WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.399 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:13.199 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:13.199 --> 00:00:24.519 A husband who does not insert the palm to know the broadcast 00:00:24.519 --> 00:00:29.519 This is a type of man who is stingy in all aspects 00:00:29.519 --> 00:00:33.259 A combination of miserliness of money and miserliness of feelings 00:00:33.460 --> 00:00:39.960 Perhaps the stinginess of money penetrated his heart until it reached his feelings, so he was stingy with them 00:00:39.960 --> 00:00:45.460 That is why his wife, the sixth woman, described him by saying: 00:00:45.460 --> 00:00:52.259 My husband, if he eats, he will turn away, if he does not drink, he will turn away, and if he eats, he will turn away 00:00:52.259 --> 00:00:55.960 He does not insert the palm to know the broadcast 00:00:55.960 --> 00:00:59.840 Abu Ubaidan Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:00:59.939 --> 00:01:01.840 Rolling in the restaurant 00:01:01.840 --> 00:01:05.140 A lot of it, while mixing its types 00:01:05.140 --> 00:01:07.840 Until there is nothing left of it 00:01:07.840 --> 00:01:10.140 And snuggling in the bar 00:01:10.140 --> 00:01:12.439 To investigate what is in the vessel 00:01:12.439 --> 00:01:15.040 My questions are not priced in it 00:01:15.040 --> 00:01:17.540 But it was taken from the transparent 00:01:17.540 --> 00:01:21.340 It is the remainder of the drink that remains in the vessel 00:01:21.340 --> 00:01:23.840 If its owner drinks it 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:26.260 It was said that he missed her 00:01:26.260 --> 00:01:29.459 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:29.459 --> 00:01:32.459 This is a woman who disparaged her husband 00:01:32.459 --> 00:01:35.459 She first described him as mean and stingy 00:01:35.459 --> 00:01:38.459 Al-Barm, Al-Nahamah, and Al-Jaraza 00:01:38.459 --> 00:01:41.459 Bad relations and companionship 00:01:41.459 --> 00:01:46.459 And he does not remain in what he eats and drinks or leaves 00:01:46.459 --> 00:01:50.459 He collects everything he finds and destroys it 00:01:50.459 --> 00:01:53.459 This is not good morals 00:01:53.459 --> 00:01:57.469 This type of men 00:01:57.469 --> 00:02:00.969 He is mean, stingy, and voracious in eating 00:02:00.969 --> 00:02:03.969 He eats all the food around him 00:02:03.969 --> 00:02:06.969 He does not take into account his wife and children 00:02:06.969 --> 00:02:10.129 This is from his bad character 00:02:10.129 --> 00:02:13.129 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, explained to us 00:02:13.129 --> 00:02:15.629 Etiquette in eating with people 00:02:15.629 --> 00:02:18.629 He forbade eating two dates together 00:02:18.629 --> 00:02:21.629 And people eat dates 00:02:21.629 --> 00:02:26.159 And there is a hadith from Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them both, who said: 00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:28.659 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade 00:02:28.659 --> 00:02:32.159 For a man to combine both dates 00:02:32.159 --> 00:02:35.159 Until he asks his companions for permission 00:02:35.159 --> 00:02:37.849 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:02:37.849 --> 00:02:40.349 Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said 00:02:40.349 --> 00:02:43.849 The prohibition of the Qur’an regarding dates according to scholars 00:02:43.849 --> 00:02:46.849 Out of good manners in eating 00:02:46.849 --> 00:02:50.349 Because the people in whose hands dates were placed 00:02:50.349 --> 00:02:52.849 Like equals in eating 00:02:52.849 --> 00:02:55.849 If one of them owns more than the other 00:02:55.849 --> 00:02:58.349 He was not thankful for that 00:02:58.349 --> 00:03:01.349 Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said 00:03:01.349 --> 00:03:02.849 He forbade that 00:03:02.849 --> 00:03:06.849 Because it causes gluttony and eagerness to eat a lot 00:03:06.849 --> 00:03:09.849 And in that is what brings disgrace to its owner 00:03:09.849 --> 00:03:13.849 Whoever reminds him of that and criticizes him for it is sinful 00:03:13.849 --> 00:03:20.889 The food in the house is shared between the man, his wife, and his children 00:03:20.889 --> 00:03:24.389 If he takes food from them, he wrongs them 00:03:24.389 --> 00:03:27.389 Even if he was the one who brought the food 00:03:27.389 --> 00:03:32.389 But his household has the right to feed them and spend money on them 00:03:32.389 --> 00:03:34.979 This man is reprehensible enough 00:03:34.979 --> 00:03:37.979 The scholars differed regarding the ruling on doing so 00:03:37.979 --> 00:03:40.479 Is it forbidden or disliked? 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:43.580 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 00:03:43.580 --> 00:03:45.580 They disagreed about this prohibition 00:03:45.580 --> 00:03:48.580 Is it forbidden or disliked? 00:03:48.580 --> 00:03:51.080 It is correct to detail 00:03:51.080 --> 00:03:54.080 If the food is shared between them 00:03:54.080 --> 00:03:57.580 The Qur’an is forbidden except with their consent 00:03:57.580 --> 00:03:59.580 It happens with their statement 00:03:59.580 --> 00:04:03.080 Or whatever takes its place from a circumstantial evidence 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:06.080 So that is most likely to be the case 00:04:06.080 --> 00:04:09.080 If the food is for others, it is forbidden 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:12.580 If one of them had permission to eat 00:04:12.580 --> 00:04:14.580 He required his satisfaction 00:04:14.580 --> 00:04:17.579 It is forbidden for others and it is permissible for him 00:04:17.579 --> 00:04:23.959 However, it is recommended that he ask permission from those eating with him 00:04:23.959 --> 00:04:26.459 Although the ruling on the issue differs 00:04:26.459 --> 00:04:29.959 However, they agreed that the one who did that 00:04:29.959 --> 00:04:32.459 He has misbehaved in eating 00:04:32.459 --> 00:04:37.019 As for the second matter that the woman condemned by saying: 00:04:37.019 --> 00:04:39.019 Where did he lie down? 00:04:39.019 --> 00:04:42.019 He does not insert the cuff to know the broadcast 00:04:42.019 --> 00:04:46.019 Ibn Qutaybah al-Din Wari, may God have mercy on him, said 00:04:46.019 --> 00:04:49.050 She wanted him to sleep 00:04:49.050 --> 00:04:52.050 He turned around and did not have sex with her 00:04:52.050 --> 00:04:58.050 He did not practice with her what a man would do with a woman if he wanted to have intercourse with her 00:04:58.050 --> 00:05:02.050 So he puts his hand into her dress and knows the broadcast 00:05:02.050 --> 00:05:07.050 There is nothing broadcast there except the love of the woman and her husband being close to her 00:05:07.050 --> 00:05:09.550 And she had sex with him 00:05:09.550 --> 00:05:12.050 And I was broadcasting about it 00:05:12.050 --> 00:05:15.180 Because the broadcast was for him 00:05:15.180 --> 00:05:18.180 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:05:18.180 --> 00:05:21.180 Then she described it as a lack of work 00:05:21.180 --> 00:05:23.180 And disrupt it 00:05:23.180 --> 00:05:25.180 And if he sleeps 00:05:25.180 --> 00:05:28.180 He wrapped himself in his clothes and did not have sex with her 00:05:28.180 --> 00:05:31.180 Nor is it lower than himself 00:05:31.180 --> 00:05:34.180 And he has no interest in negotiating 00:05:34.180 --> 00:05:37.180 Which is one of the praises of men 00:05:37.180 --> 00:05:41.180 The Arabs used to praise force for sexual intercourse 00:05:41.180 --> 00:05:45.180 Because it is evidence of masculine health 00:05:45.180 --> 00:05:47.180 And disparage the opposite 00:05:47.180 --> 00:05:52.779 As the other Ayaa said 00:05:52.779 --> 00:05:54.779 This man is stingy 00:05:54.779 --> 00:05:58.779 Even in giving women their right to sexual intercourse 00:05:58.779 --> 00:06:02.779 If he sleeps with her on the bed, he turns away from her 00:06:02.779 --> 00:06:06.779 This symptom is one of the most severe things for a normal woman 00:06:06.779 --> 00:06:10.779 Because sexual intercourse is one of the purposes of marriage 00:06:10.779 --> 00:06:12.779 It is a path to chastity 00:06:12.779 --> 00:06:16.779 If a man fails to do so with his wife 00:06:16.779 --> 00:06:19.779 It caused her great harm 00:06:19.779 --> 00:06:22.779 If she is one of those who fear God 00:06:22.779 --> 00:06:25.779 She preserved herself and stayed with her pain 00:06:25.779 --> 00:06:28.779 But if she was among those tempted by Satan 00:06:28.779 --> 00:06:31.779 She will take the forbidden path 00:06:31.779 --> 00:06:34.910 In order to satisfy herself 00:06:34.910 --> 00:06:37.910 The situation is similar to this type of men 00:06:37.910 --> 00:06:39.910 It's as she said 00:06:39.910 --> 00:06:42.910 He does not twist the scales to teach broadcasting 00:06:42.910 --> 00:06:46.910 This means that even the caress with his hand on her body is missing 00:06:46.910 --> 00:06:49.910 Rather, his body does not touch her body 00:06:49.910 --> 00:06:52.910 Because he was so far away from her 00:06:52.910 --> 00:06:56.000 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:56.000 --> 00:06:59.000 She complained about this trait from her husband 00:06:59.000 --> 00:07:01.000 I blamed him for that 00:07:01.000 --> 00:07:03.000 She lost her luck with him 00:07:03.000 --> 00:07:06.000 And he does not have sex with her or get close to her 00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:09.000 He sleeps next to her 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:11.000 As she said 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:13.000 And if he lies down, he turns around 00:07:13.000 --> 00:07:15.000 He does not bring her closer to himself 00:07:15.000 --> 00:07:17.000 He puts his hand into it 00:07:17.000 --> 00:07:19.000 He touches her and touches her 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:21.000 So it will be from him to her 00:07:21.000 --> 00:07:24.000 What men do to their husbands 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:26.000 He knows that it was broadcast 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:28.000 And her love for him 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:31.000 And her sadness because he didn't do that to her 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:36.569 He rarely misses him because he needs it 00:07:36.569 --> 00:07:39.569 The woman is very sad 00:07:39.569 --> 00:07:41.569 Because this type of men 00:07:41.569 --> 00:07:43.569 He doesn't pay any attention to her 00:07:43.569 --> 00:07:47.569 He knows nothing of her conditions and concerns 00:07:47.569 --> 00:07:49.569 And like this 00:07:49.569 --> 00:07:52.569 Don't expect him to speak nicely to her 00:07:52.569 --> 00:07:54.569 He is stingy with feelings 00:07:54.569 --> 00:07:57.639 And the danger of being stingy with feelings 00:07:57.639 --> 00:08:00.639 If a woman loses her husband 00:08:00.639 --> 00:08:03.639 I looked for it among others 00:08:03.639 --> 00:08:05.670 If it is a woman 00:08:05.670 --> 00:08:07.670 She works outside the home 00:08:07.670 --> 00:08:09.670 It works in a mixed field 00:08:09.670 --> 00:08:12.670 He fears that she will fall into temptation 00:08:12.670 --> 00:08:15.699 With the men around her 00:08:15.699 --> 00:08:17.699 And if she is one of those who are attached 00:08:17.699 --> 00:08:20.699 By means of communication and being preoccupied with it 00:08:20.699 --> 00:08:22.699 He is afraid that she will fall 00:08:22.699 --> 00:08:24.699 In the human trap 00:08:24.699 --> 00:08:26.699 In these means 00:08:26.699 --> 00:08:28.800 The man bears it 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:30.800 His wife's sin is with her 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:33.960 If he is the reason for its derivation 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:36.960 Advice for this type of men 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:38.960 To fear God Almighty 00:08:38.960 --> 00:08:40.960 He changes this bad disposition 00:08:40.960 --> 00:08:44.960 By learning how to deal with the wife 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:46.960 Before it's too late 00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:49.960 If the reason for the man’s retirement is his wife 00:08:49.960 --> 00:08:51.960 It is weakness and laziness 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:53.960 These are matters 00:08:53.960 --> 00:08:56.960 Today it is treated in different ways 00:08:56.960 --> 00:08:59.960 But if his retirement was for her 00:08:59.960 --> 00:09:02.960 Because of the weakness of her love in his heart 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:05.960 Not all homes are based on love 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:09.960 There is nothing less than giving her her right of intercourse 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:13.960 Even if his heart was not inclined towards her 00:09:13.960 --> 00:09:17.049 A woman often loves her husband 00:09:17.049 --> 00:09:19.049 Even if he falls short with her 00:09:19.049 --> 00:09:21.049 If a man touches that 00:09:21.049 --> 00:09:24.049 If he finds a caring and loving heart 00:09:24.049 --> 00:09:26.049 He lives with him at home 00:09:26.049 --> 00:09:30.049 He desires his satisfaction and strives to make him happy 00:09:30.049 --> 00:09:33.279 If some societies today 00:09:33.279 --> 00:09:35.279 They complain of frequent divorces 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:39.279 He asked women to divorce themselves from their husbands 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:42.279 This reason must be noted 00:09:42.279 --> 00:09:44.279 In men and its treatment 00:09:44.279 --> 00:09:47.279 It is one of the main reasons 00:09:47.279 --> 00:09:50.600 There are many divorces and divorce requests 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:53.600 A woman must fear God Almighty 00:09:53.600 --> 00:09:57.600 She will not be harmed by her husband’s negligence towards her 00:09:57.600 --> 00:10:00.600 To open the door to communication with men 00:10:00.600 --> 00:10:03.600 Be very careful not to look too much 00:10:04.600 --> 00:10:07.600 It is a temptation for women 00:10:07.600 --> 00:10:10.600 Therefore, the woman was commanded as the man was commanded 00:10:10.600 --> 00:10:13.600 With the anger of sight 00:10:13.600 --> 00:10:17.590 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:10:17.590 --> 00:10:20.590 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds