WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.299 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.299 --> 00:00:08.210 Men's items 00:00:08.210 --> 00:00:13.199 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:13.199 --> 00:00:23.780 My husband is every creditor to this 00:00:23.780 --> 00:00:28.179 The seventh woman to speak at the Women's Council 00:00:28.179 --> 00:00:30.879 She described her husband by saying: 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:34.380 My husband is jealous or weak 00:00:34.380 --> 00:00:35.979 Apply 00:00:36.179 --> 00:00:38.780 Every creditor to this 00:00:38.780 --> 00:00:43.140 Shajak, Falak, or plural of both for you 00:00:43.140 --> 00:00:45.240 That can be said about it 00:00:45.240 --> 00:00:47.240 She's poor 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:50.840 She collected all the descriptions of slander against her husband 00:00:50.840 --> 00:00:56.439 There is no good left for him that women can benefit from 00:00:56.439 --> 00:00:58.340 He is an ignorant fool 00:00:58.340 --> 00:00:59.840 Bad ten 00:00:59.840 --> 00:01:02.140 Incapable of intercourse 00:01:02.140 --> 00:01:05.140 He hits the woman severely and violently 00:01:05.140 --> 00:01:09.299 He even collected all people's faults in him 00:01:09.299 --> 00:01:12.200 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:13.900 She called him stupid 00:01:13.900 --> 00:01:17.500 And the finitude of all shortcomings and defects 00:01:17.500 --> 00:01:19.799 Bad treatment with family 00:01:19.799 --> 00:01:22.299 And his inability to meet her needs 00:01:22.299 --> 00:01:25.299 He hit her and hurt her 00:01:25.299 --> 00:01:28.400 And if she spoke to him, he would curse her 00:01:28.400 --> 00:01:31.099 And if she jokes with him, he makes her angry 00:01:31.099 --> 00:01:32.500 And if he gets angry 00:01:32.500 --> 00:01:34.799 Either he stabbed her in the head 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:37.799 Or break one of its members 00:01:37.799 --> 00:01:40.000 It means astronomy 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:42.400 And it was said to the defeated 00:01:42.400 --> 00:01:43.689 Phil 00:01:43.689 --> 00:01:46.489 Or cut her skin or stab her 00:01:46.489 --> 00:01:48.989 It is the meaning of Shajak 00:01:48.989 --> 00:01:51.689 Or collect it all for her 00:01:51.689 --> 00:01:54.790 From beatings, wounds, and broken organs 00:01:54.790 --> 00:01:58.290 Or being broken down by quarrels and painful speech 00:01:58.290 --> 00:02:02.019 And he took her money 00:02:02.019 --> 00:02:04.120 This type of men 00:02:04.120 --> 00:02:07.019 You cannot live with him in peace 00:02:07.019 --> 00:02:10.120 It is not possible to imagine that these morals are bad deeds 00:02:10.120 --> 00:02:12.020 In this category 00:02:12.020 --> 00:02:15.319 I found it suddenly after marriage 00:02:15.319 --> 00:02:19.620 But what is expected is that she is in it before marriage 00:02:19.620 --> 00:02:22.219 The question arises 00:02:22.219 --> 00:02:25.219 Why did this woman accept him? 00:02:25.219 --> 00:02:29.639 And whoever makes the mistake of marrying her to him 00:02:29.639 --> 00:02:30.840 Firstly 00:02:30.840 --> 00:02:34.039 This incident occurred in pre-Islamic times 00:02:34.039 --> 00:02:38.139 But unfortunately it is repeated in Islam 00:02:38.139 --> 00:02:40.889 Where did the error come from? 00:02:40.889 --> 00:02:42.090 Secondly 00:02:42.090 --> 00:02:44.289 Given the teachings of Islam 00:02:44.289 --> 00:02:46.289 And his high morals 00:02:46.289 --> 00:02:48.889 We find that he established a precise system 00:02:48.889 --> 00:02:50.789 To prevent such a picture 00:02:50.789 --> 00:02:52.889 To fall into reality 00:02:52.889 --> 00:02:55.550 Why is it repeated? 00:02:55.550 --> 00:02:57.250 Which appears to me 00:02:57.250 --> 00:03:01.150 That's why such a picture is repeated in reality 00:03:01.150 --> 00:03:03.550 It stems from two things 00:03:03.550 --> 00:03:05.849 Their address is the same 00:03:05.849 --> 00:03:08.650 It is a lack of commitment to the teachings of Islam 00:03:08.650 --> 00:03:12.150 And his etiquette in marrying girls 00:03:12.150 --> 00:03:13.750 The first thing 00:03:13.750 --> 00:03:18.349 Parents abdicate responsibility for the girl’s marriage 00:03:18.349 --> 00:03:20.750 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:03:20.750 --> 00:03:23.949 It is forbidden for a woman to marry herself 00:03:23.949 --> 00:03:26.750 He ordered her guardians to marry her 00:03:26.750 --> 00:03:30.949 So that men bear the responsibility of marrying women 00:03:30.949 --> 00:03:33.520 Who is worthy of it 00:03:33.520 --> 00:03:36.819 Many hadiths have been mentioned about this 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:38.020 From her 00:03:38.020 --> 00:03:40.520 On the authority of Abu Musa, may God be pleased with him 00:03:40.520 --> 00:03:44.120 That the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:03:44.120 --> 00:03:47.020 There is no marriage except with a poly 00:03:47.020 --> 00:03:49.319 Narrated by Abu Dawood 00:03:49.319 --> 00:03:52.520 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 00:03:52.520 --> 00:03:56.219 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:03:56.219 --> 00:04:00.319 Any woman who has had intercourse without the permission of her master 00:04:00.319 --> 00:04:02.520 Her marriage is invalid 00:04:02.520 --> 00:04:04.319 Three times 00:04:04.319 --> 00:04:05.919 If he enters it 00:04:05.919 --> 00:04:09.120 The dowry is hers for whatever happened to her 00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:10.719 If he quarrels 00:04:10.719 --> 00:04:14.349 The Sultan is the guardian of those who have no guardian 00:04:14.349 --> 00:04:16.810 Narrated by Abu Dawood 00:04:16.810 --> 00:04:20.110 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said 00:04:20.110 --> 00:04:23.610 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 00:04:23.610 --> 00:04:26.410 A woman does not marry another woman 00:04:26.410 --> 00:04:29.509 The woman does not marry herself 00:04:29.509 --> 00:04:33.810 The adulteress is the one who marries herself 00:04:33.810 --> 00:04:36.129 Narrated by Ibn Majah 00:04:36.129 --> 00:04:37.930 These are the hadiths 00:04:37.930 --> 00:04:41.629 Places the responsibility in marriage on the guardians 00:04:41.629 --> 00:04:44.829 Women are prohibited from marrying themselves 00:04:44.829 --> 00:04:47.529 This is a great ruling 00:04:47.529 --> 00:04:48.629 From her 00:04:48.629 --> 00:04:53.329 Men are better able to know the qualities and morals of a suitor 00:04:53.329 --> 00:04:55.930 And asking about it among men 00:04:55.930 --> 00:04:57.629 Unlike women 00:04:57.730 --> 00:05:00.629 She can't do that 00:05:00.629 --> 00:05:01.829 And from her 00:05:01.829 --> 00:05:05.129 That men rule the mind in matters 00:05:05.129 --> 00:05:06.629 Unlike women 00:05:06.629 --> 00:05:09.230 It governs emotion 00:05:09.230 --> 00:05:11.930 If her heart is attached to a man 00:05:11.930 --> 00:05:16.060 She turned a blind eye to all his bad qualities 00:05:16.060 --> 00:05:22.160 This is the danger of relationships that form between boys and girls before the marriage contract 00:05:22.160 --> 00:05:24.560 The girl is attached to him 00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:27.060 It is difficult for her to stay away from him 00:05:27.060 --> 00:05:30.959 Especially when it comes to young men in their relationships with girls 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:35.060 They show their best qualities to win him over 00:05:35.060 --> 00:05:36.959 If the girl is attached 00:05:36.959 --> 00:05:40.019 I was blinded to the true vision 00:05:40.019 --> 00:05:42.319 Therefore, Islam forbids women 00:05:42.319 --> 00:05:44.920 To mingle with foreign men 00:05:44.920 --> 00:05:47.420 So that such relationships do not occur 00:05:47.420 --> 00:05:49.519 Between boys and girls 00:05:49.519 --> 00:05:52.740 Then life becomes ruined 00:05:52.740 --> 00:05:54.439 The second thing 00:05:54.439 --> 00:05:57.779 Losing the criterion for choosing men 00:05:57.779 --> 00:06:00.680 And the way people look today when choosing a husband 00:06:00.680 --> 00:06:02.480 It differed because of their distance 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:05.379 About adhering to the commands of Sharia 00:06:05.379 --> 00:06:07.579 It became the criterion for choosing men 00:06:07.579 --> 00:06:09.680 Physical standard 00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:12.509 Connected to the world only 00:06:12.509 --> 00:06:14.310 This is completely the opposite 00:06:14.310 --> 00:06:18.009 According to the commandment of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:06:18.009 --> 00:06:19.610 Where he said 00:06:19.610 --> 00:06:21.509 If someone you please comes to you 00:06:21.509 --> 00:06:24.709 If he has good character and religion, then marry him 00:06:24.709 --> 00:06:26.110 Unless you do 00:06:26.110 --> 00:06:30.339 There will be strife on earth and widespread corruption 00:06:30.339 --> 00:06:32.500 Narrated by Ibn Majah 00:06:32.500 --> 00:06:35.000 Al-Mazhari, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:37.399 I mean, if someone asks you 00:06:37.399 --> 00:06:40.100 That you marry him to a woman from your children 00:06:40.100 --> 00:06:41.899 Or your relatives 00:06:41.899 --> 00:06:43.000 So look 00:06:43.000 --> 00:06:45.000 If he is a good Muslim 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:46.399 Good manners 00:06:46.399 --> 00:06:47.899 So they married him 00:06:47.899 --> 00:06:49.800 Because if you didn't get married 00:06:49.800 --> 00:06:51.699 The women of your relatives 00:06:51.699 --> 00:06:55.199 Except for a well-known person with money and prestige 00:06:55.199 --> 00:06:58.500 And other qualities that he tends to 00:06:58.500 --> 00:07:00.300 Children of the world 00:07:00.300 --> 00:07:03.600 Most of your women remain without a husband 00:07:03.600 --> 00:07:07.000 Most men remain without a wife 00:07:07.000 --> 00:07:10.199 Then men tend towards women 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:12.399 And women to men 00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:14.199 Adultery abounds 00:07:14.199 --> 00:07:16.000 The saints are disgraced 00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:19.199 The percentage of adultery with their wives 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:22.199 Perhaps they feel jealousy over their relatives 00:07:22.199 --> 00:07:25.300 Because they heard that adultery was attributed to them 00:07:25.300 --> 00:07:27.000 And they kill them 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:30.399 And they kill those who intend to commit immoral acts 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:33.100 This is all widespread corruption 00:07:33.100 --> 00:07:37.079 And a great temptation 00:07:37.079 --> 00:07:38.180 But 00:07:38.180 --> 00:07:41.680 Why would a woman stay with such an idiot? 00:07:41.680 --> 00:07:44.879 When did you discover these morals? 00:07:44.879 --> 00:07:47.680 There is blame for women as well 00:07:47.680 --> 00:07:50.180 We also blamed the saints 00:07:50.180 --> 00:07:52.680 In her standard for approval of a man 00:07:52.680 --> 00:07:55.379 Applicant to marry her 00:07:55.379 --> 00:07:57.879 Whatever that standard is 00:07:57.879 --> 00:08:01.579 Except that it will not be religion and creation 00:08:01.579 --> 00:08:04.579 If its criteria were religion and morals 00:08:04.579 --> 00:08:07.279 When I found such pictures with us 00:08:07.279 --> 00:08:09.379 In our communities 00:08:09.379 --> 00:08:12.379 Because this is the foolish type of men 00:08:12.379 --> 00:08:14.480 His foolishness must be exposed 00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:16.680 With whom he lives 00:08:16.680 --> 00:08:19.980 If you ask a woman about his religion and morals 00:08:19.980 --> 00:08:22.180 She asked her guardians to confirm 00:08:22.180 --> 00:08:24.180 Who describes him as both 00:08:24.180 --> 00:08:26.639 I would have known his truth 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:29.740 And if the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 00:08:29.740 --> 00:08:32.840 A woman who stays up at night has been disparaged 00:08:32.840 --> 00:08:36.740 But she has a bad attitude towards her neighbors 00:08:36.740 --> 00:08:40.960 So what about someone who behaves like this with his family? 00:08:40.960 --> 00:08:44.460 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said 00:08:44.460 --> 00:08:45.860 A man said 00:08:45.860 --> 00:08:47.559 O Messenger of God 00:08:47.559 --> 00:08:48.860 So-and-so 00:08:48.860 --> 00:08:53.460 He is remembered for her frequent prayers, fasting, and charity 00:08:53.460 --> 00:08:57.559 However, she hurts her neighbors with her tongue 00:08:57.559 --> 00:08:58.559 He said 00:08:58.559 --> 00:09:00.460 She is on fire 00:09:00.460 --> 00:09:01.360 He said 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:02.960 O Messenger of God 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:04.460 So-and-so 00:09:04.460 --> 00:09:09.159 He mentions her lack of fasting, charity, and prayers 00:09:09.159 --> 00:09:12.659 And she believes in the revolutionaries of Al-Aqt 00:09:12.659 --> 00:09:16.159 She does not harm her neighbors with her tongue 00:09:16.159 --> 00:09:17.159 He said 00:09:17.159 --> 00:09:18.960 She is in heaven 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.340 Narrated by Ahmed 00:09:21.340 --> 00:09:22.840 This hadith 00:09:22.840 --> 00:09:30.039 He is very frank in that he does not accept the separation of religion and morality in dealing with people 00:09:30.039 --> 00:09:35.840 How can a woman be willing to marry a man without good morals? 00:09:35.840 --> 00:09:38.440 Then let us consider what she said 00:09:38.440 --> 00:09:41.159 Every disease has a disease 00:09:41.159 --> 00:09:44.460 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:09:44.460 --> 00:09:47.460 That is, everything from people's medicines 00:09:47.460 --> 00:09:50.360 It is in it and one of its medicines 00:09:50.360 --> 00:09:53.960 Al-Khalil Al-Farahidi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:59.419 She wanted every flaw in men to be in him 00:09:59.419 --> 00:10:04.820 This is a phrase that sums up all the evil in this type of men 00:10:04.820 --> 00:10:07.519 He is one of the worst people 00:10:07.519 --> 00:10:10.120 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him 00:10:10.120 --> 00:10:15.620 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood over people sitting 00:10:15.620 --> 00:10:16.919 And he said 00:10:17.019 --> 00:10:20.720 Shall I not inform you of your goodness and your evil? 00:10:20.720 --> 00:10:21.720 He said 00:10:21.720 --> 00:10:23.120 So they remained silent 00:10:23.120 --> 00:10:26.019 He said that three times 00:10:26.019 --> 00:10:27.519 A man said 00:10:27.519 --> 00:10:29.519 Yes, O Messenger of God 00:10:29.519 --> 00:10:32.919 Tell us our good from our evil 00:10:32.919 --> 00:10:34.019 He said 00:10:34.019 --> 00:10:38.120 The best of you is the one who hopes for its good and is safe from its evil 00:10:38.120 --> 00:10:43.120 And your polytheism is one whose goodness is not hoped for and whose evil is not safe 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:45.350 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 00:10:45.450 --> 00:10:49.149 And if all people's faults are in this pair 00:10:49.149 --> 00:10:51.850 She never hopes for good 00:10:51.850 --> 00:10:55.580 And you are not safe from its evil 00:10:55.580 --> 00:10:58.879 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:01.779 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds