WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.399 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:16.699 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:16.699 --> 00:00:22.789 My husband had sloppy camel meat 00:00:22.789 --> 00:00:27.949 After the women sat down, we pledged to be honest when talking about his wives 00:00:27.949 --> 00:00:30.350 And not to hide anything 00:00:30.350 --> 00:00:32.149 She said the first 00:00:32.149 --> 00:00:36.469 My husband had the meat of a sickly camel on top of a mountain 00:00:36.670 --> 00:00:38.909 It is not easy to rise 00:00:38.909 --> 00:00:42.340 Not fat, so it moves 00:00:42.340 --> 00:00:46.939 This wife slanders her husband with several ugly qualities 00:00:46.939 --> 00:00:50.380 She likens it to rotten camel meat 00:00:50.380 --> 00:00:52.179 And he is corrupt 00:00:52.179 --> 00:00:54.859 Placed on top of the mountain 00:00:54.859 --> 00:00:57.000 The mountain is rugged 00:00:57.000 --> 00:01:00.200 Who would covet lean, rotten meat? 00:01:00.200 --> 00:01:02.600 Hard to reach 00:01:02.600 --> 00:01:07.239 Moving it from its place is not worth the effort that goes into it 00:01:07.239 --> 00:01:10.459 Because he is weak and corrupt 00:01:10.459 --> 00:01:13.900 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:13.900 --> 00:01:17.780 It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few 00:01:17.780 --> 00:01:20.819 Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain 00:01:20.819 --> 00:01:25.379 It can only be achieved through hardship 00:01:25.379 --> 00:01:28.219 Lack of goodness means stinginess 00:01:28.219 --> 00:01:32.299 It is a reprehensible trait in men especially 00:01:32.299 --> 00:01:35.379 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:35.379 --> 00:01:39.900 This woman described her husband as stingy and lacking in goodness 00:01:39.900 --> 00:01:43.819 And he is far from achieving his goodness even though he is few 00:01:43.819 --> 00:01:47.099 Such as lean or spoiled meat 00:01:47.099 --> 00:01:50.379 He who abstains from it will not seek it 00:01:50.379 --> 00:01:54.420 So what if it is at the top of a difficult and rugged mountain? 00:01:54.420 --> 00:01:56.659 Or run over by sand 00:01:56.659 --> 00:01:58.659 It is not possible to walk in it 00:01:58.659 --> 00:02:02.980 It is only achieved through hardship 00:02:02.980 --> 00:02:06.939 Stinginess is a very reprehensible trait among people 00:02:06.939 --> 00:02:12.729 The miserly person withholds his money from those who deserve it or are obligated to them 00:02:12.729 --> 00:02:16.689 The one who is most harmed by miserliness is the wife 00:02:16.689 --> 00:02:20.409 Because the miserly person deprives her of her right to maintenance 00:02:20.409 --> 00:02:24.650 It is a continuing harm as long as it remains his responsibility 00:02:24.650 --> 00:02:29.210 Therefore, Bishr bin Al-Harith Al-Hafi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:02:29.210 --> 00:02:34.219 Do not marry a miser or deal with someone 00:02:34.219 --> 00:02:38.139 This is valuable advice from a great scholar 00:02:38.139 --> 00:02:41.460 For every woman about to get married 00:02:41.460 --> 00:02:44.219 Do not agree to the miser 00:02:44.219 --> 00:02:48.780 The miserly person has no friend except money 00:02:48.780 --> 00:02:52.099 A miser is not fit to be a wife 00:02:52.099 --> 00:02:54.780 Nor is he to lead people 00:02:54.780 --> 00:03:00.259 It was mentioned in the hadith of Jabir bin Abdullah, may God be pleased with them both, that he said: 00:03:00.259 --> 00:03:04.099 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:03:04.099 --> 00:03:07.180 Who is your master, Banu Salamah? 00:03:07.180 --> 00:03:12.729 We told Jad bin Qays that we would be stingy with him 00:03:12.729 --> 00:03:16.969 He said: What disease is more painful than miserliness? 00:03:16.969 --> 00:03:20.689 Rather, your master Omar bin Al-Jamouh 00:03:20.689 --> 00:03:24.340 Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 00:03:24.340 --> 00:03:26.979 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:26.979 --> 00:03:31.099 He did not accept that a stingy man should lead people 00:03:31.139 --> 00:03:37.639 He described stinginess as the most fatal disease to human morals 00:03:37.639 --> 00:03:40.400 Al-Mawardi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:03:40.400 --> 00:03:43.879 It may be caused by miserliness and reprehensible morals 00:03:43.879 --> 00:03:47.000 Even if it is an excuse for every blame 00:03:47.000 --> 00:03:48.879 Four morals 00:03:48.879 --> 00:03:51.319 Not to mention slander 00:03:51.319 --> 00:03:53.840 It is greed and greed 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:55.360 And bad suspicion 00:03:55.360 --> 00:03:57.750 And denying rights 00:03:57.750 --> 00:03:59.990 Then he said, may God have mercy on him 00:03:59.990 --> 00:04:01.949 As for denying rights 00:04:01.949 --> 00:04:05.990 The miser's soul does not allow separation from its beloved 00:04:05.990 --> 00:04:09.270 Do not be led to abandon what you want 00:04:09.270 --> 00:04:10.990 Do not submit to the truth 00:04:10.990 --> 00:04:13.819 And do not answer fairly 00:04:13.819 --> 00:04:18.420 If the stingy person turns to what we have described of these reprehensible morals 00:04:18.420 --> 00:04:20.300 And mean things 00:04:20.300 --> 00:04:22.899 There was nothing good left for him to hope for 00:04:22.899 --> 00:04:26.810 No good is expected 00:04:26.810 --> 00:04:29.370 The miser is of little intelligence 00:04:29.410 --> 00:04:31.089 Bad management 00:04:31.089 --> 00:04:33.689 Deprived of the good of the world 00:04:33.689 --> 00:04:35.250 Shortness of breath 00:04:35.250 --> 00:04:36.810 He hates guests 00:04:36.810 --> 00:04:39.329 He hates sitting with people 00:04:39.329 --> 00:04:41.089 Weak in faith 00:04:41.089 --> 00:04:43.370 He has a bad opinion of his Lord 00:04:43.370 --> 00:04:46.009 He combined reprehensible qualities 00:04:46.009 --> 00:04:48.839 Born from miserliness 00:04:48.839 --> 00:04:55.839 This is one of the characteristics that the first woman referred to in her words 00:04:55.839 --> 00:04:58.160 My husband had sloppy camel meat 00:04:58.160 --> 00:05:00.040 On top of a mountain 00:05:00.040 --> 00:05:02.240 It is not easy to rise 00:05:02.240 --> 00:05:05.529 Not fat, so it moves 00:05:05.529 --> 00:05:12.939 Some scholars have understood other characteristics that this woman refers to in this eloquent description 00:05:12.939 --> 00:05:15.620 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:05:15.620 --> 00:05:19.379 It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few 00:05:19.379 --> 00:05:22.300 Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain 00:05:22.300 --> 00:05:25.480 It can only be achieved through hardship 00:05:25.480 --> 00:05:26.480 I said 00:05:26.480 --> 00:05:28.639 The meaning of distance in this 00:05:28.639 --> 00:05:31.759 That you described him as having bad character 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:36.680 And to raise himself up and go with it as a wanderer and arrogant 00:05:36.680 --> 00:05:40.399 You want him despite his lack of goodness and nobility 00:05:40.399 --> 00:05:42.600 He is arrogant towards the clan 00:05:42.600 --> 00:05:44.720 Where are you next to him? 00:05:44.720 --> 00:05:46.839 It is combined to prevent expulsion 00:05:46.839 --> 00:05:50.879 Harm and bad behavior 00:05:50.879 --> 00:05:54.199 He is fine and arrogant towards people 00:05:54.240 --> 00:05:57.480 This is a very big scourge 00:05:57.480 --> 00:06:01.079 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said about it 00:06:01.079 --> 00:06:04.160 Whoever has it in his heart will not enter Paradise 00:06:04.160 --> 00:06:07.040 An atom's weight of arrogance 00:06:07.040 --> 00:06:08.519 A man said 00:06:08.519 --> 00:06:13.959 A man likes his clothes to be nice and his shoes to be nice 00:06:13.959 --> 00:06:15.079 He said 00:06:15.079 --> 00:06:18.720 God is beautiful and loves beauty 00:06:18.720 --> 00:06:19.839 Old age 00:06:19.839 --> 00:06:22.839 Slandering the truth and turning a blind eye to people 00:06:22.839 --> 00:06:24.959 Narrated by Muslim 00:06:24.959 --> 00:06:27.439 It is strange about this hadith 00:06:27.439 --> 00:06:30.800 The man asked the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:34.639 From a description that is never stingy 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:39.240 It is taking care of their clothes, their appearance and their smell 00:06:39.240 --> 00:06:42.560 Goodness is the one who combines miserliness and arrogance 00:06:42.560 --> 00:06:44.360 One of the worst people 00:06:44.360 --> 00:06:46.360 No benefit from his money 00:06:46.360 --> 00:06:49.279 Nor by accompanying people 00:06:49.279 --> 00:06:52.120 Because he despises and despises them 00:06:52.120 --> 00:06:54.500 This is arrogance 00:06:54.500 --> 00:06:58.699 He deprived himself of the bliss of this world and the bliss of the afterlife 00:06:58.699 --> 00:07:01.180 He tortured himself in this world 00:07:01.180 --> 00:07:05.620 By despising people, he tortures her in the afterlife 00:07:05.620 --> 00:07:11.180 It is beautiful to say how to describe the psychology of this benevolent and arrogant husband 00:07:11.180 --> 00:07:17.259 What Al-Suyuti, may God have mercy on him, reported on the authority of Al-Shadhri in his reflection on this hadith 00:07:17.259 --> 00:07:18.939 Where he said 00:07:18.939 --> 00:07:20.180 The first 00:07:20.180 --> 00:07:22.259 It is the arrogant soul 00:07:22.259 --> 00:07:24.620 Denied expense 00:07:24.620 --> 00:07:28.220 Whose delusion overcame the will of a people 00:07:28.220 --> 00:07:30.620 So they came unjustly and falsely 00:07:30.620 --> 00:07:32.819 And they were arrogant in themselves 00:07:32.819 --> 00:07:35.689 They were very cruel 00:07:35.689 --> 00:07:39.610 These are the most difficult souls to lead 00:07:39.610 --> 00:07:41.490 And the farthest presence 00:07:41.490 --> 00:07:43.529 The greatest of them is stubbornness 00:07:43.529 --> 00:07:45.930 And the most repulsive 00:07:45.930 --> 00:07:49.370 The uprising of the people of the state and the feathers 00:07:49.410 --> 00:07:53.370 She indulges in vices and indulges in bed 00:07:53.370 --> 00:07:55.889 She says in the language of supplications 00:07:55.889 --> 00:07:58.170 I am the sun and the moon 00:07:58.170 --> 00:08:01.410 If it appears that she has no equal 00:08:01.410 --> 00:08:04.290 The clouds settled and became dark 00:08:04.290 --> 00:08:08.540 There is a difference between a bad informer and a good one 00:08:08.540 --> 00:08:13.420 She resembles Zakhar in his statements about the conditions of the people of the scenes 00:08:13.420 --> 00:08:15.220 And peacock feathers 00:08:15.220 --> 00:08:18.339 Not confused with the thorns of hedgehogs 00:08:18.379 --> 00:08:20.459 And the owner of this soul 00:08:20.459 --> 00:08:23.100 If it is observed with the eye of supply 00:08:23.100 --> 00:08:26.779 He was attracted by the interest in the payment crisis 00:08:26.779 --> 00:08:30.540 Her nose is thinner than what used to be fat 00:08:30.540 --> 00:08:34.539 What was precious was more despicable than her pride 00:08:34.539 --> 00:08:38.860 I prefer it to exercise in a mountain with difficult paths 00:08:38.860 --> 00:08:41.600 Far from peaks and horizons 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:45.320 There is no way for the lovers of leadership 00:08:45.360 --> 00:08:49.399 And worldly concerns have no reliance on him 00:08:49.399 --> 00:08:53.240 If his soul is humiliated for something other than the truth and deviates 00:08:53.240 --> 00:08:56.080 It was as she told and she said 00:08:56.080 --> 00:08:58.519 My husband had sloppy camel meat 00:08:58.519 --> 00:09:01.220 On top of a mountain and moth 00:09:01.220 --> 00:09:05.379 The burden of humility has been weakened by the fat of his pride 00:09:05.379 --> 00:09:09.620 The trap of his greatness melted with the light of his remembrance 00:09:09.620 --> 00:09:13.019 And relief from the mountain of exercise and inactivity 00:09:13.019 --> 00:09:16.620 At a peak that is difficult to reach 00:09:16.620 --> 00:09:19.460 No mountain is easy to climb 00:09:19.460 --> 00:09:24.429 The meat is not fat and is picked 00:09:24.429 --> 00:09:27.629 The question that arises here 00:09:27.629 --> 00:09:32.539 What should a wife do if she is afflicted with such a husband? 00:09:32.539 --> 00:09:37.820 This issue occurred during the time of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:09:37.820 --> 00:09:40.539 And they issued fatwas in it that would heal the hearts 00:09:40.539 --> 00:09:42.539 And he handles matters 00:09:42.539 --> 00:09:48.509 It relieves the woman of embarrassment in her dealings with this stingy miser 00:09:48.509 --> 00:09:51.909 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 00:09:51.909 --> 00:09:54.309 Hind bint Utbah entered 00:09:54.309 --> 00:09:56.269 Abu Sufyan's wife 00:09:56.269 --> 00:09:58.110 On the Messenger of God 00:09:58.110 --> 00:09:59.389 And she said 00:09:59.389 --> 00:10:01.190 O Messenger of God 00:10:01.190 --> 00:10:04.389 Abu Sufyan is a stingy man 00:10:04.389 --> 00:10:08.870 He does not give me enough maintenance to suffice me or my son 00:10:08.870 --> 00:10:12.750 Except for what you took from his money without his knowledge 00:10:12.750 --> 00:10:16.100 Is there any blame on me for that? 00:10:16.100 --> 00:10:20.019 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:10:20.019 --> 00:10:25.419 Take from his money on a reasonable basis what is sufficient for you and your children 00:10:25.419 --> 00:10:27.500 Narrated by Muslim 00:10:27.500 --> 00:10:30.539 Ibn Abdul-Barr, may God have mercy on him, said 00:10:30.539 --> 00:10:37.100 He ordered her to punish him by taking her money from his right 00:10:37.100 --> 00:10:41.779 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, permitted her to take from his money 00:10:41.779 --> 00:10:45.379 Without his knowledge, it was not enough for her and her child 00:10:45.379 --> 00:10:47.940 This is restricted by virtue 00:10:47.940 --> 00:10:50.539 Do not go to extremes in taking from his money 00:10:50.539 --> 00:10:54.840 She does not take more than her basic needs 00:10:54.840 --> 00:10:59.159 Stinginess is a reprehensible characteristic that can be changed 00:10:59.159 --> 00:11:01.559 Advice is for the stingy husband 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:04.320 To strive to change this characteristic 00:11:04.320 --> 00:11:06.159 You make generosity 00:11:06.159 --> 00:11:10.840 And spending a lot on public friendships and other things 00:11:10.879 --> 00:11:15.399 With the insistence on God to remove this characteristic from the soul 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:19.149 And have good morals 00:11:19.149 --> 00:11:22.549 On the authority of Abu Darda, may God be pleased with him, he said 00:11:22.549 --> 00:11:26.350 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:11:26.350 --> 00:11:28.830 Knowledge comes from learning 00:11:28.830 --> 00:11:31.110 And dreaming about dreaming 00:11:31.110 --> 00:11:33.950 And whoever seeks goodness, it will be given to him 00:11:33.950 --> 00:11:37.070 Whoever fears evil will be protected from it 00:11:37.070 --> 00:11:40.450 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat 00:11:40.450 --> 00:11:43.850 On the authority of Saad bin Abi Waqqas, may God be pleased with him 00:11:43.850 --> 00:11:47.370 That the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:11:47.370 --> 00:11:52.490 He used to seek refuge in concluding the prayers with these words 00:11:52.490 --> 00:11:57.330 Oh God, I seek refuge in You from cowardice and stinginess 00:11:57.330 --> 00:11:59.710 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:11:59.710 --> 00:12:04.190 Stinginess is not one of the characteristics of the prophets or the righteous 00:12:04.190 --> 00:12:07.269 The believer is generous and generous 00:12:07.269 --> 00:12:08.909 And cowardice and stinginess 00:12:08.950 --> 00:12:13.269 Among the bad qualities that do not befit a believer 00:12:13.269 --> 00:12:18.659 He should often seek refuge in God from it 00:12:18.659 --> 00:12:23.980 Brother-in-law, practice generosity until you become generous 00:12:23.980 --> 00:12:26.299 And you seek goodness and you obtain it 00:12:26.299 --> 00:12:32.080 If you stay away from evil, God will keep you away from it 00:12:32.080 --> 00:12:35.759 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:12:35.759 --> 00:12:38.879 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds