Domin su ne suke tare da ku dare da rana 00:10:57.539 --> 00:10:59.539 A asirce da bayyane 00:10:59.539 --> 00:11:01.539 Idan wani abu ya same ku 00:11:01.539 --> 00:11:03.539 Sun ji rauni tare da ku 00:11:03.539 --> 00:11:05.539 Idan ka yarda, za su yi tafiya tare da kai 00:11:05.539 --> 00:11:08.610 Idan kun yi baƙin ciki, za su yi baƙin ciki tare da ku 00:11:08.610 --> 00:11:13.610 Maganin ku da su ya kamata ya fi yadda kuke yi da baƙi 00:11:13.610 --> 00:11:19.429 Mafi kyawun mutane sune mafi kyau ga iyalansu 00:11:19.429 --> 00:11:22.429 Yaya kai mai girma da iyalinka? 00:11:22.429 --> 00:11:26.429 Wane iri kake tare da matarka? 00:11:26.429 --> 00:11:31.289 Zamu cigaba a taro mai zuwa insha Allah 00:11:31.289 --> 00:11:35.289 Godiya ta tabbata ga Allah Ubangijin talikai