WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:10.109 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:00:10.109 --> 00:00:16.829 Oh Aisha, tell me first, the Kind and All-Knowing will tell me 00:00:16.829 --> 00:00:21.710 God created woman 00:00:21.710 --> 00:00:26.350 He showed us the relationship that would exist between her and the man 00:00:26.350 --> 00:00:28.989 And God Almighty said 00:00:28.989 --> 00:00:34.270 It is He who created you from one soul 00:00:34.270 --> 00:00:39.490 He made her her husband to live with her 00:00:39.490 --> 00:00:41.329 He also said 00:00:41.329 --> 00:00:50.289 Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves 00:00:50.289 --> 00:00:55.170 wives, that you may find comfort in them 00:00:55.170 --> 00:01:00.609 And He placed between you affection and mercy 00:01:00.609 --> 00:01:08.450 Indeed, in that are signs for people who reflect 00:01:08.450 --> 00:01:13.010 The verses indicate that the man is the one who is at ease with the woman 00:01:13.010 --> 00:01:14.769 And not the other way around 00:01:14.769 --> 00:01:18.609 Because the man is constantly on the move outside the home 00:01:18.609 --> 00:01:21.010 He goes home to live 00:01:21.010 --> 00:01:23.170 And the woman is his home 00:01:23.250 --> 00:01:26.689 While the woman makes the decisions at home 00:01:26.689 --> 00:01:30.530 It is stable in it and not mobile 00:01:30.530 --> 00:01:35.409 Moving outside the home was an emergency for her 00:01:35.409 --> 00:01:37.650 And he doesn't actually commit 00:01:37.650 --> 00:01:41.090 Moreover, it is a right that you demand 00:01:41.090 --> 00:01:43.890 Therefore, she does not live with a man 00:01:43.890 --> 00:01:47.090 But he is the one who lives in it 00:01:47.090 --> 00:01:52.209 There is no indication in the Qur’an that a woman resides with a man 00:01:52.209 --> 00:01:57.040 But what was reported is that the man is the one who lives in it 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:00.799 And so that the man can live with his wife 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:05.599 He needs to realize a truth that does not change with time 00:02:05.599 --> 00:02:08.159 Nor with the progress of civilization 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:12.800 It is that the nature of women is different from the nature of men 00:02:12.800 --> 00:02:14.240 God Almighty said 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:17.120 The male is not like the female 00:02:17.120 --> 00:02:20.240 If the man misunderstands this fact 00:02:20.319 --> 00:02:23.219 He lived in poverty 00:02:23.219 --> 00:02:25.139 It is the nature of women 00:02:25.139 --> 00:02:29.539 It does not fit a man in one way 00:02:29.539 --> 00:02:32.419 The error is repeatable 00:02:32.419 --> 00:02:35.860 Even if the man taught it over and over again 00:02:35.860 --> 00:02:39.699 That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:02:39.699 --> 00:02:42.419 Woman was created from a rib 00:02:42.419 --> 00:02:45.379 His path will not set you straight 00:02:45.379 --> 00:02:47.219 If you enjoy it 00:02:47.219 --> 00:02:50.020 I enjoyed it and its crookedness 00:02:50.020 --> 00:02:52.979 If you go to straighten it, you will break it 00:02:52.979 --> 00:02:55.379 Her divorce broke her 00:02:55.379 --> 00:02:57.539 Narrated by Muslim 00:02:57.539 --> 00:03:02.740 If a woman does not agree with a man in one way 00:03:02.740 --> 00:03:06.560 What is the best solution to deal with it? 00:03:06.560 --> 00:03:09.599 The perfect solution for dealing with women 00:03:09.599 --> 00:03:13.439 This is what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, guided us to 00:03:13.439 --> 00:03:15.520 By saying and doing 00:03:15.520 --> 00:03:18.879 Whoever wants to treat his wife well 00:03:18.879 --> 00:03:23.039 He must study the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:23.039 --> 00:03:24.479 With his wives 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:27.039 How did he deal with them? 00:03:27.039 --> 00:03:28.879 Examples of this are: 00:03:28.879 --> 00:03:31.840 His saying, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:31.840 --> 00:03:34.639 Woman was created from a rib 00:03:34.639 --> 00:03:38.400 If you want to straighten the rib, you can break it 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:40.800 She lives in her house 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:42.800 Narrated by Ahmed 00:03:42.800 --> 00:03:44.960 He guided, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:44.960 --> 00:03:47.840 To use orbits with women 00:03:47.840 --> 00:03:50.400 To continue living with her 00:03:50.400 --> 00:03:51.759 And managed 00:03:51.759 --> 00:03:56.240 That a man should be kind to his wife until he returns her to the truth 00:03:56.240 --> 00:04:00.060 Or keep her away from falsehood in the best ways 00:04:00.060 --> 00:04:04.699 A practical example is in the life of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:04.699 --> 00:04:06.219 With his wives 00:04:06.219 --> 00:04:08.460 This beautiful story 00:04:08.460 --> 00:04:13.020 Which shows us the beauty of the creation of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:04:13.020 --> 00:04:15.340 In dealing with his wives 00:04:15.340 --> 00:04:17.420 And his orbits are for them 00:04:17.420 --> 00:04:21.500 With repeated mistakes on the part of them regarding jealousy 00:04:21.500 --> 00:04:23.420 On to the story 00:04:23.420 --> 00:04:27.100 On the authority of Muhammad bin Qais bin Makhramah bin Al-Muttalib 00:04:27.100 --> 00:04:29.180 He said one day 00:04:29.180 --> 00:04:32.459 Shall I not tell you about me and my mother? 00:04:32.459 --> 00:04:33.579 He said 00:04:33.579 --> 00:04:37.339 We thought he wanted his mother who gave birth 00:04:37.339 --> 00:04:38.459 He said 00:04:38.459 --> 00:04:40.300 Aisha said 00:04:40.300 --> 00:04:45.660 Shall I not tell you about me and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace? 00:04:45.660 --> 00:04:47.259 We said yes 00:04:47.259 --> 00:04:48.379 He said 00:04:48.379 --> 00:04:49.660 She said 00:04:49.660 --> 00:04:55.980 When it was the night that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was with me 00:04:55.980 --> 00:04:59.819 He turned over, put on his robe and took off his shoes 00:04:59.819 --> 00:05:02.139 So he placed them at his feet 00:05:02.139 --> 00:05:05.420 He spread the edge of his garment on his bed 00:05:05.420 --> 00:05:06.939 So he lay down 00:05:06.939 --> 00:05:11.180 It was only a heir who thought that he had lost his temper 00:05:11.180 --> 00:05:13.500 So he took his robe slowly 00:05:13.500 --> 00:05:15.339 And take your shoes slowly 00:05:15.420 --> 00:05:17.819 He opened the door and went out 00:05:17.819 --> 00:05:20.300 Then he dried it slowly 00:05:20.300 --> 00:05:23.420 So I put my shield on my head and got ready 00:05:23.420 --> 00:05:25.500 Izari was convinced 00:05:25.500 --> 00:05:27.819 Then I set off after him 00:05:27.819 --> 00:05:30.459 Until Al-Baqi'a came and stood up 00:05:30.459 --> 00:05:32.540 So he stayed up for a long time 00:05:32.540 --> 00:05:35.339 Then he raised his hands three times 00:05:35.339 --> 00:05:36.540 Then he swerved 00:05:36.540 --> 00:05:37.819 So I deviated 00:05:37.819 --> 00:05:38.779 So hurry up 00:05:38.779 --> 00:05:40.060 So I hurried 00:05:40.060 --> 00:05:41.019 So he jogged 00:05:41.019 --> 00:05:42.379 So I ran 00:05:42.379 --> 00:05:43.259 So bring it 00:05:43.259 --> 00:05:44.540 So I brought 00:05:44.540 --> 00:05:46.939 So I got ahead of him and entered 00:05:46.939 --> 00:05:49.180 It was only when I fell asleep 00:05:49.180 --> 00:05:50.459 So he entered 00:05:50.459 --> 00:05:51.660 And he said 00:05:51.660 --> 00:05:53.740 What's wrong with you, Aisha? 00:05:53.740 --> 00:05:55.740 Hash, Rabia 00:05:55.740 --> 00:05:56.779 She said 00:05:56.779 --> 00:05:58.459 I said nothing 00:05:58.459 --> 00:05:59.459 He said 00:05:59.459 --> 00:06:00.939 To tell me 00:06:00.939 --> 00:06:04.139 Or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me 00:06:04.139 --> 00:06:05.259 She said 00:06:05.259 --> 00:06:07.180 I said, O Messenger of God 00:06:07.180 --> 00:06:09.259 May my father and mother be sacrificed for you 00:06:09.259 --> 00:06:10.699 So I told him 00:06:10.699 --> 00:06:11.740 He said 00:06:11.740 --> 00:06:14.939 You are the blackness that I saw before me 00:06:14.939 --> 00:06:16.540 I said yes 00:06:16.540 --> 00:06:20.139 So let me feel pain in my chest or make me feel hungry 00:06:20.139 --> 00:06:21.740 Then he said 00:06:21.740 --> 00:06:25.500 Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you? 00:06:25.500 --> 00:06:26.699 She said 00:06:26.699 --> 00:06:29.819 Whatever people conceal, God knows 00:06:29.819 --> 00:06:31.019 Yes 00:06:31.019 --> 00:06:32.139 He said 00:06:32.139 --> 00:06:35.339 Gabriel came to me when I saw him 00:06:35.339 --> 00:06:38.220 So he called me and hid it from you 00:06:38.220 --> 00:06:41.180 I answered him and hid it from you 00:06:41.259 --> 00:06:45.100 He did not enter you while you had put on your clothes 00:06:45.100 --> 00:06:47.500 And I thought I had fallen asleep 00:06:47.500 --> 00:06:49.660 I hated to wake you up 00:06:49.660 --> 00:06:52.139 I was afraid that she would feel lonely 00:06:52.139 --> 00:06:53.420 And he said 00:06:53.420 --> 00:06:58.620 Your Lord commands you to go to the people of Al-Baqi' and ask forgiveness for them 00:06:58.620 --> 00:06:59.819 She said 00:06:59.819 --> 00:07:00.779 I said 00:07:00.779 --> 00:07:03.819 How do I tell them, O Messenger of God? 00:07:03.819 --> 00:07:04.860 He said 00:07:04.860 --> 00:07:06.060 Say 00:07:06.060 --> 00:07:10.779 Peace be upon the people of the land, whether believers or Muslims 00:07:10.779 --> 00:07:15.180 May God have mercy on those of us who come forward and those who remain behind 00:07:15.180 --> 00:07:19.100 And we, God willing, will follow you 00:07:19.100 --> 00:07:21.019 Narrated by Muslim 00:07:21.019 --> 00:07:24.379 There are several pauses in this story 00:07:24.379 --> 00:07:25.660 The first 00:07:25.660 --> 00:07:30.779 This is one of the stories of Aisha’s jealousy, may God be pleased with her 00:07:30.779 --> 00:07:36.300 We note that it is similar to the story we mentioned in the previous article 00:07:36.300 --> 00:07:39.420 Where she loses him at night in her bed 00:07:39.420 --> 00:07:41.100 So you search for him 00:07:41.100 --> 00:07:45.500 It is thought that he went to one of his wives 00:07:45.500 --> 00:07:48.220 Then you discover otherwise 00:07:48.220 --> 00:07:53.420 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, repeated the same guidance 00:07:53.420 --> 00:07:57.339 He did not tell her that we had already taught you 00:07:57.339 --> 00:08:00.139 Why do you repeat the mistake? 00:08:00.139 --> 00:08:02.779 Because, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:02.779 --> 00:08:07.980 He knows that a woman does not follow a man in one way 00:08:08.060 --> 00:08:11.569 She must repeat the mistake 00:08:11.569 --> 00:08:17.170 This is a lesson for all men in the way they deal with their wives 00:08:17.170 --> 00:08:20.740 Especially when we repeat the mistake 00:08:20.740 --> 00:08:22.259 Second 00:08:22.259 --> 00:08:28.500 The morals of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, with his wives are evident in this story 00:08:28.500 --> 00:08:31.220 And his concern for his comfort 00:08:31.220 --> 00:08:36.019 He left very quietly so that Aisha would not wake up 00:08:36.019 --> 00:08:39.620 Don't feel lonely if you sit alone at night 00:08:39.620 --> 00:08:44.899 This is from his noble morals and mercy, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:44.899 --> 00:08:50.460 This is another lesson for men to consider their husbands' comfort 00:08:50.460 --> 00:08:51.980 Third 00:08:51.980 --> 00:08:55.580 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, is jealous 00:08:55.580 --> 00:08:59.500 It made her not pay attention to these great meanings 00:08:59.500 --> 00:09:03.580 Which the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, adorned 00:09:03.580 --> 00:09:08.700 Rather, jealousy made her unable to bear the actions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:09:08.700 --> 00:09:11.019 On the best bearings 00:09:11.019 --> 00:09:14.379 But I carried her on the worst bearings 00:09:14.379 --> 00:09:19.980 She thought he was going to one of his wives that night 00:09:19.980 --> 00:09:23.500 This is a kind of injustice to the wife if he did it 00:09:23.500 --> 00:09:27.740 That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 00:09:27.740 --> 00:09:31.419 Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you? 00:09:31.500 --> 00:09:34.779 That is, for God and His Messenger to wrong you 00:09:34.779 --> 00:09:40.700 Aisha admitted to him that this was the thought that came to her mind 00:09:40.700 --> 00:09:42.059 And she said 00:09:42.059 --> 00:09:45.100 Whatever people conceal, God knows 00:09:45.100 --> 00:09:46.460 Yes 00:09:46.460 --> 00:09:51.500 Jealousy does not justify the wife to think badly of the husband 00:09:51.500 --> 00:09:56.929 Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, denounced her suspicion 00:09:56.929 --> 00:09:58.450 Fourth 00:09:58.450 --> 00:10:01.169 That Aisha, may God be pleased with her 00:10:01.169 --> 00:10:07.809 I realized that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was heading to Al-Baqi’ to pray for the dead 00:10:07.809 --> 00:10:12.529 However, she continued to watch him and did not return home 00:10:12.529 --> 00:10:14.929 She was not reassured by his exit 00:10:14.929 --> 00:10:20.289 Although the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stopped and prayed for a long time 00:10:20.289 --> 00:10:22.769 And all this is because of jealousy 00:10:22.769 --> 00:10:27.620 Which robs her of the correct thinking in dealing with the event 00:10:27.620 --> 00:10:29.220 Fifth 00:10:29.220 --> 00:10:34.820 What a woman conceals of her bad opinion of her husband may be hidden from him 00:10:34.820 --> 00:10:37.700 But it is not hidden from God 00:10:37.700 --> 00:10:45.539 Therefore, women must feel this truth that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 00:10:45.539 --> 00:10:49.019 Whatever people conceal, God knows 00:10:49.019 --> 00:10:50.690 Six 00:10:50.690 --> 00:10:53.970 That the wrong action of the husband or wife 00:10:53.970 --> 00:10:57.330 He may show signs of it 00:10:57.409 --> 00:11:02.370 And what happened to Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was her self-disgrace 00:11:02.370 --> 00:11:05.809 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 00:11:05.809 --> 00:11:09.730 What's wrong with you, Aisha, Rabia? 00:11:09.730 --> 00:11:12.370 She said I said nothing 00:11:12.370 --> 00:11:17.809 He said to tell me or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me 00:11:17.809 --> 00:11:21.250 Aisha was out of breath 00:11:21.250 --> 00:11:25.649 Her stomach rises and falls from her rapid breathing 00:11:25.649 --> 00:11:28.210 Because she was running fast 00:11:28.210 --> 00:11:33.009 To reach home before the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:11:33.009 --> 00:11:36.370 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, left it 00:11:36.370 --> 00:11:39.330 He thinks she is asleep 00:11:39.330 --> 00:11:41.889 It is necessary in such a case 00:11:41.889 --> 00:11:44.879 To be at the peak of tranquility 00:11:44.879 --> 00:11:49.200 This sign was a reason to expose her jealousy 00:11:49.200 --> 00:11:55.100 And what resulted from her persecution of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:11:55.100 --> 00:11:57.500 O Muslim woman! 00:11:57.500 --> 00:12:00.220 You are exposed to the consequences of your jealousy 00:12:00.220 --> 00:12:03.500 Not regulated by legal controls 00:12:03.500 --> 00:12:05.820 It may bring you disaster 00:12:05.820 --> 00:12:10.429 With bad thoughts and shameful actions 00:12:10.429 --> 00:12:13.870 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:12:13.870 --> 00:12:19.860 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 00:12:19.860 --> 00:12:23.379 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her