WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:17.760 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, this Aisha and that one 00:00:17.760 --> 00:00:21.760 God Almighty commanded the wife to be treated with kindness 00:00:21.760 --> 00:00:26.760 God Almighty said: Treat them with kindness 00:00:26.760 --> 00:00:28.760 Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:00:28.760 --> 00:00:32.759 This includes verbal and actual intercourse 00:00:32.759 --> 00:00:36.759 The husband must treat his wife with kindness 00:00:37.759 --> 00:00:39.759 Stop harming and do good 00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:41.759 And good treatment 00:00:41.759 --> 00:00:45.759 This includes alimony, clothing, and the like 00:00:45.759 --> 00:00:52.759 The husband must treat his wife with kindness like him to her in that time and place 00:00:52.759 --> 00:00:55.759 This varies depending on the circumstances 00:00:55.759 --> 00:00:59.759 He is the best one to apply this verse in his life 00:00:59.759 --> 00:01:02.759 He is the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:05.760 Until he said about himself, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:05.760 --> 00:01:10.760 The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family 00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:12.760 Narrated by Ibn Majah 00:01:12.760 --> 00:01:15.760 Al-Sanaani, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:15.760 --> 00:01:18.760 He was absolutely the best of people 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:20.760 This is not a matter of pride 00:01:20.760 --> 00:01:25.760 Rather, he informs the servants of his good treatment so that they may imitate him 00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:29.760 He was known from his companions, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:32.760 He was the best of people 00:01:33.760 --> 00:01:35.760 And to his family first 00:01:35.760 --> 00:01:39.760 He had a condition for his family that no one else had 00:01:39.760 --> 00:01:43.760 Of good treatment, tolerance of harm, and fairness 00:01:43.760 --> 00:01:47.760 And similar things in the books of his virtues and conduct 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:50.859 Al-Sundi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:50.859 --> 00:01:53.859 What he means is good treatment with his family 00:01:53.859 --> 00:01:56.859 Among the things required in religion 00:01:56.859 --> 00:02:00.859 What is characterized by it is among the options in this respect 00:02:00.859 --> 00:02:04.859 It is possible that the one who is characterized by it will be successful in doing all good deeds 00:02:04.859 --> 00:02:07.859 Until it becomes good at all 00:02:07.859 --> 00:02:09.860 And God knows best 00:02:09.860 --> 00:02:13.860 One of the beautiful stories of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:13.860 --> 00:02:16.860 With his wives, he is a good family 00:02:16.860 --> 00:02:20.860 His competition for Aisha, may God be pleased with her, in travel 00:02:20.860 --> 00:02:24.949 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 00:02:24.949 --> 00:02:28.949 She preceded the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:28.949 --> 00:02:30.949 So I beat him 00:02:30.949 --> 00:02:32.949 When she became pregnant with meat 00:02:32.949 --> 00:02:34.949 He outran me and he outran me 00:02:34.949 --> 00:02:37.949 He said, O Aisha 00:02:37.949 --> 00:02:39.949 This is that 00:02:39.949 --> 00:02:42.020 Narrated by Al-Hamidi 00:02:42.020 --> 00:02:46.020 The competition was not devoid of jokes, by God 00:02:46.020 --> 00:02:49.020 Rather, you face the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:49.020 --> 00:02:53.020 By joking and laughing with her, may God be pleased with her 00:02:53.020 --> 00:02:56.080 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, says 00:02:56.080 --> 00:03:01.080 I went out with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, on some of his travels 00:03:01.080 --> 00:03:05.080 As a slave girl, I did not carry meat or make myself fat 00:03:05.080 --> 00:03:08.080 He told the people to come forward 00:03:08.080 --> 00:03:10.080 So they came forward 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:14.080 Then he told me to come so I can race with you 00:03:14.080 --> 00:03:16.080 So I raced to him and I raced to him 00:03:16.080 --> 00:03:18.080 So he remained silent about me 00:03:18.080 --> 00:03:22.080 Even if I carried the meat and became fat and forgot 00:03:22.080 --> 00:03:25.080 I went out with him on some of his travels 00:03:25.080 --> 00:03:27.080 He told the people to come forward 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:29.080 So they came forward 00:03:29.080 --> 00:03:33.080 Then he said, “Come, so I can race with you.” 00:03:33.080 --> 00:03:35.080 So I raced to him and he raced to me 00:03:35.080 --> 00:03:38.080 He started laughing as he said 00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:40.080 This is that 00:03:40.080 --> 00:03:42.080 Narrated by Ahmed 00:03:42.080 --> 00:03:44.080 And in a narration by Al-Tabarani 00:03:44.080 --> 00:03:47.080 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 00:03:47.080 --> 00:03:50.080 So I raced to him and he raced to me 00:03:50.080 --> 00:03:52.080 He hit my shoulder and said 00:03:52.080 --> 00:03:54.080 This is that 00:03:54.080 --> 00:03:57.370 Rather, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:57.370 --> 00:04:01.370 He urged her to contest the second time 00:04:01.370 --> 00:04:05.370 Because she apologized for carrying meat 00:04:05.370 --> 00:04:09.370 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, insisted on the competition 00:04:09.370 --> 00:04:13.370 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, told me 00:04:13.370 --> 00:04:18.370 She was with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, on a journey 00:04:18.370 --> 00:04:20.370 He said to his friends 00:04:20.370 --> 00:04:21.370 Come forward 00:04:21.370 --> 00:04:22.370 So they came forward 00:04:22.370 --> 00:04:23.370 He said to me 00:04:23.370 --> 00:04:26.370 Come so I can race you 00:04:26.370 --> 00:04:28.370 So I raced to him and I raced to him 00:04:28.370 --> 00:04:30.370 And when it was after 00:04:30.370 --> 00:04:32.370 I went out with him on a trip 00:04:32.370 --> 00:04:34.370 He said to his friends 00:04:34.370 --> 00:04:35.370 Come forward 00:04:35.370 --> 00:04:37.370 So they came forward 00:04:37.370 --> 00:04:38.370 And he said 00:04:38.370 --> 00:04:40.370 Come, I will race with you 00:04:40.370 --> 00:04:42.370 And I forgot who it was 00:04:42.370 --> 00:04:44.370 And I carried the meat 00:04:44.370 --> 00:04:45.370 So I said 00:04:45.370 --> 00:04:50.370 How can I compete with you, O Messenger of God, when I am in this state? 00:04:50.370 --> 00:04:51.370 He said 00:04:51.370 --> 00:04:52.370 To do so 00:04:52.370 --> 00:04:55.370 So I raced to him and he raced to me 00:04:55.370 --> 00:04:56.370 And he said 00:04:56.370 --> 00:04:58.370 This is a precedent 00:04:58.370 --> 00:05:00.370 Narrated by Abu Naeem 00:05:00.370 --> 00:05:07.500 So he, may God bless him and grant him peace, courted Aisha, may God be pleased with her, with this competition 00:05:07.500 --> 00:05:10.500 Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said 00:05:10.500 --> 00:05:14.500 It was one of his morals, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:05:14.500 --> 00:05:17.500 He is beautiful among the everlasting human beings 00:05:17.500 --> 00:05:20.500 He caresses his family and is kind to them 00:05:20.500 --> 00:05:22.500 He expands their expenses 00:05:22.500 --> 00:05:24.500 And women laugh 00:05:24.500 --> 00:05:29.500 He even used to compete with Aisha, the Mother of the Believers, may God be pleased with her 00:05:29.500 --> 00:05:32.500 He courtes her with this 00:05:32.500 --> 00:05:36.589 This is his biography, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:05:36.589 --> 00:05:40.589 Evidence of his good treatment of his family 00:05:40.589 --> 00:05:43.589 Until he was the best of people to his family 00:05:43.589 --> 00:05:46.620 But we are plagued with some kind of ideas 00:05:47.620 --> 00:05:51.620 Which considers playing with one's wife to be a sinful act 00:05:51.620 --> 00:05:55.620 Picture the men scowling at the wife 00:05:55.620 --> 00:05:58.620 And they smiled in the face of their friends 00:05:58.620 --> 00:06:03.689 Some people even thought that this is what Islam commands 00:06:03.689 --> 00:06:07.689 This method of dealing with women in general was not successful 00:06:07.689 --> 00:06:09.689 And the wife especially 00:06:09.689 --> 00:06:14.689 Because it violates the nature that God created people with 00:06:14.689 --> 00:06:18.689 This was the reaction of many women of this time 00:06:18.689 --> 00:06:22.689 Who are afflicted with this type of men? 00:06:22.689 --> 00:06:25.689 Discontent with Islam and its people 00:06:25.689 --> 00:06:27.689 He described it as ugly 00:06:27.689 --> 00:06:29.689 And praise of Western culture 00:06:29.689 --> 00:06:33.689 Considering it a model that should be emulated 00:06:33.689 --> 00:06:36.689 Appreciating women and respecting their feelings 00:06:36.689 --> 00:06:40.939 Professor Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:40.939 --> 00:06:44.040 It is the affection between spouses 00:06:44.040 --> 00:06:47.040 And joking and playing 00:06:47.040 --> 00:06:51.040 Among men are those who believe that a woman’s pleasure and foreplay are 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:54.040 Which takes away her reverence for him 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:56.040 And her respect for him 00:06:56.040 --> 00:07:00.040 He forgets that letting that go makes her forget it 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:03.069 Her calmness towards him and her love for him 00:07:03.069 --> 00:07:07.069 Love replaces reverence and modesty 00:07:07.069 --> 00:07:10.069 If it is true that joking and playing 00:07:10.069 --> 00:07:14.069 Fruit and foreplay are not compatible with them 00:07:14.069 --> 00:07:16.069 And that is not true 00:07:16.069 --> 00:07:20.069 The greatest men are the prophets and the wise 00:07:20.069 --> 00:07:22.069 And polite kings 00:07:22.069 --> 00:07:25.069 They satisfied their wives at home 00:07:25.069 --> 00:07:30.069 This betrays nothing of their awe and reverence 00:07:30.069 --> 00:07:33.329 He was the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:07:33.329 --> 00:07:36.329 He jokes with his women and flirts with them 00:07:36.329 --> 00:07:39.329 He said to Jabir, may God be pleased with him 00:07:39.329 --> 00:07:42.329 When he asked permission to marry a married man 00:07:42.329 --> 00:07:45.329 Welcome tomorrow, you will manipulate her and manipulate you 00:07:45.329 --> 00:07:48.329 And the hadith is in the two Sahihs 00:07:48.329 --> 00:07:51.329 And so he did, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:07:51.329 --> 00:07:56.329 They even narrated that he was racing against Aisha 00:07:56.329 --> 00:07:58.329 That is, intense running 00:07:58.329 --> 00:08:00.329 It preceded it and it preceded it 00:08:00.329 --> 00:08:03.329 Then he preceded her and preceded her 00:08:03.329 --> 00:08:06.329 He said this to that 00:08:06.329 --> 00:08:09.329 Where Abu Dawud, Al-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah have it 00:08:09.329 --> 00:08:11.329 And its chain of transmission is correct 00:08:11.329 --> 00:08:14.389 It is affected by the fact that Omar used to say 00:08:14.389 --> 00:08:17.389 Everyone in his house is a boy 00:08:17.389 --> 00:08:19.389 And in revival 00:08:19.389 --> 00:08:22.389 Omar, may God be pleased with him, said despite his harshness 00:08:22.389 --> 00:08:26.389 A man should be like a boy in his family 00:08:26.389 --> 00:08:30.389 If they searched for what he had, they found him to be a man 00:08:30.389 --> 00:08:32.419 There is a limit to humor at home 00:08:32.419 --> 00:08:35.419 Whoever transgresses it, his decency is gone 00:08:35.419 --> 00:08:38.419 And whoever falls short in it, his family will be burdened 00:08:38.419 --> 00:08:41.419 Women's dependence on men 00:08:41.419 --> 00:08:44.419 Included are afflictions and causes of misery 00:08:44.419 --> 00:08:48.519 Are you one of those who joke with his wife and play with her? 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:50.519 I hope so 00:08:50.519 --> 00:08:54.710 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:08:54.710 --> 00:08:57.710 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 00:09:00.500 --> 00:09:04.500 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her