1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,610 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:05,610 --> 00:00:13,160 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:23,539 My husband, if I remember him, I remember his fate 4 00:00:23,539 --> 00:00:28,140 After the first woman finished describing her husband 5 00:00:28,140 --> 00:00:30,339 It was the turn of the second 6 00:00:30,339 --> 00:00:31,839 And she said 7 00:00:31,839 --> 00:00:34,539 My husband, I don't share his news 8 00:00:34,539 --> 00:00:37,539 I'm afraid I won't let him go 9 00:00:37,539 --> 00:00:41,829 If I remember him, I remember his reward and reward 10 00:00:41,829 --> 00:00:46,329 The group pledged to mention all of her husband's conditions 11 00:00:46,329 --> 00:00:49,829 But she was confused between two things 12 00:00:49,829 --> 00:00:51,329 The first 13 00:00:51,329 --> 00:00:57,329 She promised women not to conceal anything from her husband 14 00:00:57,329 --> 00:00:58,829 The second 15 00:00:58,829 --> 00:01:03,329 She hated hating her husband and talking about him 16 00:01:03,329 --> 00:01:05,359 The reason for this confusion 17 00:01:05,859 --> 00:01:09,859 It is her fear of what he will say to him by talking about him 18 00:01:09,859 --> 00:01:11,859 She is afraid of two things 19 00:01:11,859 --> 00:01:13,359 The first 20 00:01:13,359 --> 00:01:15,359 To talk about it for a long time 21 00:01:15,359 --> 00:01:19,420 Remember all his apparent and hidden faults 22 00:01:19,420 --> 00:01:21,920 Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said 23 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:24,920 And she said, “I don’t broadcast his news.” 24 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,920 That is, I do not publish news about it 25 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:29,920 I'm afraid I won't let him go 26 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:33,420 That is, I do not leave any of his experience behind 27 00:01:33,420 --> 00:01:38,049 Affliction and ugliness are defects 28 00:01:38,049 --> 00:01:41,049 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 29 00:01:41,049 --> 00:01:44,049 She said, “I don’t broadcast his news.” 30 00:01:44,049 --> 00:01:46,049 I'm afraid I won't leave him 31 00:01:46,049 --> 00:01:48,049 That is, leave his speech 32 00:01:48,049 --> 00:01:51,549 And it's back to the news 33 00:01:51,549 --> 00:01:54,549 That is, because of its length and abundance 34 00:01:54,549 --> 00:01:58,049 If I started it, I wouldn't be able to finish it 35 00:01:58,049 --> 00:02:04,489 This means that this man's disadvantages are very many 36 00:02:04,489 --> 00:02:06,989 Some are uglier than others 37 00:02:06,989 --> 00:02:10,250 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 38 00:02:10,250 --> 00:02:15,250 That is, if I was told about any of his faults and shortcomings 39 00:02:15,250 --> 00:02:19,250 It led to mentioning something else even uglier 40 00:02:19,250 --> 00:02:25,250 Her companions pledged not to conceal any of his characteristics from them 41 00:02:25,250 --> 00:02:29,250 She hated what she had contracted with them 42 00:02:29,250 --> 00:02:33,250 She went to cover her husband's faults because they were many 43 00:02:33,750 --> 00:02:36,750 You did not want to mention some without others 44 00:02:36,750 --> 00:02:41,750 And if she mentions one thing, it causes another to be mentioned 45 00:02:41,750 --> 00:02:44,750 She saw constipation first 46 00:02:44,750 --> 00:02:50,550 Her words also indicate that her heart is full of him 47 00:02:50,550 --> 00:02:57,550 She had not spoken to anyone before this council about her concerns with her husband 48 00:02:57,550 --> 00:03:00,050 This is one of the mistakes of women 49 00:03:00,050 --> 00:03:03,050 They carry their worries alone 50 00:03:03,050 --> 00:03:06,050 If the problem gets bigger, run 51 00:03:06,050 --> 00:03:09,050 It became difficult to solve the problem 52 00:03:09,050 --> 00:03:13,240 Advice for those in this situation 53 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:17,240 To turn to someone who advises her to solve her problems 54 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,240 Who you trust are good and righteous people 55 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:24,240 From scholars, preachers, or reformers 56 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:29,240 It is not enough for her to broadcast her concerns to women like her 57 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:31,240 They have no advice for her 58 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:36,370 Rather, it is dangerous in spreading the conditions of marital life between women 59 00:03:36,370 --> 00:03:42,370 Those who are not known for their knowledge, righteousness, or ability to solve problems 60 00:03:42,370 --> 00:03:44,370 To broadcast these matters to them 61 00:03:44,370 --> 00:03:47,370 It may compound the problem 62 00:03:47,370 --> 00:03:50,370 And your heart warms to your husband 63 00:03:50,370 --> 00:03:52,370 Because she may suffer like you 64 00:03:52,370 --> 00:03:55,370 It increases your worry over their worry 65 00:03:55,370 --> 00:03:58,370 You may be talking about all men 66 00:03:58,370 --> 00:04:00,370 She describes them as unjust 67 00:04:00,370 --> 00:04:03,370 So give your heart to them all 68 00:04:03,370 --> 00:04:07,659 The second thing this woman is afraid of 69 00:04:07,659 --> 00:04:09,719 It is divorce 70 00:04:09,719 --> 00:04:12,719 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 71 00:04:12,719 --> 00:04:17,720 It means that if she described her husband's condition, she mentioned his faults 72 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:19,720 And if you do that 73 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:21,720 She was afraid of leaving him 74 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:26,720 She hates him breaking up with the ties between them 75 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:29,970 Her fear of divorce 76 00:04:29,970 --> 00:04:31,970 It has several meanings 77 00:04:31,970 --> 00:04:35,970 The most important of which is that she loves him and hates leaving him 78 00:04:35,970 --> 00:04:38,970 This is what Al-Qurtubi said 79 00:04:38,970 --> 00:04:41,970 The relationship between them is a love relationship 80 00:04:41,970 --> 00:04:44,970 With all its reprehensible qualities 81 00:04:44,970 --> 00:04:46,970 Except she loves him 82 00:04:46,970 --> 00:04:52,100 Some may not be able to understand this difficult equation 83 00:04:52,100 --> 00:04:55,100 Love and bad qualities 84 00:04:55,100 --> 00:04:58,100 This is because we did not understand women and their nature 85 00:04:58,100 --> 00:05:00,100 And her way of thinking 86 00:05:00,100 --> 00:05:06,290 Some men may not realize the great love that their women have for them 87 00:05:06,290 --> 00:05:08,290 Great attachment to them 88 00:05:08,290 --> 00:05:12,290 Either because they are busy with their personal lives 89 00:05:12,290 --> 00:05:15,290 Or in practical life and earning a living 90 00:05:15,290 --> 00:05:19,290 Or by not thinking about the issue at all 91 00:05:19,290 --> 00:05:22,540 The original, honorable men 92 00:05:22,540 --> 00:05:26,540 That women do not like or want divorce 93 00:05:26,540 --> 00:05:29,540 Even if you ask for it during problems 94 00:05:29,540 --> 00:05:33,540 The state of anger makes everything possible 95 00:05:33,540 --> 00:05:37,540 Because the angry person does not know what to say 96 00:05:37,540 --> 00:05:40,540 This does not mean, dear man 97 00:05:40,540 --> 00:05:42,540 To take advantage of a woman's love for you 98 00:05:42,540 --> 00:05:48,540 So you continue to hurt her with the qualities in you that she does not like 99 00:05:48,540 --> 00:05:50,540 Rather, the wisest of men 100 00:05:50,540 --> 00:05:54,540 He who invests in the honesty of those around him in his criticism of him 101 00:05:54,540 --> 00:05:57,800 By changing his bad traits 102 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:02,800 The woman is afraid of what her husband will say to her 103 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:04,800 Another important benefit 104 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:09,800 It is thinking about the consequences of things before undertaking them 105 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:15,829 This indicates that this second woman is very rational 106 00:06:15,829 --> 00:06:18,829 She thinks about the outcome of things 107 00:06:18,829 --> 00:06:22,829 A far cry from the blameworthy haste 108 00:06:22,829 --> 00:06:25,829 Which may ruin her life in the future 109 00:06:25,829 --> 00:06:27,829 Her heart is filled with remorse 110 00:06:27,829 --> 00:06:30,829 She regrets the past 111 00:06:30,829 --> 00:06:36,120 This woman's behavior also indicates her patience with her husband 112 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:38,120 She treated him well 113 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:43,120 It is unimaginable for a man to have such bad morals 114 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:45,120 He meets a woman with the same character as him 115 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:48,120 Then he does not divorce her 116 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,220 As indicated by this woman’s words 117 00:06:50,220 --> 00:06:54,220 She must control her tongue when talking about her husband 118 00:06:54,220 --> 00:06:59,250 Controlling the tongue is one of the most important morals that saves one from Hell 119 00:06:59,250 --> 00:07:03,250 It indicates a high level of reason and contemplation 120 00:07:03,250 --> 00:07:07,250 Before giving the speech and speaking it 121 00:07:07,250 --> 00:07:12,250 This can only be imagined by those who have balance and self-control 122 00:07:12,250 --> 00:07:16,250 Especially when she does it 123 00:07:16,250 --> 00:07:19,310 This is a patient, rational woman 124 00:07:19,310 --> 00:07:22,310 Think about the outcome of things 125 00:07:22,310 --> 00:07:25,310 She has the ability to control her tongue 126 00:07:25,310 --> 00:07:28,310 Keeper of her husband's secrets 127 00:07:28,310 --> 00:07:30,310 And his flaws are hidden 128 00:07:30,310 --> 00:07:34,379 But she was plagued by an apparently hidden husband 129 00:07:34,379 --> 00:07:36,379 Good dealing with people 130 00:07:36,379 --> 00:07:39,379 It is poorly treated inside the house 131 00:07:39,379 --> 00:07:42,379 Its disadvantages are very many 132 00:07:42,379 --> 00:07:45,379 Its harm is only to his family 133 00:07:46,730 --> 00:07:49,730 Judge Ayyab, may God have mercy on him, said 134 00:07:49,730 --> 00:07:51,730 And I see, and God knows best 135 00:07:51,730 --> 00:07:54,730 It was apparently hidden 136 00:07:54,730 --> 00:07:56,730 Reply Albat 137 00:07:56,730 --> 00:07:58,730 She did not want to tear off his cover 138 00:07:58,730 --> 00:08:00,730 And if she spoke 139 00:08:00,730 --> 00:08:03,730 What her companions had agreed upon 140 00:08:03,730 --> 00:08:06,730 Revealed his hidden ugliness 141 00:08:06,730 --> 00:08:08,730 She was in bad shape 142 00:08:08,730 --> 00:08:11,730 Her greatest concern for him was that which had not appeared before 143 00:08:11,730 --> 00:08:15,730 But even if she waved, she did not declare it 144 00:08:15,730 --> 00:08:17,730 You explained and explained more beautifully 145 00:08:17,730 --> 00:08:19,730 It has been broadcast 146 00:08:19,730 --> 00:08:21,730 And if she says I don't broadcast 147 00:08:21,730 --> 00:08:27,300 The source must exhale 148 00:08:27,300 --> 00:08:30,300 Who is blessed with such a sane woman? 149 00:08:30,300 --> 00:08:35,299 It is not appropriate for him to continue his mistake in dealing with her 150 00:08:35,299 --> 00:08:39,299 It is a blessing from God Almighty upon him 151 00:08:39,299 --> 00:08:41,299 You need to thank 152 00:08:41,299 --> 00:08:44,299 Giving thanks for grace begins with changing the soul 153 00:08:44,299 --> 00:08:46,299 And commitment to the truth 154 00:08:46,299 --> 00:08:49,580 And create good morals 155 00:08:49,580 --> 00:08:52,580 I advise men to act on this hadith 156 00:08:52,580 --> 00:08:56,580 Following the example of the Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 157 00:08:56,580 --> 00:09:00,580 He followed his example in his dealings with his family 158 00:09:00,580 --> 00:09:03,679 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 159 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,679 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 160 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,679 The best of you is the best to his family 161 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:13,679 I am the best of you to my family 162 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:15,679 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 163 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:19,000 Ibn Battar, may God have mercy on him, said 164 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:24,000 This clearly indicates that what is best for a person and good for him 165 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:28,000 Be patient with the harm of his family and turn a blind eye to them 166 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:33,000 And forgiveness for the harm he suffers from them in himself 167 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:36,000 Without what was in God's essence 168 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:40,000 This is due to what Omar, may God be pleased with him, mentioned 169 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:43,000 On the authority of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 170 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:51,000 Of his patience with the evil that befell him from the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 171 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,000 And he gave them to him and abandoned them for him 172 00:09:54,000 --> 00:10:00,159 It was not mentioned that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, punished them for that 173 00:10:00,159 --> 00:10:08,190 Rather, he mentioned that Omar was the one who advised them against it, rather than the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 174 00:10:08,190 --> 00:10:14,190 And in the same way as Omar mentioned, the creation of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 175 00:10:14,190 --> 00:10:16,190 News continued about him 176 00:10:16,190 --> 00:10:21,190 Is there anyone like him who mourned his nation, peace and blessings be upon him? 177 00:10:21,190 --> 00:10:24,509 Ibn Uthaymeen, may God have mercy on him, said 178 00:10:24,509 --> 00:10:26,509 This is the best of people 179 00:10:26,509 --> 00:10:28,509 He is the best to his family 180 00:10:28,509 --> 00:10:30,509 If there is good in you 181 00:10:30,509 --> 00:10:33,509 So keep it with the people closest to you 182 00:10:33,509 --> 00:10:37,509 Let him be the first to benefit from this goodness 183 00:10:37,509 --> 00:10:40,509 This is the opposite of what some people do today 184 00:10:40,509 --> 00:10:43,509 You find that he has a bad attitude towards his family 185 00:10:43,509 --> 00:10:45,509 Good manners with others 186 00:10:45,509 --> 00:10:48,509 This is a big mistake 187 00:10:48,509 --> 00:10:51,509 Your family is more deserving of good behavior 188 00:10:51,509 --> 00:10:53,539 Have good manners with them 189 00:10:53,539 --> 00:10:57,539 Because they are the ones who are with you day and night 190 00:10:57,539 --> 00:10:59,539 Secretly and openly 191 00:10:59,539 --> 00:11:01,539 If something happens to you 192 00:11:01,539 --> 00:11:03,539 They were injured with you 193 00:11:03,539 --> 00:11:05,539 If you please, they will walk with you 194 00:11:05,539 --> 00:11:08,610 If you are sad, they will be sad with you 195 00:11:08,610 --> 00:11:13,610 Your treatment with them should be better than your treatment with foreigners 196 00:11:13,610 --> 00:11:19,429 The best of people are the best to their families 197 00:11:19,429 --> 00:11:22,429 How are you, honorable man, with your family? 198 00:11:22,429 --> 00:11:26,429 Which type are you with your wife? 199 00:11:26,429 --> 00:11:31,289 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 200 00:11:31,289 --> 00:11:35,289 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds