1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:10,109 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 2 00:00:10,109 --> 00:00:16,829 Oh Aisha, tell me first, the Kind and All-Knowing will tell me 3 00:00:16,829 --> 00:00:21,710 God created woman 4 00:00:21,710 --> 00:00:26,350 He showed us the relationship that would exist between her and the man 5 00:00:26,350 --> 00:00:28,989 And God Almighty said 6 00:00:28,989 --> 00:00:34,270 It is He who created you from one soul 7 00:00:34,270 --> 00:00:39,490 He made her her husband to live with her 8 00:00:39,490 --> 00:00:41,329 He also said 9 00:00:41,329 --> 00:00:50,289 Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves 10 00:00:50,289 --> 00:00:55,170 wives, that you may find comfort in them 11 00:00:55,170 --> 00:01:00,609 And He placed between you affection and mercy 12 00:01:00,609 --> 00:01:08,450 Indeed, in that are signs for people who reflect 13 00:01:08,450 --> 00:01:13,010 The verses indicate that the man is the one who is at ease with the woman 14 00:01:13,010 --> 00:01:14,769 And not the other way around 15 00:01:14,769 --> 00:01:18,609 Because the man is constantly on the move outside the home 16 00:01:18,609 --> 00:01:21,010 He goes home to live 17 00:01:21,010 --> 00:01:23,170 And the woman is his home 18 00:01:23,250 --> 00:01:26,689 While the woman makes the decisions at home 19 00:01:26,689 --> 00:01:30,530 It is stable in it and not mobile 20 00:01:30,530 --> 00:01:35,409 Moving outside the home was an emergency for her 21 00:01:35,409 --> 00:01:37,650 And he doesn't actually commit 22 00:01:37,650 --> 00:01:41,090 Moreover, it is a right that you demand 23 00:01:41,090 --> 00:01:43,890 Therefore, she does not live with a man 24 00:01:43,890 --> 00:01:47,090 But he is the one who lives in it 25 00:01:47,090 --> 00:01:52,209 There is no indication in the Qur’an that a woman resides with a man 26 00:01:52,209 --> 00:01:57,040 But what was reported is that the man is the one who lives in it 27 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,799 And so that the man can live with his wife 28 00:02:00,799 --> 00:02:05,599 He needs to realize a truth that does not change with time 29 00:02:05,599 --> 00:02:08,159 Nor with the progress of civilization 30 00:02:08,159 --> 00:02:12,800 It is that the nature of women is different from the nature of men 31 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:14,240 God Almighty said 32 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,120 The male is not like the female 33 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,240 If the man misunderstands this fact 34 00:02:20,319 --> 00:02:23,219 He lived in poverty 35 00:02:23,219 --> 00:02:25,139 It is the nature of women 36 00:02:25,139 --> 00:02:29,539 It does not fit a man in one way 37 00:02:29,539 --> 00:02:32,419 The error is repeatable 38 00:02:32,419 --> 00:02:35,860 Even if the man taught it over and over again 39 00:02:35,860 --> 00:02:39,699 That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 40 00:02:39,699 --> 00:02:42,419 Woman was created from a rib 41 00:02:42,419 --> 00:02:45,379 His path will not set you straight 42 00:02:45,379 --> 00:02:47,219 If you enjoy it 43 00:02:47,219 --> 00:02:50,020 I enjoyed it and its crookedness 44 00:02:50,020 --> 00:02:52,979 If you go to straighten it, you will break it 45 00:02:52,979 --> 00:02:55,379 Her divorce broke her 46 00:02:55,379 --> 00:02:57,539 Narrated by Muslim 47 00:02:57,539 --> 00:03:02,740 If a woman does not agree with a man in one way 48 00:03:02,740 --> 00:03:06,560 What is the best solution to deal with it? 49 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,599 The perfect solution for dealing with women 50 00:03:09,599 --> 00:03:13,439 This is what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, guided us to 51 00:03:13,439 --> 00:03:15,520 By saying and doing 52 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,879 Whoever wants to treat his wife well 53 00:03:18,879 --> 00:03:23,039 He must study the biography of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 54 00:03:23,039 --> 00:03:24,479 With his wives 55 00:03:24,479 --> 00:03:27,039 How did he deal with them? 56 00:03:27,039 --> 00:03:28,879 Examples of this are: 57 00:03:28,879 --> 00:03:31,840 His saying, may God bless him and grant him peace 58 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,639 Woman was created from a rib 59 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,400 If you want to straighten the rib, you can break it 60 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:40,800 She lives in her house 61 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:42,800 Narrated by Ahmed 62 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:44,960 He guided, may God bless him and grant him peace 63 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:47,840 To use orbits with women 64 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,400 To continue living with her 65 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:51,759 And managed 66 00:03:51,759 --> 00:03:56,240 That a man should be kind to his wife until he returns her to the truth 67 00:03:56,240 --> 00:04:00,060 Or keep her away from falsehood in the best ways 68 00:04:00,060 --> 00:04:04,699 A practical example is in the life of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 69 00:04:04,699 --> 00:04:06,219 With his wives 70 00:04:06,219 --> 00:04:08,460 This beautiful story 71 00:04:08,460 --> 00:04:13,020 Which shows us the beauty of the creation of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 72 00:04:13,020 --> 00:04:15,340 In dealing with his wives 73 00:04:15,340 --> 00:04:17,420 And his orbits are for them 74 00:04:17,420 --> 00:04:21,500 With repeated mistakes on the part of them regarding jealousy 75 00:04:21,500 --> 00:04:23,420 On to the story 76 00:04:23,420 --> 00:04:27,100 On the authority of Muhammad bin Qais bin Makhramah bin Al-Muttalib 77 00:04:27,100 --> 00:04:29,180 He said one day 78 00:04:29,180 --> 00:04:32,459 Shall I not tell you about me and my mother? 79 00:04:32,459 --> 00:04:33,579 He said 80 00:04:33,579 --> 00:04:37,339 We thought he wanted his mother who gave birth 81 00:04:37,339 --> 00:04:38,459 He said 82 00:04:38,459 --> 00:04:40,300 Aisha said 83 00:04:40,300 --> 00:04:45,660 Shall I not tell you about me and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace? 84 00:04:45,660 --> 00:04:47,259 We said yes 85 00:04:47,259 --> 00:04:48,379 He said 86 00:04:48,379 --> 00:04:49,660 She said 87 00:04:49,660 --> 00:04:55,980 When it was the night that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was with me 88 00:04:55,980 --> 00:04:59,819 He turned over, put on his robe and took off his shoes 89 00:04:59,819 --> 00:05:02,139 So he placed them at his feet 90 00:05:02,139 --> 00:05:05,420 He spread the edge of his garment on his bed 91 00:05:05,420 --> 00:05:06,939 So he lay down 92 00:05:06,939 --> 00:05:11,180 It was only a heir who thought that he had lost his temper 93 00:05:11,180 --> 00:05:13,500 So he took his robe slowly 94 00:05:13,500 --> 00:05:15,339 And take your shoes slowly 95 00:05:15,420 --> 00:05:17,819 He opened the door and went out 96 00:05:17,819 --> 00:05:20,300 Then he dried it slowly 97 00:05:20,300 --> 00:05:23,420 So I put my shield on my head and got ready 98 00:05:23,420 --> 00:05:25,500 Izari was convinced 99 00:05:25,500 --> 00:05:27,819 Then I set off after him 100 00:05:27,819 --> 00:05:30,459 Until Al-Baqi'a came and stood up 101 00:05:30,459 --> 00:05:32,540 So he stayed up for a long time 102 00:05:32,540 --> 00:05:35,339 Then he raised his hands three times 103 00:05:35,339 --> 00:05:36,540 Then he swerved 104 00:05:36,540 --> 00:05:37,819 So I deviated 105 00:05:37,819 --> 00:05:38,779 So hurry up 106 00:05:38,779 --> 00:05:40,060 So I hurried 107 00:05:40,060 --> 00:05:41,019 So he jogged 108 00:05:41,019 --> 00:05:42,379 So I ran 109 00:05:42,379 --> 00:05:43,259 So bring it 110 00:05:43,259 --> 00:05:44,540 So I brought 111 00:05:44,540 --> 00:05:46,939 So I got ahead of him and entered 112 00:05:46,939 --> 00:05:49,180 It was only when I fell asleep 113 00:05:49,180 --> 00:05:50,459 So he entered 114 00:05:50,459 --> 00:05:51,660 And he said 115 00:05:51,660 --> 00:05:53,740 What's wrong with you, Aisha? 116 00:05:53,740 --> 00:05:55,740 Hash, Rabia 117 00:05:55,740 --> 00:05:56,779 She said 118 00:05:56,779 --> 00:05:58,459 I said nothing 119 00:05:58,459 --> 00:05:59,459 He said 120 00:05:59,459 --> 00:06:00,939 To tell me 121 00:06:00,939 --> 00:06:04,139 Or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me 122 00:06:04,139 --> 00:06:05,259 She said 123 00:06:05,259 --> 00:06:07,180 I said, O Messenger of God 124 00:06:07,180 --> 00:06:09,259 May my father and mother be sacrificed for you 125 00:06:09,259 --> 00:06:10,699 So I told him 126 00:06:10,699 --> 00:06:11,740 He said 127 00:06:11,740 --> 00:06:14,939 You are the blackness that I saw before me 128 00:06:14,939 --> 00:06:16,540 I said yes 129 00:06:16,540 --> 00:06:20,139 So let me feel pain in my chest or make me feel hungry 130 00:06:20,139 --> 00:06:21,740 Then he said 131 00:06:21,740 --> 00:06:25,500 Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you? 132 00:06:25,500 --> 00:06:26,699 She said 133 00:06:26,699 --> 00:06:29,819 Whatever people conceal, God knows 134 00:06:29,819 --> 00:06:31,019 Yes 135 00:06:31,019 --> 00:06:32,139 He said 136 00:06:32,139 --> 00:06:35,339 Gabriel came to me when I saw him 137 00:06:35,339 --> 00:06:38,220 So he called me and hid it from you 138 00:06:38,220 --> 00:06:41,180 I answered him and hid it from you 139 00:06:41,259 --> 00:06:45,100 He did not enter you while you had put on your clothes 140 00:06:45,100 --> 00:06:47,500 And I thought I had fallen asleep 141 00:06:47,500 --> 00:06:49,660 I hated to wake you up 142 00:06:49,660 --> 00:06:52,139 I was afraid that she would feel lonely 143 00:06:52,139 --> 00:06:53,420 And he said 144 00:06:53,420 --> 00:06:58,620 Your Lord commands you to go to the people of Al-Baqi' and ask forgiveness for them 145 00:06:58,620 --> 00:06:59,819 She said 146 00:06:59,819 --> 00:07:00,779 I said 147 00:07:00,779 --> 00:07:03,819 How do I tell them, O Messenger of God? 148 00:07:03,819 --> 00:07:04,860 He said 149 00:07:04,860 --> 00:07:06,060 Say 150 00:07:06,060 --> 00:07:10,779 Peace be upon the people of the land, whether believers or Muslims 151 00:07:10,779 --> 00:07:15,180 May God have mercy on those of us who come forward and those who remain behind 152 00:07:15,180 --> 00:07:19,100 And we, God willing, will follow you 153 00:07:19,100 --> 00:07:21,019 Narrated by Muslim 154 00:07:21,019 --> 00:07:24,379 There are several pauses in this story 155 00:07:24,379 --> 00:07:25,660 The first 156 00:07:25,660 --> 00:07:30,779 This is one of the stories of Aisha’s jealousy, may God be pleased with her 157 00:07:30,779 --> 00:07:36,300 We note that it is similar to the story we mentioned in the previous article 158 00:07:36,300 --> 00:07:39,420 Where she loses him at night in her bed 159 00:07:39,420 --> 00:07:41,100 So you search for him 160 00:07:41,100 --> 00:07:45,500 It is thought that he went to one of his wives 161 00:07:45,500 --> 00:07:48,220 Then you discover otherwise 162 00:07:48,220 --> 00:07:53,420 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, repeated the same guidance 163 00:07:53,420 --> 00:07:57,339 He did not tell her that we had already taught you 164 00:07:57,339 --> 00:08:00,139 Why do you repeat the mistake? 165 00:08:00,139 --> 00:08:02,779 Because, may God bless him and grant him peace 166 00:08:02,779 --> 00:08:07,980 He knows that a woman does not follow a man in one way 167 00:08:08,060 --> 00:08:11,569 She must repeat the mistake 168 00:08:11,569 --> 00:08:17,170 This is a lesson for all men in the way they deal with their wives 169 00:08:17,170 --> 00:08:20,740 Especially when we repeat the mistake 170 00:08:20,740 --> 00:08:22,259 Second 171 00:08:22,259 --> 00:08:28,500 The morals of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, with his wives are evident in this story 172 00:08:28,500 --> 00:08:31,220 And his concern for his comfort 173 00:08:31,220 --> 00:08:36,019 He left very quietly so that Aisha would not wake up 174 00:08:36,019 --> 00:08:39,620 Don't feel lonely if you sit alone at night 175 00:08:39,620 --> 00:08:44,899 This is from his noble morals and mercy, may God bless him and grant him peace 176 00:08:44,899 --> 00:08:50,460 This is another lesson for men to consider their husbands' comfort 177 00:08:50,460 --> 00:08:51,980 Third 178 00:08:51,980 --> 00:08:55,580 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, is jealous 179 00:08:55,580 --> 00:08:59,500 It made her not pay attention to these great meanings 180 00:08:59,500 --> 00:09:03,580 Which the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, adorned 181 00:09:03,580 --> 00:09:08,700 Rather, jealousy made her unable to bear the actions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 182 00:09:08,700 --> 00:09:11,019 On the best bearings 183 00:09:11,019 --> 00:09:14,379 But I carried her on the worst bearings 184 00:09:14,379 --> 00:09:19,980 She thought he was going to one of his wives that night 185 00:09:19,980 --> 00:09:23,500 This is a kind of injustice to the wife if he did it 186 00:09:23,500 --> 00:09:27,740 That is why the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 187 00:09:27,740 --> 00:09:31,419 Did you think that God and His Messenger would be unfair to you? 188 00:09:31,500 --> 00:09:34,779 That is, for God and His Messenger to wrong you 189 00:09:34,779 --> 00:09:40,700 Aisha admitted to him that this was the thought that came to her mind 190 00:09:40,700 --> 00:09:42,059 And she said 191 00:09:42,059 --> 00:09:45,100 Whatever people conceal, God knows 192 00:09:45,100 --> 00:09:46,460 Yes 193 00:09:46,460 --> 00:09:51,500 Jealousy does not justify the wife to think badly of the husband 194 00:09:51,500 --> 00:09:56,929 Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, denounced her suspicion 195 00:09:56,929 --> 00:09:58,450 Fourth 196 00:09:58,450 --> 00:10:01,169 That Aisha, may God be pleased with her 197 00:10:01,169 --> 00:10:07,809 I realized that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was heading to Al-Baqi’ to pray for the dead 198 00:10:07,809 --> 00:10:12,529 However, she continued to watch him and did not return home 199 00:10:12,529 --> 00:10:14,929 She was not reassured by his exit 200 00:10:14,929 --> 00:10:20,289 Although the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stopped and prayed for a long time 201 00:10:20,289 --> 00:10:22,769 And all this is because of jealousy 202 00:10:22,769 --> 00:10:27,620 Which robs her of the correct thinking in dealing with the event 203 00:10:27,620 --> 00:10:29,220 Fifth 204 00:10:29,220 --> 00:10:34,820 What a woman conceals of her bad opinion of her husband may be hidden from him 205 00:10:34,820 --> 00:10:37,700 But it is not hidden from God 206 00:10:37,700 --> 00:10:45,539 Therefore, women must feel this truth that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 207 00:10:45,539 --> 00:10:49,019 Whatever people conceal, God knows 208 00:10:49,019 --> 00:10:50,690 Six 209 00:10:50,690 --> 00:10:53,970 That the wrong action of the husband or wife 210 00:10:53,970 --> 00:10:57,330 He may show signs of it 211 00:10:57,409 --> 00:11:02,370 And what happened to Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was her self-disgrace 212 00:11:02,370 --> 00:11:05,809 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her 213 00:11:05,809 --> 00:11:09,730 What's wrong with you, Aisha, Rabia? 214 00:11:09,730 --> 00:11:12,370 She said I said nothing 215 00:11:12,370 --> 00:11:17,809 He said to tell me or let the kind and knowledgeable one tell me 216 00:11:17,809 --> 00:11:21,250 Aisha was out of breath 217 00:11:21,250 --> 00:11:25,649 Her stomach rises and falls from her rapid breathing 218 00:11:25,649 --> 00:11:28,210 Because she was running fast 219 00:11:28,210 --> 00:11:33,009 To reach home before the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 220 00:11:33,009 --> 00:11:36,370 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, left it 221 00:11:36,370 --> 00:11:39,330 He thinks she is asleep 222 00:11:39,330 --> 00:11:41,889 It is necessary in such a case 223 00:11:41,889 --> 00:11:44,879 To be at the peak of tranquility 224 00:11:44,879 --> 00:11:49,200 This sign was a reason to expose her jealousy 225 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:55,100 And what resulted from her persecution of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 226 00:11:55,100 --> 00:11:57,500 O Muslim woman! 227 00:11:57,500 --> 00:12:00,220 You are exposed to the consequences of your jealousy 228 00:12:00,220 --> 00:12:03,500 Not regulated by legal controls 229 00:12:03,500 --> 00:12:05,820 It may bring you disaster 230 00:12:05,820 --> 00:12:10,429 With bad thoughts and shameful actions 231 00:12:10,429 --> 00:12:13,870 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 232 00:12:13,870 --> 00:12:19,860 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 233 00:12:19,860 --> 00:12:23,379 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her