WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:08.210 Men's items 00:00:08.210 --> 00:00:12.500 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 00:00:12.500 --> 00:00:19.469 Mother of crops and bliss of life 00:00:19.469 --> 00:00:24.620 It was Umm Zara's turn 00:00:24.620 --> 00:00:26.620 She was the last one to speak 00:00:26.620 --> 00:00:30.620 She is the most separated in her life with her husband 00:00:30.620 --> 00:00:34.619 Her words are not devoid of indication of the nature of women 00:00:34.619 --> 00:00:36.619 Hiding some facts 00:00:36.619 --> 00:00:39.740 And show some issues 00:00:39.740 --> 00:00:44.740 This is advice for every man seeking to solve marital problems 00:00:44.740 --> 00:00:48.740 Most women should pay attention to this fact 00:00:48.740 --> 00:00:50.740 Except for the mercy of my Lord 00:00:50.740 --> 00:00:53.740 Do not rely on her words 00:00:53.740 --> 00:00:57.740 She rules without thinking, looking, or listening to her husband 00:00:57.740 --> 00:00:59.740 Or who do you complain about? 00:00:59.740 --> 00:01:04.900 I will leave you to contemplate, dear husband, on Umm Zara’s words 00:01:04.900 --> 00:01:06.900 To extract yourself 00:01:06.900 --> 00:01:09.900 What did Umm Zara hide from women? 00:01:09.900 --> 00:01:13.900 In her long talk about herself and her husband 00:01:13.900 --> 00:01:16.219 Umm Zara said 00:01:16.219 --> 00:01:18.219 My husband is a father of sow 00:01:18.219 --> 00:01:20.219 And he is not the father of Zaraa 00:01:20.219 --> 00:01:22.219 People of my ear jewelry 00:01:22.219 --> 00:01:25.219 And it was filled with fat from my genitals 00:01:25.219 --> 00:01:26.219 And he made me smile 00:01:26.219 --> 00:01:29.219 So I shouted to myself 00:01:29.219 --> 00:01:32.219 He found me among the people of Ghanimah Bashaq 00:01:32.219 --> 00:01:35.219 So he made me among the people of Sahil and Hoot 00:01:35.219 --> 00:01:37.219 Trampled and refined 00:01:37.219 --> 00:01:40.219 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 00:01:40.219 --> 00:01:42.219 And I lie down and it becomes morning 00:01:42.219 --> 00:01:44.219 And I drink and soothe myself 00:01:44.219 --> 00:01:46.420 My father's mother planted 00:01:46.420 --> 00:01:48.420 My father's mother did not plant anything 00:01:48.420 --> 00:01:50.420 Akumha Raddah 00:01:50.420 --> 00:01:52.420 And her house is spacious 00:01:52.420 --> 00:01:54.579 Ibn Abi Zar'a 00:01:54.579 --> 00:01:56.579 Ibn Abi did not plant anything 00:01:56.579 --> 00:01:59.579 His bed is like a bevel 00:01:59.579 --> 00:02:01.579 And the arm of unbelief satisfies him 00:02:01.579 --> 00:02:03.799 Daughter of Abu Zara 00:02:03.799 --> 00:02:05.799 My father’s daughter did not plant anything 00:02:05.799 --> 00:02:08.800 Her father willingly and her mother willingly 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:12.800 And fill her clothes and please her neighbour 00:02:12.800 --> 00:02:14.960 My father's slave girl 00:02:14.960 --> 00:02:16.960 What is my father’s slave girl? 00:02:16.960 --> 00:02:19.960 Don't broadcast our conversation 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:23.960 And do not let our mirror be cleansed 00:02:23.960 --> 00:02:26.960 Do not fill our house with nests 00:02:26.960 --> 00:02:27.960 She said 00:02:27.960 --> 00:02:30.180 Abu Zar' came out 00:02:30.180 --> 00:02:32.180 And the stakes are churning 00:02:32.180 --> 00:02:36.180 He found a woman with two sons who looked like two leopards 00:02:36.180 --> 00:02:40.180 They are playing with two pomegranates under her waist 00:02:40.180 --> 00:02:43.180 So he divorced me and married her 00:02:43.180 --> 00:02:46.219 Then she married a secret man 00:02:46.219 --> 00:02:48.219 Shreya rode 00:02:48.219 --> 00:02:50.219 And he took it in writing 00:02:50.219 --> 00:02:53.219 He bestowed upon me abundant blessings 00:02:53.219 --> 00:02:56.219 And he gave me a pair of every scent 00:02:56.219 --> 00:02:58.219 And he said 00:02:58.219 --> 00:03:02.280 Eat or plant and see your family 00:03:02.280 --> 00:03:03.280 She said 00:03:03.280 --> 00:03:06.280 If I collect everything, he will give me 00:03:06.280 --> 00:03:10.819 He did not reach the pressure of my father’s vessels 00:03:10.819 --> 00:03:14.819 This is the hadith of Umm Zur’ on the authority of her husband, Abu Zur’ 00:03:14.819 --> 00:03:16.819 And from her speech 00:03:16.819 --> 00:03:20.819 We realize the great praise for Abu Zara 00:03:20.819 --> 00:03:23.819 We can deduce clearly 00:03:23.819 --> 00:03:25.819 Her great love for him 00:03:25.819 --> 00:03:27.819 And the intensity of her attachment to him 00:03:27.819 --> 00:03:30.819 And she loved everything related to him 00:03:30.819 --> 00:03:32.819 From a mother, a son and a daughter 00:03:32.819 --> 00:03:35.819 Even the maid 00:03:35.819 --> 00:03:38.949 But have you noticed, my dear brother-in-law? 00:03:38.949 --> 00:03:41.949 She is talking about her absolute 00:03:41.949 --> 00:03:43.949 Not about her husband 00:03:43.949 --> 00:03:47.110 The women who sat on this council 00:03:47.110 --> 00:03:49.110 We pledged and contracted 00:03:49.110 --> 00:03:53.110 Do they not conceal anything from their husbands? 00:03:53.110 --> 00:03:56.110 Did Umm Zara speak about her husband? 00:03:57.110 --> 00:03:59.110 Yes, I talked about it 00:03:59.110 --> 00:04:02.110 However, she did not find a second husband 00:04:02.110 --> 00:04:05.110 Who showered her with various blessings 00:04:05.110 --> 00:04:09.110 What are you proud of in front of the women in the council? 00:04:09.110 --> 00:04:13.110 Rather, she took all the goodness he gave her 00:04:13.110 --> 00:04:15.110 She went to the one who divorced her 00:04:15.110 --> 00:04:18.110 To be proud of him among women 00:04:18.110 --> 00:04:21.209 So what did Abu Zara do to her? 00:04:21.209 --> 00:04:24.209 Until you become attached to him 00:04:24.209 --> 00:04:27.209 How did she meet Ehsan Abi Zar’a for her? 00:04:27.209 --> 00:04:31.209 Why did she lose him when he saw others? 00:04:31.209 --> 00:04:36.500 What did he see in others that would replace them with her? 00:04:36.500 --> 00:04:39.500 Perhaps we are the husband's brother and the wife's sister 00:04:39.500 --> 00:04:42.500 We live in the details of the life of a sow mother 00:04:42.500 --> 00:04:45.500 With dad planted in these rings 00:04:45.500 --> 00:04:48.500 Perhaps we will find the satisfactory answer 00:04:48.500 --> 00:04:50.850 For these questions 00:04:50.850 --> 00:04:51.850 Firstly 00:04:51.850 --> 00:04:54.850 The bliss that Umm Zara experienced 00:04:54.850 --> 00:04:57.910 Umm Zar’ said in describing bliss 00:04:57.910 --> 00:05:00.910 Where Abu Zara lived 00:05:00.910 --> 00:05:02.910 People of my ear jewelry 00:05:02.910 --> 00:05:05.910 And filled with humeral fat 00:05:05.910 --> 00:05:08.910 And he made me proud, so I made myself proud 00:05:08.910 --> 00:05:12.910 He found me among the people of Ghanimah Bashaq 00:05:12.910 --> 00:05:15.910 So place me among the people of Sahil and neigh 00:05:15.910 --> 00:05:17.910 Trampled and refined 00:05:17.910 --> 00:05:20.910 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 00:05:20.910 --> 00:05:22.910 And I lie down and it becomes morning 00:05:22.910 --> 00:05:24.910 And I drink and soothe myself 00:05:24.910 --> 00:05:28.389 The bliss that Umm Zara experienced 00:05:28.389 --> 00:05:32.389 With my father planted it includes several beautiful masts 00:05:32.389 --> 00:05:34.389 One of them first 00:05:34.389 --> 00:05:36.389 Dress her up with jewelry 00:05:36.389 --> 00:05:40.389 She said people of my ear ornaments 00:05:40.389 --> 00:05:44.420 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:05:44.420 --> 00:05:47.420 Halani wants earrings and scarves 00:05:47.420 --> 00:05:49.420 Tanous in my ear 00:05:49.420 --> 00:05:50.420 And the nous 00:05:50.420 --> 00:05:54.420 Movement of everything dangling 00:05:54.420 --> 00:05:57.259 I mean, wear gold 00:05:57.259 --> 00:06:01.259 This is one of the most important types of adornment for women 00:06:01.259 --> 00:06:04.259 It is what makes her happy the most 00:06:04.259 --> 00:06:06.259 Every woman loves gold 00:06:06.259 --> 00:06:09.259 She is proud to wear it in front of women 00:06:09.259 --> 00:06:12.509 Secondly, its ghee 00:06:12.509 --> 00:06:16.579 She said and filled with fat on my upper arm 00:06:16.579 --> 00:06:19.579 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:19.579 --> 00:06:21.579 She didn't want the upper arm especially 00:06:21.579 --> 00:06:24.579 She wanted the whole body 00:06:24.579 --> 00:06:28.579 She says that he made me fat with his kindness to me 00:06:28.579 --> 00:06:33.579 If the humerus becomes fat, the rest of the body becomes fat 00:06:33.579 --> 00:06:38.569 It means that he made her fat by being kind to her 00:06:38.569 --> 00:06:42.569 This obesity does not come with worries and problems 00:06:42.569 --> 00:06:46.920 Rather, it comes with happiness and prosperity 00:06:46.920 --> 00:06:47.920 Third 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:50.920 He filled her life with joy and happiness 00:06:50.920 --> 00:06:55.920 She said, "And he made me angry, so I made myself angry." 00:06:55.920 --> 00:06:59.019 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:06:59.019 --> 00:07:02.209 That is, he made me happy and I was happy 00:07:02.209 --> 00:07:05.209 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:05.209 --> 00:07:08.209 She described him as being good to her 00:07:08.209 --> 00:07:11.209 Her sweetness and luxury is her livelihood 00:07:11.209 --> 00:07:16.209 He made her fat and showed her happiness in her circumstances 00:07:16.209 --> 00:07:22.100 Fourthly, moving it from modest living to luxury 00:07:22.100 --> 00:07:26.230 She said: “He found me among the people of Bashq’s spoils.” 00:07:26.230 --> 00:07:31.230 So he made me among the people of neighing, humming, trampling, and purring 00:07:31.230 --> 00:07:35.579 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:35.579 --> 00:07:39.579 She said, “So he made me among the people of Saheel and howling.” 00:07:39.579 --> 00:07:43.579 It means that he took me to his family 00:07:43.579 --> 00:07:45.579 They are people of horses and camels 00:07:45.579 --> 00:07:50.579 Because neighing is the sound of horses and goats are the sound of camels 00:07:50.579 --> 00:07:53.620 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 00:07:53.620 --> 00:07:57.620 She described it as being transported from the shores of her family’s livelihood 00:07:57.620 --> 00:08:00.620 And inform them of their spoils 00:08:00.620 --> 00:08:03.620 To people of wealth and vast funds 00:08:03.620 --> 00:08:07.620 Of horses, camels, camels, crops, and cows 00:08:07.620 --> 00:08:11.620 And trodden animals, slaves, and horses 00:08:11.620 --> 00:08:14.620 Food purifying machines 00:08:14.620 --> 00:08:18.620 Interest and many livestock 00:08:18.620 --> 00:08:21.620 And the birds enjoy eating it 00:08:21.620 --> 00:08:25.620 This is because the owners of the sheep are poor or subsistence people 00:08:25.620 --> 00:08:27.620 And no wealth 00:08:27.620 --> 00:08:32.779 This woman was informed of her transition from that state to this 00:08:32.779 --> 00:08:36.779 She made a prosperous living with the milk and meat of these livestock 00:08:36.779 --> 00:08:39.779 And other foods 00:08:39.779 --> 00:08:43.779 Especially with its reference to bread that is trampled and purified 00:08:43.779 --> 00:08:47.779 It was the Arab's highest and most cherished food 00:08:47.779 --> 00:08:51.779 Only those with great wealth will find it 00:08:51.779 --> 00:08:54.779 And from the countryside and the cities 00:08:54.779 --> 00:08:56.779 Otherwise, I feed them more 00:08:56.779 --> 00:09:00.779 It was meat, milk, and dates 00:09:00.779 --> 00:09:03.779 This is what their poetry indicates 00:09:03.779 --> 00:09:08.669 Secondly, Dalal Abi planted her 00:09:08.669 --> 00:09:10.669 She was spoiled by him 00:09:10.669 --> 00:09:13.669 Don't do anything that tires her out 00:09:13.669 --> 00:09:17.669 Until Umm Zara described this pampering by saying: 00:09:17.669 --> 00:09:20.669 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 00:09:20.669 --> 00:09:22.669 And I lie down and it becomes morning 00:09:22.669 --> 00:09:24.669 And I drink and soothe myself 00:09:24.669 --> 00:09:28.830 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 00:09:28.830 --> 00:09:31.830 Say it and lie down in the morning 00:09:31.830 --> 00:09:34.830 That is, I sleep until the morning 00:09:34.830 --> 00:09:38.830 No one wakes her up because she is honorable 00:09:38.830 --> 00:09:40.830 Enough service and work 00:09:40.830 --> 00:09:43.860 Abdul Aziz Al-Rajhi said 00:09:43.860 --> 00:09:47.860 She says that she has absolute sovereignty with him 00:09:47.860 --> 00:09:51.860 She speaks and no one responds to her words 00:09:51.860 --> 00:09:54.860 And she lies down in the morning 00:09:54.860 --> 00:09:56.860 It means that the yellow one sleeps 00:09:56.860 --> 00:10:00.860 Because she has servants who provide her with supplies 00:10:00.860 --> 00:10:04.860 Unlike those who do not have servants to serve them 00:10:04.860 --> 00:10:07.860 She gets up in the morning to work at home 00:10:07.860 --> 00:10:09.860 She drinks and narrates 00:10:09.860 --> 00:10:12.860 Irrigation can reach whatever you want 00:10:12.860 --> 00:10:14.860 She praises her husband 00:10:14.860 --> 00:10:18.860 That he comforted her and gave her what she wanted 00:10:18.860 --> 00:10:21.860 And give it absolute sovereignty 00:10:21.860 --> 00:10:23.860 So you speak whatever you want 00:10:23.860 --> 00:10:25.860 And you eat whatever you want 00:10:25.860 --> 00:10:27.860 And drink whatever you want 00:10:27.860 --> 00:10:29.860 And sleep how you want 00:10:29.860 --> 00:10:32.860 It is well supplied with supplies 00:10:32.860 --> 00:10:37.659 The bliss and pampering that Abu Zar’a provided to Zar’a’s mother 00:10:37.659 --> 00:10:40.659 It is an indication of his great love for her 00:10:40.659 --> 00:10:42.659 And its good mineral 00:10:42.659 --> 00:10:44.659 How did you meet Umm Zara? 00:10:44.659 --> 00:10:47.659 This bliss and this pampering 00:10:47.659 --> 00:10:52.750 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 00:10:52.750 --> 00:10:55.750 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds