1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:08,210 Men's items 3 00:00:08,210 --> 00:00:12,500 In the hadith of Umm Zara’ 4 00:00:12,500 --> 00:00:19,469 Mother of crops and bliss of life 5 00:00:19,469 --> 00:00:24,620 It was Umm Zara's turn 6 00:00:24,620 --> 00:00:26,620 She was the last one to speak 7 00:00:26,620 --> 00:00:30,620 She is the most separated in her life with her husband 8 00:00:30,620 --> 00:00:34,619 Her words are not devoid of indication of the nature of women 9 00:00:34,619 --> 00:00:36,619 Hiding some facts 10 00:00:36,619 --> 00:00:39,740 And show some issues 11 00:00:39,740 --> 00:00:44,740 This is advice for every man seeking to solve marital problems 12 00:00:44,740 --> 00:00:48,740 Most women should pay attention to this fact 13 00:00:48,740 --> 00:00:50,740 Except for the mercy of my Lord 14 00:00:50,740 --> 00:00:53,740 Do not rely on her words 15 00:00:53,740 --> 00:00:57,740 She rules without thinking, looking, or listening to her husband 16 00:00:57,740 --> 00:00:59,740 Or who do you complain about? 17 00:00:59,740 --> 00:01:04,900 I will leave you to contemplate, dear husband, on Umm Zara’s words 18 00:01:04,900 --> 00:01:06,900 To extract yourself 19 00:01:06,900 --> 00:01:09,900 What did Umm Zara hide from women? 20 00:01:09,900 --> 00:01:13,900 In her long talk about herself and her husband 21 00:01:13,900 --> 00:01:16,219 Umm Zara said 22 00:01:16,219 --> 00:01:18,219 My husband is a father of sow 23 00:01:18,219 --> 00:01:20,219 And he is not the father of Zaraa 24 00:01:20,219 --> 00:01:22,219 People of my ear jewelry 25 00:01:22,219 --> 00:01:25,219 And it was filled with fat from my genitals 26 00:01:25,219 --> 00:01:26,219 And he made me smile 27 00:01:26,219 --> 00:01:29,219 So I shouted to myself 28 00:01:29,219 --> 00:01:32,219 He found me among the people of Ghanimah Bashaq 29 00:01:32,219 --> 00:01:35,219 So he made me among the people of Sahil and Hoot 30 00:01:35,219 --> 00:01:37,219 Trampled and refined 31 00:01:37,219 --> 00:01:40,219 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 32 00:01:40,219 --> 00:01:42,219 And I lie down and it becomes morning 33 00:01:42,219 --> 00:01:44,219 And I drink and soothe myself 34 00:01:44,219 --> 00:01:46,420 My father's mother planted 35 00:01:46,420 --> 00:01:48,420 My father's mother did not plant anything 36 00:01:48,420 --> 00:01:50,420 Akumha Raddah 37 00:01:50,420 --> 00:01:52,420 And her house is spacious 38 00:01:52,420 --> 00:01:54,579 Ibn Abi Zar'a 39 00:01:54,579 --> 00:01:56,579 Ibn Abi did not plant anything 40 00:01:56,579 --> 00:01:59,579 His bed is like a bevel 41 00:01:59,579 --> 00:02:01,579 And the arm of unbelief satisfies him 42 00:02:01,579 --> 00:02:03,799 Daughter of Abu Zara 43 00:02:03,799 --> 00:02:05,799 My father’s daughter did not plant anything 44 00:02:05,799 --> 00:02:08,800 Her father willingly and her mother willingly 45 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:12,800 And fill her clothes and please her neighbour 46 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:14,960 My father's slave girl 47 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:16,960 What is my father’s slave girl? 48 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,960 Don't broadcast our conversation 49 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,960 And do not let our mirror be cleansed 50 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:26,960 Do not fill our house with nests 51 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:27,960 She said 52 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,180 Abu Zar' came out 53 00:02:30,180 --> 00:02:32,180 And the stakes are churning 54 00:02:32,180 --> 00:02:36,180 He found a woman with two sons who looked like two leopards 55 00:02:36,180 --> 00:02:40,180 They are playing with two pomegranates under her waist 56 00:02:40,180 --> 00:02:43,180 So he divorced me and married her 57 00:02:43,180 --> 00:02:46,219 Then she married a secret man 58 00:02:46,219 --> 00:02:48,219 Shreya rode 59 00:02:48,219 --> 00:02:50,219 And he took it in writing 60 00:02:50,219 --> 00:02:53,219 He bestowed upon me abundant blessings 61 00:02:53,219 --> 00:02:56,219 And he gave me a pair of every scent 62 00:02:56,219 --> 00:02:58,219 And he said 63 00:02:58,219 --> 00:03:02,280 Eat or plant and see your family 64 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:03,280 She said 65 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:06,280 If I collect everything, he will give me 66 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:10,819 He did not reach the pressure of my father’s vessels 67 00:03:10,819 --> 00:03:14,819 This is the hadith of Umm Zur’ on the authority of her husband, Abu Zur’ 68 00:03:14,819 --> 00:03:16,819 And from her speech 69 00:03:16,819 --> 00:03:20,819 We realize the great praise for Abu Zara 70 00:03:20,819 --> 00:03:23,819 We can deduce clearly 71 00:03:23,819 --> 00:03:25,819 Her great love for him 72 00:03:25,819 --> 00:03:27,819 And the intensity of her attachment to him 73 00:03:27,819 --> 00:03:30,819 And she loved everything related to him 74 00:03:30,819 --> 00:03:32,819 From a mother, a son and a daughter 75 00:03:32,819 --> 00:03:35,819 Even the maid 76 00:03:35,819 --> 00:03:38,949 But have you noticed, my dear brother-in-law? 77 00:03:38,949 --> 00:03:41,949 She is talking about her absolute 78 00:03:41,949 --> 00:03:43,949 Not about her husband 79 00:03:43,949 --> 00:03:47,110 The women who sat on this council 80 00:03:47,110 --> 00:03:49,110 We pledged and contracted 81 00:03:49,110 --> 00:03:53,110 Do they not conceal anything from their husbands? 82 00:03:53,110 --> 00:03:56,110 Did Umm Zara speak about her husband? 83 00:03:57,110 --> 00:03:59,110 Yes, I talked about it 84 00:03:59,110 --> 00:04:02,110 However, she did not find a second husband 85 00:04:02,110 --> 00:04:05,110 Who showered her with various blessings 86 00:04:05,110 --> 00:04:09,110 What are you proud of in front of the women in the council? 87 00:04:09,110 --> 00:04:13,110 Rather, she took all the goodness he gave her 88 00:04:13,110 --> 00:04:15,110 She went to the one who divorced her 89 00:04:15,110 --> 00:04:18,110 To be proud of him among women 90 00:04:18,110 --> 00:04:21,209 So what did Abu Zara do to her? 91 00:04:21,209 --> 00:04:24,209 Until you become attached to him 92 00:04:24,209 --> 00:04:27,209 How did she meet Ehsan Abi Zar’a for her? 93 00:04:27,209 --> 00:04:31,209 Why did she lose him when he saw others? 94 00:04:31,209 --> 00:04:36,500 What did he see in others that would replace them with her? 95 00:04:36,500 --> 00:04:39,500 Perhaps we are the husband's brother and the wife's sister 96 00:04:39,500 --> 00:04:42,500 We live in the details of the life of a sow mother 97 00:04:42,500 --> 00:04:45,500 With dad planted in these rings 98 00:04:45,500 --> 00:04:48,500 Perhaps we will find the satisfactory answer 99 00:04:48,500 --> 00:04:50,850 For these questions 100 00:04:50,850 --> 00:04:51,850 Firstly 101 00:04:51,850 --> 00:04:54,850 The bliss that Umm Zara experienced 102 00:04:54,850 --> 00:04:57,910 Umm Zar’ said in describing bliss 103 00:04:57,910 --> 00:05:00,910 Where Abu Zara lived 104 00:05:00,910 --> 00:05:02,910 People of my ear jewelry 105 00:05:02,910 --> 00:05:05,910 And filled with humeral fat 106 00:05:05,910 --> 00:05:08,910 And he made me proud, so I made myself proud 107 00:05:08,910 --> 00:05:12,910 He found me among the people of Ghanimah Bashaq 108 00:05:12,910 --> 00:05:15,910 So place me among the people of Sahil and neigh 109 00:05:15,910 --> 00:05:17,910 Trampled and refined 110 00:05:17,910 --> 00:05:20,910 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 111 00:05:20,910 --> 00:05:22,910 And I lie down and it becomes morning 112 00:05:22,910 --> 00:05:24,910 And I drink and soothe myself 113 00:05:24,910 --> 00:05:28,389 The bliss that Umm Zara experienced 114 00:05:28,389 --> 00:05:32,389 With my father planted it includes several beautiful masts 115 00:05:32,389 --> 00:05:34,389 One of them first 116 00:05:34,389 --> 00:05:36,389 Dress her up with jewelry 117 00:05:36,389 --> 00:05:40,389 She said people of my ear ornaments 118 00:05:40,389 --> 00:05:44,420 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 119 00:05:44,420 --> 00:05:47,420 Halani wants earrings and scarves 120 00:05:47,420 --> 00:05:49,420 Tanous in my ear 121 00:05:49,420 --> 00:05:50,420 And the nous 122 00:05:50,420 --> 00:05:54,420 Movement of everything dangling 123 00:05:54,420 --> 00:05:57,259 I mean, wear gold 124 00:05:57,259 --> 00:06:01,259 This is one of the most important types of adornment for women 125 00:06:01,259 --> 00:06:04,259 It is what makes her happy the most 126 00:06:04,259 --> 00:06:06,259 Every woman loves gold 127 00:06:06,259 --> 00:06:09,259 She is proud to wear it in front of women 128 00:06:09,259 --> 00:06:12,509 Secondly, its ghee 129 00:06:12,509 --> 00:06:16,579 She said and filled with fat on my upper arm 130 00:06:16,579 --> 00:06:19,579 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 131 00:06:19,579 --> 00:06:21,579 She didn't want the upper arm especially 132 00:06:21,579 --> 00:06:24,579 She wanted the whole body 133 00:06:24,579 --> 00:06:28,579 She says that he made me fat with his kindness to me 134 00:06:28,579 --> 00:06:33,579 If the humerus becomes fat, the rest of the body becomes fat 135 00:06:33,579 --> 00:06:38,569 It means that he made her fat by being kind to her 136 00:06:38,569 --> 00:06:42,569 This obesity does not come with worries and problems 137 00:06:42,569 --> 00:06:46,920 Rather, it comes with happiness and prosperity 138 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:47,920 Third 139 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:50,920 He filled her life with joy and happiness 140 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:55,920 She said, "And he made me angry, so I made myself angry." 141 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,019 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 142 00:06:59,019 --> 00:07:02,209 That is, he made me happy and I was happy 143 00:07:02,209 --> 00:07:05,209 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 144 00:07:05,209 --> 00:07:08,209 She described him as being good to her 145 00:07:08,209 --> 00:07:11,209 Her sweetness and luxury is her livelihood 146 00:07:11,209 --> 00:07:16,209 He made her fat and showed her happiness in her circumstances 147 00:07:16,209 --> 00:07:22,100 Fourthly, moving it from modest living to luxury 148 00:07:22,100 --> 00:07:26,230 She said: “He found me among the people of Bashq’s spoils.” 149 00:07:26,230 --> 00:07:31,230 So he made me among the people of neighing, humming, trampling, and purring 150 00:07:31,230 --> 00:07:35,579 Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said 151 00:07:35,579 --> 00:07:39,579 She said, “So he made me among the people of Saheel and howling.” 152 00:07:39,579 --> 00:07:43,579 It means that he took me to his family 153 00:07:43,579 --> 00:07:45,579 They are people of horses and camels 154 00:07:45,579 --> 00:07:50,579 Because neighing is the sound of horses and goats are the sound of camels 155 00:07:50,579 --> 00:07:53,620 Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said 156 00:07:53,620 --> 00:07:57,620 She described it as being transported from the shores of her family’s livelihood 157 00:07:57,620 --> 00:08:00,620 And inform them of their spoils 158 00:08:00,620 --> 00:08:03,620 To people of wealth and vast funds 159 00:08:03,620 --> 00:08:07,620 Of horses, camels, camels, crops, and cows 160 00:08:07,620 --> 00:08:11,620 And trodden animals, slaves, and horses 161 00:08:11,620 --> 00:08:14,620 Food purifying machines 162 00:08:14,620 --> 00:08:18,620 Interest and many livestock 163 00:08:18,620 --> 00:08:21,620 And the birds enjoy eating it 164 00:08:21,620 --> 00:08:25,620 This is because the owners of the sheep are poor or subsistence people 165 00:08:25,620 --> 00:08:27,620 And no wealth 166 00:08:27,620 --> 00:08:32,779 This woman was informed of her transition from that state to this 167 00:08:32,779 --> 00:08:36,779 She made a prosperous living with the milk and meat of these livestock 168 00:08:36,779 --> 00:08:39,779 And other foods 169 00:08:39,779 --> 00:08:43,779 Especially with its reference to bread that is trampled and purified 170 00:08:43,779 --> 00:08:47,779 It was the Arab's highest and most cherished food 171 00:08:47,779 --> 00:08:51,779 Only those with great wealth will find it 172 00:08:51,779 --> 00:08:54,779 And from the countryside and the cities 173 00:08:54,779 --> 00:08:56,779 Otherwise, I feed them more 174 00:08:56,779 --> 00:09:00,779 It was meat, milk, and dates 175 00:09:00,779 --> 00:09:03,779 This is what their poetry indicates 176 00:09:03,779 --> 00:09:08,669 Secondly, Dalal Abi planted her 177 00:09:08,669 --> 00:09:10,669 She was spoiled by him 178 00:09:10,669 --> 00:09:13,669 Don't do anything that tires her out 179 00:09:13,669 --> 00:09:17,669 Until Umm Zara described this pampering by saying: 180 00:09:17,669 --> 00:09:20,669 Then I say, “Don’t be ugly.” 181 00:09:20,669 --> 00:09:22,669 And I lie down and it becomes morning 182 00:09:22,669 --> 00:09:24,669 And I drink and soothe myself 183 00:09:24,669 --> 00:09:28,830 Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said 184 00:09:28,830 --> 00:09:31,830 Say it and lie down in the morning 185 00:09:31,830 --> 00:09:34,830 That is, I sleep until the morning 186 00:09:34,830 --> 00:09:38,830 No one wakes her up because she is honorable 187 00:09:38,830 --> 00:09:40,830 Enough service and work 188 00:09:40,830 --> 00:09:43,860 Abdul Aziz Al-Rajhi said 189 00:09:43,860 --> 00:09:47,860 She says that she has absolute sovereignty with him 190 00:09:47,860 --> 00:09:51,860 She speaks and no one responds to her words 191 00:09:51,860 --> 00:09:54,860 And she lies down in the morning 192 00:09:54,860 --> 00:09:56,860 It means that the yellow one sleeps 193 00:09:56,860 --> 00:10:00,860 Because she has servants who provide her with supplies 194 00:10:00,860 --> 00:10:04,860 Unlike those who do not have servants to serve them 195 00:10:04,860 --> 00:10:07,860 She gets up in the morning to work at home 196 00:10:07,860 --> 00:10:09,860 She drinks and narrates 197 00:10:09,860 --> 00:10:12,860 Irrigation can reach whatever you want 198 00:10:12,860 --> 00:10:14,860 She praises her husband 199 00:10:14,860 --> 00:10:18,860 That he comforted her and gave her what she wanted 200 00:10:18,860 --> 00:10:21,860 And give it absolute sovereignty 201 00:10:21,860 --> 00:10:23,860 So you speak whatever you want 202 00:10:23,860 --> 00:10:25,860 And you eat whatever you want 203 00:10:25,860 --> 00:10:27,860 And drink whatever you want 204 00:10:27,860 --> 00:10:29,860 And sleep how you want 205 00:10:29,860 --> 00:10:32,860 It is well supplied with supplies 206 00:10:32,860 --> 00:10:37,659 The bliss and pampering that Abu Zar’a provided to Zar’a’s mother 207 00:10:37,659 --> 00:10:40,659 It is an indication of his great love for her 208 00:10:40,659 --> 00:10:42,659 And its good mineral 209 00:10:42,659 --> 00:10:44,659 How did you meet Umm Zara? 210 00:10:44,659 --> 00:10:47,659 This bliss and this pampering 211 00:10:47,659 --> 00:10:52,750 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 212 00:10:52,750 --> 00:10:55,750 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds