1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:17,760 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, this Aisha and that one 2 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:21,760 God Almighty commanded the wife to be treated with kindness 3 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:26,760 God Almighty said: Treat them with kindness 4 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:28,760 Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said 5 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,759 This includes verbal and actual intercourse 6 00:00:32,759 --> 00:00:36,759 The husband must treat his wife with kindness 7 00:00:37,759 --> 00:00:39,759 Stop harming and do good 8 00:00:39,759 --> 00:00:41,759 And good treatment 9 00:00:41,759 --> 00:00:45,759 This includes alimony, clothing, and the like 10 00:00:45,759 --> 00:00:52,759 The husband must treat his wife with kindness like him to her in that time and place 11 00:00:52,759 --> 00:00:55,759 This varies depending on the circumstances 12 00:00:55,759 --> 00:00:59,759 He is the best one to apply this verse in his life 13 00:00:59,759 --> 00:01:02,759 He is the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 14 00:01:02,759 --> 00:01:05,760 Until he said about himself, may God bless him and grant him peace 15 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:10,760 The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family 16 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:12,760 Narrated by Ibn Majah 17 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,760 Al-Sanaani, may God have mercy on him, said 18 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,760 He was absolutely the best of people 19 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:20,760 This is not a matter of pride 20 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:25,760 Rather, he informs the servants of his good treatment so that they may imitate him 21 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,760 He was known from his companions, may God bless him and grant him peace 22 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,760 He was the best of people 23 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,760 And to his family first 24 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:39,760 He had a condition for his family that no one else had 25 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:43,760 Of good treatment, tolerance of harm, and fairness 26 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:47,760 And similar things in the books of his virtues and conduct 27 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,859 Al-Sundi, may God have mercy on him, said 28 00:01:50,859 --> 00:01:53,859 What he means is good treatment with his family 29 00:01:53,859 --> 00:01:56,859 Among the things required in religion 30 00:01:56,859 --> 00:02:00,859 What is characterized by it is among the options in this respect 31 00:02:00,859 --> 00:02:04,859 It is possible that the one who is characterized by it will be successful in doing all good deeds 32 00:02:04,859 --> 00:02:07,859 Until it becomes good at all 33 00:02:07,859 --> 00:02:09,860 And God knows best 34 00:02:09,860 --> 00:02:13,860 One of the beautiful stories of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 35 00:02:13,860 --> 00:02:16,860 With his wives, he is a good family 36 00:02:16,860 --> 00:02:20,860 His competition for Aisha, may God be pleased with her, in travel 37 00:02:20,860 --> 00:02:24,949 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 38 00:02:24,949 --> 00:02:28,949 She preceded the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 39 00:02:28,949 --> 00:02:30,949 So I beat him 40 00:02:30,949 --> 00:02:32,949 When she became pregnant with meat 41 00:02:32,949 --> 00:02:34,949 He outran me and he outran me 42 00:02:34,949 --> 00:02:37,949 He said, O Aisha 43 00:02:37,949 --> 00:02:39,949 This is that 44 00:02:39,949 --> 00:02:42,020 Narrated by Al-Hamidi 45 00:02:42,020 --> 00:02:46,020 The competition was not devoid of jokes, by God 46 00:02:46,020 --> 00:02:49,020 Rather, you face the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 47 00:02:49,020 --> 00:02:53,020 By joking and laughing with her, may God be pleased with her 48 00:02:53,020 --> 00:02:56,080 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, says 49 00:02:56,080 --> 00:03:01,080 I went out with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, on some of his travels 50 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:05,080 As a slave girl, I did not carry meat or make myself fat 51 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:08,080 He told the people to come forward 52 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,080 So they came forward 53 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:14,080 Then he told me to come so I can race with you 54 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,080 So I raced to him and I raced to him 55 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,080 So he remained silent about me 56 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:22,080 Even if I carried the meat and became fat and forgot 57 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,080 I went out with him on some of his travels 58 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,080 He told the people to come forward 59 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,080 So they came forward 60 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:33,080 Then he said, “Come, so I can race with you.” 61 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,080 So I raced to him and he raced to me 62 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:38,080 He started laughing as he said 63 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,080 This is that 64 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,080 Narrated by Ahmed 65 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,080 And in a narration by Al-Tabarani 66 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,080 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 67 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,080 So I raced to him and he raced to me 68 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,080 He hit my shoulder and said 69 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,080 This is that 70 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,370 Rather, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 71 00:03:57,370 --> 00:04:01,370 He urged her to contest the second time 72 00:04:01,370 --> 00:04:05,370 Because she apologized for carrying meat 73 00:04:05,370 --> 00:04:09,370 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, insisted on the competition 74 00:04:09,370 --> 00:04:13,370 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, told me 75 00:04:13,370 --> 00:04:18,370 She was with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, on a journey 76 00:04:18,370 --> 00:04:20,370 He said to his friends 77 00:04:20,370 --> 00:04:21,370 Come forward 78 00:04:21,370 --> 00:04:22,370 So they came forward 79 00:04:22,370 --> 00:04:23,370 He said to me 80 00:04:23,370 --> 00:04:26,370 Come so I can race you 81 00:04:26,370 --> 00:04:28,370 So I raced to him and I raced to him 82 00:04:28,370 --> 00:04:30,370 And when it was after 83 00:04:30,370 --> 00:04:32,370 I went out with him on a trip 84 00:04:32,370 --> 00:04:34,370 He said to his friends 85 00:04:34,370 --> 00:04:35,370 Come forward 86 00:04:35,370 --> 00:04:37,370 So they came forward 87 00:04:37,370 --> 00:04:38,370 And he said 88 00:04:38,370 --> 00:04:40,370 Come, I will race with you 89 00:04:40,370 --> 00:04:42,370 And I forgot who it was 90 00:04:42,370 --> 00:04:44,370 And I carried the meat 91 00:04:44,370 --> 00:04:45,370 So I said 92 00:04:45,370 --> 00:04:50,370 How can I compete with you, O Messenger of God, when I am in this state? 93 00:04:50,370 --> 00:04:51,370 He said 94 00:04:51,370 --> 00:04:52,370 To do so 95 00:04:52,370 --> 00:04:55,370 So I raced to him and he raced to me 96 00:04:55,370 --> 00:04:56,370 And he said 97 00:04:56,370 --> 00:04:58,370 This is a precedent 98 00:04:58,370 --> 00:05:00,370 Narrated by Abu Naeem 99 00:05:00,370 --> 00:05:07,500 So he, may God bless him and grant him peace, courted Aisha, may God be pleased with her, with this competition 100 00:05:07,500 --> 00:05:10,500 Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said 101 00:05:10,500 --> 00:05:14,500 It was one of his morals, may God bless him and grant him peace 102 00:05:14,500 --> 00:05:17,500 He is beautiful among the everlasting human beings 103 00:05:17,500 --> 00:05:20,500 He caresses his family and is kind to them 104 00:05:20,500 --> 00:05:22,500 He expands their expenses 105 00:05:22,500 --> 00:05:24,500 And women laugh 106 00:05:24,500 --> 00:05:29,500 He even used to compete with Aisha, the Mother of the Believers, may God be pleased with her 107 00:05:29,500 --> 00:05:32,500 He courtes her with this 108 00:05:32,500 --> 00:05:36,589 This is his biography, may God bless him and grant him peace 109 00:05:36,589 --> 00:05:40,589 Evidence of his good treatment of his family 110 00:05:40,589 --> 00:05:43,589 Until he was the best of people to his family 111 00:05:43,589 --> 00:05:46,620 But we are plagued with some kind of ideas 112 00:05:47,620 --> 00:05:51,620 Which considers playing with one's wife to be a sinful act 113 00:05:51,620 --> 00:05:55,620 Picture the men scowling at the wife 114 00:05:55,620 --> 00:05:58,620 And they smiled in the face of their friends 115 00:05:58,620 --> 00:06:03,689 Some people even thought that this is what Islam commands 116 00:06:03,689 --> 00:06:07,689 This method of dealing with women in general was not successful 117 00:06:07,689 --> 00:06:09,689 And the wife especially 118 00:06:09,689 --> 00:06:14,689 Because it violates the nature that God created people with 119 00:06:14,689 --> 00:06:18,689 This was the reaction of many women of this time 120 00:06:18,689 --> 00:06:22,689 Who are afflicted with this type of men? 121 00:06:22,689 --> 00:06:25,689 Discontent with Islam and its people 122 00:06:25,689 --> 00:06:27,689 He described it as ugly 123 00:06:27,689 --> 00:06:29,689 And praise of Western culture 124 00:06:29,689 --> 00:06:33,689 Considering it a model that should be emulated 125 00:06:33,689 --> 00:06:36,689 Appreciating women and respecting their feelings 126 00:06:36,689 --> 00:06:40,939 Professor Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said 127 00:06:40,939 --> 00:06:44,040 It is the affection between spouses 128 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:47,040 And joking and playing 129 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:51,040 Among men are those who believe that a woman’s pleasure and foreplay are 130 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,040 Which takes away her reverence for him 131 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,040 And her respect for him 132 00:06:56,040 --> 00:07:00,040 He forgets that letting that go makes her forget it 133 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:03,069 Her calmness towards him and her love for him 134 00:07:03,069 --> 00:07:07,069 Love replaces reverence and modesty 135 00:07:07,069 --> 00:07:10,069 If it is true that joking and playing 136 00:07:10,069 --> 00:07:14,069 Fruit and foreplay are not compatible with them 137 00:07:14,069 --> 00:07:16,069 And that is not true 138 00:07:16,069 --> 00:07:20,069 The greatest men are the prophets and the wise 139 00:07:20,069 --> 00:07:22,069 And polite kings 140 00:07:22,069 --> 00:07:25,069 They satisfied their wives at home 141 00:07:25,069 --> 00:07:30,069 This betrays nothing of their awe and reverence 142 00:07:30,069 --> 00:07:33,329 He was the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace 143 00:07:33,329 --> 00:07:36,329 He jokes with his women and flirts with them 144 00:07:36,329 --> 00:07:39,329 He said to Jabir, may God be pleased with him 145 00:07:39,329 --> 00:07:42,329 When he asked permission to marry a married man 146 00:07:42,329 --> 00:07:45,329 Welcome tomorrow, you will manipulate her and manipulate you 147 00:07:45,329 --> 00:07:48,329 And the hadith is in the two Sahihs 148 00:07:48,329 --> 00:07:51,329 And so he did, may God bless him and grant him peace 149 00:07:51,329 --> 00:07:56,329 They even narrated that he was racing against Aisha 150 00:07:56,329 --> 00:07:58,329 That is, intense running 151 00:07:58,329 --> 00:08:00,329 It preceded it and it preceded it 152 00:08:00,329 --> 00:08:03,329 Then he preceded her and preceded her 153 00:08:03,329 --> 00:08:06,329 He said this to that 154 00:08:06,329 --> 00:08:09,329 Where Abu Dawud, Al-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah have it 155 00:08:09,329 --> 00:08:11,329 And its chain of transmission is correct 156 00:08:11,329 --> 00:08:14,389 It is affected by the fact that Omar used to say 157 00:08:14,389 --> 00:08:17,389 Everyone in his house is a boy 158 00:08:17,389 --> 00:08:19,389 And in revival 159 00:08:19,389 --> 00:08:22,389 Omar, may God be pleased with him, said despite his harshness 160 00:08:22,389 --> 00:08:26,389 A man should be like a boy in his family 161 00:08:26,389 --> 00:08:30,389 If they searched for what he had, they found him to be a man 162 00:08:30,389 --> 00:08:32,419 There is a limit to humor at home 163 00:08:32,419 --> 00:08:35,419 Whoever transgresses it, his decency is gone 164 00:08:35,419 --> 00:08:38,419 And whoever falls short in it, his family will be burdened 165 00:08:38,419 --> 00:08:41,419 Women's dependence on men 166 00:08:41,419 --> 00:08:44,419 Included are afflictions and causes of misery 167 00:08:44,419 --> 00:08:48,519 Are you one of those who joke with his wife and play with her? 168 00:08:48,519 --> 00:08:50,519 I hope so 169 00:08:50,519 --> 00:08:54,710 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 170 00:08:54,710 --> 00:08:57,710 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 171 00:09:00,500 --> 00:09:04,500 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her