In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
A husband who does not insert the palm to know the broadcast
This is a type of man who is stingy in all aspects
A combination of miserliness of money and miserliness of feelings
Perhaps the stinginess of money penetrated his heart until it reached his feelings, so he was stingy with them
That is why his wife, the sixth woman, described him by saying:
My husband, if he eats, he will turn away, if he does not drink, he will turn away, and if he eats, he will turn away
He does not insert the palm to know the broadcast
Abu Ubaidan Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
Rolling in the restaurant
A lot of it, while mixing its types
Until there is nothing left of it
And snuggling in the bar
To investigate what is in the vessel
My questions are not priced in it
But it was taken from the transparent
It is the remainder of the drink that remains in the vessel
If its owner drinks it
It was said that he missed her
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
This is a woman who disparaged her husband
She first described him as mean and stingy
Al-Barm, Al-Nahamah, and Al-Jaraza
Bad relations and companionship
And he does not remain in what he eats and drinks or leaves
He collects everything he finds and destroys it
This is not good morals
This type of men
He is mean, stingy, and voracious in eating
He eats all the food around him
He does not take into account his wife and children
This is from his bad character
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, explained to us
Etiquette in eating with people
He forbade eating two dates together
And people eat dates
And there is a hadith from Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them both, who said:
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade
For a man to combine both dates
Until he asks his companions for permission
Narrated by Al-Bukhari
Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said
The prohibition of the Qur’an regarding dates according to scholars
Out of good manners in eating
Because the people in whose hands dates were placed
Like equals in eating
If one of them owns more than the other
He was not thankful for that
Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said
He forbade that
Because it causes gluttony and eagerness to eat a lot
And in that is what brings disgrace to its owner
Whoever reminds him of that and criticizes him for it is sinful
The food in the house is shared between the man, his wife, and his children
If he takes food from them, he wrongs them
Even if he was the one who brought the food
But his household has the right to feed them and spend money on them
This man is reprehensible enough
The scholars differed regarding the ruling on doing so
Is it forbidden or disliked?
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
They disagreed about this prohibition
Is it forbidden or disliked?
It is correct to detail
If the food is shared between them
The Qur’an is forbidden except with their consent
It happens with their statement
Or whatever takes its place from a circumstantial evidence
So that is most likely to be the case
If the food is for others, it is forbidden
If one of them had permission to eat
He required his satisfaction
It is forbidden for others and it is permissible for him
However, it is recommended that he ask permission from those eating with him
Although the ruling on the issue differs
However, they agreed that the one who did that
He has misbehaved in eating
As for the second matter that the woman condemned by saying:
Where did he lie down?
He does not insert the cuff to know the broadcast
Ibn Qutaybah al-Din Wari, may God have mercy on him, said
She wanted him to sleep
He turned around and did not have sex with her
He did not practice with her what a man would do with a woman if he wanted to have intercourse with her
So he puts his hand into her dress and knows the broadcast
There is nothing broadcast there except the love of the woman and her husband being close to her
And she had sex with him
And I was broadcasting about it
Because the broadcast was for him
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
Then she described it as a lack of work
And disrupt it
And if he sleeps
He wrapped himself in his clothes and did not have sex with her
Nor is it lower than himself
And he has no interest in negotiating
Which is one of the praises of men
The Arabs used to praise force for sexual intercourse
Because it is evidence of masculine health
And disparage the opposite
As the other Ayaa said
This man is stingy
Even in giving women their right to sexual intercourse
If he sleeps with her on the bed, he turns away from her
This symptom is one of the most severe things for a normal woman
Because sexual intercourse is one of the purposes of marriage
It is a path to chastity
If a man fails to do so with his wife
It caused her great harm
If she is one of those who fear God
She preserved herself and stayed with her pain
But if she was among those tempted by Satan
She will take the forbidden path
In order to satisfy herself
The situation is similar to this type of men
It's as she said
He does not twist the scales to teach broadcasting
This means that even the caress with his hand on her body is missing
Rather, his body does not touch her body
Because he was so far away from her
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
She complained about this trait from her husband
I blamed him for that
She lost her luck with him
And he does not have sex with her or get close to her
He sleeps next to her
As she said
And if he lies down, he turns around
He does not bring her closer to himself
He puts his hand into it
He touches her and touches her
So it will be from him to her
What men do to their husbands
He knows that it was broadcast
And her love for him
And her sadness because he didn't do that to her
He rarely misses him because he needs it
The woman is very sad
Because this type of men
He doesn't pay any attention to her
He knows nothing of her conditions and concerns
And like this
Don't expect him to speak nicely to her
He is stingy with feelings
And the danger of being stingy with feelings
If a woman loses her husband
I looked for it among others
If it is a woman
She works outside the home
It works in a mixed field
He fears that she will fall into temptation
With the men around her
And if she is one of those who are attached
By means of communication and being preoccupied with it
He is afraid that she will fall
In the human trap
In these means
The man bears it
His wife's sin is with her
If he is the reason for its derivation
Advice for this type of men
To fear God Almighty
He changes this bad disposition
By learning how to deal with the wife
Before it's too late
If the reason for the man’s retirement is his wife
It is weakness and laziness
These are matters
Today it is treated in different ways
But if his retirement was for her
Because of the weakness of her love in his heart
Not all homes are based on love
There is nothing less than giving her her right of intercourse
Even if his heart was not inclined towards her
A woman often loves her husband
Even if he falls short with her
If a man touches that
If he finds a caring and loving heart
He lives with him at home
He desires his satisfaction and strives to make him happy
If some societies today
They complain of frequent divorces
He asked women to divorce themselves from their husbands
This reason must be noted
In men and its treatment
It is one of the main reasons
There are many divorces and divorce requests
A woman must fear God Almighty
She will not be harmed by her husband’s negligence towards her
To open the door to communication with men
Be very careful not to look too much
It is a temptation for women
Therefore, the woman was commanded as the man was commanded
With the anger of sight
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds