WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:16.949 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:16.949 --> 00:00:25.129 My husband is shajak or falak or collect all of you 00:00:25.129 --> 00:00:30.129 The seventh woman's suffering with her husband is still being talked about 00:00:30.129 --> 00:00:32.130 Which she described by saying 00:00:32.130 --> 00:00:36.130 Shajak or Falak or collect all of you 00:00:36.130 --> 00:00:40.509 This type of man is violent with his wife 00:00:40.509 --> 00:00:42.509 He beat her a lot 00:00:42.509 --> 00:00:46.509 Beating is often combined with other bad qualities 00:00:46.509 --> 00:00:51.509 Such as harshness, rudeness, and quickness and intensity of anger 00:00:51.509 --> 00:00:55.859 With a lack of wisdom in dealing with matters 00:00:55.859 --> 00:00:59.859 Hitting women is one of the issues where the problem occurred 00:00:59.859 --> 00:01:03.859 In terms of understanding and application for some people 00:01:03.859 --> 00:01:08.859 Some of them deny beating and reject it completely 00:01:08.859 --> 00:01:11.859 Some of them misapply spanking 00:01:11.859 --> 00:01:14.930 It exceeds the legal limits 00:01:14.930 --> 00:01:17.930 Some of them are those whose insight is enlightened by God 00:01:17.930 --> 00:01:23.150 He uses multiplication if necessary, according to legal controls 00:01:23.150 --> 00:01:27.150 The reason why people differ is in their stance on a man hitting his wife 00:01:27.150 --> 00:01:31.150 It is the concepts that each category carries 00:01:31.150 --> 00:01:35.150 And the societal culture spread in society 00:01:35.150 --> 00:01:38.409 To correct these concepts 00:01:38.409 --> 00:01:42.409 We need to approach the issue from several aspects 00:01:42.409 --> 00:01:45.409 First multiply the project 00:01:45.409 --> 00:01:47.409 God Almighty said 00:01:47.409 --> 00:01:51.409 Men are guardians of women 00:01:51.409 --> 00:01:54.409 Because God has favored some of them over others 00:01:54.409 --> 00:01:57.409 And what they spent of their money 00:01:57.409 --> 00:02:03.409 The righteous women are obedient and protect the unseen with what God has preserved 00:02:03.409 --> 00:02:11.439 And those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them in their beds and beat them 00:02:11.439 --> 00:02:16.439 If they obey you, do not seek a way against them 00:02:16.439 --> 00:02:20.439 God is great 00:02:20.439 --> 00:02:24.629 This is the verse that some people misunderstood 00:02:24.629 --> 00:02:27.629 In all its detailed topics 00:02:27.629 --> 00:02:30.629 Like a man standing up to his wife 00:02:30.629 --> 00:02:35.659 And his right to discipline her and the stages of discipline and others 00:02:35.659 --> 00:02:39.659 She talks about two types of women 00:02:39.659 --> 00:02:42.659 The first type is a righteous woman 00:02:42.659 --> 00:02:47.659 Which God praised in the verse and explained its qualities 00:02:47.659 --> 00:02:50.659 The second type is the outlier 00:02:50.659 --> 00:02:54.659 She is the one who explained how to treat her discordance 00:02:54.659 --> 00:02:58.659 The stages of discipline do not apply to a righteous woman 00:02:58.659 --> 00:03:02.659 Because it is valid and not an outlier 00:03:02.659 --> 00:03:07.659 Such good deeds are remembered if you forget or neglect 00:03:07.659 --> 00:03:12.659 This is enough for her because of the faith God has placed in her heart 00:03:12.659 --> 00:03:16.659 If your wife is of this type, dear man 00:03:16.659 --> 00:03:19.659 You are not allowed to hit her 00:03:19.659 --> 00:03:22.659 Even if it is of the second type, it is the disobedient one 00:03:22.659 --> 00:03:25.659 Do not rush to burn the stages 00:03:25.659 --> 00:03:28.659 And go straight to multiplication 00:03:28.659 --> 00:03:31.659 God has commanded you otherwise 00:03:31.659 --> 00:03:34.759 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 00:03:34.759 --> 00:03:41.759 And he said, “Admonish them, and leave them in their beds, and beat them.” 00:03:41.759 --> 00:03:43.759 It is intended to be arranged 00:03:43.759 --> 00:03:46.759 As required by the order in which they are mentioned 00:03:46.759 --> 00:03:50.759 As I see it, it is not intended to combine the three 00:03:50.759 --> 00:03:55.759 The order is the original and the precedent in the conjunction with the waw 00:03:55.759 --> 00:03:57.759 Saeed bin Jubair said 00:03:57.759 --> 00:04:01.759 He advises her if she accepts, otherwise he abandons her 00:04:01.759 --> 00:04:05.759 If she accepts, otherwise he hits her 00:04:05.759 --> 00:04:12.689 But what type of beating is it permissible for him to use to discipline her? 00:04:13.819 --> 00:04:17.819 Scholars agree that this beating is a form of discipline 00:04:17.819 --> 00:04:20.819 And it's not torture 00:04:20.819 --> 00:04:23.910 Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said 00:04:23.910 --> 00:04:26.910 And he said, “Strike them.” 00:04:26.910 --> 00:04:30.910 That is, if they are not deterred by admonition or abandonment 00:04:30.910 --> 00:04:34.910 You may beat them without causing any harm 00:04:34.910 --> 00:04:37.939 As proven in Sahih Muslim 00:04:37.939 --> 00:04:40.939 On the authority of Jabir, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:40.939 --> 00:04:43.939 As he said in his farewell pilgrimage 00:04:43.939 --> 00:04:46.939 And fear God regarding women 00:04:46.939 --> 00:04:49.939 If they are common people among you 00:04:49.939 --> 00:04:54.939 You are required to not let anyone you hate put on your bed 00:04:54.939 --> 00:04:59.939 If they do, beat them not severely 00:04:59.939 --> 00:05:03.939 They shall be provided with and clothed in a reasonable manner 00:05:03.939 --> 00:05:06.939 This was also said by Ibn Abbas and more than one person 00:05:06.939 --> 00:05:09.939 Unexplained beating 00:05:09.939 --> 00:05:11.939 Al-Hasan Al-Basri said 00:05:11.939 --> 00:05:13.939 I mean, it's not effective 00:05:13.939 --> 00:05:15.939 Jurisprudence said 00:05:15.939 --> 00:05:17.939 It is not to break a limb 00:05:17.939 --> 00:05:20.939 It does not affect anything 00:05:20.939 --> 00:05:26.000 If the scholars talk about the quality of multiplication 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:30.000 It is a light beating that does not affect her 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:33.160 So what is the benefit of multiplication? 00:05:33.160 --> 00:05:35.160 Who knows women well? 00:05:35.160 --> 00:05:39.160 He knows that women are affected psychologically 00:05:39.160 --> 00:05:42.160 She may cry bitterly 00:05:42.160 --> 00:05:45.160 If her husband beat her lightly 00:05:45.160 --> 00:05:48.160 Not because she was physically hurt 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:51.160 But because she feels inferior in status 00:05:51.160 --> 00:05:53.259 When he hit her 00:05:53.259 --> 00:05:55.259 It means something else 00:05:55.259 --> 00:05:57.259 He was the one who hit her 00:05:57.259 --> 00:06:00.259 Able to do what women hate 00:06:00.259 --> 00:06:03.259 Of divorce or marriage to her 00:06:03.259 --> 00:06:06.319 If it was after a light beating 00:06:06.319 --> 00:06:09.319 She still has a living heart 00:06:09.319 --> 00:06:12.319 The thought is that she will abandon nushuz 00:06:12.319 --> 00:06:15.319 She returns to her husband and obeys him 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:18.319 Thus saving the family 00:06:18.319 --> 00:06:21.319 From disintegration and cracking with its rationality 00:06:21.319 --> 00:06:24.579 Muhammad Abu Zahr, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:24.579 --> 00:06:27.579 The third is the medicine for nashouz 00:06:27.579 --> 00:06:30.579 Multiplication is the maximum 00:06:30.579 --> 00:06:32.579 He does not resort to it 00:06:32.579 --> 00:06:35.579 Except when the previous two medications fail 00:06:35.579 --> 00:06:38.579 It has been proven that hitting is permissible 00:06:38.579 --> 00:06:41.579 It happens when you reach married life 00:06:41.579 --> 00:06:45.579 A degree at which there is fear of discord and separation 00:06:45.579 --> 00:06:48.579 The Sunnah restricted it with two restrictions 00:06:48.579 --> 00:06:52.579 One of them is that it is not unpleasant 00:06:52.579 --> 00:06:55.579 And it should not be disgraceful 00:06:55.579 --> 00:06:57.579 Not to hit the face 00:06:57.579 --> 00:07:00.579 This was stated in the Sunnah 00:07:00.579 --> 00:07:02.579 Ibn Abbas was asked 00:07:02.579 --> 00:07:04.579 About unexplained beatings 00:07:04.579 --> 00:07:08.579 He said it was beating with a skewer or something similar 00:07:08.579 --> 00:07:10.579 This is permissible beating 00:07:10.579 --> 00:07:13.579 It is a symbol of deserving of being beaten 00:07:13.579 --> 00:07:15.639 Not by hitting 00:07:15.639 --> 00:07:18.639 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:18.639 --> 00:07:21.639 It seems that permission to strike 00:07:21.639 --> 00:07:25.639 To take into account precise circumstances between spouses 00:07:25.639 --> 00:07:29.639 So the husband was allowed to beat his wife in a way that was corrective 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:32.639 For the purpose of establishing intercourse between them 00:07:32.639 --> 00:07:35.639 If it exceeds what is required by its state of discord 00:07:35.639 --> 00:07:39.699 He was an aggressor 00:07:39.699 --> 00:07:43.699 These are the precise conditions that scientists talk about 00:07:43.699 --> 00:07:45.699 It is a woman's disobedience to a man 00:07:45.699 --> 00:07:48.699 And upload it to him in more than one form 00:07:48.699 --> 00:07:50.699 Which insults the man 00:07:50.699 --> 00:07:53.699 He loses his personality at home 00:07:53.699 --> 00:07:56.699 And it is most severe on the male psyche 00:07:56.699 --> 00:07:59.699 What a disobedient person does in front of his children 00:07:59.699 --> 00:08:02.699 The children rebel against him because of her 00:08:02.699 --> 00:08:05.860 Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said 00:08:05.860 --> 00:08:08.860 This is true for most jurists 00:08:08.860 --> 00:08:11.860 Those who have been singled out for legal disobedience 00:08:11.860 --> 00:08:13.860 Which permits hitting 00:08:13.860 --> 00:08:15.860 If needed to remove it 00:08:15.860 --> 00:08:17.860 With few qualities 00:08:17.860 --> 00:08:20.860 Like disobeying a man in bed 00:08:20.860 --> 00:08:23.860 Leaving the house without an excuse 00:08:23.860 --> 00:08:25.860 Some of them made leaving it an ornament 00:08:25.860 --> 00:08:28.860 He is asking for it as a craving 00:08:28.860 --> 00:08:31.860 They told him to hit her too 00:08:31.860 --> 00:08:34.860 To abandon religious obligations 00:08:34.860 --> 00:08:36.860 Such as washing and praying 00:08:36.860 --> 00:08:39.919 It seems that disobedience is more general 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:41.919 It includes all disobedience 00:08:41.919 --> 00:08:43.919 It is caused by elevation and pride 00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:45.919 This is what he said 00:08:45.919 --> 00:08:47.919 If I obey you 00:08:47.919 --> 00:08:50.919 Do not seek a way against them 00:08:50.919 --> 00:08:55.490 We are faced with two options, not a third 00:08:55.490 --> 00:08:57.490 In dealing with the disobedient 00:08:57.490 --> 00:08:59.490 Which didn't work for her 00:08:59.490 --> 00:09:01.490 Biting or abandoning 00:09:01.490 --> 00:09:03.490 Either we allow the man 00:09:03.490 --> 00:09:05.490 To use what he permitted 00:09:05.490 --> 00:09:07.490 May God give him a light beating 00:09:07.490 --> 00:09:09.490 Who disciplines women 00:09:09.490 --> 00:09:11.490 And restores her sanity 00:09:11.490 --> 00:09:13.490 Or the family will be destroyed 00:09:13.490 --> 00:09:15.490 By dropping the man's personality 00:09:15.490 --> 00:09:17.490 Or divorce 00:09:17.490 --> 00:09:22.610 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:09:22.610 --> 00:09:25.610 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds