1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,399 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,399 --> 00:00:16,699 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:16,699 --> 00:00:22,789 My husband had sloppy camel meat 4 00:00:22,789 --> 00:00:27,949 After the women sat down, we pledged to be honest when talking about his wives 5 00:00:27,949 --> 00:00:30,350 And not to hide anything 6 00:00:30,350 --> 00:00:32,149 She said the first 7 00:00:32,149 --> 00:00:36,469 My husband had the meat of a sickly camel on top of a mountain 8 00:00:36,670 --> 00:00:38,909 It is not easy to rise 9 00:00:38,909 --> 00:00:42,340 Not fat, so it moves 10 00:00:42,340 --> 00:00:46,939 This wife slanders her husband with several ugly qualities 11 00:00:46,939 --> 00:00:50,380 She likens it to rotten camel meat 12 00:00:50,380 --> 00:00:52,179 And he is corrupt 13 00:00:52,179 --> 00:00:54,859 Placed on top of the mountain 14 00:00:54,859 --> 00:00:57,000 The mountain is rugged 15 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:00,200 Who would covet lean, rotten meat? 16 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:02,600 Hard to reach 17 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:07,239 Moving it from its place is not worth the effort that goes into it 18 00:01:07,239 --> 00:01:10,459 Because he is weak and corrupt 19 00:01:10,459 --> 00:01:13,900 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 20 00:01:13,900 --> 00:01:17,780 It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few 21 00:01:17,780 --> 00:01:20,819 Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain 22 00:01:20,819 --> 00:01:25,379 It can only be achieved through hardship 23 00:01:25,379 --> 00:01:28,219 Lack of goodness means stinginess 24 00:01:28,219 --> 00:01:32,299 It is a reprehensible trait in men especially 25 00:01:32,299 --> 00:01:35,379 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 26 00:01:35,379 --> 00:01:39,900 This woman described her husband as stingy and lacking in goodness 27 00:01:39,900 --> 00:01:43,819 And he is far from achieving his goodness even though he is few 28 00:01:43,819 --> 00:01:47,099 Such as lean or spoiled meat 29 00:01:47,099 --> 00:01:50,379 He who abstains from it will not seek it 30 00:01:50,379 --> 00:01:54,420 So what if it is at the top of a difficult and rugged mountain? 31 00:01:54,420 --> 00:01:56,659 Or run over by sand 32 00:01:56,659 --> 00:01:58,659 It is not possible to walk in it 33 00:01:58,659 --> 00:02:02,980 It is only achieved through hardship 34 00:02:02,980 --> 00:02:06,939 Stinginess is a very reprehensible trait among people 35 00:02:06,939 --> 00:02:12,729 The miserly person withholds his money from those who deserve it or are obligated to them 36 00:02:12,729 --> 00:02:16,689 The one who is most harmed by miserliness is the wife 37 00:02:16,689 --> 00:02:20,409 Because the miserly person deprives her of her right to maintenance 38 00:02:20,409 --> 00:02:24,650 It is a continuing harm as long as it remains his responsibility 39 00:02:24,650 --> 00:02:29,210 Therefore, Bishr bin Al-Harith Al-Hafi, may God have mercy on him, said 40 00:02:29,210 --> 00:02:34,219 Do not marry a miser or deal with someone 41 00:02:34,219 --> 00:02:38,139 This is valuable advice from a great scholar 42 00:02:38,139 --> 00:02:41,460 For every woman about to get married 43 00:02:41,460 --> 00:02:44,219 Do not agree to the miser 44 00:02:44,219 --> 00:02:48,780 The miserly person has no friend except money 45 00:02:48,780 --> 00:02:52,099 A miser is not fit to be a wife 46 00:02:52,099 --> 00:02:54,780 Nor is he to lead people 47 00:02:54,780 --> 00:03:00,259 It was mentioned in the hadith of Jabir bin Abdullah, may God be pleased with them both, that he said: 48 00:03:00,259 --> 00:03:04,099 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 49 00:03:04,099 --> 00:03:07,180 Who is your master, Banu Salamah? 50 00:03:07,180 --> 00:03:12,729 We told Jad bin Qays that we would be stingy with him 51 00:03:12,729 --> 00:03:16,969 He said: What disease is more painful than miserliness? 52 00:03:16,969 --> 00:03:20,689 Rather, your master Omar bin Al-Jamouh 53 00:03:20,689 --> 00:03:24,340 Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 54 00:03:24,340 --> 00:03:26,979 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 55 00:03:26,979 --> 00:03:31,099 He did not accept that a stingy man should lead people 56 00:03:31,139 --> 00:03:37,639 He described stinginess as the most fatal disease to human morals 57 00:03:37,639 --> 00:03:40,400 Al-Mawardi, may God have mercy on him, said 58 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,879 It may be caused by miserliness and reprehensible morals 59 00:03:43,879 --> 00:03:47,000 Even if it is an excuse for every blame 60 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,879 Four morals 61 00:03:48,879 --> 00:03:51,319 Not to mention slander 62 00:03:51,319 --> 00:03:53,840 It is greed and greed 63 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:55,360 And bad suspicion 64 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:57,750 And denying rights 65 00:03:57,750 --> 00:03:59,990 Then he said, may God have mercy on him 66 00:03:59,990 --> 00:04:01,949 As for denying rights 67 00:04:01,949 --> 00:04:05,990 The miser's soul does not allow separation from its beloved 68 00:04:05,990 --> 00:04:09,270 Do not be led to abandon what you want 69 00:04:09,270 --> 00:04:10,990 Do not submit to the truth 70 00:04:10,990 --> 00:04:13,819 And do not answer fairly 71 00:04:13,819 --> 00:04:18,420 If the stingy person turns to what we have described of these reprehensible morals 72 00:04:18,420 --> 00:04:20,300 And mean things 73 00:04:20,300 --> 00:04:22,899 There was nothing good left for him to hope for 74 00:04:22,899 --> 00:04:26,810 No good is expected 75 00:04:26,810 --> 00:04:29,370 The miser is of little intelligence 76 00:04:29,410 --> 00:04:31,089 Bad management 77 00:04:31,089 --> 00:04:33,689 Deprived of the good of the world 78 00:04:33,689 --> 00:04:35,250 Shortness of breath 79 00:04:35,250 --> 00:04:36,810 He hates guests 80 00:04:36,810 --> 00:04:39,329 He hates sitting with people 81 00:04:39,329 --> 00:04:41,089 Weak in faith 82 00:04:41,089 --> 00:04:43,370 He has a bad opinion of his Lord 83 00:04:43,370 --> 00:04:46,009 He combined reprehensible qualities 84 00:04:46,009 --> 00:04:48,839 Born from miserliness 85 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:55,839 This is one of the characteristics that the first woman referred to in her words 86 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,160 My husband had sloppy camel meat 87 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,040 On top of a mountain 88 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,240 It is not easy to rise 89 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:05,529 Not fat, so it moves 90 00:05:05,529 --> 00:05:12,939 Some scholars have understood other characteristics that this woman refers to in this eloquent description 91 00:05:12,939 --> 00:05:15,620 Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said 92 00:05:15,620 --> 00:05:19,379 It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few 93 00:05:19,379 --> 00:05:22,300 Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain 94 00:05:22,300 --> 00:05:25,480 It can only be achieved through hardship 95 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:26,480 I said 96 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,639 The meaning of distance in this 97 00:05:28,639 --> 00:05:31,759 That you described him as having bad character 98 00:05:31,759 --> 00:05:36,680 And to raise himself up and go with it as a wanderer and arrogant 99 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:40,399 You want him despite his lack of goodness and nobility 100 00:05:40,399 --> 00:05:42,600 He is arrogant towards the clan 101 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:44,720 Where are you next to him? 102 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:46,839 It is combined to prevent expulsion 103 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:50,879 Harm and bad behavior 104 00:05:50,879 --> 00:05:54,199 He is fine and arrogant towards people 105 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:57,480 This is a very big scourge 106 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:01,079 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said about it 107 00:06:01,079 --> 00:06:04,160 Whoever has it in his heart will not enter Paradise 108 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:07,040 An atom's weight of arrogance 109 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:08,519 A man said 110 00:06:08,519 --> 00:06:13,959 A man likes his clothes to be nice and his shoes to be nice 111 00:06:13,959 --> 00:06:15,079 He said 112 00:06:15,079 --> 00:06:18,720 God is beautiful and loves beauty 113 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:19,839 Old age 114 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,839 Slandering the truth and turning a blind eye to people 115 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:24,959 Narrated by Muslim 116 00:06:24,959 --> 00:06:27,439 It is strange about this hadith 117 00:06:27,439 --> 00:06:30,800 The man asked the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 118 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:34,639 From a description that is never stingy 119 00:06:34,639 --> 00:06:39,240 It is taking care of their clothes, their appearance and their smell 120 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:42,560 Goodness is the one who combines miserliness and arrogance 121 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:44,360 One of the worst people 122 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:46,360 No benefit from his money 123 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,279 Nor by accompanying people 124 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:52,120 Because he despises and despises them 125 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:54,500 This is arrogance 126 00:06:54,500 --> 00:06:58,699 He deprived himself of the bliss of this world and the bliss of the afterlife 127 00:06:58,699 --> 00:07:01,180 He tortured himself in this world 128 00:07:01,180 --> 00:07:05,620 By despising people, he tortures her in the afterlife 129 00:07:05,620 --> 00:07:11,180 It is beautiful to say how to describe the psychology of this benevolent and arrogant husband 130 00:07:11,180 --> 00:07:17,259 What Al-Suyuti, may God have mercy on him, reported on the authority of Al-Shadhri in his reflection on this hadith 131 00:07:17,259 --> 00:07:18,939 Where he said 132 00:07:18,939 --> 00:07:20,180 The first 133 00:07:20,180 --> 00:07:22,259 It is the arrogant soul 134 00:07:22,259 --> 00:07:24,620 Denied expense 135 00:07:24,620 --> 00:07:28,220 Whose delusion overcame the will of a people 136 00:07:28,220 --> 00:07:30,620 So they came unjustly and falsely 137 00:07:30,620 --> 00:07:32,819 And they were arrogant in themselves 138 00:07:32,819 --> 00:07:35,689 They were very cruel 139 00:07:35,689 --> 00:07:39,610 These are the most difficult souls to lead 140 00:07:39,610 --> 00:07:41,490 And the farthest presence 141 00:07:41,490 --> 00:07:43,529 The greatest of them is stubbornness 142 00:07:43,529 --> 00:07:45,930 And the most repulsive 143 00:07:45,930 --> 00:07:49,370 The uprising of the people of the state and the feathers 144 00:07:49,410 --> 00:07:53,370 She indulges in vices and indulges in bed 145 00:07:53,370 --> 00:07:55,889 She says in the language of supplications 146 00:07:55,889 --> 00:07:58,170 I am the sun and the moon 147 00:07:58,170 --> 00:08:01,410 If it appears that she has no equal 148 00:08:01,410 --> 00:08:04,290 The clouds settled and became dark 149 00:08:04,290 --> 00:08:08,540 There is a difference between a bad informer and a good one 150 00:08:08,540 --> 00:08:13,420 She resembles Zakhar in his statements about the conditions of the people of the scenes 151 00:08:13,420 --> 00:08:15,220 And peacock feathers 152 00:08:15,220 --> 00:08:18,339 Not confused with the thorns of hedgehogs 153 00:08:18,379 --> 00:08:20,459 And the owner of this soul 154 00:08:20,459 --> 00:08:23,100 If it is observed with the eye of supply 155 00:08:23,100 --> 00:08:26,779 He was attracted by the interest in the payment crisis 156 00:08:26,779 --> 00:08:30,540 Her nose is thinner than what used to be fat 157 00:08:30,540 --> 00:08:34,539 What was precious was more despicable than her pride 158 00:08:34,539 --> 00:08:38,860 I prefer it to exercise in a mountain with difficult paths 159 00:08:38,860 --> 00:08:41,600 Far from peaks and horizons 160 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:45,320 There is no way for the lovers of leadership 161 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:49,399 And worldly concerns have no reliance on him 162 00:08:49,399 --> 00:08:53,240 If his soul is humiliated for something other than the truth and deviates 163 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,080 It was as she told and she said 164 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,519 My husband had sloppy camel meat 165 00:08:58,519 --> 00:09:01,220 On top of a mountain and moth 166 00:09:01,220 --> 00:09:05,379 The burden of humility has been weakened by the fat of his pride 167 00:09:05,379 --> 00:09:09,620 The trap of his greatness melted with the light of his remembrance 168 00:09:09,620 --> 00:09:13,019 And relief from the mountain of exercise and inactivity 169 00:09:13,019 --> 00:09:16,620 At a peak that is difficult to reach 170 00:09:16,620 --> 00:09:19,460 No mountain is easy to climb 171 00:09:19,460 --> 00:09:24,429 The meat is not fat and is picked 172 00:09:24,429 --> 00:09:27,629 The question that arises here 173 00:09:27,629 --> 00:09:32,539 What should a wife do if she is afflicted with such a husband? 174 00:09:32,539 --> 00:09:37,820 This issue occurred during the time of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 175 00:09:37,820 --> 00:09:40,539 And they issued fatwas in it that would heal the hearts 176 00:09:40,539 --> 00:09:42,539 And he handles matters 177 00:09:42,539 --> 00:09:48,509 It relieves the woman of embarrassment in her dealings with this stingy miser 178 00:09:48,509 --> 00:09:51,909 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 179 00:09:51,909 --> 00:09:54,309 Hind bint Utbah entered 180 00:09:54,309 --> 00:09:56,269 Abu Sufyan's wife 181 00:09:56,269 --> 00:09:58,110 On the Messenger of God 182 00:09:58,110 --> 00:09:59,389 And she said 183 00:09:59,389 --> 00:10:01,190 O Messenger of God 184 00:10:01,190 --> 00:10:04,389 Abu Sufyan is a stingy man 185 00:10:04,389 --> 00:10:08,870 He does not give me enough maintenance to suffice me or my son 186 00:10:08,870 --> 00:10:12,750 Except for what you took from his money without his knowledge 187 00:10:12,750 --> 00:10:16,100 Is there any blame on me for that? 188 00:10:16,100 --> 00:10:20,019 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 189 00:10:20,019 --> 00:10:25,419 Take from his money on a reasonable basis what is sufficient for you and your children 190 00:10:25,419 --> 00:10:27,500 Narrated by Muslim 191 00:10:27,500 --> 00:10:30,539 Ibn Abdul-Barr, may God have mercy on him, said 192 00:10:30,539 --> 00:10:37,100 He ordered her to punish him by taking her money from his right 193 00:10:37,100 --> 00:10:41,779 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, permitted her to take from his money 194 00:10:41,779 --> 00:10:45,379 Without his knowledge, it was not enough for her and her child 195 00:10:45,379 --> 00:10:47,940 This is restricted by virtue 196 00:10:47,940 --> 00:10:50,539 Do not go to extremes in taking from his money 197 00:10:50,539 --> 00:10:54,840 She does not take more than her basic needs 198 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:59,159 Stinginess is a reprehensible characteristic that can be changed 199 00:10:59,159 --> 00:11:01,559 Advice is for the stingy husband 200 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:04,320 To strive to change this characteristic 201 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:06,159 You make generosity 202 00:11:06,159 --> 00:11:10,840 And spending a lot on public friendships and other things 203 00:11:10,879 --> 00:11:15,399 With the insistence on God to remove this characteristic from the soul 204 00:11:15,399 --> 00:11:19,149 And have good morals 205 00:11:19,149 --> 00:11:22,549 On the authority of Abu Darda, may God be pleased with him, he said 206 00:11:22,549 --> 00:11:26,350 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 207 00:11:26,350 --> 00:11:28,830 Knowledge comes from learning 208 00:11:28,830 --> 00:11:31,110 And dreaming about dreaming 209 00:11:31,110 --> 00:11:33,950 And whoever seeks goodness, it will be given to him 210 00:11:33,950 --> 00:11:37,070 Whoever fears evil will be protected from it 211 00:11:37,070 --> 00:11:40,450 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat 212 00:11:40,450 --> 00:11:43,850 On the authority of Saad bin Abi Waqqas, may God be pleased with him 213 00:11:43,850 --> 00:11:47,370 That the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 214 00:11:47,370 --> 00:11:52,490 He used to seek refuge in concluding the prayers with these words 215 00:11:52,490 --> 00:11:57,330 Oh God, I seek refuge in You from cowardice and stinginess 216 00:11:57,330 --> 00:11:59,710 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 217 00:11:59,710 --> 00:12:04,190 Stinginess is not one of the characteristics of the prophets or the righteous 218 00:12:04,190 --> 00:12:07,269 The believer is generous and generous 219 00:12:07,269 --> 00:12:08,909 And cowardice and stinginess 220 00:12:08,950 --> 00:12:13,269 Among the bad qualities that do not befit a believer 221 00:12:13,269 --> 00:12:18,659 He should often seek refuge in God from it 222 00:12:18,659 --> 00:12:23,980 Brother-in-law, practice generosity until you become generous 223 00:12:23,980 --> 00:12:26,299 And you seek goodness and you obtain it 224 00:12:26,299 --> 00:12:32,080 If you stay away from evil, God will keep you away from it 225 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,759 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 226 00:12:35,759 --> 00:12:38,879 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds