WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:08.210 Men's items 00:00:08.210 --> 00:00:16.629 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:16.629 --> 00:00:21.980 So that you can be one of the best men 00:00:21.980 --> 00:00:23.980 My dear husband brother 00:00:23.980 --> 00:00:26.980 This is the conclusion of the Ramadan series 00:00:26.980 --> 00:00:29.980 In explaining and contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:29.980 --> 00:00:31.980 In explaining the types of men 00:00:31.980 --> 00:00:34.979 I made them quick commandments for you and me 00:00:34.979 --> 00:00:37.979 May God make me and you 00:00:37.979 --> 00:00:41.039 One of the best men to their women 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:44.039 First, God commanded us to be patient 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:47.039 His Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:00:47.039 --> 00:00:50.039 He said, “It was yours with the Messenger of God.” 00:00:50.039 --> 00:00:52.039 A good example 00:00:52.039 --> 00:00:54.039 It is remorseful 00:00:54.039 --> 00:00:58.039 Discipline is the way he deals with his wives 00:00:58.039 --> 00:01:02.039 The Prophet’s punishment, may God bless him and grant him peace, is not fulfilled 00:01:02.039 --> 00:01:06.040 Except through our knowledge of his biography with his wives 00:01:06.040 --> 00:01:10.040 This means that we read more hadiths 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:13.040 Related to the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:13.040 --> 00:01:15.040 With his wives 00:01:15.040 --> 00:01:17.040 Who wrote the hadith 00:01:17.040 --> 00:01:20.040 Among the books that collected these hadiths in particular 00:01:20.040 --> 00:01:23.040 Like the book “Hasan Al-Aswa”. 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:27.040 What has been proven from God and His Messenger regarding women 00:01:27.040 --> 00:01:29.040 To Siddiq Hassan Khan 00:01:29.040 --> 00:01:31.040 And a book 00:01:31.040 --> 00:01:35.040 Encyclopedia of Women's Hadiths in the Six Books 00:01:35.040 --> 00:01:37.420 To Adel Al-Hamd 00:01:37.420 --> 00:01:38.420 Secondly 00:01:38.420 --> 00:01:41.420 Description of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:01:41.420 --> 00:01:44.420 His life with his wives in general terms 00:01:44.420 --> 00:01:45.420 And he said 00:01:45.420 --> 00:01:48.420 The best of you is the best to his family 00:01:48.420 --> 00:01:51.420 I am the best of you to my family 00:01:51.420 --> 00:01:53.459 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 00:01:53.459 --> 00:01:55.459 Ibn Uthaymeen, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:55.459 --> 00:01:57.459 If there is good in you 00:01:57.459 --> 00:02:00.459 So keep it with the people closest to you 00:02:00.459 --> 00:02:04.459 Let him be the first to benefit from this goodness 00:02:04.459 --> 00:02:07.459 This is the opposite of what some people do today 00:02:07.459 --> 00:02:10.460 You find that he has a bad attitude towards his family 00:02:10.460 --> 00:02:12.460 Good manners with others 00:02:12.460 --> 00:02:15.460 This is a big mistake 00:02:15.460 --> 00:02:18.460 Your family is more deserving of good behavior 00:02:18.460 --> 00:02:20.460 Have good manners with them 00:02:20.460 --> 00:02:22.460 Because they are the ones with you 00:02:22.460 --> 00:02:24.460 Day and night 00:02:24.460 --> 00:02:26.460 Secretly and publicly 00:02:26.460 --> 00:02:29.460 If something happens to you, they hurt you 00:02:29.460 --> 00:02:31.460 If you please, they will walk with you 00:02:31.460 --> 00:02:34.460 If you are sad, they will be sad with you 00:02:34.460 --> 00:02:36.460 So be your dealings with them 00:02:36.460 --> 00:02:39.460 Better than your treatment of foreigners 00:02:39.460 --> 00:02:44.379 The best of people are the best to their families 00:02:44.379 --> 00:02:47.379 Thaartha, dear brother-in-law 00:02:47.379 --> 00:02:51.379 So that you achieve goodness in dealing with your family 00:02:51.379 --> 00:02:54.379 You must do these things 00:02:54.379 --> 00:02:55.379 Firstly 00:02:55.379 --> 00:02:59.610 Strive to have good morals 00:02:59.610 --> 00:03:02.610 By contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:03:02.610 --> 00:03:05.610 We find that everyone who was praised by his wife 00:03:05.610 --> 00:03:07.610 She praised him for his good behavior 00:03:07.610 --> 00:03:09.610 And everyone who is blamed by his wife 00:03:09.610 --> 00:03:12.610 I blame him for bad behavior 00:03:12.610 --> 00:03:16.610 This means that the most important issue is taken care of 00:03:16.610 --> 00:03:18.610 After taking care of your religion 00:03:18.610 --> 00:03:20.610 It's your morals 00:03:20.610 --> 00:03:23.610 That is why he, peace and blessings be upon him, said 00:03:23.610 --> 00:03:27.610 If someone whose religion and character please you proposes to you 00:03:27.610 --> 00:03:29.610 So they married him 00:03:29.610 --> 00:03:31.669 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 00:03:31.669 --> 00:03:33.669 Morality is part of religion 00:03:33.669 --> 00:03:36.669 But the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:36.669 --> 00:03:41.669 Emphasize it because there are people who worship God well 00:03:41.669 --> 00:03:44.669 But he has a bad attitude with people 00:03:44.669 --> 00:03:48.669 This is one of the bankrupt people who will lose on the Day of Resurrection 00:03:48.669 --> 00:03:51.669 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:03:51.669 --> 00:03:57.669 The bankrupt among my nation will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, fasting, and zakat 00:03:57.669 --> 00:04:01.669 He came to have insulted this person and slandered this person 00:04:01.669 --> 00:04:06.669 He ate this person's money, shed this person's blood, and beat that person 00:04:06.669 --> 00:04:10.669 This is given as part of his good deeds, and this is from his good deeds 00:04:10.669 --> 00:04:15.669 If his good deeds are exhausted before his debts are paid off 00:04:15.669 --> 00:04:18.670 He took from their sins and they were cast upon him 00:04:18.670 --> 00:04:20.670 Then he was thrown into the fire 00:04:20.670 --> 00:04:23.829 Do not be one of them, the honorable brother-in-law 00:04:23.829 --> 00:04:29.829 Secondly, apply all the hadiths about dealing with people to your wife 00:04:29.829 --> 00:04:35.860 Some believe that hadiths encourage good dealings with people 00:04:35.860 --> 00:04:38.860 Such as facial fluency and smiling 00:04:38.860 --> 00:04:41.860 Bringing happiness to the Muslim 00:04:41.860 --> 00:04:44.860 And assistance to people in all its forms 00:04:44.860 --> 00:04:47.860 And strive on Al-Aramar and Musakim 00:04:47.860 --> 00:04:50.860 Some people think that this applies to all people 00:04:50.860 --> 00:04:53.860 Except for the wife and family 00:04:53.860 --> 00:04:55.860 This is a grave mistake 00:04:55.860 --> 00:04:58.860 Which if the honorable brother-in-law falls into it 00:04:58.860 --> 00:05:01.860 You missed out on many good deeds 00:05:01.860 --> 00:05:06.860 And you missed out on happiness in your home and with your wife 00:05:06.860 --> 00:05:10.899 Consider the good deeds that come to you from these pictures 00:05:10.899 --> 00:05:15.019 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:05:15.019 --> 00:05:18.019 You will leave your heirs wealthy 00:05:18.019 --> 00:05:23.019 It is better than leaving them poor, begging people 00:05:23.019 --> 00:05:28.019 You will not spend anything seeking the face of God 00:05:28.019 --> 00:05:33.019 Unless you will be rewarded with it, even what you put in your wife 00:05:33.019 --> 00:05:35.019 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 00:05:35.019 --> 00:05:39.149 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:05:39.149 --> 00:05:42.149 And in a few of you, he believed it 00:05:42.149 --> 00:05:44.149 They said, O Messenger of God 00:05:44.149 --> 00:05:49.149 Can one of us fulfill his desire and have a reward for it? 00:05:49.149 --> 00:05:53.149 He said: What do you think if he puts it in something forbidden? 00:05:53.149 --> 00:05:55.149 Was there a burden on him? 00:05:55.149 --> 00:06:01.149 Likewise, if he puts it in what is lawful, he will be rewarded 00:06:01.149 --> 00:06:03.470 Narrated by Muslim 00:06:03.470 --> 00:06:06.470 These hadiths are the honorable brother of the husband 00:06:06.470 --> 00:06:10.470 It tells you about the amount of good deeds that will come to you 00:06:10.470 --> 00:06:13.470 Because of your nice treatment of your wife 00:06:13.470 --> 00:06:18.470 Imagine the amount of happiness that would fill her heart with this transaction 00:06:18.470 --> 00:06:22.470 It is one of the pleasures it brings to her 00:06:22.470 --> 00:06:24.600 Third 00:06:24.600 --> 00:06:27.600 Consider your wife an ongoing charity for you 00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:32.600 It is one of the doors of goodness whose reward never ceases 00:06:32.600 --> 00:06:35.660 And even achieve this point 00:06:35.660 --> 00:06:38.660 Apply this hadith to your wife 00:06:38.660 --> 00:06:41.660 I will put the word “your wife” in small print 00:06:41.660 --> 00:06:44.790 To make the meaning clear to you 00:06:44.790 --> 00:06:48.790 On the authority of Omar, a man came to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:06:48.790 --> 00:06:51.790 He said, O Messenger of God 00:06:51.790 --> 00:06:54.790 Which people are dearest to God? 00:06:54.790 --> 00:06:57.790 Which deeds are most beloved to God? 00:06:57.790 --> 00:07:01.790 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:07:01.790 --> 00:07:03.790 I love people to God 00:07:03.790 --> 00:07:07.790 The most useful of them to people is his wife 00:07:07.790 --> 00:07:09.790 The most beloved deeds to God 00:07:09.790 --> 00:07:12.790 The pleasure of interfering with a Muslim 00:07:12.790 --> 00:07:14.819 On your wife 00:07:14.819 --> 00:07:16.819 Or reveal it as a burden 00:07:16.819 --> 00:07:18.819 Or about her 00:07:18.819 --> 00:07:20.819 Or pay off a debt on his behalf 00:07:20.819 --> 00:07:22.819 Or about her 00:07:22.819 --> 00:07:24.819 Or drive away his hunger 00:07:24.819 --> 00:07:26.889 Or about her 00:07:26.889 --> 00:07:29.889 And because I walk with my brother, I have a need 00:07:29.889 --> 00:07:31.889 Or with my wife 00:07:31.889 --> 00:07:36.889 I love to seclude myself in this mosque for a month 00:07:36.889 --> 00:07:38.889 It means the city mosque 00:07:38.889 --> 00:07:42.949 He who refrains from becoming angry with his wife 00:07:42.949 --> 00:07:44.949 May God cover his nakedness 00:07:44.949 --> 00:07:47.949 He who bites a twig from his wife 00:07:47.949 --> 00:07:50.949 If he wanted to spend it, he would spend it 00:07:50.949 --> 00:07:54.949 God filled his heart with hope on the Day of Resurrection 00:07:54.949 --> 00:07:59.050 And whoever walked with my brother and his wife 00:07:59.050 --> 00:08:02.050 He needs to prove it to him 00:08:02.050 --> 00:08:06.050 May God make His feet firm on the day when feet will disappear 00:08:06.050 --> 00:08:09.139 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Kabir 00:08:09.139 --> 00:08:11.500 Fourth 00:08:11.500 --> 00:08:13.500 I pray for her in the back of the unseen 00:08:13.500 --> 00:08:15.500 Especially in your prostration 00:08:15.500 --> 00:08:17.620 Praying for people 00:08:17.620 --> 00:08:20.620 It only comes from a loving heart 00:08:20.620 --> 00:08:23.620 I think you are my honorable brother-in-law 00:08:23.620 --> 00:08:25.620 You love your wife 00:08:25.620 --> 00:08:27.620 Did you pray for her in the back of the unseen? 00:08:27.620 --> 00:08:29.620 Or in your prayers 00:08:29.620 --> 00:08:31.660 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:08:31.660 --> 00:08:33.659 she said 00:08:33.659 --> 00:08:36.659 What I saw from the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:36.659 --> 00:08:38.659 Good breath 00:08:38.659 --> 00:08:40.659 I said, O Messenger of God 00:08:40.659 --> 00:08:42.659 I pray to God for me 00:08:42.659 --> 00:08:44.659 And he said 00:08:44.659 --> 00:08:46.659 May God forgive Aisha 00:08:46.659 --> 00:08:48.659 Her previous sin 00:08:48.659 --> 00:08:50.659 And what was late? 00:08:50.659 --> 00:08:52.659 What was concealed and what was announced 00:08:52.659 --> 00:08:54.659 Aisha laughed 00:08:54.659 --> 00:08:56.659 Until her head fell into her lap 00:08:56.659 --> 00:08:58.690 From laughter 00:08:58.690 --> 00:09:01.690 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 00:09:02.690 --> 00:09:04.690 Aysarak my propaganda 00:09:04.690 --> 00:09:06.690 And she said 00:09:06.690 --> 00:09:08.690 Why am I not pleased with your supplication? 00:09:08.690 --> 00:09:10.750 And he said 00:09:10.750 --> 00:09:12.750 By God, it is my supplication for my nation 00:09:12.750 --> 00:09:14.750 In every prayer 00:09:14.750 --> 00:09:16.820 Narrated by Ibn Hibban 00:09:16.820 --> 00:09:18.980 Fifth 00:09:18.980 --> 00:09:20.980 Stay away from spoilers 00:09:20.980 --> 00:09:22.980 Married life 00:09:22.980 --> 00:09:25.139 Spoilers of married life 00:09:25.139 --> 00:09:27.139 Many 00:09:27.139 --> 00:09:29.139 But I warn you, dear brother-in-law 00:09:29.139 --> 00:09:31.139 Of two things 00:09:31.139 --> 00:09:33.139 The first 00:09:33.139 --> 00:09:35.139 Start looking at women's faces 00:09:35.139 --> 00:09:37.139 This consideration 00:09:37.139 --> 00:09:39.139 It will not end except with fear of God 00:09:39.139 --> 00:09:41.139 And fear of his punishment 00:09:41.139 --> 00:09:43.139 Otherwise the faces 00:09:43.139 --> 00:09:45.139 Kindness never ends 00:09:45.139 --> 00:09:47.139 Whenever you look at a woman 00:09:47.139 --> 00:09:49.139 Others came out better 00:09:49.139 --> 00:09:51.139 She doesn't have it 00:09:51.139 --> 00:09:53.139 Especially since Satan is adorning 00:09:53.139 --> 00:09:55.139 Forbidden to you 00:09:55.139 --> 00:09:57.139 He hates what is halal for you 00:09:57.139 --> 00:09:59.139 Looking is forbidden 00:09:59.139 --> 00:10:01.139 This is one of the sins that may divide 00:10:01.139 --> 00:10:03.139 Between you and your wife 00:10:03.139 --> 00:10:05.200 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:10:05.200 --> 00:10:07.200 We didn't talk to each other 00:10:07.200 --> 00:10:09.200 So he separated them 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:11.200 Except for sin 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:13.200 One of them tells him 00:10:13.200 --> 00:10:15.200 Narrated by Ahmed 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:17.259 The second 00:10:17.259 --> 00:10:19.259 Compare while you see 00:10:19.259 --> 00:10:21.259 Or you hear between your wife 00:10:21.299 --> 00:10:23.299 This is one of the most dangerous things 00:10:23.299 --> 00:10:25.299 On your heart and soul 00:10:25.299 --> 00:10:27.299 Because you will not be convinced 00:10:27.299 --> 00:10:29.299 What do you have? 00:10:29.299 --> 00:10:31.299 This is the beginning of problems with the wife 00:10:31.299 --> 00:10:33.460 It may be a reason 00:10:33.460 --> 00:10:35.460 Divorce or transplant? 00:10:35.460 --> 00:10:37.460 This is what Abu Zara fell into 00:10:37.460 --> 00:10:39.460 From launching his gaze between women 00:10:39.460 --> 00:10:41.460 And comparison between 00:10:41.460 --> 00:10:43.460 What he sees between his wife 00:10:43.460 --> 00:10:45.460 It is a different sin 00:10:45.460 --> 00:10:48.669 Between them 00:10:48.669 --> 00:10:50.669 In conclusion 00:10:50.669 --> 00:10:52.669 I ask God to make you happy, dear brother-in-law 00:10:52.669 --> 00:10:54.669 With your honorable wife 00:10:54.669 --> 00:10:56.669 And fill your heart with her love 00:10:56.669 --> 00:10:58.669 And to be you 00:10:58.669 --> 00:11:00.669 People loved her 00:11:00.669 --> 00:11:02.830 We will meet you 00:11:02.830 --> 00:11:04.830 My brothers and sisters in series 00:11:04.830 --> 00:11:06.830 Ramadan is coming 00:11:06.830 --> 00:11:08.830 God willing 00:11:08.830 --> 00:11:10.830 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 00:11:10.830 --> 00:11:12.830 May God bless and grant peace 00:11:12.830 --> 00:11:14.830 On our Prophet Muhammad 00:11:14.830 --> 00:11:16.830 And on his family 00:11:16.830 --> 00:11:18.830 And all his companions