1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,299 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,299 --> 00:00:08,210 Men's items 3 00:00:08,210 --> 00:00:13,199 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 4 00:00:13,199 --> 00:00:23,780 My husband is every creditor to this 5 00:00:23,780 --> 00:00:28,179 The seventh woman to speak at the Women's Council 6 00:00:28,179 --> 00:00:30,879 She described her husband by saying: 7 00:00:30,879 --> 00:00:34,380 My husband is jealous or weak 8 00:00:34,380 --> 00:00:35,979 Apply 9 00:00:36,179 --> 00:00:38,780 Every creditor to this 10 00:00:38,780 --> 00:00:43,140 Shajak, Falak, or plural of both for you 11 00:00:43,140 --> 00:00:45,240 That can be said about it 12 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:47,240 She's poor 13 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:50,840 She collected all the descriptions of slander against her husband 14 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:56,439 There is no good left for him that women can benefit from 15 00:00:56,439 --> 00:00:58,340 He is an ignorant fool 16 00:00:58,340 --> 00:00:59,840 Bad ten 17 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,140 Incapable of intercourse 18 00:01:02,140 --> 00:01:05,140 He hits the woman severely and violently 19 00:01:05,140 --> 00:01:09,299 He even collected all people's faults in him 20 00:01:09,299 --> 00:01:12,200 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 21 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:13,900 She called him stupid 22 00:01:13,900 --> 00:01:17,500 And the finitude of all shortcomings and defects 23 00:01:17,500 --> 00:01:19,799 Bad treatment with family 24 00:01:19,799 --> 00:01:22,299 And his inability to meet her needs 25 00:01:22,299 --> 00:01:25,299 He hit her and hurt her 26 00:01:25,299 --> 00:01:28,400 And if she spoke to him, he would curse her 27 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,099 And if she jokes with him, he makes her angry 28 00:01:31,099 --> 00:01:32,500 And if he gets angry 29 00:01:32,500 --> 00:01:34,799 Either he stabbed her in the head 30 00:01:34,799 --> 00:01:37,799 Or break one of its members 31 00:01:37,799 --> 00:01:40,000 It means astronomy 32 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:42,400 And it was said to the defeated 33 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:43,689 Phil 34 00:01:43,689 --> 00:01:46,489 Or cut her skin or stab her 35 00:01:46,489 --> 00:01:48,989 It is the meaning of Shajak 36 00:01:48,989 --> 00:01:51,689 Or collect it all for her 37 00:01:51,689 --> 00:01:54,790 From beatings, wounds, and broken organs 38 00:01:54,790 --> 00:01:58,290 Or being broken down by quarrels and painful speech 39 00:01:58,290 --> 00:02:02,019 And he took her money 40 00:02:02,019 --> 00:02:04,120 This type of men 41 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,019 You cannot live with him in peace 42 00:02:07,019 --> 00:02:10,120 It is not possible to imagine that these morals are bad deeds 43 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,020 In this category 44 00:02:12,020 --> 00:02:15,319 I found it suddenly after marriage 45 00:02:15,319 --> 00:02:19,620 But what is expected is that she is in it before marriage 46 00:02:19,620 --> 00:02:22,219 The question arises 47 00:02:22,219 --> 00:02:25,219 Why did this woman accept him? 48 00:02:25,219 --> 00:02:29,639 And whoever makes the mistake of marrying her to him 49 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:30,840 Firstly 50 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,039 This incident occurred in pre-Islamic times 51 00:02:34,039 --> 00:02:38,139 But unfortunately it is repeated in Islam 52 00:02:38,139 --> 00:02:40,889 Where did the error come from? 53 00:02:40,889 --> 00:02:42,090 Secondly 54 00:02:42,090 --> 00:02:44,289 Given the teachings of Islam 55 00:02:44,289 --> 00:02:46,289 And his high morals 56 00:02:46,289 --> 00:02:48,889 We find that he established a precise system 57 00:02:48,889 --> 00:02:50,789 To prevent such a picture 58 00:02:50,789 --> 00:02:52,889 To fall into reality 59 00:02:52,889 --> 00:02:55,550 Why is it repeated? 60 00:02:55,550 --> 00:02:57,250 Which appears to me 61 00:02:57,250 --> 00:03:01,150 That's why such a picture is repeated in reality 62 00:03:01,150 --> 00:03:03,550 It stems from two things 63 00:03:03,550 --> 00:03:05,849 Their address is the same 64 00:03:05,849 --> 00:03:08,650 It is a lack of commitment to the teachings of Islam 65 00:03:08,650 --> 00:03:12,150 And his etiquette in marrying girls 66 00:03:12,150 --> 00:03:13,750 The first thing 67 00:03:13,750 --> 00:03:18,349 Parents abdicate responsibility for the girl’s marriage 68 00:03:18,349 --> 00:03:20,750 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 69 00:03:20,750 --> 00:03:23,949 It is forbidden for a woman to marry herself 70 00:03:23,949 --> 00:03:26,750 He ordered her guardians to marry her 71 00:03:26,750 --> 00:03:30,949 So that men bear the responsibility of marrying women 72 00:03:30,949 --> 00:03:33,520 Who is worthy of it 73 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,819 Many hadiths have been mentioned about this 74 00:03:36,819 --> 00:03:38,020 From her 75 00:03:38,020 --> 00:03:40,520 On the authority of Abu Musa, may God be pleased with him 76 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:44,120 That the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 77 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,020 There is no marriage except with a poly 78 00:03:47,020 --> 00:03:49,319 Narrated by Abu Dawood 79 00:03:49,319 --> 00:03:52,520 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said 80 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:56,219 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 81 00:03:56,219 --> 00:04:00,319 Any woman who has had intercourse without the permission of her master 82 00:04:00,319 --> 00:04:02,520 Her marriage is invalid 83 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,319 Three times 84 00:04:04,319 --> 00:04:05,919 If he enters it 85 00:04:05,919 --> 00:04:09,120 The dowry is hers for whatever happened to her 86 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:10,719 If he quarrels 87 00:04:10,719 --> 00:04:14,349 The Sultan is the guardian of those who have no guardian 88 00:04:14,349 --> 00:04:16,810 Narrated by Abu Dawood 89 00:04:16,810 --> 00:04:20,110 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said 90 00:04:20,110 --> 00:04:23,610 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 91 00:04:23,610 --> 00:04:26,410 A woman does not marry another woman 92 00:04:26,410 --> 00:04:29,509 The woman does not marry herself 93 00:04:29,509 --> 00:04:33,810 The adulteress is the one who marries herself 94 00:04:33,810 --> 00:04:36,129 Narrated by Ibn Majah 95 00:04:36,129 --> 00:04:37,930 These are the hadiths 96 00:04:37,930 --> 00:04:41,629 Places the responsibility in marriage on the guardians 97 00:04:41,629 --> 00:04:44,829 Women are prohibited from marrying themselves 98 00:04:44,829 --> 00:04:47,529 This is a great ruling 99 00:04:47,529 --> 00:04:48,629 From her 100 00:04:48,629 --> 00:04:53,329 Men are better able to know the qualities and morals of a suitor 101 00:04:53,329 --> 00:04:55,930 And asking about it among men 102 00:04:55,930 --> 00:04:57,629 Unlike women 103 00:04:57,730 --> 00:05:00,629 She can't do that 104 00:05:00,629 --> 00:05:01,829 And from her 105 00:05:01,829 --> 00:05:05,129 That men rule the mind in matters 106 00:05:05,129 --> 00:05:06,629 Unlike women 107 00:05:06,629 --> 00:05:09,230 It governs emotion 108 00:05:09,230 --> 00:05:11,930 If her heart is attached to a man 109 00:05:11,930 --> 00:05:16,060 She turned a blind eye to all his bad qualities 110 00:05:16,060 --> 00:05:22,160 This is the danger of relationships that form between boys and girls before the marriage contract 111 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,560 The girl is attached to him 112 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,060 It is difficult for her to stay away from him 113 00:05:27,060 --> 00:05:30,959 Especially when it comes to young men in their relationships with girls 114 00:05:30,959 --> 00:05:35,060 They show their best qualities to win him over 115 00:05:35,060 --> 00:05:36,959 If the girl is attached 116 00:05:36,959 --> 00:05:40,019 I was blinded to the true vision 117 00:05:40,019 --> 00:05:42,319 Therefore, Islam forbids women 118 00:05:42,319 --> 00:05:44,920 To mingle with foreign men 119 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:47,420 So that such relationships do not occur 120 00:05:47,420 --> 00:05:49,519 Between boys and girls 121 00:05:49,519 --> 00:05:52,740 Then life becomes ruined 122 00:05:52,740 --> 00:05:54,439 The second thing 123 00:05:54,439 --> 00:05:57,779 Losing the criterion for choosing men 124 00:05:57,779 --> 00:06:00,680 And the way people look today when choosing a husband 125 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:02,480 It differed because of their distance 126 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,379 About adhering to the commands of Sharia 127 00:06:05,379 --> 00:06:07,579 It became the criterion for choosing men 128 00:06:07,579 --> 00:06:09,680 Physical standard 129 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,509 Connected to the world only 130 00:06:12,509 --> 00:06:14,310 This is completely the opposite 131 00:06:14,310 --> 00:06:18,009 According to the commandment of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 132 00:06:18,009 --> 00:06:19,610 Where he said 133 00:06:19,610 --> 00:06:21,509 If someone you please comes to you 134 00:06:21,509 --> 00:06:24,709 If he has good character and religion, then marry him 135 00:06:24,709 --> 00:06:26,110 Unless you do 136 00:06:26,110 --> 00:06:30,339 There will be strife on earth and widespread corruption 137 00:06:30,339 --> 00:06:32,500 Narrated by Ibn Majah 138 00:06:32,500 --> 00:06:35,000 Al-Mazhari, may God have mercy on him, said 139 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,399 I mean, if someone asks you 140 00:06:37,399 --> 00:06:40,100 That you marry him to a woman from your children 141 00:06:40,100 --> 00:06:41,899 Or your relatives 142 00:06:41,899 --> 00:06:43,000 So look 143 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:45,000 If he is a good Muslim 144 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:46,399 Good manners 145 00:06:46,399 --> 00:06:47,899 So they married him 146 00:06:47,899 --> 00:06:49,800 Because if you didn't get married 147 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:51,699 The women of your relatives 148 00:06:51,699 --> 00:06:55,199 Except for a well-known person with money and prestige 149 00:06:55,199 --> 00:06:58,500 And other qualities that he tends to 150 00:06:58,500 --> 00:07:00,300 Children of the world 151 00:07:00,300 --> 00:07:03,600 Most of your women remain without a husband 152 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:07,000 Most men remain without a wife 153 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:10,199 Then men tend towards women 154 00:07:10,199 --> 00:07:12,399 And women to men 155 00:07:12,399 --> 00:07:14,199 Adultery abounds 156 00:07:14,199 --> 00:07:16,000 The saints are disgraced 157 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,199 The percentage of adultery with their wives 158 00:07:19,199 --> 00:07:22,199 Perhaps they feel jealousy over their relatives 159 00:07:22,199 --> 00:07:25,300 Because they heard that adultery was attributed to them 160 00:07:25,300 --> 00:07:27,000 And they kill them 161 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,399 And they kill those who intend to commit immoral acts 162 00:07:30,399 --> 00:07:33,100 This is all widespread corruption 163 00:07:33,100 --> 00:07:37,079 And a great temptation 164 00:07:37,079 --> 00:07:38,180 But 165 00:07:38,180 --> 00:07:41,680 Why would a woman stay with such an idiot? 166 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,879 When did you discover these morals? 167 00:07:44,879 --> 00:07:47,680 There is blame for women as well 168 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:50,180 We also blamed the saints 169 00:07:50,180 --> 00:07:52,680 In her standard for approval of a man 170 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:55,379 Applicant to marry her 171 00:07:55,379 --> 00:07:57,879 Whatever that standard is 172 00:07:57,879 --> 00:08:01,579 Except that it will not be religion and creation 173 00:08:01,579 --> 00:08:04,579 If its criteria were religion and morals 174 00:08:04,579 --> 00:08:07,279 When I found such pictures with us 175 00:08:07,279 --> 00:08:09,379 In our communities 176 00:08:09,379 --> 00:08:12,379 Because this is the foolish type of men 177 00:08:12,379 --> 00:08:14,480 His foolishness must be exposed 178 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:16,680 With whom he lives 179 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:19,980 If you ask a woman about his religion and morals 180 00:08:19,980 --> 00:08:22,180 She asked her guardians to confirm 181 00:08:22,180 --> 00:08:24,180 Who describes him as both 182 00:08:24,180 --> 00:08:26,639 I would have known his truth 183 00:08:26,639 --> 00:08:29,740 And if the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 184 00:08:29,740 --> 00:08:32,840 A woman who stays up at night has been disparaged 185 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:36,740 But she has a bad attitude towards her neighbors 186 00:08:36,740 --> 00:08:40,960 So what about someone who behaves like this with his family? 187 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:44,460 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said 188 00:08:44,460 --> 00:08:45,860 A man said 189 00:08:45,860 --> 00:08:47,559 O Messenger of God 190 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:48,860 So-and-so 191 00:08:48,860 --> 00:08:53,460 He is remembered for her frequent prayers, fasting, and charity 192 00:08:53,460 --> 00:08:57,559 However, she hurts her neighbors with her tongue 193 00:08:57,559 --> 00:08:58,559 He said 194 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,460 She is on fire 195 00:09:00,460 --> 00:09:01,360 He said 196 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:02,960 O Messenger of God 197 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:04,460 So-and-so 198 00:09:04,460 --> 00:09:09,159 He mentions her lack of fasting, charity, and prayers 199 00:09:09,159 --> 00:09:12,659 And she believes in the revolutionaries of Al-Aqt 200 00:09:12,659 --> 00:09:16,159 She does not harm her neighbors with her tongue 201 00:09:16,159 --> 00:09:17,159 He said 202 00:09:17,159 --> 00:09:18,960 She is in heaven 203 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:21,340 Narrated by Ahmed 204 00:09:21,340 --> 00:09:22,840 This hadith 205 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:30,039 He is very frank in that he does not accept the separation of religion and morality in dealing with people 206 00:09:30,039 --> 00:09:35,840 How can a woman be willing to marry a man without good morals? 207 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:38,440 Then let us consider what she said 208 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:41,159 Every disease has a disease 209 00:09:41,159 --> 00:09:44,460 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 210 00:09:44,460 --> 00:09:47,460 That is, everything from people's medicines 211 00:09:47,460 --> 00:09:50,360 It is in it and one of its medicines 212 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:53,960 Al-Khalil Al-Farahidi, may God have mercy on him, said 213 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:59,419 She wanted every flaw in men to be in him 214 00:09:59,419 --> 00:10:04,820 This is a phrase that sums up all the evil in this type of men 215 00:10:04,820 --> 00:10:07,519 He is one of the worst people 216 00:10:07,519 --> 00:10:10,120 On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him 217 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:15,620 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood over people sitting 218 00:10:15,620 --> 00:10:16,919 And he said 219 00:10:17,019 --> 00:10:20,720 Shall I not inform you of your goodness and your evil? 220 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:21,720 He said 221 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:23,120 So they remained silent 222 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,019 He said that three times 223 00:10:26,019 --> 00:10:27,519 A man said 224 00:10:27,519 --> 00:10:29,519 Yes, O Messenger of God 225 00:10:29,519 --> 00:10:32,919 Tell us our good from our evil 226 00:10:32,919 --> 00:10:34,019 He said 227 00:10:34,019 --> 00:10:38,120 The best of you is the one who hopes for its good and is safe from its evil 228 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:43,120 And your polytheism is one whose goodness is not hoped for and whose evil is not safe 229 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:45,350 Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 230 00:10:45,450 --> 00:10:49,149 And if all people's faults are in this pair 231 00:10:49,149 --> 00:10:51,850 She never hopes for good 232 00:10:51,850 --> 00:10:55,580 And you are not safe from its evil 233 00:10:55,580 --> 00:10:58,879 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 234 00:10:58,879 --> 00:11:01,779 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds