1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:08,210 Men's items 3 00:00:08,210 --> 00:00:16,629 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 4 00:00:16,629 --> 00:00:21,980 So that you can be one of the best men 5 00:00:21,980 --> 00:00:23,980 My dear husband brother 6 00:00:23,980 --> 00:00:26,980 This is the conclusion of the Ramadan series 7 00:00:26,980 --> 00:00:29,980 In explaining and contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’ 8 00:00:29,980 --> 00:00:31,980 In explaining the types of men 9 00:00:31,980 --> 00:00:34,979 I made them quick commandments for you and me 10 00:00:34,979 --> 00:00:37,979 May God make me and you 11 00:00:37,979 --> 00:00:41,039 One of the best men to their women 12 00:00:41,039 --> 00:00:44,039 First, God commanded us to be patient 13 00:00:44,039 --> 00:00:47,039 His Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 14 00:00:47,039 --> 00:00:50,039 He said, “It was yours with the Messenger of God.” 15 00:00:50,039 --> 00:00:52,039 A good example 16 00:00:52,039 --> 00:00:54,039 It is remorseful 17 00:00:54,039 --> 00:00:58,039 Discipline is the way he deals with his wives 18 00:00:58,039 --> 00:01:02,039 The Prophet’s punishment, may God bless him and grant him peace, is not fulfilled 19 00:01:02,039 --> 00:01:06,040 Except through our knowledge of his biography with his wives 20 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:10,040 This means that we read more hadiths 21 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,040 Related to the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 22 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:15,040 With his wives 23 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,040 Who wrote the hadith 24 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,040 Among the books that collected these hadiths in particular 25 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:23,040 Like the book “Hasan Al-Aswa”. 26 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:27,040 What has been proven from God and His Messenger regarding women 27 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,040 To Siddiq Hassan Khan 28 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,040 And a book 29 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:35,040 Encyclopedia of Women's Hadiths in the Six Books 30 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:37,420 To Adel Al-Hamd 31 00:01:37,420 --> 00:01:38,420 Secondly 32 00:01:38,420 --> 00:01:41,420 Description of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 33 00:01:41,420 --> 00:01:44,420 His life with his wives in general terms 34 00:01:44,420 --> 00:01:45,420 And he said 35 00:01:45,420 --> 00:01:48,420 The best of you is the best to his family 36 00:01:48,420 --> 00:01:51,420 I am the best of you to my family 37 00:01:51,420 --> 00:01:53,459 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 38 00:01:53,459 --> 00:01:55,459 Ibn Uthaymeen, may God have mercy on him, said 39 00:01:55,459 --> 00:01:57,459 If there is good in you 40 00:01:57,459 --> 00:02:00,459 So keep it with the people closest to you 41 00:02:00,459 --> 00:02:04,459 Let him be the first to benefit from this goodness 42 00:02:04,459 --> 00:02:07,459 This is the opposite of what some people do today 43 00:02:07,459 --> 00:02:10,460 You find that he has a bad attitude towards his family 44 00:02:10,460 --> 00:02:12,460 Good manners with others 45 00:02:12,460 --> 00:02:15,460 This is a big mistake 46 00:02:15,460 --> 00:02:18,460 Your family is more deserving of good behavior 47 00:02:18,460 --> 00:02:20,460 Have good manners with them 48 00:02:20,460 --> 00:02:22,460 Because they are the ones with you 49 00:02:22,460 --> 00:02:24,460 Day and night 50 00:02:24,460 --> 00:02:26,460 Secretly and publicly 51 00:02:26,460 --> 00:02:29,460 If something happens to you, they hurt you 52 00:02:29,460 --> 00:02:31,460 If you please, they will walk with you 53 00:02:31,460 --> 00:02:34,460 If you are sad, they will be sad with you 54 00:02:34,460 --> 00:02:36,460 So be your dealings with them 55 00:02:36,460 --> 00:02:39,460 Better than your treatment of foreigners 56 00:02:39,460 --> 00:02:44,379 The best of people are the best to their families 57 00:02:44,379 --> 00:02:47,379 Thaartha, dear brother-in-law 58 00:02:47,379 --> 00:02:51,379 So that you achieve goodness in dealing with your family 59 00:02:51,379 --> 00:02:54,379 You must do these things 60 00:02:54,379 --> 00:02:55,379 Firstly 61 00:02:55,379 --> 00:02:59,610 Strive to have good morals 62 00:02:59,610 --> 00:03:02,610 By contemplating the hadith of Umm Zara’ 63 00:03:02,610 --> 00:03:05,610 We find that everyone who was praised by his wife 64 00:03:05,610 --> 00:03:07,610 She praised him for his good behavior 65 00:03:07,610 --> 00:03:09,610 And everyone who is blamed by his wife 66 00:03:09,610 --> 00:03:12,610 I blame him for bad behavior 67 00:03:12,610 --> 00:03:16,610 This means that the most important issue is taken care of 68 00:03:16,610 --> 00:03:18,610 After taking care of your religion 69 00:03:18,610 --> 00:03:20,610 It's your morals 70 00:03:20,610 --> 00:03:23,610 That is why he, peace and blessings be upon him, said 71 00:03:23,610 --> 00:03:27,610 If someone whose religion and character please you proposes to you 72 00:03:27,610 --> 00:03:29,610 So they married him 73 00:03:29,610 --> 00:03:31,669 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 74 00:03:31,669 --> 00:03:33,669 Morality is part of religion 75 00:03:33,669 --> 00:03:36,669 But the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 76 00:03:36,669 --> 00:03:41,669 Emphasize it because there are people who worship God well 77 00:03:41,669 --> 00:03:44,669 But he has a bad attitude with people 78 00:03:44,669 --> 00:03:48,669 This is one of the bankrupt people who will lose on the Day of Resurrection 79 00:03:48,669 --> 00:03:51,669 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 80 00:03:51,669 --> 00:03:57,669 The bankrupt among my nation will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, fasting, and zakat 81 00:03:57,669 --> 00:04:01,669 He came to have insulted this person and slandered this person 82 00:04:01,669 --> 00:04:06,669 He ate this person's money, shed this person's blood, and beat that person 83 00:04:06,669 --> 00:04:10,669 This is given as part of his good deeds, and this is from his good deeds 84 00:04:10,669 --> 00:04:15,669 If his good deeds are exhausted before his debts are paid off 85 00:04:15,669 --> 00:04:18,670 He took from their sins and they were cast upon him 86 00:04:18,670 --> 00:04:20,670 Then he was thrown into the fire 87 00:04:20,670 --> 00:04:23,829 Do not be one of them, the honorable brother-in-law 88 00:04:23,829 --> 00:04:29,829 Secondly, apply all the hadiths about dealing with people to your wife 89 00:04:29,829 --> 00:04:35,860 Some believe that hadiths encourage good dealings with people 90 00:04:35,860 --> 00:04:38,860 Such as facial fluency and smiling 91 00:04:38,860 --> 00:04:41,860 Bringing happiness to the Muslim 92 00:04:41,860 --> 00:04:44,860 And assistance to people in all its forms 93 00:04:44,860 --> 00:04:47,860 And strive on Al-Aramar and Musakim 94 00:04:47,860 --> 00:04:50,860 Some people think that this applies to all people 95 00:04:50,860 --> 00:04:53,860 Except for the wife and family 96 00:04:53,860 --> 00:04:55,860 This is a grave mistake 97 00:04:55,860 --> 00:04:58,860 Which if the honorable brother-in-law falls into it 98 00:04:58,860 --> 00:05:01,860 You missed out on many good deeds 99 00:05:01,860 --> 00:05:06,860 And you missed out on happiness in your home and with your wife 100 00:05:06,860 --> 00:05:10,899 Consider the good deeds that come to you from these pictures 101 00:05:10,899 --> 00:05:15,019 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 102 00:05:15,019 --> 00:05:18,019 You will leave your heirs wealthy 103 00:05:18,019 --> 00:05:23,019 It is better than leaving them poor, begging people 104 00:05:23,019 --> 00:05:28,019 You will not spend anything seeking the face of God 105 00:05:28,019 --> 00:05:33,019 Unless you will be rewarded with it, even what you put in your wife 106 00:05:33,019 --> 00:05:35,019 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 107 00:05:35,019 --> 00:05:39,149 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 108 00:05:39,149 --> 00:05:42,149 And in a few of you, he believed it 109 00:05:42,149 --> 00:05:44,149 They said, O Messenger of God 110 00:05:44,149 --> 00:05:49,149 Can one of us fulfill his desire and have a reward for it? 111 00:05:49,149 --> 00:05:53,149 He said: What do you think if he puts it in something forbidden? 112 00:05:53,149 --> 00:05:55,149 Was there a burden on him? 113 00:05:55,149 --> 00:06:01,149 Likewise, if he puts it in what is lawful, he will be rewarded 114 00:06:01,149 --> 00:06:03,470 Narrated by Muslim 115 00:06:03,470 --> 00:06:06,470 These hadiths are the honorable brother of the husband 116 00:06:06,470 --> 00:06:10,470 It tells you about the amount of good deeds that will come to you 117 00:06:10,470 --> 00:06:13,470 Because of your nice treatment of your wife 118 00:06:13,470 --> 00:06:18,470 Imagine the amount of happiness that would fill her heart with this transaction 119 00:06:18,470 --> 00:06:22,470 It is one of the pleasures it brings to her 120 00:06:22,470 --> 00:06:24,600 Third 121 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:27,600 Consider your wife an ongoing charity for you 122 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:32,600 It is one of the doors of goodness whose reward never ceases 123 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,660 And even achieve this point 124 00:06:35,660 --> 00:06:38,660 Apply this hadith to your wife 125 00:06:38,660 --> 00:06:41,660 I will put the word “your wife” in small print 126 00:06:41,660 --> 00:06:44,790 To make the meaning clear to you 127 00:06:44,790 --> 00:06:48,790 On the authority of Omar, a man came to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 128 00:06:48,790 --> 00:06:51,790 He said, O Messenger of God 129 00:06:51,790 --> 00:06:54,790 Which people are dearest to God? 130 00:06:54,790 --> 00:06:57,790 Which deeds are most beloved to God? 131 00:06:57,790 --> 00:07:01,790 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 132 00:07:01,790 --> 00:07:03,790 I love people to God 133 00:07:03,790 --> 00:07:07,790 The most useful of them to people is his wife 134 00:07:07,790 --> 00:07:09,790 The most beloved deeds to God 135 00:07:09,790 --> 00:07:12,790 The pleasure of interfering with a Muslim 136 00:07:12,790 --> 00:07:14,819 On your wife 137 00:07:14,819 --> 00:07:16,819 Or reveal it as a burden 138 00:07:16,819 --> 00:07:18,819 Or about her 139 00:07:18,819 --> 00:07:20,819 Or pay off a debt on his behalf 140 00:07:20,819 --> 00:07:22,819 Or about her 141 00:07:22,819 --> 00:07:24,819 Or drive away his hunger 142 00:07:24,819 --> 00:07:26,889 Or about her 143 00:07:26,889 --> 00:07:29,889 And because I walk with my brother, I have a need 144 00:07:29,889 --> 00:07:31,889 Or with my wife 145 00:07:31,889 --> 00:07:36,889 I love to seclude myself in this mosque for a month 146 00:07:36,889 --> 00:07:38,889 It means the city mosque 147 00:07:38,889 --> 00:07:42,949 He who refrains from becoming angry with his wife 148 00:07:42,949 --> 00:07:44,949 May God cover his nakedness 149 00:07:44,949 --> 00:07:47,949 He who bites a twig from his wife 150 00:07:47,949 --> 00:07:50,949 If he wanted to spend it, he would spend it 151 00:07:50,949 --> 00:07:54,949 God filled his heart with hope on the Day of Resurrection 152 00:07:54,949 --> 00:07:59,050 And whoever walked with my brother and his wife 153 00:07:59,050 --> 00:08:02,050 He needs to prove it to him 154 00:08:02,050 --> 00:08:06,050 May God make His feet firm on the day when feet will disappear 155 00:08:06,050 --> 00:08:09,139 Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Kabir 156 00:08:09,139 --> 00:08:11,500 Fourth 157 00:08:11,500 --> 00:08:13,500 I pray for her in the back of the unseen 158 00:08:13,500 --> 00:08:15,500 Especially in your prostration 159 00:08:15,500 --> 00:08:17,620 Praying for people 160 00:08:17,620 --> 00:08:20,620 It only comes from a loving heart 161 00:08:20,620 --> 00:08:23,620 I think you are my honorable brother-in-law 162 00:08:23,620 --> 00:08:25,620 You love your wife 163 00:08:25,620 --> 00:08:27,620 Did you pray for her in the back of the unseen? 164 00:08:27,620 --> 00:08:29,620 Or in your prayers 165 00:08:29,620 --> 00:08:31,660 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 166 00:08:31,660 --> 00:08:33,659 she said 167 00:08:33,659 --> 00:08:36,659 What I saw from the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 168 00:08:36,659 --> 00:08:38,659 Good breath 169 00:08:38,659 --> 00:08:40,659 I said, O Messenger of God 170 00:08:40,659 --> 00:08:42,659 I pray to God for me 171 00:08:42,659 --> 00:08:44,659 And he said 172 00:08:44,659 --> 00:08:46,659 May God forgive Aisha 173 00:08:46,659 --> 00:08:48,659 Her previous sin 174 00:08:48,659 --> 00:08:50,659 And what was late? 175 00:08:50,659 --> 00:08:52,659 What was concealed and what was announced 176 00:08:52,659 --> 00:08:54,659 Aisha laughed 177 00:08:54,659 --> 00:08:56,659 Until her head fell into her lap 178 00:08:56,659 --> 00:08:58,690 From laughter 179 00:08:58,690 --> 00:09:01,690 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 180 00:09:02,690 --> 00:09:04,690 Aysarak my propaganda 181 00:09:04,690 --> 00:09:06,690 And she said 182 00:09:06,690 --> 00:09:08,690 Why am I not pleased with your supplication? 183 00:09:08,690 --> 00:09:10,750 And he said 184 00:09:10,750 --> 00:09:12,750 By God, it is my supplication for my nation 185 00:09:12,750 --> 00:09:14,750 In every prayer 186 00:09:14,750 --> 00:09:16,820 Narrated by Ibn Hibban 187 00:09:16,820 --> 00:09:18,980 Fifth 188 00:09:18,980 --> 00:09:20,980 Stay away from spoilers 189 00:09:20,980 --> 00:09:22,980 Married life 190 00:09:22,980 --> 00:09:25,139 Spoilers of married life 191 00:09:25,139 --> 00:09:27,139 Many 192 00:09:27,139 --> 00:09:29,139 But I warn you, dear brother-in-law 193 00:09:29,139 --> 00:09:31,139 Of two things 194 00:09:31,139 --> 00:09:33,139 The first 195 00:09:33,139 --> 00:09:35,139 Start looking at women's faces 196 00:09:35,139 --> 00:09:37,139 This consideration 197 00:09:37,139 --> 00:09:39,139 It will not end except with fear of God 198 00:09:39,139 --> 00:09:41,139 And fear of his punishment 199 00:09:41,139 --> 00:09:43,139 Otherwise the faces 200 00:09:43,139 --> 00:09:45,139 Kindness never ends 201 00:09:45,139 --> 00:09:47,139 Whenever you look at a woman 202 00:09:47,139 --> 00:09:49,139 Others came out better 203 00:09:49,139 --> 00:09:51,139 She doesn't have it 204 00:09:51,139 --> 00:09:53,139 Especially since Satan is adorning 205 00:09:53,139 --> 00:09:55,139 Forbidden to you 206 00:09:55,139 --> 00:09:57,139 He hates what is halal for you 207 00:09:57,139 --> 00:09:59,139 Looking is forbidden 208 00:09:59,139 --> 00:10:01,139 This is one of the sins that may divide 209 00:10:01,139 --> 00:10:03,139 Between you and your wife 210 00:10:03,139 --> 00:10:05,200 He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 211 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,200 We didn't talk to each other 212 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:09,200 So he separated them 213 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,200 Except for sin 214 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:13,200 One of them tells him 215 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:15,200 Narrated by Ahmed 216 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,259 The second 217 00:10:17,259 --> 00:10:19,259 Compare while you see 218 00:10:19,259 --> 00:10:21,259 Or you hear between your wife 219 00:10:21,299 --> 00:10:23,299 This is one of the most dangerous things 220 00:10:23,299 --> 00:10:25,299 On your heart and soul 221 00:10:25,299 --> 00:10:27,299 Because you will not be convinced 222 00:10:27,299 --> 00:10:29,299 What do you have? 223 00:10:29,299 --> 00:10:31,299 This is the beginning of problems with the wife 224 00:10:31,299 --> 00:10:33,460 It may be a reason 225 00:10:33,460 --> 00:10:35,460 Divorce or transplant? 226 00:10:35,460 --> 00:10:37,460 This is what Abu Zara fell into 227 00:10:37,460 --> 00:10:39,460 From launching his gaze between women 228 00:10:39,460 --> 00:10:41,460 And comparison between 229 00:10:41,460 --> 00:10:43,460 What he sees between his wife 230 00:10:43,460 --> 00:10:45,460 It is a different sin 231 00:10:45,460 --> 00:10:48,669 Between them 232 00:10:48,669 --> 00:10:50,669 In conclusion 233 00:10:50,669 --> 00:10:52,669 I ask God to make you happy, dear brother-in-law 234 00:10:52,669 --> 00:10:54,669 With your honorable wife 235 00:10:54,669 --> 00:10:56,669 And fill your heart with her love 236 00:10:56,669 --> 00:10:58,669 And to be you 237 00:10:58,669 --> 00:11:00,669 People loved her 238 00:11:00,669 --> 00:11:02,830 We will meet you 239 00:11:02,830 --> 00:11:04,830 My brothers and sisters in series 240 00:11:04,830 --> 00:11:06,830 Ramadan is coming 241 00:11:06,830 --> 00:11:08,830 God willing 242 00:11:08,830 --> 00:11:10,830 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 243 00:11:10,830 --> 00:11:12,830 May God bless and grant peace 244 00:11:12,830 --> 00:11:14,830 On our Prophet Muhammad 245 00:11:14,830 --> 00:11:16,830 And on his family 246 00:11:16,830 --> 00:11:18,830 And all his companions