1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:12,310 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her 2 00:00:12,310 --> 00:00:16,890 Oh Aisha, why did you tempt me? 3 00:00:16,890 --> 00:00:23,579 Jealousy is a beautiful trait of a woman 4 00:00:23,579 --> 00:00:26,980 It indicates the depth of her love for her husband 5 00:00:26,980 --> 00:00:30,339 Al-Humaidi knew jealousy, may God have mercy on him 6 00:00:30,339 --> 00:00:33,939 It is a tightness between a woman and her husband 7 00:00:33,939 --> 00:00:36,420 Whatever happens to his heart 8 00:00:36,579 --> 00:00:40,700 Or her heart towards him in marital matters in particular 9 00:00:40,700 --> 00:00:45,020 From his inclination to others or her inclination to others 10 00:00:45,020 --> 00:00:49,259 It is derived from a change of heart and a surge of anger 11 00:00:49,259 --> 00:00:52,899 Because of participation in what is specialized 12 00:00:52,899 --> 00:00:57,340 Jealousy is praiseworthy if it is used in the right way 13 00:00:57,340 --> 00:00:59,780 In accordance with legal controls 14 00:00:59,780 --> 00:01:03,020 If it exceeds the legal limits 15 00:01:03,060 --> 00:01:06,700 It is reprehensible and women sin against it 16 00:01:06,700 --> 00:01:09,219 Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said 17 00:01:09,219 --> 00:01:12,700 The origin of jealousy is not acquired for women 18 00:01:12,700 --> 00:01:18,420 But if you do it too much, you will be blamed 19 00:01:18,420 --> 00:01:22,900 Jealousy is expected from virtuous women and others 20 00:01:22,900 --> 00:01:25,340 The best women of this nation 21 00:01:25,340 --> 00:01:30,459 The wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, are mothers of the believers 22 00:01:30,459 --> 00:01:32,900 They were jealous 23 00:01:32,939 --> 00:01:38,459 The most jealous person was Aisha, may God be pleased with her 24 00:01:38,459 --> 00:01:41,620 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, invested 25 00:01:41,620 --> 00:01:44,620 Aisha's jealousy, may God be pleased with her 26 00:01:44,620 --> 00:01:49,379 In raising her to control her jealousy according to legal controls 27 00:01:49,379 --> 00:01:53,939 To learn what jealousy is permissible for her and what is not permissible 28 00:01:53,939 --> 00:01:56,500 One of these beautiful incidents 29 00:01:56,500 --> 00:02:01,459 What happened to her one night with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 30 00:02:01,459 --> 00:02:05,739 When I woke up at night, I didn't find him 31 00:02:05,739 --> 00:02:08,699 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 32 00:02:08,699 --> 00:02:12,340 I lost the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 33 00:02:12,340 --> 00:02:14,900 He was with me on my bed 34 00:02:14,900 --> 00:02:18,300 I found him prostrating with his heels straight 35 00:02:18,300 --> 00:02:21,780 Facing the Qiblah with his fingertips 36 00:02:21,780 --> 00:02:23,900 So I heard him say 37 00:02:23,900 --> 00:02:26,419 I seek refuge in Your satisfaction from Your anger 38 00:02:26,419 --> 00:02:28,659 By pardoning you from your punishment 39 00:02:28,659 --> 00:02:30,259 And from you 40 00:02:30,259 --> 00:02:31,699 I commend you 41 00:02:31,699 --> 00:02:34,580 I don't know everything about you 42 00:02:34,580 --> 00:02:36,500 When he was victorious, he said: 43 00:02:36,500 --> 00:02:38,020 Oh Aisha 44 00:02:38,020 --> 00:02:40,020 Your demon took you 45 00:02:40,020 --> 00:02:41,259 And she said 46 00:02:41,259 --> 00:02:43,300 Do you have a devil? 47 00:02:43,300 --> 00:02:44,300 He said 48 00:02:44,300 --> 00:02:47,979 There is no human being who does not have a devil 49 00:02:47,979 --> 00:02:49,020 So I said 50 00:02:49,020 --> 00:02:51,300 And you, O Messenger of God 51 00:02:51,300 --> 00:02:52,219 He said 52 00:02:52,219 --> 00:02:53,340 And I 53 00:02:53,340 --> 00:02:57,139 But I prayed to God for him and he became Muslim 54 00:02:57,139 --> 00:02:59,490 Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah 55 00:02:59,530 --> 00:03:02,330 On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her 56 00:03:02,330 --> 00:03:05,330 That the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 57 00:03:05,330 --> 00:03:07,849 He left there one night 58 00:03:07,849 --> 00:03:08,889 She said 59 00:03:08,889 --> 00:03:10,569 I gaped at him 60 00:03:10,569 --> 00:03:11,569 She said 61 00:03:11,569 --> 00:03:12,530 So he came 62 00:03:12,530 --> 00:03:14,490 He saw what I was doing 63 00:03:14,490 --> 00:03:15,729 And he said 64 00:03:15,729 --> 00:03:17,770 What's wrong with you, Aisha? 65 00:03:17,770 --> 00:03:19,050 I was tempted 66 00:03:19,050 --> 00:03:20,169 She said 67 00:03:20,169 --> 00:03:21,330 So I said 68 00:03:21,330 --> 00:03:25,050 Why should someone like me not be jealous of someone like you? 69 00:03:25,050 --> 00:03:28,729 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 70 00:03:28,770 --> 00:03:30,969 Then your devil took you 71 00:03:30,969 --> 00:03:33,009 She said, O Messenger of God 72 00:03:33,009 --> 00:03:34,930 Oh my demon 73 00:03:34,930 --> 00:03:36,409 He said yes 74 00:03:36,409 --> 00:03:37,330 I said 75 00:03:37,330 --> 00:03:39,370 And with every human being 76 00:03:39,370 --> 00:03:40,889 He said yes 77 00:03:40,889 --> 00:03:41,810 I said 78 00:03:41,810 --> 00:03:44,090 And with you, O Messenger of God 79 00:03:44,090 --> 00:03:45,449 He said yes 80 00:03:45,449 --> 00:03:50,650 But my Lord Almighty helped me to convert to Islam 81 00:03:50,650 --> 00:03:52,620 Narrated by Ahmed 82 00:03:52,620 --> 00:03:58,740 This is one of the situations of jealousy that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, went through 83 00:03:58,740 --> 00:04:01,020 The conclusion of this position 84 00:04:01,020 --> 00:04:04,580 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was asleep 85 00:04:04,580 --> 00:04:06,580 And it was her night 86 00:04:06,580 --> 00:04:12,379 It is assumed that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was sleeping next to her 87 00:04:12,379 --> 00:04:17,259 But she did not wake up in the night and did not see him next to her 88 00:04:17,259 --> 00:04:20,500 So I searched for him in the darkness of the night 89 00:04:20,500 --> 00:04:22,939 So she felt around her 90 00:04:22,939 --> 00:04:26,980 Her hand fell on him while he was praying and praying 91 00:04:27,019 --> 00:04:29,459 So she went back to her bed 92 00:04:29,459 --> 00:04:33,819 The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not finish his prayer 93 00:04:33,819 --> 00:04:35,180 He told her 94 00:04:35,180 --> 00:04:37,220 What's wrong with you, Aisha? 95 00:04:37,220 --> 00:04:38,699 I was tempted 96 00:04:38,699 --> 00:04:40,379 She said and I said 97 00:04:40,379 --> 00:04:44,220 Why should someone like me not be jealous of someone like you? 98 00:04:44,220 --> 00:04:47,819 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 99 00:04:47,819 --> 00:04:50,100 Did your devil take you? 100 00:04:50,100 --> 00:04:56,620 So, may God bless him and grant him peace, he considered her jealousy in this place to be the incitement of Satan 101 00:04:56,620 --> 00:04:58,259 So what is the reason? 102 00:04:58,259 --> 00:04:59,980 The reason for this 103 00:04:59,980 --> 00:05:02,899 It is the thought that occurred to her 104 00:05:02,899 --> 00:05:09,339 It is that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, left her and went to one of his wives 105 00:05:09,339 --> 00:05:13,699 This is a bad opinion of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 106 00:05:13,699 --> 00:05:17,420 And he would not be fair to her on her night 107 00:05:17,420 --> 00:05:19,379 This is a bad idea 108 00:05:19,379 --> 00:05:23,769 It only comes to the soul from the whispers of Satan 109 00:05:23,769 --> 00:05:26,170 Al-Tibi, may God have mercy on him, said 110 00:05:26,170 --> 00:05:27,569 And in his saying 111 00:05:27,569 --> 00:05:29,930 Your demon has come to you 112 00:05:29,930 --> 00:05:33,889 A reference to what was mentioned in the hadith of Jabir bin Atik 113 00:05:33,889 --> 00:05:35,290 From his saying 114 00:05:35,290 --> 00:05:37,490 As for those whom God hates 115 00:05:37,490 --> 00:05:39,850 Jealousy is without suspicion 116 00:05:39,850 --> 00:05:42,569 I mean, how can you be jealous of me? 117 00:05:42,569 --> 00:05:45,170 You see that I am being unfair to you 118 00:05:45,170 --> 00:05:48,209 That is, this is not suspicious 119 00:05:48,209 --> 00:05:50,930 Jealousy comes from a woman 120 00:05:50,930 --> 00:05:53,889 Based on bad thoughts about the husband 121 00:05:53,930 --> 00:05:57,730 It is the reprehensible jealousy that women are blamed for 122 00:05:57,730 --> 00:05:59,689 And he expected her to sin 123 00:05:59,689 --> 00:06:03,480 It ruins her life with her husband 124 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:07,639 Jealousy is an innate moral in all women 125 00:06:07,639 --> 00:06:10,399 However, it is adjustable 126 00:06:10,399 --> 00:06:12,800 And steerable 127 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:15,120 Its severity can be reduced 128 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,800 And adjust it to a certain limit 129 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:23,079 This also happened with Umm Salamah with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 130 00:06:23,079 --> 00:06:26,279 When the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, prayed for her 131 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:29,160 May God remove her jealousy 132 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,720 As directed by the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 133 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:33,879 For his women 134 00:06:33,879 --> 00:06:37,040 By standing at the legal limit in jealousy 135 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:41,240 For everyone who violated the legal controls on jealousy 136 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,600 There are three legal controls on jealousy 137 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:45,759 And it is 138 00:06:45,759 --> 00:06:46,920 The first 139 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,079 To be suspicious 140 00:06:49,079 --> 00:06:50,399 The second 141 00:06:50,399 --> 00:06:54,759 Not to commit what is forbidden to her in words or actions 142 00:06:54,759 --> 00:06:57,920 These are examples of taboos 143 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:00,639 Jealousy does not permit backbiting 144 00:07:00,639 --> 00:07:04,680 Jealousy does not permit the diversion of other people's possessions 145 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:10,439 Jealousy does not permit a woman to demand from her husband what she is not entitled to 146 00:07:10,439 --> 00:07:13,000 Jealousy does not permit injustice 147 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:17,120 Jealousy does not permit a woman to insult her friend 148 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:21,759 Jealousy does not allow the husband to be satisfied with what he did not give 149 00:07:21,759 --> 00:07:25,439 Jealousy does not permit bad thoughts about the husband 150 00:07:25,439 --> 00:07:29,189 Jealousy does not permit spying on the husband 151 00:07:29,189 --> 00:07:32,699 Jealousy does not permit harming one's husband 152 00:07:32,699 --> 00:07:34,060 Third 153 00:07:34,060 --> 00:07:38,329 That jealousy does not lead to corruption of good deeds 154 00:07:38,329 --> 00:07:40,649 These are the controls of jealousy 155 00:07:40,649 --> 00:07:44,410 If one of these controls is violated, then 156 00:07:44,410 --> 00:07:47,329 She is to blame for her jealousy 157 00:07:47,329 --> 00:07:51,850 As for the jealousy that makes her work to win the husband’s heart 158 00:07:51,850 --> 00:07:54,410 This is praiseworthy jealousy 159 00:07:54,410 --> 00:07:57,420 The woman rents it 160 00:07:57,420 --> 00:08:00,939 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 161 00:08:00,939 --> 00:08:07,139 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 162 00:08:07,139 --> 00:08:10,779 Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her