In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Men's items
In the hadith of Umm Zara’
So that you can be one of the best men
My dear husband brother
This is the conclusion of the Ramadan series
In explaining and contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’
In explaining the types of men
I made them quick commandments for you and me
May God make me and you
One of the best men to their women
First, God commanded us to be patient
His Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He said, “It was yours with the Messenger of God.”
A good example
It is remorseful
Discipline is the way he deals with his wives
The Prophet’s punishment, may God bless him and grant him peace, is not fulfilled
Except through our knowledge of his biography with his wives
This means that we read more hadiths
Related to the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
With his wives
Who wrote the hadith
Among the books that collected these hadiths in particular
Like the book “Hasan Al-Aswa”.
What has been proven from God and His Messenger regarding women
To Siddiq Hassan Khan
And a book
Encyclopedia of Women's Hadiths in the Six Books
To Adel Al-Hamd
Secondly
Description of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
His life with his wives in general terms
And he said
The best of you is the best to his family
I am the best of you to my family
Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi
Ibn Uthaymeen, may God have mercy on him, said
If there is good in you
So keep it with the people closest to you
Let him be the first to benefit from this goodness
This is the opposite of what some people do today
You find that he has a bad attitude towards his family
Good manners with others
This is a big mistake
Your family is more deserving of good behavior
Have good manners with them
Because they are the ones with you
Day and night
Secretly and publicly
If something happens to you, they hurt you
If you please, they will walk with you
If you are sad, they will be sad with you
So be your dealings with them
Better than your treatment of foreigners
The best of people are the best to their families
Thaartha, dear brother-in-law
So that you achieve goodness in dealing with your family
You must do these things
Firstly
Strive to have good morals
By contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’
We find that everyone who was praised by his wife
She praised him for his good behavior
And everyone who is blamed by his wife
I blame him for bad behavior
This means that the most important issue is taken care of
After taking care of your religion
It's your morals
That is why he, peace and blessings be upon him, said
If someone whose religion and character please you proposes to you
So they married him
Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi
Morality is part of religion
But the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
Emphasize it because there are people who worship God well
But he has a bad attitude with people
This is one of the bankrupt people who will lose on the Day of Resurrection
He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
The bankrupt among my nation will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, fasting, and zakat
He came to have insulted this person and slandered this person
He ate this person's money, shed this person's blood, and beat that person
This is given as part of his good deeds, and this is from his good deeds
If his good deeds are exhausted before his debts are paid off
He took from their sins and they were cast upon him
Then he was thrown into the fire
Do not be one of them, the honorable brother-in-law
Secondly, apply all the hadiths about dealing with people to your wife
Some believe that hadiths encourage good dealings with people
Such as facial fluency and smiling
Bringing happiness to the Muslim
And assistance to people in all its forms
And strive on Al-Aramar and Musakim
Some people think that this applies to all people
Except for the wife and family
This is a grave mistake
Which if the honorable brother-in-law falls into it
You missed out on many good deeds
And you missed out on happiness in your home and with your wife
Consider the good deeds that come to you from these pictures
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
You will leave your heirs wealthy
It is better than leaving them poor, begging people
You will not spend anything seeking the face of God
Unless you will be rewarded with it, even what you put in your wife
Narrated by Al-Bukhari
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
And in a few of you, he believed it
They said, O Messenger of God
Can one of us fulfill his desire and have a reward for it?
He said: What do you think if he puts it in something forbidden?
Was there a burden on him?
Likewise, if he puts it in what is lawful, he will be rewarded
Narrated by Muslim
These hadiths are the honorable brother of the husband
It tells you about the amount of good deeds that will come to you
Because of your nice treatment of your wife
Imagine the amount of happiness that would fill her heart with this transaction
It is one of the pleasures it brings to her
Third
Consider your wife an ongoing charity for you
It is one of the doors of goodness whose reward never ceases
And even achieve this point
Apply this hadith to your wife
I will put the word “your wife” in small print
To make the meaning clear to you
On the authority of Omar, a man came to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He said, O Messenger of God
Which people are dearest to God?
Which deeds are most beloved to God?
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
I love people to God
The most useful of them to people is his wife
The most beloved deeds to God
The pleasure of interfering with a Muslim
On your wife
Or reveal it as a burden
Or about her
Or pay off a debt on his behalf
Or about her
Or drive away his hunger
Or about her
And because I walk with my brother, I have a need
Or with my wife
I love to seclude myself in this mosque for a month
It means the city mosque
He who refrains from becoming angry with his wife
May God cover his nakedness
He who bites a twig from his wife
If he wanted to spend it, he would spend it
God filled his heart with hope on the Day of Resurrection
And whoever walked with my brother and his wife
He needs to prove it to him
May God make His feet firm on the day when feet will disappear
Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Kabir
Fourth
I pray for her in the back of the unseen
Especially in your prostration
Praying for people
It only comes from a loving heart
I think you are my honorable brother-in-law
You love your wife
Did you pray for her in the back of the unseen?
Or in your prayers
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her
she said
What I saw from the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
Good breath
I said, O Messenger of God
I pray to God for me
And he said
May God forgive Aisha
Her previous sin
And what was late?
What was concealed and what was announced
Aisha laughed
Until her head fell into her lap
From laughter
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her
Aysarak my propaganda
And she said
Why am I not pleased with your supplication?
And he said
By God, it is my supplication for my nation
In every prayer
Narrated by Ibn Hibban
Fifth
Stay away from spoilers
Married life
Spoilers of married life
Many
But I warn you, dear brother-in-law
Of two things
The first
Start looking at women's faces
This consideration
It will not end except with fear of God
And fear of his punishment
Otherwise the faces
Kindness never ends
Whenever you look at a woman
Others came out better
She doesn't have it
Especially since Satan is adorning
Forbidden to you
He hates what is halal for you
Looking is forbidden
This is one of the sins that may divide
Between you and your wife
He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
We didn't talk to each other
So he separated them
Except for sin
One of them tells him
Narrated by Ahmed
The second
Compare while you see
Or you hear between your wife
This is one of the most dangerous things
On your heart and soul
Because you will not be convinced
What do you have?
This is the beginning of problems with the wife
It may be a reason
Divorce or transplant?
This is what Abu Zara fell into
From launching his gaze between women
And comparison between
What he sees between his wife
It is a different sin
Between them
In conclusion
I ask God to make you happy, dear brother-in-law
With your honorable wife
And fill your heart with her love
And to be you
People loved her
We will meet you
My brothers and sisters in series
Ramadan is coming
God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds
May God bless and grant peace
On our Prophet Muhammad
And on his family
And all his companions