Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, this Aisha and that one
God Almighty commanded the wife to be treated with kindness
God Almighty said: Treat them with kindness
Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said
This includes verbal and actual intercourse
The husband must treat his wife with kindness
Stop harming and do good
And good treatment
This includes alimony, clothing, and the like
The husband must treat his wife with kindness like him to her in that time and place
This varies depending on the circumstances
He is the best one to apply this verse in his life
He is the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
Until he said about himself, may God bless him and grant him peace
The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family
Narrated by Ibn Majah
Al-Sanaani, may God have mercy on him, said
He was absolutely the best of people
This is not a matter of pride
Rather, he informs the servants of his good treatment so that they may imitate him
He was known from his companions, may God bless him and grant him peace
He was the best of people
And to his family first
He had a condition for his family that no one else had
Of good treatment, tolerance of harm, and fairness
And similar things in the books of his virtues and conduct
Al-Sundi, may God have mercy on him, said
What he means is good treatment with his family
Among the things required in religion
What is characterized by it is among the options in this regard
It is possible that the one who is characterized by it will be successful in doing all good deeds
Until it becomes good at all
And God knows best
One of the beautiful stories of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
With his wives, he is a good family
His competition for Aisha, may God be pleased with her, in travel
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said
She preceded the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
So I beat him
When she became pregnant with meat
He outran me and he outran me
He said, O Aisha
This is that
Narrated by Al-Hamidi
The competition was not devoid of jokes, by God
Rather, you face the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
By joking and laughing with her, may God be pleased with her
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, says
I went out with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, on some of his travels
As a slave girl, I did not carry meat or make myself fat
He told the people to come forward
So they came forward
Then he told me to come so I can race with you
So I raced to him and I raced to him
So he remained silent about me
Even if I carried the meat and became fat and forgot
I went out with him on some of his travels
He told the people to come forward
So they came forward
Then he said, “Come, so I can race with you.”
So I raced to him and he raced to me
He started laughing as he said
This is that
Narrated by Ahmed
And in a narration by Al-Tabarani
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said
So I raced to him and he raced to me
He hit my shoulder and said
This is that
Rather, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He urged her to contest the second time
Because she apologized for carrying meat
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, insisted on the competition
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, told me
She was with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, on a journey
He said to his friends
Come forward
So they came forward
He said to me
Come so I can race you
So I raced to him and I raced to him
And when it was after
I went out with him on a trip
He said to his friends
Come forward
So they came forward
And he said
Come, I will race with you
And I forgot who it was
And I carried the meat
So I said
How can I compete with you, O Messenger of God, when I am in this state?
He said
To do so
So I raced to him and he raced to me
And he said
This is a precedent
Narrated by Abu Naeem
So he, may God bless him and grant him peace, courted Aisha, may God be pleased with her, with this competition
Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said
It was one of his morals, may God bless him and grant him peace
He is beautiful among the everlasting human beings
He caresses his family and is kind to them
He expands their expenses
And women laugh
He even used to compete with Aisha, the Mother of the Believers, may God be pleased with her
He courtes her with this
This is his biography, may God bless him and grant him peace
Evidence of his good treatment of his family
Until he was the best of people to his family
But we are plagued with some kind of ideas
Which considers playing with one's wife to be a sinful act
Picture the men scowling at the wife
And they smiled in the face of their friends
Some people even thought that this is what Islam commands
This method of dealing with women in general was not successful
And the wife especially
Because it violates the nature that God created people with
This was the reaction of many women of this time
Who are afflicted with this type of men?
Discontent with Islam and its people
He described it as ugly
And praise of Western culture
Considering it a model that should be emulated
Appreciating women and respecting their feelings
Professor Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said
It is the affection between spouses
And joking and playing
Among men are those who believe that a woman’s pleasure and foreplay are
Which takes away her reverence for him
And her respect for him
He forgets that letting that go makes her forget it
Her calmness towards him and her love for him
Love replaces reverence and modesty
If it is true that joking and playing
Fruit and foreplay are not compatible with them
And that is not true
The greatest men are the prophets and the wise
And polite kings
They satisfied their wives at home
This betrays nothing of their awe and reverence
He was the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace
He jokes with his women and flirts with them
He said to Jabir, may God be pleased with him
When he asked permission to marry a married man
Welcome tomorrow, you will manipulate her and manipulate you
And the hadith is in the two Sahihs
And so he did, may God bless him and grant him peace
They even narrated that he was racing against Aisha
That is, intense running
It preceded it and it preceded it
Then he preceded her and preceded her
He said this to that
Where Abu Dawud, Al-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah have it
And its chain of transmission is correct
It is affected by the fact that Omar used to say
Everyone in his house is a boy
And in revival
Omar, may God be pleased with him, said despite his harshness
A man should be like a boy in his family
If they searched for what he had, they found him to be a man
There is a limit to humor at home
Whoever transgresses it, his decency is lost
And whoever falls short in it, his family will be burdened
Women's dependence on men
Included are afflictions and causes of misery
Are you one of those who joke with his wife and play with her?
I hope so
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds
Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her