1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:16,949 Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ 3 00:00:16,949 --> 00:00:25,129 My husband is shajak or falak or collect all of you 4 00:00:25,129 --> 00:00:30,129 The seventh woman's suffering with her husband is still being talked about 5 00:00:30,129 --> 00:00:32,130 Which she described by saying 6 00:00:32,130 --> 00:00:36,130 Shajak or Falak or collect all of you 7 00:00:36,130 --> 00:00:40,509 This type of man is violent with his wife 8 00:00:40,509 --> 00:00:42,509 He beat her a lot 9 00:00:42,509 --> 00:00:46,509 Beating is often combined with other bad qualities 10 00:00:46,509 --> 00:00:51,509 Such as harshness, rudeness, and quickness and intensity of anger 11 00:00:51,509 --> 00:00:55,859 With a lack of wisdom in dealing with matters 12 00:00:55,859 --> 00:00:59,859 Hitting women is one of the issues where the problem occurred 13 00:00:59,859 --> 00:01:03,859 In terms of understanding and application for some people 14 00:01:03,859 --> 00:01:08,859 Some of them deny beating and reject it completely 15 00:01:08,859 --> 00:01:11,859 Some of them misapply spanking 16 00:01:11,859 --> 00:01:14,930 It exceeds the legal limits 17 00:01:14,930 --> 00:01:17,930 Some of them are those whose insight is enlightened by God 18 00:01:17,930 --> 00:01:23,150 He uses multiplication if necessary, according to legal controls 19 00:01:23,150 --> 00:01:27,150 The reason why people differ is in their stance on a man hitting his wife 20 00:01:27,150 --> 00:01:31,150 It is the concepts that each category carries 21 00:01:31,150 --> 00:01:35,150 And the societal culture spread in society 22 00:01:35,150 --> 00:01:38,409 To correct these concepts 23 00:01:38,409 --> 00:01:42,409 We need to approach the issue from several aspects 24 00:01:42,409 --> 00:01:45,409 First multiply the project 25 00:01:45,409 --> 00:01:47,409 God Almighty said 26 00:01:47,409 --> 00:01:51,409 Men are guardians of women 27 00:01:51,409 --> 00:01:54,409 Because God has favored some of them over others 28 00:01:54,409 --> 00:01:57,409 And what they spent of their money 29 00:01:57,409 --> 00:02:03,409 The righteous women are obedient and protect the unseen with what God has preserved 30 00:02:03,409 --> 00:02:11,439 And those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them in their beds and beat them 31 00:02:11,439 --> 00:02:16,439 If they obey you, do not seek a way against them 32 00:02:16,439 --> 00:02:20,439 God is great 33 00:02:20,439 --> 00:02:24,629 This is the verse that some people misunderstood 34 00:02:24,629 --> 00:02:27,629 In all its detailed topics 35 00:02:27,629 --> 00:02:30,629 Like a man standing up to his wife 36 00:02:30,629 --> 00:02:35,659 And his right to discipline her and the stages of discipline and others 37 00:02:35,659 --> 00:02:39,659 She talks about two types of women 38 00:02:39,659 --> 00:02:42,659 The first type is a righteous woman 39 00:02:42,659 --> 00:02:47,659 Which God praised in the verse and explained its qualities 40 00:02:47,659 --> 00:02:50,659 The second type is the outlier 41 00:02:50,659 --> 00:02:54,659 She is the one who explained how to treat her discordance 42 00:02:54,659 --> 00:02:58,659 The stages of discipline do not apply to a righteous woman 43 00:02:58,659 --> 00:03:02,659 Because it is valid and not an outlier 44 00:03:02,659 --> 00:03:07,659 Such good deeds are remembered if you forget or neglect 45 00:03:07,659 --> 00:03:12,659 This is enough for her because of the faith God has placed in her heart 46 00:03:12,659 --> 00:03:16,659 If your wife is of this type, dear man 47 00:03:16,659 --> 00:03:19,659 You are not allowed to hit her 48 00:03:19,659 --> 00:03:22,659 Even if it is of the second type, it is the disobedient one 49 00:03:22,659 --> 00:03:25,659 Do not rush to burn the stages 50 00:03:25,659 --> 00:03:28,659 And go straight to multiplication 51 00:03:28,659 --> 00:03:31,659 God has commanded you otherwise 52 00:03:31,659 --> 00:03:34,759 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 53 00:03:34,759 --> 00:03:41,759 And he said, “Admonish them, and leave them in their beds, and beat them.” 54 00:03:41,759 --> 00:03:43,759 It is intended to be arranged 55 00:03:43,759 --> 00:03:46,759 As required by the order in which they are mentioned 56 00:03:46,759 --> 00:03:50,759 As I see it, it is not intended to combine the three 57 00:03:50,759 --> 00:03:55,759 The order is the original and the precedent in the conjunction with the waw 58 00:03:55,759 --> 00:03:57,759 Saeed bin Jubair said 59 00:03:57,759 --> 00:04:01,759 He advises her if she accepts, otherwise he abandons her 60 00:04:01,759 --> 00:04:05,759 If she accepts, otherwise he hits her 61 00:04:05,759 --> 00:04:12,689 But what type of beating is it permissible for him to use to discipline her? 62 00:04:13,819 --> 00:04:17,819 Scholars agree that this beating is a form of discipline 63 00:04:17,819 --> 00:04:20,819 And it's not torture 64 00:04:20,819 --> 00:04:23,910 Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said 65 00:04:23,910 --> 00:04:26,910 And he said, “Strike them.” 66 00:04:26,910 --> 00:04:30,910 That is, if they are not deterred by admonition or abandonment 67 00:04:30,910 --> 00:04:34,910 You may beat them without causing any harm 68 00:04:34,910 --> 00:04:37,939 As proven in Sahih Muslim 69 00:04:37,939 --> 00:04:40,939 On the authority of Jabir, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 70 00:04:40,939 --> 00:04:43,939 As he said in his farewell pilgrimage 71 00:04:43,939 --> 00:04:46,939 And fear God regarding women 72 00:04:46,939 --> 00:04:49,939 If they are common people among you 73 00:04:49,939 --> 00:04:54,939 You are required to not let anyone you hate put on your bed 74 00:04:54,939 --> 00:04:59,939 If they do, beat them not severely 75 00:04:59,939 --> 00:05:03,939 They shall be provided with and clothed in a reasonable manner 76 00:05:03,939 --> 00:05:06,939 This was also said by Ibn Abbas and more than one person 77 00:05:06,939 --> 00:05:09,939 Unexplained beating 78 00:05:09,939 --> 00:05:11,939 Al-Hasan Al-Basri said 79 00:05:11,939 --> 00:05:13,939 I mean, it's not effective 80 00:05:13,939 --> 00:05:15,939 Jurisprudence said 81 00:05:15,939 --> 00:05:17,939 It is not to break a limb 82 00:05:17,939 --> 00:05:20,939 It does not affect anything 83 00:05:20,939 --> 00:05:26,000 If the scholars talk about the quality of multiplication 84 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:30,000 It is a light beating that does not affect her 85 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,160 So what is the benefit of multiplication? 86 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,160 Who knows women well? 87 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:39,160 He knows that women are affected psychologically 88 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:42,160 She may cry bitterly 89 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:45,160 If her husband beat her lightly 90 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:48,160 Not because she was physically hurt 91 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:51,160 But because she feels inferior in status 92 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:53,259 When he hit her 93 00:05:53,259 --> 00:05:55,259 It means something else 94 00:05:55,259 --> 00:05:57,259 He was the one who hit her 95 00:05:57,259 --> 00:06:00,259 Able to do what women hate 96 00:06:00,259 --> 00:06:03,259 Of divorce or marriage to her 97 00:06:03,259 --> 00:06:06,319 If it was after a light beating 98 00:06:06,319 --> 00:06:09,319 She still has a living heart 99 00:06:09,319 --> 00:06:12,319 The thought is that she will abandon nushuz 100 00:06:12,319 --> 00:06:15,319 She returns to her husband and obeys him 101 00:06:15,319 --> 00:06:18,319 Thus saving the family 102 00:06:18,319 --> 00:06:21,319 From disintegration and cracking with its rationality 103 00:06:21,319 --> 00:06:24,579 Muhammad Abu Zahr, may God have mercy on him, said 104 00:06:24,579 --> 00:06:27,579 The third is the medicine for nashouz 105 00:06:27,579 --> 00:06:30,579 Multiplication is the maximum 106 00:06:30,579 --> 00:06:32,579 He does not resort to it 107 00:06:32,579 --> 00:06:35,579 Except when the previous two medications fail 108 00:06:35,579 --> 00:06:38,579 It has been proven that hitting is permissible 109 00:06:38,579 --> 00:06:41,579 It happens when you reach married life 110 00:06:41,579 --> 00:06:45,579 A degree at which there is fear of discord and separation 111 00:06:45,579 --> 00:06:48,579 The Sunnah restricted it with two restrictions 112 00:06:48,579 --> 00:06:52,579 One of them is that it is not unpleasant 113 00:06:52,579 --> 00:06:55,579 And it should not be disgraceful 114 00:06:55,579 --> 00:06:57,579 Not to hit the face 115 00:06:57,579 --> 00:07:00,579 This was stated in the Sunnah 116 00:07:00,579 --> 00:07:02,579 Ibn Abbas was asked 117 00:07:02,579 --> 00:07:04,579 About unexplained beatings 118 00:07:04,579 --> 00:07:08,579 He said it was beating with a skewer or something similar 119 00:07:08,579 --> 00:07:10,579 This is permissible beating 120 00:07:10,579 --> 00:07:13,579 It is a symbol of deserving of being beaten 121 00:07:13,579 --> 00:07:15,639 Not by hitting 122 00:07:15,639 --> 00:07:18,639 Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said 123 00:07:18,639 --> 00:07:21,639 It seems that permission to strike 124 00:07:21,639 --> 00:07:25,639 To take into account precise circumstances between spouses 125 00:07:25,639 --> 00:07:29,639 So the husband was allowed to beat his wife in a way that was corrective 126 00:07:29,639 --> 00:07:32,639 For the purpose of establishing intercourse between them 127 00:07:32,639 --> 00:07:35,639 If it exceeds what is required by its state of discord 128 00:07:35,639 --> 00:07:39,699 He was an aggressor 129 00:07:39,699 --> 00:07:43,699 These are the precise conditions that scientists talk about 130 00:07:43,699 --> 00:07:45,699 It is a woman's disobedience to a man 131 00:07:45,699 --> 00:07:48,699 And upload it to him in more than one form 132 00:07:48,699 --> 00:07:50,699 Which insults the man 133 00:07:50,699 --> 00:07:53,699 He loses his personality at home 134 00:07:53,699 --> 00:07:56,699 And it is most severe on the male psyche 135 00:07:56,699 --> 00:07:59,699 What a disobedient person does in front of his children 136 00:07:59,699 --> 00:08:02,699 The children rebel against him because of her 137 00:08:02,699 --> 00:08:05,860 Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said 138 00:08:05,860 --> 00:08:08,860 This is true for most jurists 139 00:08:08,860 --> 00:08:11,860 Those who have been singled out for legal disobedience 140 00:08:11,860 --> 00:08:13,860 Which permits hitting 141 00:08:13,860 --> 00:08:15,860 If needed to remove it 142 00:08:15,860 --> 00:08:17,860 With few qualities 143 00:08:17,860 --> 00:08:20,860 Like disobeying a man in bed 144 00:08:20,860 --> 00:08:23,860 Leaving the house without an excuse 145 00:08:23,860 --> 00:08:25,860 Some of them made leaving it an ornament 146 00:08:25,860 --> 00:08:28,860 He is asking for it as a craving 147 00:08:28,860 --> 00:08:31,860 They told him to hit her too 148 00:08:31,860 --> 00:08:34,860 To abandon religious obligations 149 00:08:34,860 --> 00:08:36,860 Such as washing and praying 150 00:08:36,860 --> 00:08:39,919 It seems that disobedience is more general 151 00:08:39,919 --> 00:08:41,919 It includes all disobedience 152 00:08:41,919 --> 00:08:43,919 It is caused by elevation and pride 153 00:08:43,919 --> 00:08:45,919 This is what he said 154 00:08:45,919 --> 00:08:47,919 If I obey you 155 00:08:47,919 --> 00:08:50,919 Do not seek a way against them 156 00:08:50,919 --> 00:08:55,490 We are faced with two options, not a third 157 00:08:55,490 --> 00:08:57,490 In dealing with the disobedient 158 00:08:57,490 --> 00:08:59,490 Which didn't work for her 159 00:08:59,490 --> 00:09:01,490 Biting or abandoning 160 00:09:01,490 --> 00:09:03,490 Either we allow the man 161 00:09:03,490 --> 00:09:05,490 To use what he permitted 162 00:09:05,490 --> 00:09:07,490 May God give him a light beating 163 00:09:07,490 --> 00:09:09,490 Who disciplines women 164 00:09:09,490 --> 00:09:11,490 And restores her sanity 165 00:09:11,490 --> 00:09:13,490 Or the family will be destroyed 166 00:09:13,490 --> 00:09:15,490 By dropping the man's personality 167 00:09:15,490 --> 00:09:17,490 Or divorce 168 00:09:17,490 --> 00:09:22,610 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 169 00:09:22,610 --> 00:09:25,610 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds