Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her
Oh Aisha, tell me first, the Kind and All-Knowing will tell me
God created woman
He showed us the relationship that would exist between her and the man
And God Almighty said
It is He who created you from one soul
He made her her husband to live with her
He also said
Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves
wives, that you may find comfort in them
And He placed between you affection and mercy
Indeed, in that are signs for people who reflect
The verses indicate that the man is the one who is at ease with the woman
And not the other way around
Because the man is constantly on the move outside the home
He goes home to live
And the woman is his home
While the woman makes the decisions at home
It is stable in it and not mobile
Moving outside the home was an emergency for her
And he doesn't actually commit
Moreover, it is a right that you demand
Therefore, she does not live with a man
But he is the one who lives in it
There is no indication in the Qur’an that a woman resides with a man
But what was reported is that the man is the one who lives in it
And so that the man can live with his wife
He needs to realize a truth that does not change with time
Nor with the progress of civilization
It is that the nature of women is different from the nature of men
God Almighty said
The male is not like the female
If the man misunderstands this fact
He lived in poverty
It is the nature of women
It does not fit a man in one way
The error is repeatable
Even if the man taught it over and over again
That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Woman was created from a rib
His path will not set you straight
If you enjoy it
I enjoyed it and its crookedness
If you go to straighten it, you will break it
Her divorce broke her
Narrated by Muslim
If a woman does not agree with a man in one way
What is the best solution to deal with it?
The perfect solution for dealing with women
This is what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, guided us to
By saying and doing
Whoever wants to treat his wife well
He must study the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
With his wives
How did he deal with them?
Examples of this are:
His saying, may God bless him and grant him peace
Woman was created from a rib
If you want to straighten the rib, you can break it
She lives in her house
Narrated by Ahmed
He guided, may God bless him and grant him peace
To use orbits with women
To continue living with her
And managed
That a man should be kind to his wife until he returns her to the truth
Or keep her away from falsehood in the best ways
A practical example is in the life of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
With his wives
This beautiful story
Which shows us the beauty of the creation of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
In dealing with his wives
And his orbits are for them
With repeated mistakes on the part of them regarding jealousy
On to the story
On the authority of Muhammad bin Qais bin Makhramah bin Al-Muttalib
He said one day
Shall I not tell you about me and my mother?
He said
We thought he wanted his mother who gave birth
He said
Aisha said
Shall I not tell you about me and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace?
We said yes
He said
She said
When it was the night that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was with me
He turned over, put on his robe and took off his shoes
So he placed them at his feet
He spread the edge of his garment on his bed
So he lay down
It was only a heir who thought that he had lost his temper
So he took his robe slowly
And take your shoes slowly
He opened the door and went out
Then he dried it slowly
So I put my shield on my head and got ready
Izari was convinced
Then I set off after him
Until Al-Baqi'a came and stood up
So he stayed up for a long time
Then he raised his hands three times
Then he swerved
So I deviated
So hurry up
So I hurried
So he jogged
So I ran
So bring it
So I brought
So I got ahead of him and entered
It was only when I fell asleep
So he entered
And he said
What's wrong with you, Aisha?
Hash, Rabia
She said
I said nothing
He said
To tell me
Or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me
She said
I said, O Messenger of God
May my father and mother be sacrificed for you
So I told him
He said
You are the blackness that I saw before me
I said yes
So let me feel pain in my chest or make me feel hungry
Then he said
Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you?
She said
Whatever people conceal, God knows
Yes
He said
Gabriel came to me when I saw him
So he called me and hid it from you
I answered him and hid it from you
He did not enter you while you had put on your clothes
And I thought I had fallen asleep
I hated to wake you up
I was afraid that she would feel lonely
And he said
Your Lord commands you to go to the people of Al-Baqi' and ask forgiveness for them
She said
I said
How do I tell them, O Messenger of God?
He said
Say
Peace be upon the people of the land, whether believers or Muslims
May God have mercy on those of us who come forward and those who remain behind
And we, God willing, will follow you
Narrated by Muslim
There are several pauses in this story
The first
This is one of the stories of Aisha’s jealousy, may God be pleased with her
We note that it is similar to the story we mentioned in the previous article
Where she loses him at night in her bed
So you search for him
It is thought that he went to one of his wives
Then you discover otherwise
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, repeated the same guidance
He did not tell her that we had already taught you
Why do you repeat the mistake?
Because, may God bless him and grant him peace
He knows that a woman does not follow a man in one way
She must repeat the mistake
This is a lesson for all men in the way they deal with their wives
Especially when we repeat the mistake
Second
The morals of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, with his wives are evident in this story
And his concern for his comfort
He left very quietly so that Aisha would not wake up
Don't feel lonely if you sit alone at night
This is from his noble morals and mercy, may God bless him and grant him peace
This is another lesson for men to consider their husbands' comfort
Third
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, is jealous
It made her not pay attention to these great meanings
Which the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, adorned
Rather, jealousy made her unable to bear the actions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
On the best bearings
But I carried her on the worst bearings
She thought he was going to one of his wives that night
This is a kind of injustice to the wife if he did it
That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her
Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you?
That is, for God and His Messenger to wrong you
Aisha admitted to him that this was the thought that came to her mind
And she said
Whatever people conceal, God knows
Yes
Jealousy does not justify the wife to think badly of the husband
Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, denounced her suspicion
Fourth
That Aisha, may God be pleased with her
I realized that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was heading to Al-Baqi’ to pray for the dead
However, she continued to watch him and did not return home
She was not reassured by his exit
Although the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stopped and prayed for a long time
And all this is because of jealousy
Which robs her of the correct thinking in dealing with the event
Fifth
What a woman conceals of her bad opinion of her husband may be hidden from him
But it is not hidden from God
Therefore, women must feel this truth that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said
Whatever people conceal, God knows
Six
That the wrong action of the husband or wife
He may show signs of it
And what happened to Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was her self-disgrace
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her
What's wrong with you, Aisha, Rabia?
She said I said nothing
He said to tell me or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me
Aisha was out of breath
Her stomach rises and falls from her rapid breathing
Because she was running fast
To reach home before the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, left it
He thinks she is asleep
It is necessary in such a case
To be at the peak of tranquility
This sign was a reason to expose her jealousy
And what resulted from her persecution of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
O Muslim woman!
You are exposed to the consequences of your jealousy
Not regulated by legal controls
It may bring you disaster
With bad thoughts and shameful actions
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds
Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her