WEBVTT 00:00:01.419 --> 00:00:07.419 The story of our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:00:07.419 --> 00:00:15.880 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, menstruated lavishly 00:00:15.880 --> 00:00:25.379 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was listening to the Prophet’s sermon, may God bless him and grant him peace, to his companions 00:00:25.379 --> 00:00:28.379 He urged them to make it his lifetime 00:00:28.379 --> 00:00:34.380 But she was surprised when she started menstruating while she was in Saraf, near Mecca 00:00:34.380 --> 00:00:38.420 This means that she will not be able to perform Umrah 00:00:38.420 --> 00:00:44.420 The time remaining for the Day of Arafat is short, and menstruation has its time 00:00:44.420 --> 00:00:50.420 Then our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, realized that she would not be able to perform Umrah 00:00:50.420 --> 00:00:56.420 She hears the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, urging his companions to make it his life 00:00:56.420 --> 00:00:58.420 So she cried 00:00:58.420 --> 00:01:03.420 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, entered upon her while she was crying 00:01:03.420 --> 00:01:06.420 He did not let her know the secret of her crying 00:01:06.420 --> 00:01:10.450 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, says 00:01:10.450 --> 00:01:13.450 When we came, she had menstrual periods 00:01:13.450 --> 00:01:18.670 Then the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, came in and I was crying 00:01:18.670 --> 00:01:22.670 He said, “What makes you cry, Aisha?” 00:01:22.670 --> 00:01:27.769 I said, “If I knew, by God, I would not have performed Hajj this year.” 00:01:27.769 --> 00:01:31.769 He said: What is the matter with you? Perhaps you are my soul 00:01:31.769 --> 00:01:33.829 I said yes 00:01:33.829 --> 00:01:36.829 He said, Glory be to God 00:01:36.829 --> 00:01:40.829 This is something that God has decreed for the daughters of Adam 00:01:40.829 --> 00:01:43.829 So do what the Hajj does 00:01:43.829 --> 00:01:47.829 However, do not circumambulate the House until you are pure 00:01:47.829 --> 00:01:54.409 In general, a menstruating woman's psychology changes during menstruation 00:01:54.409 --> 00:01:56.409 So what about Hajj? 00:01:56.409 --> 00:01:59.409 She wants to perform rituals with Muslims 00:01:59.409 --> 00:02:03.409 She fears being late for them or delaying those with her 00:02:03.409 --> 00:02:07.409 That is why our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, cried 00:02:07.409 --> 00:02:12.409 She said, “If I were to find out, by God, I would not have performed Hajj this year.” 00:02:12.409 --> 00:02:17.409 This shows how strongly she is affected by menstruation 00:02:17.409 --> 00:02:21.629 Among the beautiful morals of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:02:21.629 --> 00:02:23.629 And he treated his family well 00:02:23.629 --> 00:02:26.629 When he saw her crying 00:02:26.629 --> 00:02:30.629 Ask her why she is crying and why she is so kind 00:02:30.629 --> 00:02:34.629 He said, “What makes you cry, Hunt?” 00:02:34.629 --> 00:02:37.729 I said, “I heard what you said to your friends.” 00:02:37.729 --> 00:02:39.729 Umrah was prohibited 00:02:39.729 --> 00:02:42.860 She explained the reason behind her crying 00:02:42.860 --> 00:02:45.860 She will not be able to survive 00:02:45.860 --> 00:02:49.860 So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, inquired about her 00:02:49.860 --> 00:02:52.860 Again about the reason for this 00:02:52.860 --> 00:02:55.860 He said: What is your business? 00:02:55.860 --> 00:02:58.860 I said I don't pray 00:02:58.860 --> 00:03:03.860 I was about menstruation according to its specific ruling and it was more polite than it 00:03:03.860 --> 00:03:07.860 The effect of this was evident in her believing daughters 00:03:07.860 --> 00:03:10.860 They all talk about menstruation 00:03:10.860 --> 00:03:13.860 By denying prayer or otherwise 00:03:13.860 --> 00:03:17.050 This is one of the nice euphemisms 00:03:17.050 --> 00:03:20.050 And in this, dear sisters 00:03:20.050 --> 00:03:24.050 The etiquette of using beautiful words with your husband and others 00:03:24.050 --> 00:03:28.050 Especially when people find it difficult to mention it 00:03:28.050 --> 00:03:31.180 This hadith is useful 00:03:31.180 --> 00:03:33.180 That the beginning of menstruation 00:03:33.180 --> 00:03:36.180 With our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:03:36.180 --> 00:03:38.180 On her Hajj trip 00:03:38.180 --> 00:03:42.180 It was the third Saturday of Dhu al-Hijjah 00:03:42.180 --> 00:03:47.159 Consoling the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:47.159 --> 00:03:50.159 To our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:03:50.159 --> 00:03:52.159 When she wanted 00:03:52.159 --> 00:03:56.020 The treatment of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:56.020 --> 00:03:59.020 To his wives, mothers of believers 00:03:59.020 --> 00:04:03.020 It is the most delicate treatment between a husband and his wife 00:04:03.020 --> 00:04:05.020 And everyone who wants to learn 00:04:05.020 --> 00:04:07.020 The art of dealing with spouses 00:04:07.020 --> 00:04:09.020 He must study 00:04:09.020 --> 00:04:12.020 The life of our Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:12.020 --> 00:04:14.020 With his wives 00:04:14.020 --> 00:04:17.019 This is the ideal for a married couple 00:04:17.019 --> 00:04:19.180 Beautiful dealing pictures 00:04:19.180 --> 00:04:22.180 Between the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:22.180 --> 00:04:24.180 And his wife Aisha 00:04:24.180 --> 00:04:27.180 What happened to her in this story 00:04:27.180 --> 00:04:30.180 Aisha cried when she had her period 00:04:30.180 --> 00:04:33.180 It happened because of the distress that befell her 00:04:33.180 --> 00:04:36.279 And sadness over the loss of life 00:04:36.279 --> 00:04:39.279 This is why men may not realize it quickly 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:42.279 The man may not care about him 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:45.279 Because he believes that menstruation is normal 00:04:45.279 --> 00:04:47.279 It happens to every woman 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:49.279 And it is 00:04:49.279 --> 00:04:52.279 But the woman may be in a psychological state 00:04:52.279 --> 00:04:54.279 Affected by menstruation 00:04:54.279 --> 00:04:57.279 Like the one waiting for the campaign after her marriage 00:04:57.279 --> 00:04:59.279 And he's late for it 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:02.279 She cries when her period begins 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:04.279 Or for any other reason 00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:07.439 Then the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did so 00:05:07.439 --> 00:05:09.439 With Aisha 00:05:09.439 --> 00:05:12.439 Guidance for couples in the art of dealing 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:15.439 With a woman in such a situation 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:18.569 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was not satisfied 00:05:18.569 --> 00:05:21.569 By asking her why she was crying 00:05:21.569 --> 00:05:23.569 Rather, it made it easier for her 00:05:23.569 --> 00:05:26.569 Show her that she is not the only one 00:05:26.569 --> 00:05:28.569 Who is afflicted with this menstruation 00:05:28.569 --> 00:05:30.569 Rather, all the daughters of Adam 00:05:30.569 --> 00:05:32.569 And he said 00:05:32.569 --> 00:05:36.569 This is something that God has decreed for the daughters of Adam 00:05:36.569 --> 00:05:39.569 That is, He decreed it for them 00:05:39.569 --> 00:05:41.569 And he obliged them to do so 00:05:41.569 --> 00:05:44.569 They are devoted to being patient with him 00:05:44.569 --> 00:05:47.569 But you are a woman from the daughters of Adam 00:05:47.569 --> 00:05:50.569 God has decreed for you what He has decreed for them 00:05:50.569 --> 00:05:53.569 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, calmed down 00:05:53.569 --> 00:05:55.569 He terrified her with two things 00:05:55.569 --> 00:05:59.569 The first is that menstruation is something God has written 00:05:59.569 --> 00:06:01.569 On women in general 00:06:01.569 --> 00:06:04.569 The other is that she is like them 00:06:04.569 --> 00:06:07.569 What is happening to them is happening to them 00:06:07.569 --> 00:06:10.569 This is entertainment and comfort for her 00:06:10.569 --> 00:06:13.569 And relieve them 00:06:13.569 --> 00:06:17.879 How does a forbidden woman behave? 00:06:17.879 --> 00:06:19.879 Hajj if she menstruates 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:23.389 After the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, calmed down 00:06:23.389 --> 00:06:27.389 From the horror of our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:06:27.389 --> 00:06:29.389 Move to another dimension 00:06:29.389 --> 00:06:32.389 In calming her psychologically 00:06:32.389 --> 00:06:34.389 He explained to her that menstruation was coming 00:06:34.389 --> 00:06:37.389 It does not harm a woman in ihram 00:06:37.389 --> 00:06:40.389 It does not affect her ihram 00:06:40.389 --> 00:06:41.389 And he said 00:06:41.389 --> 00:06:43.389 It won't hurt you 00:06:43.389 --> 00:06:46.389 You are a woman from the daughters of Adam 00:06:46.389 --> 00:06:49.389 God has decreed for you what He has decreed for them 00:06:49.389 --> 00:06:51.389 So stand by your argument 00:06:51.389 --> 00:06:54.389 May God bless you with it 00:06:54.389 --> 00:06:57.519 Then the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, guided her 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:00.519 What do you do in this situation? 00:07:00.519 --> 00:07:01.519 And he said 00:07:01.519 --> 00:07:04.519 So he fulfilled what the pilgrim fulfilled 00:07:04.519 --> 00:07:07.519 However, do not circumambulate the House 00:07:07.519 --> 00:07:09.519 Until you wash yourself 00:07:09.519 --> 00:07:12.550 This indicates the guidance of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:07:12.550 --> 00:07:15.550 To our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:07:15.550 --> 00:07:17.550 That includes menstruation and postpartum 00:07:17.550 --> 00:07:20.550 It does not negate the entire work of Hajj 00:07:20.550 --> 00:07:23.550 Except for what relates to entering the mosque 00:07:23.550 --> 00:07:26.550 From circumambulation and bowing after it 00:07:26.550 --> 00:07:29.649 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 00:07:29.649 --> 00:07:30.649 Luck 00:07:30.649 --> 00:07:33.649 So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, commanded me 00:07:33.649 --> 00:07:36.649 To perform all the rituals 00:07:36.649 --> 00:07:39.649 Except for circumambulating the Kaaba 00:07:39.649 --> 00:07:42.379 Oh dear sisters 00:07:42.379 --> 00:07:45.379 But the forbidden woman was forbidden 00:07:45.379 --> 00:07:47.379 Hajj or Umrah if she menstruates 00:07:47.379 --> 00:07:49.379 From circumambulating the Kaaba 00:07:49.379 --> 00:07:52.379 She was not prevented from remembering and praying 00:07:52.379 --> 00:07:54.379 And reading the Qur’an 00:07:54.379 --> 00:07:57.379 Don't be too restrictive 00:07:57.379 --> 00:08:02.860 Spreading hope in women's psychology 00:08:02.860 --> 00:08:06.459 It is one of the arts of dealing with the wife 00:08:06.459 --> 00:08:08.459 In such embarrassing situations 00:08:08.459 --> 00:08:10.459 And painful for women 00:08:10.459 --> 00:08:13.459 Bring hope into her soul 00:08:13.459 --> 00:08:17.459 This is taken from the action of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:17.459 --> 00:08:20.459 With our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:08:20.459 --> 00:08:22.459 When she menstruated 00:08:22.459 --> 00:08:24.459 When he said to her 00:08:24.459 --> 00:08:26.459 So stand by your argument 00:08:26.459 --> 00:08:29.459 May God bless you with it 00:08:29.459 --> 00:08:32.460 That is, He will bless you for Umrah so you can perform it 00:08:32.460 --> 00:08:35.460 Or he will grant you the reward of Umrah 00:08:35.460 --> 00:08:37.460 Even if you don't perform it 00:08:37.460 --> 00:08:39.460 Because actions are based on intentions 00:08:39.460 --> 00:08:43.460 And you only abstained for a legitimate excuse 00:08:43.460 --> 00:08:46.529 It happened that our mother Aisha performed the umrah 00:08:46.529 --> 00:08:49.620 May God be pleased with her after Hajj 00:08:49.620 --> 00:08:51.620 This is a great method 00:08:51.620 --> 00:08:54.620 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, teaches us about it 00:08:54.620 --> 00:08:57.620 How to deal with the wife 00:08:57.620 --> 00:08:59.620 When her psychology changes 00:08:59.620 --> 00:09:01.620 Especially when traveling 00:09:01.620 --> 00:09:04.620 It combines the hardship of travel 00:09:04.620 --> 00:09:08.620 And the hardship of the event that happened to the woman