1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,399 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,399 --> 00:00:13,199 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:13,199 --> 00:00:24,519 A husband who does not insert the palm to know the broadcast 4 00:00:24,519 --> 00:00:29,519 This is a type of man who is stingy in all aspects 5 00:00:29,519 --> 00:00:33,259 A combination of miserliness of money and miserliness of feelings 6 00:00:33,460 --> 00:00:39,960 Perhaps the stinginess of money penetrated his heart until it reached his feelings, so he was stingy with them 7 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:45,460 That is why his wife, the sixth woman, described him by saying: 8 00:00:45,460 --> 00:00:52,259 My husband, if he eats, he will turn away, if he does not drink, he will turn away, and if he eats, he will turn away 9 00:00:52,259 --> 00:00:55,960 He does not insert the palm to know the broadcast 10 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,840 Abu Ubaidan Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 11 00:00:59,939 --> 00:01:01,840 Rolling in the restaurant 12 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,140 A lot of it, while mixing its types 13 00:01:05,140 --> 00:01:07,840 Until there is nothing left of it 14 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,140 And snuggling in the bar 15 00:01:10,140 --> 00:01:12,439 To investigate what is in the vessel 16 00:01:12,439 --> 00:01:15,040 My questions are not priced in it 17 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,540 But it was taken from the transparent 18 00:01:17,540 --> 00:01:21,340 It is the remainder of the drink that remains in the vessel 19 00:01:21,340 --> 00:01:23,840 If its owner drinks it 20 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,260 It was said that he missed her 21 00:01:26,260 --> 00:01:29,459 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 22 00:01:29,459 --> 00:01:32,459 This is a woman who disparaged her husband 23 00:01:32,459 --> 00:01:35,459 She first described him as mean and stingy 24 00:01:35,459 --> 00:01:38,459 Al-Barm, Al-Nahamah, and Al-Jaraza 25 00:01:38,459 --> 00:01:41,459 Bad relations and companionship 26 00:01:41,459 --> 00:01:46,459 And he does not remain in what he eats and drinks or leaves 27 00:01:46,459 --> 00:01:50,459 He collects everything he finds and destroys it 28 00:01:50,459 --> 00:01:53,459 This is not good morals 29 00:01:53,459 --> 00:01:57,469 This type of men 30 00:01:57,469 --> 00:02:00,969 He is mean, stingy, and voracious in eating 31 00:02:00,969 --> 00:02:03,969 He eats all the food around him 32 00:02:03,969 --> 00:02:06,969 He does not take into account his wife and children 33 00:02:06,969 --> 00:02:10,129 This is from his bad character 34 00:02:10,129 --> 00:02:13,129 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, explained to us 35 00:02:13,129 --> 00:02:15,629 Etiquette in eating with people 36 00:02:15,629 --> 00:02:18,629 He forbade eating two dates together 37 00:02:18,629 --> 00:02:21,629 And people eat dates 38 00:02:21,629 --> 00:02:26,159 And there is a hadith from Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them both, who said: 39 00:02:26,159 --> 00:02:28,659 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade 40 00:02:28,659 --> 00:02:32,159 For a man to combine both dates 41 00:02:32,159 --> 00:02:35,159 Until he asks his companions for permission 42 00:02:35,159 --> 00:02:37,849 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 43 00:02:37,849 --> 00:02:40,349 Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said 44 00:02:40,349 --> 00:02:43,849 The prohibition of the Qur’an regarding dates according to scholars 45 00:02:43,849 --> 00:02:46,849 Out of good manners in eating 46 00:02:46,849 --> 00:02:50,349 Because the people in whose hands dates were placed 47 00:02:50,349 --> 00:02:52,849 Like equals in eating 48 00:02:52,849 --> 00:02:55,849 If one of them owns more than the other 49 00:02:55,849 --> 00:02:58,349 He was not thankful for that 50 00:02:58,349 --> 00:03:01,349 Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said 51 00:03:01,349 --> 00:03:02,849 He forbade that 52 00:03:02,849 --> 00:03:06,849 Because it causes gluttony and eagerness to eat a lot 53 00:03:06,849 --> 00:03:09,849 And in that is what brings disgrace to its owner 54 00:03:09,849 --> 00:03:13,849 Whoever reminds him of that and criticizes him for it is sinful 55 00:03:13,849 --> 00:03:20,889 The food in the house is shared between the man, his wife, and his children 56 00:03:20,889 --> 00:03:24,389 If he takes food from them, he wrongs them 57 00:03:24,389 --> 00:03:27,389 Even if he was the one who brought the food 58 00:03:27,389 --> 00:03:32,389 But his household has the right to feed them and spend money on them 59 00:03:32,389 --> 00:03:34,979 This man is reprehensible enough 60 00:03:34,979 --> 00:03:37,979 The scholars differed regarding the ruling on doing so 61 00:03:37,979 --> 00:03:40,479 Is it forbidden or disliked? 62 00:03:40,479 --> 00:03:43,580 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 63 00:03:43,580 --> 00:03:45,580 They disagreed about this prohibition 64 00:03:45,580 --> 00:03:48,580 Is it forbidden or disliked? 65 00:03:48,580 --> 00:03:51,080 It is correct to detail 66 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:54,080 If the food is shared between them 67 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,580 The Qur’an is forbidden except with their consent 68 00:03:57,580 --> 00:03:59,580 It happens with their statement 69 00:03:59,580 --> 00:04:03,080 Or whatever takes its place from a circumstantial evidence 70 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,080 So that is most likely to be the case 71 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,080 If the food is for others, it is forbidden 72 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,580 If one of them had permission to eat 73 00:04:12,580 --> 00:04:14,580 He required his satisfaction 74 00:04:14,580 --> 00:04:17,579 It is forbidden for others and it is permissible for him 75 00:04:17,579 --> 00:04:23,959 However, it is recommended that he ask permission from those eating with him 76 00:04:23,959 --> 00:04:26,459 Although the ruling on the issue differs 77 00:04:26,459 --> 00:04:29,959 However, they agreed that the one who did that 78 00:04:29,959 --> 00:04:32,459 He has misbehaved in eating 79 00:04:32,459 --> 00:04:37,019 As for the second matter that the woman condemned by saying: 80 00:04:37,019 --> 00:04:39,019 Where did he lie down? 81 00:04:39,019 --> 00:04:42,019 He does not insert the cuff to know the broadcast 82 00:04:42,019 --> 00:04:46,019 Ibn Qutaybah al-Din Wari, may God have mercy on him, said 83 00:04:46,019 --> 00:04:49,050 She wanted him to sleep 84 00:04:49,050 --> 00:04:52,050 He turned around and did not have sex with her 85 00:04:52,050 --> 00:04:58,050 He did not practice with her what a man would do with a woman if he wanted to have intercourse with her 86 00:04:58,050 --> 00:05:02,050 So he puts his hand into her dress and knows the broadcast 87 00:05:02,050 --> 00:05:07,050 There is nothing broadcast there except the love of the woman and her husband being close to her 88 00:05:07,050 --> 00:05:09,550 And she had sex with him 89 00:05:09,550 --> 00:05:12,050 And I was broadcasting about it 90 00:05:12,050 --> 00:05:15,180 Because the broadcast was for him 91 00:05:15,180 --> 00:05:18,180 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 92 00:05:18,180 --> 00:05:21,180 Then she described it as a lack of work 93 00:05:21,180 --> 00:05:23,180 And disrupt it 94 00:05:23,180 --> 00:05:25,180 And if he sleeps 95 00:05:25,180 --> 00:05:28,180 He wrapped himself in his clothes and did not have sex with her 96 00:05:28,180 --> 00:05:31,180 Nor is it lower than himself 97 00:05:31,180 --> 00:05:34,180 And he has no interest in negotiating 98 00:05:34,180 --> 00:05:37,180 Which is one of the praises of men 99 00:05:37,180 --> 00:05:41,180 The Arabs used to praise force for sexual intercourse 100 00:05:41,180 --> 00:05:45,180 Because it is evidence of masculine health 101 00:05:45,180 --> 00:05:47,180 And disparage the opposite 102 00:05:47,180 --> 00:05:52,779 As the other Ayaa said 103 00:05:52,779 --> 00:05:54,779 This man is stingy 104 00:05:54,779 --> 00:05:58,779 Even in giving women their right to sexual intercourse 105 00:05:58,779 --> 00:06:02,779 If he sleeps with her on the bed, he turns away from her 106 00:06:02,779 --> 00:06:06,779 This symptom is one of the most severe things for a normal woman 107 00:06:06,779 --> 00:06:10,779 Because sexual intercourse is one of the purposes of marriage 108 00:06:10,779 --> 00:06:12,779 It is a path to chastity 109 00:06:12,779 --> 00:06:16,779 If a man fails to do so with his wife 110 00:06:16,779 --> 00:06:19,779 It caused her great harm 111 00:06:19,779 --> 00:06:22,779 If she is one of those who fear God 112 00:06:22,779 --> 00:06:25,779 She preserved herself and stayed with her pain 113 00:06:25,779 --> 00:06:28,779 But if she was among those tempted by Satan 114 00:06:28,779 --> 00:06:31,779 She will take the forbidden path 115 00:06:31,779 --> 00:06:34,910 In order to satisfy herself 116 00:06:34,910 --> 00:06:37,910 The situation is similar to this type of men 117 00:06:37,910 --> 00:06:39,910 It's as she said 118 00:06:39,910 --> 00:06:42,910 He does not twist the scales to teach broadcasting 119 00:06:42,910 --> 00:06:46,910 This means that even the caress with his hand on her body is missing 120 00:06:46,910 --> 00:06:49,910 Rather, his body does not touch her body 121 00:06:49,910 --> 00:06:52,910 Because he was so far away from her 122 00:06:52,910 --> 00:06:56,000 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 123 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:59,000 She complained about this trait from her husband 124 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,000 I blamed him for that 125 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,000 She lost her luck with him 126 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:06,000 And he does not have sex with her or get close to her 127 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,000 He sleeps next to her 128 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,000 As she said 129 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:13,000 And if he lies down, he turns around 130 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,000 He does not bring her closer to himself 131 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:17,000 He puts his hand into it 132 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:19,000 He touches her and touches her 133 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,000 So it will be from him to her 134 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:24,000 What men do to their husbands 135 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:26,000 He knows that it was broadcast 136 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,000 And her love for him 137 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,000 And her sadness because he didn't do that to her 138 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:36,569 He rarely misses him because he needs it 139 00:07:36,569 --> 00:07:39,569 The woman is very sad 140 00:07:39,569 --> 00:07:41,569 Because this type of men 141 00:07:41,569 --> 00:07:43,569 He doesn't pay any attention to her 142 00:07:43,569 --> 00:07:47,569 He knows nothing of her conditions and concerns 143 00:07:47,569 --> 00:07:49,569 And like this 144 00:07:49,569 --> 00:07:52,569 Don't expect him to speak nicely to her 145 00:07:52,569 --> 00:07:54,569 He is stingy with feelings 146 00:07:54,569 --> 00:07:57,639 And the danger of being stingy with feelings 147 00:07:57,639 --> 00:08:00,639 If a woman loses her husband 148 00:08:00,639 --> 00:08:03,639 I looked for it among others 149 00:08:03,639 --> 00:08:05,670 If it is a woman 150 00:08:05,670 --> 00:08:07,670 She works outside the home 151 00:08:07,670 --> 00:08:09,670 It works in a mixed field 152 00:08:09,670 --> 00:08:12,670 He fears that she will fall into temptation 153 00:08:12,670 --> 00:08:15,699 With the men around her 154 00:08:15,699 --> 00:08:17,699 And if she is one of those who are attached 155 00:08:17,699 --> 00:08:20,699 By means of communication and being preoccupied with it 156 00:08:20,699 --> 00:08:22,699 He is afraid that she will fall 157 00:08:22,699 --> 00:08:24,699 In the human trap 158 00:08:24,699 --> 00:08:26,699 In these means 159 00:08:26,699 --> 00:08:28,800 The man bears it 160 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,800 His wife's sin is with her 161 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,960 If he is the reason for its derivation 162 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:36,960 Advice for this type of men 163 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:38,960 To fear God Almighty 164 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:40,960 He changes this bad disposition 165 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:44,960 By learning how to deal with the wife 166 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:46,960 Before it's too late 167 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,960 If the reason for the man’s retirement is his wife 168 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:51,960 It is weakness and laziness 169 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,960 These are matters 170 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,960 Today it is treated in different ways 171 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,960 But if his retirement was for her 172 00:08:59,960 --> 00:09:02,960 Because of the weakness of her love in his heart 173 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,960 Not all homes are based on love 174 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:09,960 There is nothing less than giving her her right of intercourse 175 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:13,960 Even if his heart was not inclined towards her 176 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:17,049 A woman often loves her husband 177 00:09:17,049 --> 00:09:19,049 Even if he falls short with her 178 00:09:19,049 --> 00:09:21,049 If a man touches that 179 00:09:21,049 --> 00:09:24,049 If he finds a caring and loving heart 180 00:09:24,049 --> 00:09:26,049 He lives with him at home 181 00:09:26,049 --> 00:09:30,049 He desires his satisfaction and strives to make him happy 182 00:09:30,049 --> 00:09:33,279 If some societies today 183 00:09:33,279 --> 00:09:35,279 They complain of frequent divorces 184 00:09:35,279 --> 00:09:39,279 He asked women to divorce themselves from their husbands 185 00:09:39,279 --> 00:09:42,279 This reason must be noted 186 00:09:42,279 --> 00:09:44,279 In men and its treatment 187 00:09:44,279 --> 00:09:47,279 It is one of the main reasons 188 00:09:47,279 --> 00:09:50,600 There are many divorces and divorce requests 189 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,600 A woman must fear God Almighty 190 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:57,600 She will not be harmed by her husband’s negligence towards her 191 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:00,600 To open the door to communication with men 192 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,600 Be very careful not to look too much 193 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,600 It is a temptation for women 194 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,600 Therefore, the woman was commanded as the man was commanded 195 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,600 With the anger of sight 196 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:17,590 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 197 00:10:17,590 --> 00:10:20,590 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds